FabSwingers.com forum: Depression and Anxiety

By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Not sure what to say just one of them days feel like I don't want to do anything feel worthless no good for anything sick of been on meds and still having really bad days then just getting told by every one to man up and not be a pussy not been able to deal with the things in my head or sick of been me and worrying about things

Sorry just having a moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's cool, let it all out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure what to say just one of them days feel like I don't want to do anything feel worthless no good for anything sick of been on meds and still having really bad days then just getting told by every one to man up and not be a pussy not been able to deal with the things in my head or sick of been me and worrying about things

Sorry just having a moan

Do you have a problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trouble with depression is people dont know how to handle it when you tell them (speaking from experience here, i suffered with it for a while). I spoke to my closest friends, spent some time at home feeling sorry for myself and found that the greatest thing for me was being outside, sitting in the garden. The main thing is to talk to your closest friend, or person you are most comfortable with and try to understand why you feel like it (has something caused it etc). Hopefully that is ok what i have written

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By *ws101Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Doctors gave me beta blockers for anxiety.. almost killed me.. 45 mg of propranolol or whatever the pink shits are called... you have to find the root of the issue.. anxiety and depression go hand in hand.. depressed cus your always anxioys and anxious about being depressed.. just try to talk to someone... eat bananas or small ammounts of dark chocolates and try to keep your chin up...doctors only tend to give meds or offer therapy which unless is private has a huge waiting list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who is telling you to man up? Perhaps remove them from your life for now, they're contributing to your mood.

I'd also see a doctor for a medication review. And use the talking therapy on offer, it's there for use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry just having a moan

Never say sorry, light hearted comment now, watch eastenders as you,ll realise your life is not that bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP are you bipolar ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry just having a moan "

I have suffered from depression and anxiety for nearly 25 years now & I don't like taking meds but when I realised the hard way that the meds keep me more stable even with off days - as I ran out & had none for a week. I was unable to do anything but lay in bed shaking with cold sweats & feeling physically sick. I no longer doubt my meds; I still have off days but am pinpointing down the triggers that always seem to occur just before my mood drops. Just do as much as you feel like doing while your low & it will pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sort of relate. I'm going through depression and it's hard. Most days I find it hard to do basic things like get out of bed or eat. I have also lost interest in my hobbies and don't really wish to do anything at all, completely devoid of motivation.

Then there's the apathy, just not caring about the situation and letting it get worse and worse despite knowing that it's a really bad thing and changes need to be made.

I personally won't take meds because I've seen people close to me change completely on them and quite frankly go a bit mental on them. I don't think that's right at all.

You should remind yourself every day that it WILL get better despite how shit it is right now. I know it won't make you feel any better but it's enough to keep you fighting.

Anyway, this post is just to let you know that you're certainly not alone in your thoughts and feelings. There are many others going through this. I would suggest making friends with those who have gone through it or are going through it so you can help eachother. It sounds like those you have reached out to are people who don't understand and have probably been lucky enough to have never experienced it.

For me it's easier to chat to people online rather than friends and family so try that if you haven't already

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Too every one who has commented thank you very much it's nice to just have some one to talk too I do have my mates who know what iam like but when iam really bad I just wanna curl up in bed and stay away from every one also I don't think iam bi po but maybe some thing I should look in too also I under stand that ppl who tell me to man up and such are trying to help just they don't under stand how it feels but once again big thank you for the comments made me smile

soo a run down I should go back to the docs to sort my meds out then eat bananas and dark choc a I watch eastenders lol

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

From a fellow depression-sufferer, consider yourself hugged.

Google youtube 'black dog'

Lxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HUGS! It doesn't sound particularly easy being you this minute!

Do me a favour, go check out the CALM website.

And if you can, avoid those 'Man Up' people, they are absolutely clueless and of no help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hangover post you did yesterday : drinking to excess (and the fall out from it) will only serve to exaccerbate your moods.

If you are struggling, lay off the pop

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"From a fellow depression-sufferer, consider yourself hugged.

Google youtube 'black dog'

Lxx"
Morning and thank you sweetie means a lot and just watched it much of it I did know but still enjoyed the watch made me smile x

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"HUGS! It doesn't sound particularly easy being you this minute!

Do me a favour, go check out the CALM website.

And if you can, avoid those 'Man Up' people, they are absolutely clueless and of no help!

