FabSwingers.com forum: Undateables

By *odareyou OP Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I've ssaid it before I'd like a lady to be involved in my life to enjoy a relationship and the ups and downs of that..

For a near 52 year old I think I'm in reasonable shape , I'm okay looking I think my mum says I'm the best looking bloke in my house. , I think I've a decent personality ..

I'm on a couple of dating sites I get a bit of interest .. it doesn't seem to lead me anywhere.

Is there such a thing as an undateable.??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probably is, but i think the problem is online looking, it makes everyone disposable.

i'm chatting to guys who are interested in dating me, except their idea of dating is being sexual in less than 24 hrs...i suspect they're lying co my idea of dating is going out, and getting to know more than each others genitals.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Yeah.......me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I have become undatable I became single and seems like I am now going to be on my own for a lifetime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another undatable guy here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably is, but i think the problem is online looking, it makes everyone disposable.

I'm totally with you on this!! Even at my age the guys are worse than teens!!

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By *rightonfranceMan
over a year ago

brighton - chalais france

"Yeah.......me

what you're undateable.. which planet you just come from?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look your as good as the rest and age is just a number ........ Be positive and people love that . x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look your as good as the rest and age is just a number ........ Be positive and people love that . x"

I'm positive happy go lucky Been told I'm a nice guy but nice don't get me a date

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I met someone from pof recently,unfortunately we want different thing's. It's alway's the case

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By *odareyou OP Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"probably is, but i think the problem is online looking, it makes everyone disposable.

I'm totally with you on this!! Even at my age the guys are worse than teens!! "

Yep I like the social the getting to know folk what makes them tick ,

Only time I discuss the bedroom Olympics is in the bedroom , I'm not into sexting..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look your as good as the rest and age is just a number ........ Be positive and people love that . x

I'm positive happy go lucky Been told I'm a nice guy but nice don't get me a date

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Well your not going to the right places . I know lots of woman looking for nice people to go out with .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes.....me!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

I just find the whole dating game gets harder the older you get......I have to keep reminding myself that I am looking for different things in a guy now than I used to several years ago, yet still used to find myself looking at the ones I would have dated when a lot younger so decided to leave the dating site and join fab .......It has only been the last six months that I realise that I am just getting to the stage now when I really know what I want in a man.....so undatable...... who knows if I am or not to somebody, maybe one day soon I will give it ago again and find out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look your as good as the rest and age is just a number ........ Be positive and people love that . x

I'm positive happy go lucky Been told I'm a nice guy but nice don't get me a date

Well your not going to the right places . I know lots of woman looking for nice people to go out with ."

Would you like to introduce me then please

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i feel im undateable. fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like i am but then to be fair i cut people of before they get the date word out. I have been on litrally 2 dates both disasters that put me off a bit but that was over a year ago now so who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i feel im undateable. fact."

You look very datable to me

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I know I am undateable. The evidence speaks for itself despite friends protestations

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By *h1tewolfMan
over a year ago

Rubery

To be fair, I'm 26 and I get gals comfortable enough and me comfortable enough with them to go to bed within hours. If you're not capable of that at 35+ you, woman or man, should probably rethink your approach towards other humans.

As you go on with age, you're supposed to learn not to waste time on trivial things AND refine your people-reading skills. I'd advise to make sure those are lessons you DID actually learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the alchemy of attraction is undefined.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"i feel im undateable. fact.

You look very datable to me

you are too far away to date me...i live in one of the most isolated part of the uk ..i need to move...

its not about looks, its about practicalities

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I've ssaid it before I'd like a lady to be involved in my life to enjoy a relationship and the ups and downs of that..

For a near 52 year old I think I'm in reasonable shape , I'm okay looking I think my mum says I'm the best looking bloke in my house. , I think I've a decent personality ..

I'm on a couple of dating sites I get a bit of interest .. it doesn't seem to lead me anywhere.

Is there such a thing as an undateable.??"
mate you look fine you will just have to wait trust me it sucks but iam in the same boat at lest your not short and bald lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah.......me

Me too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more than likely going to get back out there soon - just waiting for a few more pieces to fall into place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair, I'm 26 and I get gals comfortable enough and me comfortable enough with them to go to bed within hours. If you're not capable of that at 35+ you, woman or man, should probably rethink your approach towards other humans.

