FabSwingers.com forum: Veris

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you find it better or worse to show your veris

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At first I found it better when I first came on .now I find it worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's what I'm finding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show those I've been given, don't mind people showing those I've given them.

Some people insist you show your veris, well I guess I'm gonna have to live without meeting those people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing as I get accused of being fake at least three times a week, it's handy to have them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worse, because no women (who I'm actually looking to meet) would only meet me for a social, everyone pushed play. So only men would give me veris on cam, and that fact has stopped women meeting me before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never display them, hardly ever will leave them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't show those I've been given, don't mind people showing those I've given them.

Some people insist you show your veris, well I guess I'm gonna have to live without meeting those people."

Good for you.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I display a selection of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually display the most recent ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Do you find it better or worse to show your veris

I have mine on display. It makes no difference to me at this moment in time.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Do you find it better or worse to show your veris

We always used to show ours but after having a few messages bitching about a couple of people that had verified us, we've hid them. Just can't be bothered with all that playground crap!

We're often fickle, so we're probably think, stuff it and show them again sooner or later.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

That's exactly what I'm finding now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

That's exactly what I'm finding now "

They can do but I just think bollox to them, I won't let others put me off now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

That's exactly what I'm finding now

They can do but I just think bollox to them, I won't let others put me off now."

Exactly. I do what I want to do with mine, others should do exactly what they want to do with theirs. If someone gets jealous over you meeting others then it's great that they show themselves so you can decide if you want to meet them again or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

Have had this in the past - very shitty messages, others messaging the person who veri'd and others who think that them saying "I'll xyz better" will get a meet

And they wonder why they don't get a reply....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No better no worse. I won't meet anyone who is pernickety over verifications. I prefer someone with a mind of their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to just show my summary. Only because if i dont ppl say you must have met other guys or tvs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might show for a few mins to a possible meet to give them peace of mind & better pic of what I'm like.

But most of the time just the summary will do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't display ours. To be honest not keen on the whole verification thing, I understand it's important to some people but they don't really mean a thing to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like mine..so I display.

if I lose out on a shag because it puts someone off?...who the fuck cares!?

I'll find someone or they'll find me and it wont be an issue.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We show them just to be a bit more informative, that's it really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

That's exactly what I'm finding now

They can do but I just think bollox to them, I won't let others put me off now.

Maybe I'm a bit different but I don't seem to attract men who are the jealous & I think my age puts off other women lampost pissing against me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

That's exactly what I'm finding now

They can do but I just think bollox to them, I won't let others put me off now.

Maybe I'm a bit different but I don't seem to attract men who are the jealous & I think my age puts off other women lampost pissing against me

I agree. I've never had a problem when I've displayed mine....i just don't see the point while I'm not meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show them, the only hint of jealousy I've ever had is being blocked by people that have also met someone that I've met.

Though I probably wouldn't show a graphic verification, though I don't tend to meet the kind of people who would that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

I found this too. I still display them though. I figure those who are jealous probably bug them selves more than they do any one else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

That's exactly what I'm finding now "

Its so annoying, hugs to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never felt any need not to show a selection of verifications, and I certainly haven't come across any jealousy. Most of the people that verify us have also verified each other, in that we all attend the same parties and play with the same people. This is the swing scene - it's supposed to allow people to have sexual freedom, without jealously causing limitations. If I have more than one lover or fuck buddy, wouldn't occur to me that someone would have an issue with that, likewise I have no issue if one of my men is verified by someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

Have had this in the past - very shitty messages, others messaging the person who veri'd and others who think that them saying "I'll xyz better" will get a meet

And they wonder why they don't get a reply...."

Yea jealousy of both parts its silly. I wish people would realise its an nsa swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've decided not to display mine as people can become very jealous on here, which is a shame

I found this too. I still display them though. I figure those who are jealous probably bug them selves more than they do any one else "

I suppose thats true, anything for a quiet life though

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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Each to their own and we would not judge anyone for whatever they decide, however when looking for fun we do like seeing the verifications displayed. Have fun out there xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never felt any need not to show a selection of verifications, and I certainly haven't come across any jealousy. Most of the people that verify us have also verified each other, in that we all attend the same parties and play with the same people. This is the swing scene - it's supposed to allow people to have sexual freedom, without jealously causing limitations. If I have more than one lover or fuck buddy, wouldn't occur to me that someone would have an issue with that, likewise I have no issue if one of my men is verified by someone else."

You'd think ... that would be the case.

However the lamppost pissing ,can get really bitchy when there's a single guy in the middle of it all!

Can think of a couple ,of male high profile forumite's last year getting openly torn upon; to the point that when they retaliated and said "enough" - they were the ones removed from the forum/site "in the interests of the Fab community "

Not sure how that works ,when they , weren't at fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd think ... that would be the case.

However the lamppost pissing ,can get really bitchy when there's a single guy in the middle of it all!

Not sure how that works ,when they , weren't at fault."

That's shocking. But probably one of the reasons we only play with experienced swingers who understand swing etiquette. And verifications, in part, help me get a picture as to whether an individual is experienced on the swing scene and is comfortable with the dynamics.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

It's no-one's business but mine, who I have shagged ( or what happened).