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thank you but I know their are must worse ppl out there and I do go from good to bad I just need to keep my head busy and think more about the good things in my life my family and friends and if anything my work (even if some days I hate it lol)

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"The hangover post you did yesterday : drinking to excess (and the fall out from it) will only serve to exaccerbate your moods.

If you are struggling, lay off the pop

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very true I have always enjoyed a drink iam no where near as bad as I was used to drink before work and have a pint of vodka and mixer before bed now I don't drink alone make sure iam in a pub with friends or even just meet some one and have a chat I just get a bit bad some times but that's mostly when iam feeling good at the start of the night and do th whole'i will be fine if I have a few more' but now I do go from drinking every day for a week to not having a drop for a month or even better drinking 7 up when iam in a pub also had a friend who knew I was down so she asked if I wanted to go fo tea with her and her bf and kids was a really good night part from waking up on the sofa to a child hugging me ( I don't have kids and am single so did not know what to do but was cute til she drooled over my shirt lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you'r current meds arent working for you go to the doctor snd change them

Its all about finding what works for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an anxiety disorder when I left the army. It wasn't PTSD but the my gp said it was a related condition. He put me on sertraline for 6 months and I also had therapy once a fortnight. Did the job for me. I'm as right as rain now.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"If you'r current meds arent working for you go to the doctor snd change them

Its all about finding what works for you"
I don't wish to go any higher I find they work 60% of the time so it's better then not havin them I find

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I had an anxiety disorder when I left the army. It wasn't PTSD but the my gp said it was a related condition. He put me on sertraline for 6 months and I also had therapy once a fortnight. Did the job for me. I'm as right as rain now. "
well glad your feeling better mate. I had over the phone counselling but did not help much tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let it out op. Ive been on anti depressants for 4 yrs & still have off days. Im no doctor but would recommend Citalopram. Im only on 20mg but they certainly help.

good luck pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have days like this and sometimes just curl up under the duvet... But I've found talking with someone is great therapy. Also this time of year is great to make the effort to get outdoors... You'll be surprised how many people are feeling the same way.

The forum is also a great release as there are many wonderful people on here that really do want to help... Xx

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Let it out op. Ive been on anti depressants for 4 yrs & still have off days. Im no doctor but would recommend Citalopram. Im only on 20mg but they certainly help.

good luck pal"
been on them 3 years and that's what iam on I take 40mg a day but thanks mate means a lot

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I have days like this and sometimes just curl up under the duvet... But I've found talking with someone is great therapy. Also this time of year is great to make the effort to get outdoors... You'll be surprised how many people are feeling the same way.

The forum is also a great release as there are many wonderful people on here that really do want to help... Xx"
very true the thing that shocks me is yes is all swingers site and such but how in one way it's not at all and just love chatting with other about diffrent things other then sex and every one posting and such has been so kind I find I curl up in bed watch a kids film and eat crap not the best thing but helps a little lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yiu are not on your own I suffer meds keep me stable but drinking is your enemy . X

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"yiu are not on your own I suffer meds keep me stable but drinking is your enemy . X

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I know I know hun but when iam really down I want a drink or when iam really happy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Starter for 10

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/healthadvice/problemsdisorders/bipolardisorder.aspx?theme=mobile

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By *rewelad88Man
over a year ago

crewe

I'm 28 and having tests for bipolar, drink is the worse thing uou can do as it's a depressant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you'r current meds arent working for you go to the doctor snd change them

Its all about finding what works for you I don't wish to go any higher I find they work 60% of the time so it's better then not havin them I find"

I didnt say higher I said differnt theres lots of meda some work for some people not others youve got to find the right one for you