As you go on with age, you're supposed to learn not to waste time on trivial things AND refine your people-reading skills. I'd advise to make sure those are lessons you DID actually learn

I think you need to rethink your philosophy up until my last girl friend I had no problem what so ever with finding and dating women. It's only recently I have found this problem

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'm perfectly dateable - but you don't want to do it.

Messy.

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

"Look your as good as the rest and age is just a number ........ Be positive and people love that . x"

I positively live your pics madam

How's that?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Happily undateable here.

You should have watched last nights Horizon about dating sites. Very illuminating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look your as good as the rest and age is just a number ........ Be positive and people love that . x

I positively live your pics madam

How's that?

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lol positively fine .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you go on with age, you're supposed to learn not to waste time on trivial things AND refine your people-reading skills. I'd advise to make sure those are lessons you DID actually learn

so dating now is sex?

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I'm also an undateable.... I don't 'get it' anymore

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By *methyst01Man
over a year ago

Ealing Common

You need to be able to walk up to woman and approach them and more importantly handle rejection.

Some girls may have boyfriends, husbands etc.

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By *odareyou OP Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

As you go on with age, you're supposed to learn not to waste time on trivial things AND refine your people-reading skills. I'd advise to make sure those are lessons you DID actually learn

I think you're confusing the part where I said I want a relationship .. with I can't get a shag.

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By *uvesmuffinCouple
over a year ago

Barking

As you go on with age, you're supposed to learn not to waste time on trivial things AND refine your people-reading skills. I'd advise to make sure those are lessons you DID actually learn

Maybe it could be that over 35's have different thoughts about dating to 26 year olds, I take the word to mean going out together, getting to know each other and bonding rather than getting into Bed after 2 Hours....

Jeeez i am getting old

MUFFIN pass me pipe n slippers Luv

Him

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

The science behind online dating profiles

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-36105365

Interesting read... all down to numbers, apparently...

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By *h1tewolfMan
over a year ago

Rubery

As you go on with age, you're supposed to learn not to waste time on trivial things AND refine your people-reading skills. I'd advise to make sure those are lessons you DID actually learn

I think you need to rethink your philosophy up until my last girl friend I had no problem what so ever with finding and dating women. It's only recently I have found this problem "

Sorry, it was meant to be a directed reply but it seems that it didn't quote the person it was directed to.

It was to reply to the notion that dating was necessary and that sex within 24 hours was an immature expectation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a fair point no problem

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Happily undateable here.

You should have watched last nights Horizon about dating sites. Very illuminating."

My sister told me to watch it,I have it on record

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Happily undateable here.

You should have watched last nights Horizon about dating sites. Very illuminating.

My sister told me to watch it,I have it on record"

Where was it on?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Happily undateable here.

You should have watched last nights Horizon about dating sites. Very illuminating.

My sister told me to watch it,I have it on record

Where was it on?

BB2 at 9 last night cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably is, but i think the problem is online looking, it makes everyone disposable.

I'm totally with you on this!! Even at my age the guys are worse than teens!!

Yep I like the social the getting to know folk what makes them tick ,

Only time I discuss the bedroom Olympics is in the bedroom , I'm not into sexting..

I love the social side. Seems to be a dying art now a days. Setting has its place too though

. Nothing like a bit of sexty flirting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's become apparent that I fall into the undateable category.

People seem to like me well enough but no one wants to date me. It's possibly down to the fact that I'm a bit weird and a bit awkward.

Also women don't really want to date someone with better hair than them.

C'est last vie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are loads of lovely single ladies out there. People rely on dating sites to much. Girls know other girls, talk to all girls and be pleasant at all times, that way you get to meet their friends etc. always works for me. I do think now though that most guys expect a girls knickers to be off far to quickly these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably is, but i think the problem is online looking, it makes everyone disposable.

I'm totally with you on this!! Even at my age the guys are worse than teens!!

Yep I like the social the getting to know folk what makes them tick ,

Only time I discuss the bedroom Olympics is in the bedroom , I'm not into sexting..

I love the social side. Seems to be a dying art now a days. Setting has its place too though

. Nothing like a bit of sexty flirting. "

Bloody auto carrot.. Not setting. Sexting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably is, but i think the problem is online looking, it makes everyone disposable.