And I don't want the people who I (accidentally) allowed to verify me, to be hounded. ( it did happen on a previous profile)

Nor do I take it kindly when someone messages me to ask about someone I have verified.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually find it a little bit sad when men of a certain age display all their verifications going right back to the year dot...

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I don't show mine. Just the summery is quite enough to show I'm a genuine person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh it's not just the single men who stir the pot. I have encountered some shocking levels of indiscretion from both sexes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an incident on a previous profile where some fella told me someone they had met wouldn't have met them if they had known that he had met me!!

and I didn't even know the silly b****!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I display mine more as a way of showing the types of guys I'm interested in.

I do like reading others' veris, especially if I'm going to meet them. It's not a deal breaker if someone doesn't display them though, as long as they are verified.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

If we must have veris; ( I remain unconvinced that they are of the slightest use);

Then

1. It should simply be a series of yes/ no responses to simple questions. Ie is the person(s) the gender they say? Did they turn up? Do they bear a passing resemblance to their profile?

2. No text

3. A date of the veri/ meet

4. No identification of the person giving the veri, except man/ woman/ TV/TS/ couple.( even that is unnecessary, really )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The verification system is good indicator as to the type of person you are likely to meet . Obviously if it's a newbie with none , it's a risk , but otherwise one can ascertain the type of play and attitude of the people from their veris .

You can also get an idea of the person you are going to meet from the people they have met .

Clearly the consensus from this thread is that not showing them is the way forward for most . Which is not so bad as the forum is also a good tool to understand the character of a potential meet . But unless you've chatted for some time with an unknown profile who never frequents the forum , you don't really have any idea what may be in store on a meet if they don't show any veris .

For us , we would rather have some idea of the person we are meeting from a more independent perspective , especially if we were going to travel . A few veris would give us more confidence that they were likely to be real and actually up for meeting . A hidden summary and none showing could be that they just have a cam veri which means nothing at all .

We show a few of ours , the most recent and a selection of different types of meet . People often travel long distances to meet us , and invariably say they did so as they knew we would be there when we said we would be . There are so many timewasters and dreamers on fab , and the verification system is one way to get a better idea of whether the potential meet will turn up .

It certainly works well for us .

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I think they're fun

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I think they're fun

It's like a vampyric Trip Advisor

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I think they're fun

I like veris, and I like reading between the lines of them. I need all the help I can get to try to find compatible people to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show past veries but not recent personal preference through getting load crap in the past lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd display a select few....if I bloody had any!! Losing hope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What annoys us and our current or when we had single profiles is that people will stalk our veri's, friends list or anyone we banter with on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To start off with I did

Now it's easier to hide them because of the bitching I sometimes get from others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The verification system is good indicator as to the type of person you are likely to meet . Obviously if it's a newbie with none , it's a risk , but otherwise one can ascertain the type of play and attitude of the people from their veris .

You can also get an idea of the person you are going to meet from the people they have met .

It certainly works well for us ."

Totally agree

In fact the only times we have made a bad judgement call is when we haven't insisted on verifications.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"To start off with I did

Now it's easier to hide them because of the bitching I sometimes get from others "

Yes, this is something that can happen - someone takes offense or demands to know what happened...

And I just think, fuck off.

None of your business. And if you think like that, maybe *you* have a problem...?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Makes me wonder why some people show multiple veris from the same person, usually in a short period of time. So you shagged each other senseless for a month or two, who cares?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have the one on this profile, I can't show it as they've left the site now. I'm not asking anyone I met previously to verify me again as there's no point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

erm..... nope....couldn't think of anything to type that wouldn't get me lambasted (now I enjoy being lambasted as much as the next man, but not today)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i hide mine all the time now, dunno why but i don't care to show them. it feels better for me, and only one guy has asked where my veries are.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"i hide mine all the time now, dunno why but i don't care to show them. it feels better for me, and only one guy has asked where my veries are. "

Hope you told him they were in a box under the stairs

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Do you find it better or worse to show your veris

Just show the one or two no need to show them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i hide mine all the time now, dunno why but i don't care to show them. it feels better for me, and only one guy has asked where my veries are.

Hope you told him they were in a box under the stairs

i didn't even reply to him, as i usually do with most guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Makes me wonder why some people show multiple veris from the same person, usually in a short period of time. So you shagged each other senseless for a month or two, who cares?"

totally agree!! plus its offputting too

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"i hide mine all the time now, dunno why but i don't care to show them. it feels better for me, and only one guy has asked where my veries are.

Hope you told him they were in a box under the stairs

i didn't even reply to him, as i usually do with most guys on here."

I've left (non sexual) veris for people who don't show them but I don't fret about it. It's their profile afterall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i hide mine all the time now, dunno why but i don't care to show them. it feels better for me, and only one guy has asked where my veries are.

Hope you told him they were in a box under the stairs

i didn't even reply to him, as i usually do with most guys on here.

I've left (non sexual) veris for people who don't show them but I don't fret about it. It's their profile afterall

i don't mind the veri and will display it even if it's not to my preference. just i haven't met for a while now so don't see the point in displaying any at all.

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By *abydollxxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham - Selly oak

"Worse, because no women (who I'm actually looking to meet) would only meet me for a social, everyone pushed play. So only men would give me veris on cam, and that fact has stopped women meeting me before. "

I would meet you for a social..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your input

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