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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Heard the radio today about a couple who were stopped from fostering because if their views on homosexuality. Right or wrong?

Me it's right they should be stopped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is no one is allowed to have an opinion nowadays. There are lots of things I don't agree with, doesn't mean I think the people involved should be stoned or locked in workhouses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah i agree if there going to foster then their beliefs will be passed onto that child which in this case certainly wouldnt be right

i guess thats what the veetting process is for though

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Heard the radio today about a couple who were stopped from fostering because if their views on homosexuality. Right or wrong?

Me it's right they should be stopped "

Fist glance, well yes...

But then look at all the kids in care who don't have a home to go to, and for all we know they may be very tolerant and nice people in many other ways.... so not so simple then.

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

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I have thought hard about this since reading the article this morning, I fail to see how it is relevant as regards fostering children.

What a strange question to put to potential foster parents, after all it's not illegal to hold religious convictions on homosexuality is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wrong! And that’s simply because they wouldn’t be stopped from having their own children, so why should they be stopped from fostering children.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its the act homosexuals carry out that they are appossed to not homosexuals themselves. They are christians and thats what they believe in. I certainly dont hold the same views as they do but they have already successfully fostered 15 children and have never had to bring the subject up.

I dont think it should be a black and white subject, its dependant on many things, how old are the children going to be, what moral/religous background do they come from

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have thought hard about this since reading the article this morning, I fail to see how it is relevant as regards fostering children.

What a strange question to put to potential foster parents, after all it's not illegal to hold religious convictions on homosexuality is it?

I must admit I thought why would you ask an 8 yr old boy his sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have thought hard about this since reading the article this morning, I fail to see how it is relevant as regards fostering children.

What a strange question to put to potential foster parents, after all it's not illegal to hold religious convictions on homosexuality is it?

That was my point too Jane. Seems like you're not allowed to have an opinion any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thought that all parents and family opinions will be aired and passed on to non-fostered children so I find it impossible to imagine that any child being fostered is going to be protected from every viewpoint under the sun just the same....

My parents had some pretty off the wall opinions on some things but I don't share those opinions and also disagree with siblings on many things. We all carve our own opinions from many sources - not always the home.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But alot of these so called religious nuts think homosexuality is evil as the bible says so.

Bollocks to me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"But alot of these so called religious nuts think homosexuality is evil as the bible says so.

Bollocks to me "

Some may, but i thought the post where about the couple who where fostering

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well when they was interviewed today on radio 2 they said homosexuality to them is wrong as the bible says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But alot of these so called religious nuts think homosexuality is evil as the bible says so.

Bollocks to me "

You've married "religious" and "nut" in your statement...where is your tolerance?

Children make their own minds up: if I listened to my parents I certainly wouldn't be playing with white men.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well when they was interviewed today on radio 2 they said homosexuality to them is wrong as the bible says. "

but they never used the word evil, or not in the interview i listened to anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well when they was interviewed today on radio 2 they said homosexuality to them is wrong as the bible says. "

Do you think it's only religious people that think homosexuality is wrong?

You yourself have started threads about bi men contacting you who have straight on their profiles. If MEN in this lifestyle think "homosexuality" is wrong - give these people a break!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't mind religious people it's when they try and put their views onto me. I've my own mind but children can easily be influenced so if someone said to a young lad of 8 it's evil to be gay they will believe it too. They are not being given the chance to make their own minds up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a fantastic act by the council. After all kids are far better in children’s homes where their lives can be enriched by other children who I am sure are sweetness and light and hold no racial, homophobic or other antisocial views on society.

After all it’s a stupid Idea putting kids in a home where over a dozen children have been brought up successfully in the past isn’t it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's it's homosexuality is not wrong. I was brought up catholic not once did my parents turn their back on me. They still go to mass but they still love me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind religious people it's when they try and put their views onto me. I've my own mind but children can easily be influenced so if someone said to a young lad of 8 it's evil to be gay they will believe it too. They are not being given the chance to make their own minds up"

I take it you're not a parent. We tell our kids all kinds of things and they believe us until they think for themselves. I can't imagine any parent having a conversation about sex/sexuality with any child at eight!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"I have thought hard about this since reading the article this morning, I fail to see how it is relevant as regards fostering children.

What a strange question to put to potential foster parents, after all it's not illegal to hold religious convictions on homosexuality is it?

That's a whole new ball park... god... God... which one? How many? Is there one?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ok, are we talking about the same foster parents, where in the interview did they try and force their views on you? Where was it said they where going to tell an 8 year old that homosexuality was evil. They have already fostered 15 children and as they said they have never raised the subject with any off them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What the interview said is that the council asked the foster parents what they would do if an 8 yr old in their care said he was gay. They got turned down because they said as they think it's a sin they would tell the boy it was wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's it's homosexuality is not wrong. I was brought up catholic not once did my parents turn their back on me. They still go to mass but they still love me. "

Sorry, I'm missing your point.

