FabSwingers.com forum: Do you lose interest after you've shagged someone a few times?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's rare for me to find someone I don't lose interest in sexually after a few shags.

Is it the same for any of you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I find that it builds trust and helps push my boundaries

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Sometimes I lose interest mid shag, it depends on what's on telly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found some men I am still enjoying after years of having sex with them.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Depends on the person and the quality of the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the person/people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was meeting i always had a 3 meet rule..

no more than 3 encounters

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

If she wants to shag I'm interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

I find that the more you sleep with someone, the better the sex gets.

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By *te.venMan
over a year ago

North West

Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

I find that the more you sleep with someone, the better the sex gets."

This

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By * your pleasure 69Man
over a year ago

Ackworth

mmmmm wanna get to know us better haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the sex is good, I can get hooked.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

If it's all about what she wants then yes. If she gives as good as she gets, no.

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Yes with some guys. One meet and that's it..

Others I will happily play for years with. It's all about the chemistry and imaginations of both.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"No.

I find that the more you sleep with someone, the better the sex gets."

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only lose interest when the guys gets clingy or thinks im going to meet him everytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff. "

And this

I like gentle air play and being spanked, but would I trust someone to know my boundaries and pain threshold when they barely know me in an emotionally physical way? Would I bollocks.

There's one or two sexual acts - that would seem normal to other people - that I'll only do with someone after we've gotten to know each other a bit more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not, I can't have sex with someone more than a few times because I'll end up having feelings for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not, I can't have sex with someone more than a few times because I'll end up having feelings for them. "

same reason ive got my '3 meet rule'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I lose interest mid shag, it depends on what's on telly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people fool themselves that they've lost interest when really another meet wasn't an option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I get bored easily.

However, I find that sex is an evolving thing between two or more people and Can be different every time with special people x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This 3 meet or one meet rule etc that some women have has actually suprised me a bit.

But makes sense in a way though and I can understand the reasoning etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope. if i'm gonna lose interest it'll be after the first fuck, maybe even before that.

some guys i get bored of but not many. usually the sex gets better with repeat meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I find with a regular partner, trust can be built, and you can then explore more things and lower the boundaries as time progresses.. Its the one off's I find boring.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

yes, apart from my husband of course.

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

Yes I'm just here for the sex, the trust & love I save for hubby. So it's usually once & done

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By *ust ms lovinWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Ultimately swinging is about enhancing what we already have adding a little bit extra , we don't need or want regular meets ..... We have love and trust from each other ... We also have a two meet rule ...

There will of course always be exceptions to rules if want we are wanting to try things that require a little trust e.g playing with a couple and after wishing we had tried this with them ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I lose interest mid shag, it depends on what's on telly

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"I think some people fool themselves that they've lost interest when really another meet wasn't an option. "

Yes and some people fool themselves about a lot of other things as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no its usually gets better - years later still finding new things to share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a few meets...its usually after 1 meet

Same could be said for them aswell i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely depends on the guy for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the other person...

And if I don't get bored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I find that it builds trust and helps push my boundaries "

So true

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

No. Obviously if I like the woman I'd want to keep meeting them. Things can only get better the more you know them. And I don't mean just the sex either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think some people fool themselves that they've lost interest when really another meet wasn't an option.

Yes and some people fool themselves about a lot of other things as well.

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me I've been fucking my fuck buddy for 6-7 years now

We know where we both stand and it helps gain trust and push boundaries plus I'm addicted to him lol x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. It just gets better. It's stressful meeting a new person. I can relax and look forward to what I know is going to be a good time. Plus trying new things along the way. I've been meeting some of the guys I see for around 3 years now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea. No-one's ever wanted to shag me a second time.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I find sex gets better each time you meet. You find out what each other likes, there is a level of trust which makes me relax a bit more. I wouldn't let anyone tie me up on the first meet for example, that would happen further down the line if he enjoyed that to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It gets better as you know what pushes their button more.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We've found that things tend to have a habit of running its course.