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

Can relate to your post. ...6mnths off work with depression due to work place harassment about 10 yrs ago. .. Occasionally suffer black dog days, was feeling just like you at times. ..certain friends didn't know what to do around me, my then wife was a rock...diet was sorted,meds eventually right, counselling..exercise routine helped too. ...fast forward 5 yrs to 6mnths after we split I went downhill again. ...Three really good friends kept me sane...I got a running route to keep me active, changed diet, volunteering for various things took mind off for a while..now work in one area I volunteered in..it does get better sir, talking to anyone always helps too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a family member who I live with suffering from severe depression and anxiety and seeing it every day is no easy task in itself. Hers was triggered by her childhood from having a mother telling her that she was a mistake and the runt of the litter aswell as physical abuse from being kicked and slapped. There were times where they didn't get out of bed or even eat as they just felt that sick and low. But every day I'd get up, make breakfast and coffee now whether they eat it or whether they don't is irrelevant but what is, is the fact your showing support, giving them a shoulder to cry on. Worst part was when I heard them say they thought of suicide more than once. Bottle of pills, going for a walk in the woods and not coming back or jumping off the M62 flyover bridge. They asked why are you still here after all this?. They simply said because i have the most amazing son and he wakes up every morning and makes me breakfast and coffee and not a single word is said if I don't eat it. never say to yourself I can't get through this week as that seems like a impossible task but just say I'm going to get through today and have a good day at that. That's a task worth while. Live each day moment by moment and never think you walk down that road alone. I hope this helps out a little. Anyone who suffers from depression and anxiety has my heart and upmost sympathy. I've walked down that road along side my mum and it's hell. But you battle through it and there is always light at the end of the tunnel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know exactly how your feeling. What worked for me was stopping my meds and getting a routine so I got back into the gym 6 days a week after work. Keeps me busy mind and body. Find something that makes you happy get out socialising but not getting wastes lol. I'm feel really good now after 8 years of not. Still have the odd day but he who doesn't. Hope this helps you out mate

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"From a fellow depression-sufferer, consider yourself hugged.

Google youtube 'black dog'

LxxMorning and thank you sweetie means a lot and just watched it much of it I did know but still enjoyed the watch made me smile x"

You're welcome xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yiu are not on your own I suffer meds keep me stable but drinking is your enemy . X

I know I know hun but when iam really down I want a drink or when iam really happy lol"

OP you ever discussed your drinking habits with your doctor?

Alot of people who abuse alcohol also have depression.

But what's hard to establish is this....

Is the excessive drinking the cause of the depression or is the depression the cause of the excessive drinking?

One thing I do know for sure to get to the answer you first have to remove alcohol from the equation.

Difficult to do especially when using alcohol to self medicate.

This would be best done with help and guidance from your doctor or health professional as detoxing can have dangerous side effects depending on a number of factors both physical and mental.

I would think removing alcohol from your life would be a step in the right direction for your first step to try and get to the root of your depression.

I hope what I have said may have helped somewhat OP.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending some comforting hugs your way.

I suffer with depression badly too because of my borderline personality disorder it took years to get diagnosed as it's very rare and wrongly diagnosed as depression all the time. (It's pretty similar to bipolar so gets diagnosed as that sometimes too).

I hate it when people tell you to just snap out of it, yeh because depression is something you chose to have

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Sorry just having a moan "

Depression/anxiety is just a chemical imbalance in the brain, there's nothing wrong with it and you can't just "man up"

Stay on your medication if it's this bad it's likely time to up the dose or try new ones (with your gps consent)

I was taking citralipram (I forget the exact spelling) and they weren't really helping so I transferred to setraline and went from 50s to 100 and I stated to feel better.

But most importantly I got my shit together, I got a job, moved residence and started taking steps to change my life.

Antidepressants can help but ultimately it's up to you to move forward, nobody can or will do it for you.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"From a fellow depression-sufferer, consider yourself hugged.

Google youtube 'black dog'

Lxx"

Nick drake's black dog, in fact the whole album should be more legendary than it is.

Unless I'm..... Barking up the wrong tree

Like a dog?

Because they bark?

Shurrup, it was funny in my head

Ok I'll be quiet now

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"yiu are not on your own I suffer meds keep me stable but drinking is your enemy . X

I know I know hun but when iam really down I want a drink or when iam really happy lol

OP you ever discussed your drinking habits with your doctor?

Alot of people who abuse alcohol also have depression.

But what's hard to establish is this....

Is the excessive drinking the cause of the depression or is the depression the cause of the excessive drinking?

One thing I do know for sure to get to the answer you first have to remove alcohol from the equation.

Difficult to do especially when using alcohol to self medicate.

This would be best done with help and guidance from your doctor or health professional as detoxing can have dangerous side effects depending on a number of factors both physical and mental.

I would think removing alcohol from your life would be a step in the right direction for your first step to try and get to the root of your depression.

I hope what I have said may have helped somewhat OP.

Good luck

Good points, also drinking alcohol (a depressant) not really a good idea when depressed.

