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By *ifferent69 OP   Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Why does it seem that nice girls are attracted to the buggers or scoundrels..?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Why does it seem that nice girls are attracted to the buggers or scoundrels..? "
They are attracted to Alpha males, usually don't take no shit do what they want. This question is so Beta male!

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

This works both ways.

I want a nice guy. I only attract idiots or married men !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does it seem that nice girls are attracted to the buggers or scoundrels..? "

Good isn't it

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Why can't I attract nice guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not. Does that mean I'm not nice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh, i know the answer to this.

Some of us think we can 'fix' them. It's not our job too fix anyone and we'll learn that eventually.

Some of us have been already primed for abuse by our carers, coz they were abusive, and so we think abuse is normal and = love. We will learn that abuse is not ok in any form.

Some women settle and think they should. Settle if you wanna, nothing to learn here, love is over rated imo.

Some women like drama and the shit arseholes create for them.

Some people don't think they can do any better.

some people are too superficial and don't really care about their relationship so long as it looks good to the outside world and projects a good image of themselves.

Think that covers it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be a scoundrel then. Job sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alpha males are not shits. Cockwombles who think that being an arrogant, disrespectful player is the same thing as alpha are shits. It's

It's not about the label. A fake pair of Louboutins are still fake, regardless of the colour of the sole; they have no place in my shoe cupboard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not. Does that mean I'm not nice?"

Means your awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Alpha males are not shits. Cockwombles who think that being an arrogant, disrespectful player is the same thing as alpha are shits. It's

It's not about the label. A fake pair of Louboutins are still fake, regardless of the colour of the sole; they have no place in my shoe cupboard. "

Good point.

Loads of fake nice guys turn out to be arseholes once you get to know them. By then you probably already love the fake nice guy and can still remember him in some form and are waiting for him to come back

No abuser/manipuator starts a relationship as an abuser, they slip this stuff in when they feel comfortable enough to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Alpha males are not shits. Cockwombles who think that being an arrogant, disrespectful player is the same thing as alpha are shits. It's

It's not about the label. A fake pair of Louboutins are still fake, regardless of the colour of the sole; they have no place in my shoe cupboard.

Good point.

Loads of fake nice guys turn out to be arseholes once you get to know them. By then you probably already love the fake nice guy and can still remember him in some form and are waiting for him to come back

No abuser/manipuator starts a relationship as an abuser, they slip this stuff in when they feel comfortable enough to do that."

And spend a loopy proportion of your time saying things like 'no, he's a really great guy when you get to know him' to chums looking at you like

To continue my analogy, the shoes all look fine until the heel snaps off when you're strutting down life's catwalk!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not. Does that mean I'm not nice?

Means your awful "

Dammit. Does that mean I have to start agreeing to the 'pound you until your labia fall off' messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not. Does that mean I'm not nice?

Means your awful

Dammit. Does that mean I have to start agreeing to the 'pound you until your labia fall off' messages?"

So it's you who's attracting all the poets, now don't hog them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not. Does that mean I'm not nice?

Means your awful

Dammit. Does that mean I have to start agreeing to the 'pound you until your labia fall off' messages?"

And the 'smash you through the wall' ones...sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Alpha males are not shits. Cockwombles who think that being an arrogant, disrespectful player is the same thing as alpha are shits. It's

It's not about the label. A fake pair of Louboutins are still fake, regardless of the colour of the sole; they have no place in my shoe cupboard.

Good point.

Loads of fake nice guys turn out to be arseholes once you get to know them. By then you probably already love the fake nice guy and can still remember him in some form and are waiting for him to come back

No abuser/manipuator starts a relationship as an abuser, they slip this stuff in when they feel comfortable enough to do that.

And spend a loopy proportion of your time saying things like 'no, he's a really great guy when you get to know him' to chums looking at you like

To continue my analogy, the shoes all look fine until the heel snaps off when you're strutting down life's catwalk!! "

At least when you do realise he isn't that great all your mates are ready to confirm that for you and make it easier for you to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not. Does that mean I'm not nice?

Means your awful

Dammit. Does that mean I have to start agreeing to the 'pound you until your labia fall off' messages?

And the 'smash you through the wall' ones...sorry "

Awwww jeez....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not. Does that mean I'm not nice?

Means your awful

Dammit. Does that mean I have to start agreeing to the 'pound you until your labia fall off' messages?

So it's you who's attracting all the poets, now don't hog them all "

Share them with you??.... please?!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alpha males don't think or say they are Alpha. They just exude it. They are respectful and quietly confident. Those that think or say they are, are just not. A woman may understand this more than a man, especially if they have met one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would just be nice to find someone who wants me and all my flaws

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By *ifferent69 OP   Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK


"Ooh, i know the answer to this.

Some of us think we can 'fix' them. It's not our job too fix anyone and we'll learn that eventually.

Some of us have been already primed for abuse by our carers, coz they were abusive, and so we think abuse is normal and = love. We will learn that abuse is not ok in any form.

Some women settle and think they should. Settle if you wanna, nothing to learn here, love is over rated imo.

Some women like drama and the shit arseholes create for them.

Some people don't think they can do any better.

some people are too superficial and don't really care about their relationship so long as it looks good to the outside world and projects a good image of themselves.

Think that covers it.

"

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By *ifferent69 OP   Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK


"Alpha males don't think or say they are Alpha. They just exude it. They are respectful and quietly confident. Those that think or say they are, are just not. A woman may understand this more than a man, especially if they have met one. "

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Why does it seem that nice girls are attracted to the buggers or scoundrels..? "

By this logic I must not be a nice 'girl'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im nice and get over looked alot as well its not nice but it happens seen it for years

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im only interested in nice guys.

First guy i lived with biggest cunt ever. Guys before him never treated me with respect. You know what i did? I went and studied pyscology learnt to change my behaviour and hey ho no more serious arseholes

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don't want drama in my life so I avoid "bad boys" like the plague and besides I wouldn't tolerate being treated badly, I think it's something most of us ladies realise as we get older, I want a good man or I am quite happy to be on my own ta muchly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often forget to turn off my idiot magnet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a lot of the time, like attracts like.

I'm a 'nice girl' & I attract 'nice men'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me it's 'empath' attracts 'sociopath'.

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