Most things come to an end,eventually. Swinging is often fickle.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"No idea. No-one's ever wanted to shag me a second time.

still waiting for the opportunity for the first one

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"No idea. No-one's ever wanted to shag me a second time.

I bet your nose grew as you typed that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla? Yes

D/s? No

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Several factors really. How good is he at shagging. How good is he at oral. How much he fits my criteria for easy on the eye. If he doesn't say anything remotely offensive during the meet. The distance we are from each other. And the most important: if I fit his criteria re the above.

I don't overthink re-meets though. If it happens it happens, It usually doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but they lose interest in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I think it's important to read someone's profile, and chat for a little. One's who seem to be looking for one off's I avoid like the plague. But that's only me. So many are on this site for different reasons. Whether it be fwb's, couples or one night stands etc... The ones I've met are luckily very like minded, and suited to my preferences. I choose very carefully haha

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

If the chemistry is there and the sex is good then no

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I find if I meet a lady a few times d sex just gets better n better d more u meet . I like to meet ladies for a good while not really into one nite stands cos they can b a failure r u can have a very nice time .

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By *bi_scotlandTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. You never can tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone."

Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person.

A regular fuckbuddy with no emotional entanglement can be great as with repeat meets can get better and better with familiarity, trust and experimentation. Definitely more likey to try new things and push boundaries with someone I know and trust.

However if there's little to no spark with someone interest is easily lost and repeat meets aren't likely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's rare for me to find someone I don't lose interest in sexually after a few shags.

Is it the same for any of you ?

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Yes.

It is rare, but not impossible. I hope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone.

Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets

Me too. Honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no, rather it allows the building of trust; which is key to quite a few of the activities I enjoy with others .

They are definitely not things I would be comfortable doing with someone I didn't know, straight out of the gate.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Depends on the person and the quality of the sex "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I find that it builds trust and helps push my boundaries "

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By *ohnyorkMan
over a year ago

york

"when i was meeting i always had a 3 meet rule..

no more than 3 encounters "

Can i have my 3 haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, don't know why, I always feel bad about it but can't help it.

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By *xplorecpl25Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff.

And this

I like gentle air play and being spanked, but would I trust someone to know my boundaries and pain threshold when they barely know me in an emotionally physical way? Would I bollocks.

There's one or two sexual acts - that would seem normal to other people - that I'll only do with someone after we've gotten to know each other a bit more."

Oooo what are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone.

Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets

Me too. Honest.

Now I just keep all the good stuff to myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone.

Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets

Me too. Honest.

Now I just keep all the good stuff to myself

Better you are just 'bursting' with it then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if we click and continue to do so sexually.

I've met people who I've thought I'd never lose interest in but have for various reasons, am sure the feeling was mutual too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff.

And this

I like gentle air play and being spanked, but would I trust someone to know my boundaries and pain threshold when they barely know me in an emotionally physical way? Would I bollocks.

There's one or two sexual acts - that would seem normal to other people - that I'll only do with someone after we've gotten to know each other a bit more.

Oooo what are they?

Due to my reasons for not doing them I'd rather not discuss it in a public forum, or really with nobody else apart from the people that I choose to meet...

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By *xplorecpl25Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff.

And this

I like gentle air play and being spanked, but would I trust someone to know my boundaries and pain threshold when they barely know me in an emotionally physical way? Would I bollocks.

There's one or two sexual acts - that would seem normal to other people - that I'll only do with someone after we've gotten to know each other a bit more.

Oooo what are they?

Due to my reasons for not doing them I'd rather not discuss it in a public forum, or really with nobody else apart from the people that I choose to meet...

Fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I find that it builds trust and helps push my boundaries "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone.

Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets

Me too. Honest.

Now I just keep all the good stuff to myself

Better you are just 'bursting' with it then!

One day I'll pop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people fool themselves that they've lost interest when really another meet wasn't an option.

Yes and some people fool themselves about a lot of other things as well.

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ha ha well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that the sex gets better and better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people fool themselves that they've lost interest when really another meet wasn't an option.

Yes and some people fool themselves about a lot of other things as well.

Like what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bored is probably the wrong word, we like fresh meat...

H x

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