Try the orange juice, I hear it's great this time of year.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"I know exactly how your feeling. What worked for me was stopping my meds and getting a routine so I got back into the gym 6 days a week after work. Keeps me busy mind and body. Find something that makes you happy get out socialising but not getting wastes lol. I'm feel really good now after 8 years of not. Still have the odd day but he who doesn't. Hope this helps you out mate"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry just having a moan

Depression/anxiety is just a chemical imbalance in the brain, there's nothing wrong with it and you can't just "man up"

Stay on your medication if it's this bad it's likely time to up the dose or try new ones (with your gps consent)

I was taking citralipram (I forget the exact spelling) and they weren't really helping so I transferred to setraline and went from 50s to 100 and I stated to feel better.

But most importantly I got my shit together, I got a job, moved residence and started taking steps to change my life.

Antidepressants can help but ultimately it's up to you to move forward, nobody can or will do it for you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who is telling you to man up? Perhaps remove them from your life for now, they're contributing to your mood.

I'd also see a doctor for a medication review. And use the talking therapy on offer, it's there for use. "

^^^^ I like you

^^^^

And to OP, 3 things make a man happy:-

1. A sense of purpose/objective. Something to look forward to or a project to work on.

2. Enough money/financial stability. It's not about being rich, it's about having enough so that no problem is too great for the number in the Bank.

3. A woman who loves and supports you (or a man if you are that way inclined) which is one of the most important ones, to love and support you for who you are.

Set your goal to obtain all 3 of these and you can be as happy as able bro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi op. All good advice from above.

Take every half hour at a time when it's bad. When it's good take every day in your stride. Xxxx

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By *omersetfun15Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

Sorry to here about how you feel

I have experience of this and its not easy,for me what worked was forcing myself to go out of the house if only for a short time,and getting a cat which has been a great help.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Getting out of the house is key. Try to bloody force yourself. I've found the forums helpful, but that can sidetrack you: you need to meet real people, so if friends aren't available, join a club or something where people don't know your backstory and you can be 'yourself'.

The drink certainly won't help..!

Stay active: exercising, whatever. You have to create the serotonin in order to feel the benefits. Bit crap I know as that's the opposite of what you will feel like doing, so a bit of a vicious circle. Like others have said you have to want to do it.

Try getting a calender and noting down the 'normal' positive things you do each day. It will give you something to hang on to and then over time you can see your progress.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Black dog is a bitch.

My tip is to focus on the positives. It's really easy to see negatives in everything, so try and focus on the good.

Ten bad things may happen in the day from burning your toast to a large gas bill, but you also may laugh so hard at something on TV that you chuckle about it when you think about it later on and you may find a quid in the sofa.

They're naff in the normal run of the mill, but they are positive so focus on them.

Read all the above here too - send great advice - you are never alone in it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive suffered like you on and off for years but all i kept getting told was snap out of it x not very supportive family but i know how you feel lifes a struggle just try keep your chin up x im actually being reffered for councelling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been suffering since a teenager with depression /anxiety disorder .tried loads of different anti depressants and was hit and miss.

What I've found helps is no alcohol (sorry or if do limit it ),if can get a pet .go out everyday if possible work or just a walk as exercise helps

Also take vitamin b complex and vit c /zinc daily.

Try counselling can help.

My doctor has always told me to keep working so one less issue but also means I'm go out daily ,see people and can take your mind off it .

Sounds daft but when really bad I find a good cry helps.

Hope your ok debsx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who is telling you to man up? Perhaps remove them from your life for now, they're contributing to your mood.

I'd also see a doctor for a medication review. And use the talking therapy on offer, it's there for use.

^^^^ I like you

^^^^

And to OP, 3 things make a man happy:-

1. A sense of purpose/objective. Something to look forward to or a project to work on.

2. Enough money/financial stability. It's not about being rich, it's about having enough so that no problem is too great for the number in the Bank.

3. A woman who loves and supports you (or a man if you are that way inclined) which is one of the most important ones, to love and support you for who you are.

Set your goal to obtain all 3 of these and you can be as happy as able bro

Number 2 is kinda bullshit because there's loads of millionaires who suffer from depression. My depression started when I was the most financially well off I've ever been

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Dear every one who has commented a hugeeeee thank you no joke it has knocked me back how kind you all have been and how when you could of been looking to get laid you took the time to post on here so thank you funny enuff not feeling bad at all today lol and if I could you would be getting a hug and a round bought for you all ( oj or 7 up for me tho lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't necessarily a cure but it can help. Having regular cold showers has been shown to help with depression and anxiety. It won't cure it on it's own but just a bit of a help.

They call it Hydrotherapy.

