FabSwingers.com forum: Arranged meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you have arranged a meet with someone, confirmed time, date etc and it's been arranged a few days. Then you see they have put up a meets request for the same evening and out the same time they have agreed to meet you, would you feel pissed off. Because I do, to me it looks like they are looking for a better offer and if they don't get one then I will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have arranged a meet with someone, confirmed time, date etc and it's been arranged a few days. Then you see they have put up a meets request for the same evening and out the same time they have agreed to meet you, would you feel pissed off. Because I do, to me it looks like they are looking for a better offer and if they don't get one then I will do. "

Ask the person yourself what the score is ???

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By *i Lady Next DoorWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I would do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah id feel pissed off too

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Is that not what a lot of people want??

The best offer....they get horny,send out lots of winks/invites and select the best...Annoying but fact

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By *anatee175Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

If the meet was pre posted before you arranged then they may have forgotten to remove it. People often post meet mes days and weeks in advance.

But if it's new then block them and wish them good luck

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

It does seem wrong and I'd be hacked off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire "

You reported someone for wanting another offer? Hilarious.

As long as they let you know well in advance they won't be meeting you,I don't see the problem.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not had this happen but id just message them and say oh see your looking for something else the night we are supposed to be meeting hope you find it take care and just leave it.

Now we all have a back up plan incase we get stood up but if your advertising a meet the same night and get someone there going to have to let someone down and im not going to give them the chance to be letting me down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes that's a bit off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if they stuck the meet requests up before they arranged or after really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The meet must be new as he put on his status looking to meet eay this morning but messaged me confirming time early this morning to. I have just sent a polite message saying to continue looking for a meet tonight as I don't like being second best. a

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The meet must be new as he put on his status looking to meet eay this morning but messaged me confirming time early this morning to. I have just sent a polite message saying to continue looking for a meet tonight as I don't like being second best. a"
looks like hes backtracking in case he doesn't get a meet today. I would tell him to take a hike

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Maybe they are putting a meet up as a back up plan. They are covering all bases as you may cancel between now and the meet. If it really pisses you off ask them, there may be a plausible reason.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Probably the only night he can get away from his wife, so going for a backup in case you don't turn up, or something "better" comes along .

Tell him to shove it....

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By *anatee175Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

"Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire

You reported someone for wanting another offer? Hilarious.

As long as they let you know well in advance they won't be meeting you,I don't see the problem."

Was reported for arranging a meet and not turning up at said time and place. Plus he too put up another looking to meet that very afternoon.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

You need to ask him what's he's doing. There's enough choice on here if he feels he needs to get a backup then I would delete him and look elsewhere.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire

You reported someone for wanting another offer? Hilarious.

As long as they let you know well in advance they won't be meeting you,I don't see the problem.

Was reported for arranging a meet and not turning up at said time and place. Plus he too put up another looking to meet that very afternoon. "
did you go to the arranged meet though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire

You reported someone for wanting another offer? Hilarious.

As long as they let you know well in advance they won't be meeting you,I don't see the problem.

Was reported for arranging a meet and not turning up at said time and place. Plus he too put up another looking to meet that very afternoon. "

I am not sure that not turning up is a reportable offence in the eyes if fab; but if it makes you happy....

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire "
Reported for what exactly?

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By *anatee175Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

"Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire

You reported someone for wanting another offer? Hilarious.

As long as they let you know well in advance they won't be meeting you,I don't see the problem.

Was reported for arranging a meet and not turning up at said time and place. Plus he too put up another looking to meet that very afternoon. did you go to the arranged meet though?"

I only arrange to meet at a club so no great loss. Lol

Claire

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"You need to ask him what's he's doing. There's enough choice on here if he feels he needs to get a backup then I would delete him and look elsewhere."
see i dont think its wrong he wants a plan b incase he gets let down but making it obvious and the way hes done it.

I always have a plan b if im going out my way for a meet so that i dont have a wasted time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plan b or hoping someone better comes along. I'm not sure what I would do to be honest. Maybe say nothing and see if he bails and puts up a new verification; in which case I'd probably not bother talking any more. I might send a jokey message asking if he's hoping for someone better or to join us. Or I might fuck him off; it would depend on my mood and how much I fancied him.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"You need to ask him what's he's doing. There's enough choice on here if he feels he needs to get a backup then I would delete him and look elsewhere.see i dont think its wrong he wants a plan b incase he gets let down but making it obvious and the way hes done it.

I always have a plan b if im going out my way for a meet so that i dont have a wasted time"

No that's fine if it is a plan b and not a 'let see who's the best on the day then I can stuff the other who I've made plans with' kinda mentality. What do you say to the person that may be your plan b though?

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield

Many time I've arranged a meet with someone, confirmed time, date etc but been let down more times then I've had a hot dinners. . Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have to say something!

I'd message saying why have you advertised for a meet on the same day we are supposed to be meeting? You've fucked it now mate ta-ra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% pissed id be - no need for it - its different if he already lace meet request, but if as you ay he placed after you agreed, that's not on at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd have to say something!

