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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey guys I'm fairly new to this site and I just needed some help, I haven't had any replies or anyone send messages to me, I think it's to do with my profile so does anyone have an advice they could give? Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is a virtue bud

Just jump in the forums and have a chuckle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just have patience "
I understand that but it's like literally nothing :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a body shot. You're quite covered up in that coat x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Patience is a virtue bud

Just jump in the forums and have a chuckle "

I'll give it a try thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe a body shot. You're quite covered up in that coat x"

What coat??? X

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Hey guys I'm fairly new to this site and I just needed some help, I haven't had any replies or anyone send messages to me, I think it's to do with my profile so does anyone have an advice they could give? Thanks"

You might want to check your profile text you have "looking to try new things" twice tell people what you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe a body shot. You're quite covered up in that coat x

What coat??? X"

Oh it's a hoodie is it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey guys I'm fairly new to this site and I just needed some help, I haven't had any replies or anyone send messages to me, I think it's to do with my profile so does anyone have an advice they could give? Thanks

You might want to check your profile text you have "looking to try new things" twice tell people what you are looking for "

Okay thanks I'll sort that out now and okay thank you

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By *tretchygirl and tintinWoman
over a year ago

Dartford


"Just have patience "

Isn't that Shag's line?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe a body shot. You're quite covered up in that coat x

What coat??? X

Oh it's a hoodie is it? "

My body is my profile picture ???x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe a body shot. You're quite covered up in that coat x

What coat??? X

Oh it's a hoodie is it?

My body is my profile picture ???x"

Oh yeah. Durrrrr. Lol. Never look Tho TBF as profile pics are too small. Just dibe straight in to the profile itself x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe a body shot. You're quite covered up in that coat x

What coat??? X

Oh it's a hoodie is it?

My body is my profile picture ???x

Oh yeah. Durrrrr. Lol. Never look Tho TBF as profile pics are too small. Just dibe straight in to the profile itself x"

You should be able to see them now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't put too much in to people's advice that migth allure you in to a false sense of security that single men can actually pull online just by tweaking their profiles.

You literally live in the Mecca of Swinging clubs, if you think you can hold a minimum of a conversation with new people then take yourself to a good Swingers' club on a Saturday night! And enjoy the atmosphere!

Good luck!

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Hey guys I'm fairly new to this site and I just needed some help, I haven't had any replies or anyone send messages to me, I think it's to do with my profile so does anyone have an advice they could give? Thanks"

Couple of things:

-You are 19 -that might count against you as your experience might be very limited

-You might' meet couple but depends on 'moral' grounds - it's okay to be selective, but that might put couples off straight away

-You expect people to contact you - for 99% of the time that just won't happen. As a single bloke - you will have to make initial contact

Don't forget - you are competing with every other single male profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys I'm fairly new to this site and I just needed some help, I haven't had any replies or anyone send messages to me, I think it's to do with my profile so does anyone have an advice they could give? Thanks

Couple of things:

-You are 19 -that might count against you as your experience might be very limited

-You might' meet couple but depends on 'moral' grounds - it's okay to be selective, but that might put couples off straight away

-You expect people to contact you - for 99% of the time that just won't happen. As a single bloke - you will have to make initial contact

Don't forget - you are competing with every other single male profile. "

I'd also agree with this and add...

You can't accommodate, maybe explain why

Lose the 'moral'

Attend a social or club

Use the forums to raise awareness

And never expect!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Agree with some others. Your profile text really just says a couple of things -

You're recently single and want sex with women.

You'd consider couples and might try new things.

I wouldn't what you have already tried and neither what you might try. For someone who has the choice of partners, if it's either someone who's confident sexually and very open to pretty much everything or someone who's perhaps more vanilla to be chosen from, many would chose the first type of guy.

You'll need photos so that others can determine if they like the look of you.

You are amongst people who are more sexually open minded than the average citizen. Check if this is a match for you.

Be specific about what you're interested in.

Make yourself stand out as competition among you guys is very strong.

Don't expect any replies from anyone - no reply is the norm here, meaning they're not interested.

Target people who like your age group - you'll be too young for many.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Most clubs have a 21 age limit so he can't go to one.

I don't think anyone should have to justify why they can't accommodate: he's 19, hardly likely to have a wife and kids is he?

Op, I think you need to manage your expectations and realise you are one of thousands of single men on site. Your age will be a disadvantage, but doesn't mean you won't appeal to some.

Add more pictures. Avoid ones with you posing with a drink/fag/false boobs type ones. State what you're looking for/can offer without bragging/writing a porno script.

Good luck!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Agree with some others. Your profile text really just says a couple of things -

You're recently single and want sex with women.

You'd consider couples and might try new things.

I wouldn't what you have already tried and neither what you might try. For someone who has the choice of partners, if it's either someone who's confident sexually and very open to pretty much everything or someone who's perhaps more vanilla to be chosen from, many would chose the first type of guy.

You'll need photos so that others can determine if they like the look of you.

You are amongst people who are more sexually open minded than the average citizen. Check if this is a match for you.

Be specific about what you're interested in.

Make yourself stand out as competition among you guys is very strong.

Don't expect any replies from anyone - no reply is the norm here, meaning they're not interested.

Target people who like your age group - you'll be too young for many."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most clubs have a 21 age limit so he can't go to one."
Ah, I never noticed, well that is barrier then!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Personally, I think that you are on the wrong site to achieve what you're looking for. Reading through all of the hundreds of similar threads on this forum tells us a few realities about this site for single guys.

1. There are more single guys on here than everyone else put together, so competition is high.

2. Younger guys seem to find it hardest.

3. Single ladies are the most "in demand" site members.

4. Unless your profile stands out from the crowd, you "will" be passed by.

Although it's not really my field of expertise, I would suggest that you'd have better luck of finding straight single ladies of a mainstream hookup site or dating sites.

Having said that, there's no harm in hanging around on here too. Enjoy the banter, and be a part of the community, you never know what may occur with a bit of patience.

Cal

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Don't rely on fab as your main source of sex, go to bars and clubs too. Or when you get to my age, gardening soirée's

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