Here's a quick google search article about it.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inner-source/201407/cold-splash-hydrotherapy-depression-and-anxiety

Cold showers help with other things too so worth a try. I've been having them now for about a month and so far so good : )

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"This isn't necessarily a cure but it can help. Having regular cold showers has been shown to help with depression and anxiety. It won't cure it on it's own but just a bit of a help.

They call it Hydrotherapy.

Here's a quick google search article about it.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inner-source/201407/cold-splash-hydrotherapy-depression-and-anxiety

Cold showers help with other things too so worth a try. I've been having them now for about a month and so far so good : )

"
ok wow never even herd of it I guess like most ppl I guessed it was for getting hard ons away in the morning ill have a read thanks man

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By *teve197_ukMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

It may not help you as it doesn't work for everyone,but hypnotherapy really helped me with stress,anxiety etc, not 100 % there yet but much better than before and now I don't see aliens anymore (that was a joke).

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"It may not help you as it doesn't work for everyone,but hypnotherapy really helped me with stress,anxiety etc, not 100 % there yet but much better than before and now I don't see aliens anymore (that was a joke). "
I have never herd of it at all would of thort it would just stress you more going for a shower to find out its cold lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffered badly with stress a few years ago it brought on anxiety attacks,the way i fought it was i had good chat with myself in the mirror(seriously i did) and told myself that i could beat it and im strong,take i one day at a time i know that sounds easy but it worked for me....good luck

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Sorry just having a moan "

I know how you feel man, been suffering with depression my self for the last 4 odd years, some days are okish and some are worse, then you have to convince yourself life can get better or sometimes can predict and worry it can get worse, it's a constant battle with your mind & then you ask yourself do I want to carry on or just let go of my life to the point of is it worth it to keep facing feeling down & depressed.

Didn't want to make you feel worse but that's how it feels right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things will get better, personally I think prescribed meds are body/mind destroyers. Take up a sport be part of a team build your confidence back up to were it should be bro.

When your not feeling it on a certain day go for a walk/run

And remember there is ALWAYS someone to talk to even if it is on a Swingers site :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No mate... It's all 3....

Not 1 of 3

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I suffered badly with stress a few years ago it brought on anxiety attacks,the way i fought it was i had good chat with myself in the mirror(seriously i did) and told myself that i could beat it and im strong,take i one day at a time i know that sounds easy but it worked for me....good luck

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thanks man I find writing down what I want or want to change helps me or my plans or things I look forword too

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Things will get better, personally I think prescribed meds are body/mind destroyers. Take up a sport be part of a team build your confidence back up to were it should be bro.

When your not feeling it on a certain day go for a walk/run

And remember there is ALWAYS someone to talk to even if it is on a Swingers site :P"
thanks and I am with you about the meds I don't like how much I need them but it's how I am now just keep takin them and yes I need to get my ass back to the gym or out doing some thing just lost any drive and then that knocks me confidence and if anything yes a swinger site but 98% off ppl I have met have been very kind and helped me

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over a year ago

"Too every one who has commented thank you very much it's nice to just have some one to talk too I do have my mates who know what iam like but when iam really bad I just wanna curl up in bed and stay away from every one also I don't think iam bi po but maybe some thing I should look in too also I under stand that ppl who tell me to man up and such are trying to help just they don't under stand how it feels but once again big thank you for the comments made me smile

soo a run down I should go back to the docs to sort my meds out then eat bananas and dark choc a I watch eastenders lol "

Stop watching EastEnders it will help

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

soo a run down I should go back to the docs to sort my meds out then eat bananas and dark choc a I watch eastenders lol

Stop watching EastEnders it will help

x"
lol with you there can't stand any of the soaps much happier with a kids dvd or some thing lol

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By *ancyDrewWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

am into the 3rd weeks of Prozac...its awful. Am permanently tired, and have ZERO concentration...I know it gets better as have been here before...but...

Hang in there folks - its all we can do

Hugs

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"am into the 3rd weeks of Prozac...its awful. Am permanently tired, and have ZERO concentration...I know it gets better as have been here before...but...

Hang in there folks - its all we can do

Hugs

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never had prozac always been on cipran ( can't spell to save my life lol) it's ok but I get angry if I go more then 3 days with out it

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

How are you today?

More hugs (and a cup of Ovaltine) coming your way.

Lisa xx

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over a year ago

"How are you today?

More hugs (and a cup of Ovaltine) coming your way.

Lisa xx"

No it's my turn to hug him

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over a year ago

"How are you today?

More hugs (and a cup of Ovaltine) coming your way.