I'd message saying why have you advertised for a meet on the same day we are supposed to be meeting? You've fucked it now mate ta-ra"

You stalking me lol hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only let one couple down which was when I had a bad cold, tried to stop them coming over but can't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I like being a site supporter. You can see "where" your meet is. I only ever arrange meets in my vicinity n i check where they are before I set off. If they are not with in a mile I ain't leaving my flat. Likewise with inviting meets here. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be well and truly hacked off - unless they were looking for a couple, or another female to join us....

In truth I'd contact them and ask them to confirm our meet, expecting the replies to my messages to cease

Just for the record, if I'm lucky enough to get a meet I will be there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op play him at his own game n get yourself a back up plan xxx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I would be a bit miffed in this case. It would make me think that he thinks you won't turn up or like you say hoping for a better offer. Bloody cheek!!!!

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Quickly make yourself a second orofile:

Use that to arrange a meet with him on his meet request;

Then the possibilities are endless;

You can blow him out on both;

Or ask why he has agreed to meet " your freind" or ......

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Op play him at his own game n get yourself a back up plan xxx"

Actually that's a fab idea - say nothing and put a meet request up, see if you get a better offer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did have this happen to me once, day and time arranged only to see a meet for the same day and time go up a few days before. I messaged and queried, it took a day before I got a reply, which was that she had changed her mind and wanted some group fun. I did feel that it should have been mentioned to me before posting a meet. I was still invited and I did go, I now wonder if it was because it would have been our first meet, I had a bit of travelling to do and they were worried I wouldn't turn up. Covering all bases really.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Quickly make yourself a second orofile:

Use that to arrange a meet with him on his meet request;

Then the possibilities are endless;

You can blow him out on both;

Or ask why he has agreed to meet " your freind" or ......

Hahaha, in fact recruit every female on the thread to 'apply' for the meet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quickly make yourself a second orofile:

Use that to arrange a meet with him on his meet request;

Then the possibilities are endless;

You can blow him out on both;

Or ask why he has agreed to meet " your freind" or ......

Hahaha, in fact recruit every female on the thread to 'apply' for the meet!!

Oh that's good, very naughty but

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

At the very least it's insensitive and rude.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"Quickly make yourself a second orofile:

Use that to arrange a meet with him on his meet request;

Then the possibilities are endless;

You can blow him out on both;

Or ask why he has agreed to meet " your freind" or ......

Hahaha, in fact recruit every female on the thread to 'apply' for the meet!!

Even better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire

You reported someone for wanting another offer? Hilarious.

As long as they let you know well in advance they won't be meeting you,I don't see the problem.

Was reported for arranging a meet and not turning up at said time and place. Plus he too put up another looking to meet that very afternoon.

I am not sure that not turning up is a reportable offence in the eyes if fab; but if it makes you happy...."

It is reportable...arranging a meet and not turning up is one of the boilerplate choices when you press the report button. Take a look.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Ok let's just for a second say he's arranging meet same date and time so he has a back up if op never turned up.....

Great idea if he has a no show but what happens when op turns up as agreed ?? A last minute text to the back up saying oh sorry can't make it ...hardly fair on that individual then is it .

If someone thinks they have to organise another meet when they've arrange meet with me then either they think I'm a lier and not going to turn up or they are seeing what's the best offer they actually get ..both case not then someone I'm going to want to meet.

Hope you find a better person than him op. X

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire "

Reported?!! Good Lord!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Not had this happen but id just message them and say oh see your looking for something else the night we are supposed to be meeting hope you find it take care and just leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a bit off tbh. I'd tell him to stick it where the sun doesn't shine and post a meet yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had the exact same thing happen to me. Reported and blocked.

If you don't want to meet just have the balls to say no thanks.

Claire "
reported for what exactly ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the meet to day requests are just ppl that wanna get more views etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep this would piss me right off & I would be telling them to piss off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep this would piss me right off & I would be telling them to piss off!"

Same!

Did he meet you OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

has happened to us - we went and had a good time elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeah id feel pissed off too "

So would we .... very rude and disrespectful

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Yep this would piss me right off & I would be telling them to piss off!

Same!

Did he meet you OP?"

Just what I was wondering.....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some people post 2 or 3 meet requests per day, so they possibly forgot they have them. If the people seemed genuine I'd just bring it to their attention and ask for clarification.

Until we have a personal calendar in Fab where we confirm meets with each other, making no shows etc easy to trace, the site isn't blocking or highlighting people who may be making mistakes etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No I didn't meet him I ended up meeting another guy and had great fun

As for the other guy who messed me around failed to get any interest on his meet request

And regretted messing me around

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"No I didn't meet him I ended up meeting another guy and had great fun

As for the other guy who messed me around failed to get any interest on his meet request

And regretted messing me around "

Excellent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I didn't meet him I ended up meeting another guy and had great fun

As for the other guy who messed me around failed to get any interest on his meet request

And regretted messing me around "

Good on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I didn't meet him I ended up meeting another guy and had great fun

As for the other guy who messed me around failed to get any interest on his meet request

And regretted messing me around "

A classic case of the grass isn't always greener

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