My problem also

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By *odareyou OP Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"The science behind online dating profiles

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-36105365

Interesting read... all down to numbers, apparently..."

Read some of the article I'll read it all later, science may come to the rescue.

If anyone wants to check out my profile on the fishy site see if my maths has any chance give me a message and I'll post you the name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably is, but i think the problem is online looking, it makes everyone disposable.

I'm totally with you on this!! Even at my age the guys are worse than teens!!

Yep I like the social the getting to know folk what makes them tick ,

Only time I discuss the bedroom Olympics is in the bedroom , I'm not into sexting..

I love the social side. Seems to be a dying art now a days. Setting has its place too though

. Nothing like a bit of sexty flirting.

Bloody auto carrot.. Not setting. Sexting. "

I don't mind sexting either. But it's obvious if they want sexting or sex within the first day of contacting you then they're only after sex (or maybe not even meeting and only want sex chat).

The internet fucking sucks.

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By *ooking75Man
over a year ago

Dudley

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'm totally girlfriend material, but the trouble is the ones that want me aren't the ones I want lol! I just demanded a refund on a paying site and spent the money on a Fitbit instead lol.........

As many people get older they cease to want a full-on life partner, and even if they want a relationship they want one to fit neatly into a twice a week box. Nah, not my style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably is, but i think the problem is online looking, it makes everyone disposable.

I'm totally with you on this!! Even at my age the guys are worse than teens!!

Yep I like the social the getting to know folk what makes them tick ,

Only time I discuss the bedroom Olympics is in the bedroom , I'm not into sexting..

I love the social side. Seems to be a dying art now a days. Setting has its place too though

. Nothing like a bit of sexty flirting.

Bloody auto carrot.. Not setting. Sexting.

I don't mind sexting either. But it's obvious if they want sexting or sex within the first day of contacting you then they're only after sex (or maybe not even meeting and only want sex chat).

The internet fucking sucks."

Yep, it sure does sometimes.

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By *odareyou OP Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"probably is, but i think the problem is online looking, it makes everyone disposable.

I'm totally with you on this!! Even at my age the guys are worse than teens!!

Yep I like the social the getting to know folk what makes them tick ,

Only time I discuss the bedroom Olympics is in the bedroom , I'm not into sexting..

I love the social side. Seems to be a dying art now a days. Setting has its place too though

. Nothing like a bit of sexty flirting.

Bloody auto carrot.. Not setting. Sexting.

I don't mind sexting either. But it's obvious if they want sexting or sex within the first day of contacting you then they're only after sex (or maybe not even meeting and only want sex chat).

The internet fucking sucks."

If the internet did suck I might not want a girlfriend / partner ..

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

For all you socalled undateables, take hart

This 61yr old is getting married in June to a lady 13yrs younger.

so there is hope for you all

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Yeah.......me

what you're undateable.. which planet you just come from?????

I come from planet real...I know I am for various reasons....

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"For all you socalled undateables, take hart

This 61yr old is getting married in June to a lady 13yrs younger.

so there is hope for you all "

Congratulations!

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

"Look your as good as the rest and age is just a number ........ Be positive and people love that . x

I positively live your pics madam

How's that?

lol positively fine .

Oooh.. That's a positively positive result ... Think I'll take another pervy peek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am probably undateable... I think I am little selfish and a lot arrogant.... I am also beaucoup strange

Quite a good cook though... mildly OCD when it comes to cleanliness and strangely happy...

....have I just written a POF profile?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I just got hit on by the most gorgeous woman on POF lol, and a rather cute but too short guy - if only I as 5 foot nothing or bi, I'd be laughing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just got hit on by the most gorgeous woman on POF lol, and a rather cute but too short guy - if only I as 5 foot nothing or bi, I'd be laughing!

I always used to go for the shorter guys. A lot of women would reject them purely on height and some are gorgeous and amazing guys. Hidden treasure! I married one.

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

"I just got hit on by the most gorgeous woman on POF lol, and a rather cute but too short guy - if only I as 5 foot nothing or bi, I'd be laughing!

I always used to go for the shorter guys. A lot of women would reject them purely on height and some are gorgeous and amazing guys. Hidden treasure! I married one.