This is a couple that have fostered 15 children. If they were so terrible with their religious corrupting views then the councils need to be taken to task for allowing 15 souls into their care.

You are bi - so of course you're not going to think it's wrong...some people do and that's a fact!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well no I've not had kids my choice but I've nieces and nephews who know all about me. It's best to be honest then sugar coat everything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok sassy if they are so good why then this time for some flippant remark was they turned down. I think there's more to this then we know.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

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"I have thought hard about this since reading the article this morning, I fail to see how it is relevant as regards fostering children.

What a strange question to put to potential foster parents, after all it's not illegal to hold religious convictions on homosexuality is it?

That's a whole new ball park... god... God... which one? How many? Is there one? "

Blasphemer!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

You could 'strike off' almost everyone from being a foster parent because of their view on something, yet anyone can have a kid of their own and fill their mind as they wish.

I'm not a fan of true religious intolerance or bigotry in any form, but it's only a small part of what this couple are - a part that is all over the news without their side of the story or anything about what they are like, which seems very unfair.

So put it this way, is it better to leave kids in institutions instead of putting them in with caring foster parents?

If I was in care I know which I'd prefer, by a long chalk.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

One of the things i remember my father saying to me was if you ever bring a black man home i will disown you, he held the same views about, homosexuals, foreigners and goodness knows what a complete bigot. It couldnt be more possible for me to differ from my father

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok sassy if they are so good why then this time for some flippant remark was they turned down. I think there's more to this then we know. "

I have no idea - I wasn't on the fostering panel...maybe they had a homosexual on there that took offense!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Ok sassy if they are so good why then this time for some flippant remark was they turned down. I think there's more to this then we know. "

Exactly...yet you judge then solely on the homosexual remark at the beginning of the thread!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Ok sassy if they are so good why then this time for some flippant remark was they turned down. I think there's more to this then we know.

Exactly...yet you judge then solely on the homosexual remark at the beginning of the thread!

Not bad for a person that doesnt like to be judged themselves

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not turning this into a differant debate my views are they was right to be turned down.

But as I am not a parent I can't comment about having children but if I had them I would hope they would be able to be open with whatever sexuality they chose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok sassy if they are so good why then this time for some flippant remark was they turned down. I think there's more to this then we know.

I have no idea - I wasn't on the fostering panel...maybe they had a homosexual on there that took offense!"

Maybe they did and if it was me yes I'd take offence but maybe because of my own sexuality

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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The kid shouldn't be thinking about sex at 8 years old... he should be climbing trees and making guns from sticks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok sassy if they are so good why then this time for some flippant remark was they turned down. I think there's more to this then we know.

Exactly...yet you judge then solely on the homosexual remark at the beginning of the thread!

Not bad for a person that doesnt like to be judged themselves

I get judged on a daily basis why as I'm a man that likes to wear womens clothes my parenting skills are not being judged just the way I look.

Their parenting skills were being judged here because of the comment they Made regarding homosexuality

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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Many of us grew up with parents who thought being gay was wrong at some point... after all it was illegal back then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Many of us grew up with parents who thought being gay was wrong at some point... after all it was illegal back then."

That's why sadly because of that some got married had kids before being able to come out.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"Many of us grew up with parents who thought being gay was wrong at some point... after all it was illegal back then.

That's why sadly because of that some got married had kids before being able to come out. "

And plenty still do now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many of us grew up with parents who thought being gay was wrong at some point... after all it was illegal back then.

That's why sadly because of that some got married had kids before being able to come out. "

I think having kids will bring them far more joy than having sex. Nice though it is it comes no way near nurturing a child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heard the radio today about a couple who were stopped from fostering because if their views on homosexuality. Right or wrong?

Me it's right they should be stopped "

No, it shouldnt have been stopped.

The west has become some pansy arsed libral fuckwit stadium of incompetence where having any opinion that might offend that snail by the tree is frowned upon.

Seriously, be homophobic, be racist, whatever, but be intelligent and convicted enough to stand up for your beliefs and be able to vocalise them in such a way that makes interesting debate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not about sex it's how you feel being homosexual isn't about sex it's your feelings deepdown and being with peace with yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not about sex it's how you feel being homosexual isn't about sex it's your feelings deepdown and being with peace with yourself "

Well that is an oxymoron if i have ever heard one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wasn’t so long ago these same people wouldn’t allow people with homosexual tendencies to foster children themselves, good god, they even turn down blood donations from certain groups, think they should get their own house in order as surely trying to force people to change their views is the worst possible thing they can do to try and change some peoples views.

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