A woman of good taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just got hit on by the most gorgeous woman on POF lol, and a rather cute but too short guy - if only I as 5 foot nothing or bi, I'd be laughing!

My last two message on pof were from a wiccan who only wears black and a couple weeks ago from a girl with a blood fetish. I attract different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My in box has forgotten what a message looks like lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My problem is that there are shorter, younger, properly single (no kids/baggage) women out there... Who don't live in such a hard to get to place...

It wouldn't matter what dating site I was on to realise that...

I was on POF years ago but soon realised its worse than here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as you get past 40 you compromise less and get stuck in your ways. I seem to be undateable.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I just got hit on by the most gorgeous woman on POF lol, and a rather cute but too short guy - if only I as 5 foot nothing or bi, I'd be laughing!

I always used to go for the shorter guys. A lot of women would reject them purely on height and some are gorgeous and amazing guys. Hidden treasure! I married one.

Yes, one day I must go fishing for tiddlers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i changed my header today to message me if you wanna go out, had 0 messages since then. this is unusual for me but expected.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I just got hit on by the most gorgeous woman on POF lol, and a rather cute but too short guy - if only I as 5 foot nothing or bi, I'd be laughing!

My last two message on pof were from a wiccan who only wears black and a couple weeks ago from a girl with a blood fetish. I attract different. "

Lol, thinking about it my perfect woman was probably a man after a filthy chat anyway!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think I have become undatable I became single and seems like I am now going to be on my own for a lifetime

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me too. Think my fate is sealed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just got hit on by the most gorgeous woman on POF lol, and a rather cute but too short guy - if only I as 5 foot nothing or bi, I'd be laughing!

I always used to go for the shorter guys. A lot of women would reject them purely on height and some are gorgeous and amazing guys. Hidden treasure! I married one.

Yes, one day I must go fishing for tiddlers

I would advise robust contraception as a precaution madam.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I think as you get past 40 you compromise less and get stuck in your ways. I seem to be undateable. "

Yep, I have found this to be very true and its both a good and bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found I needed to take a break from this site to focus on a relationship in order to make it successful. Maybe wasting time here, fucking or pursuing multiple people, isn't the best route for all.

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By *ittleoldmoiWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I can't believe everything how many man on here are also on pof.

It's a strange one. I have recently walked away from the whole dating thing. Busy life but miss couple stuff like most.

Fab is my semi happy medium that keeps me ever hopeful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't believe everything how many man on here are also on pof.

It's a strange one. I have recently walked away from the whole dating thing. Busy life but miss couple stuff like most.

Fab is my semi happy medium that keeps me ever hopeful

yeah, and when i blocked guys on here from messaging me they just contacted me on there, i just ignore them.

told one previous meet last night i wasn't looking for hook ups o POF, he says he wanted to date me and that's why he stopped talking to me...er ok? anyway he said he was up for dating and could he come round right now to see me (at gone 11pm)...i said dating is going out and that and not coming round to mine for a fuck.

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By *ust MonicaWoman
over a year ago

CAMBRIDGESHIRE

I'm undateable and that's fine. I like me and like me time. Relationships are too messy

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I just got hit on by the most gorgeous woman on POF lol, and a rather cute but too short guy - if only I as 5 foot nothing or bi, I'd be laughing!

I always used to go for the shorter guys. A lot of women would reject them purely on height and some are gorgeous and amazing guys. Hidden treasure! I married one.

Yes, one day I must go fishing for tiddlers

I would advise robust contraception as a precaution madam.

Pac-a-mac at the ready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's interesting that a discussion on being dateable or indeed being undateable appears on a swinging site. It seems many of us still like the idea of the social, wining and dining, walks, cinema, sporting event with a partner as well as the swinging side of things. The TV show Undateables has as its premise people who are undateable. It is really about those who maybe wouldn't be able to a attract a large number of potential dates for whatever reason. The show has proved though that there is hope for everyone and true love between two people who find being together is far more preferable than being alone does happen.

I don't get many replies to my messages, but I do meet some gorgeous ladies in clubs and as am not looking to date anyone, just playing and having fun is fine by me. I will concede that a regular FB would be nice but I wouldn't want to live together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This must be the thread for me...

Looks around ...

Think I'm alone now

Doesn't seem to be anyone around...

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