Lisa xx

No it's my turn to hug him

I think OP would prefer a fuck more ?

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By *oonytoonMan
over a year ago

derby

A site like this is first of all not really a place to find answers and also emotionless sex although fun at the time and can be confidence building can also make your depression worse due to the lack of emotional commitment, if your still feeling uncontrollably bad you should contact your doctor and have your meds reviewed as each ones affect people in different ways, what could work for one person may not for another but meds are only there to help you manage, the best thing is talking to others and getting out there and socialising on the days you feel better, make the most of your good days and accept your bad ones for what they are and don't tell yourself off for having one, on a bad day try putting your ipod on earphones in with a mix of your fave uplifting tunes and ones from times in your life that may have caused your depression and go for a walk maybe even stop for a bite to eat (of something light and healthy), let yourself be engulfed by your thoughts but finish with some uplifting music that has no connection to any memory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How are you today?

More hugs (and a cup of Ovaltine) coming your way.

Lisa xx

No it's my turn to hug him

I think OP would prefer a fuck more ?

Nah, his recent threads show he just needs to have a good bag of crisps and tub of ice cream

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I have read somewhere that exercise helps with anxiety and depression, as it releases endorphins.

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over a year ago

Ive suffered with both since my late 30s really bad anxiety where i couldnt even leave the house

ive had all the dnt think about it and pull yourself together which would just make me sink in2 depression

if people could walk in your shoes for just 1 day they would quit with there un welcome remarks

im doing really well now i pushed myself a little further mentally and phyiscaly every day and i feel so damn good

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By *ingAlMan
over a year ago

hereford

Excersise would help a lot, especially running, start carefully though, avoid pills if you can

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I have read somewhere that exercise helps with anxiety and depression, as it releases endorphins."

I think exercise is hugely important Rachel. I've struggled a lot with this and know it makes a big difference to my sense of well-being.

I must admit I'm not a fan of medication - the ones I took had a lot of side effects, including sexual. I think some people do need them, but just be aware of what you're taking.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"How are you today?

More hugs (and a cup of Ovaltine) coming your way.

Lisa xx

No it's my turn to hug him

I think OP would prefer a fuck more ?

Nah, his recent threads show he just needs to have a good bag of crisps and tub of ice cream

"
yey I have a fan lol

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"Excersise would help a lot, especially running, start carefully though, avoid pills if you can "

Depending on the individual persons needs pills can help a great deal, I suffered for about 15 years with depression and at my lowest points (emphasis on plural) I could quite easily have topped myself, it's not because my life was so terrible but my brains chemical balance was off.

Pills stop you from getting that low and save lives I only wish there was more awareness and help available for people who suffer from depression/anxiety/bi-polar as a lot of death can be avoided and so easily.

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"If you'r current meds arent working for you go to the doctor snd change them

Its all about finding what works for you I don't wish to go any higher I find they work 60% of the time so it's better then not havin them I find"

Do you do any regular exercise OP? I know you might not want to go outside when you're feeling bad but even just a quick brisk walk could help clear your head and lift your mood.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Hi,

How are you today?

Time for hugs and a pot of tea.

I won't offer any advice or personal experiences. Just hugs xx

Lisa

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over a year ago

I have meds to take but turn me into a zombie

Had depression, paranoid thoughts for years

Best to share explain to people.

I didn't for years as the firsr doctor I saw at 17 told me not to be so silly.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"If you'r current meds arent working for you go to the doctor snd change them

Its all about finding what works for you I don't wish to go any higher I find they work 60% of the time so it's better then not havin them I find

Do you do any regular exercise OP? I know you might not want to go outside when you're feeling bad but even just a quick brisk walk could help clear your head and lift your mood. "
I have started working out again before I shower not doing much 20 push ups and 30 sit ups then I die lol

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"How are you today?

More hugs (and a cup of Ovaltine) coming your way.

Lisa xx"
thank you and a better oddly feeling better after a hard day at work but thank you again hun x

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"How are you today?

More hugs (and a cup of Ovaltine) coming your way.

Lisa xx

No it's my turn to hug him

wow 2 hugs in one day check me out lol thank you tho x

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"How are you today?

More hugs (and a cup of Ovaltine) coming your way.

Lisa xx

No it's my turn to hug him

I think OP would prefer a fuck more ?

"
lol a fuck would be nice butt some days a cuddle is nicer.... then a rough fuck after lol

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By *isdirtygirlCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

"Who is telling you to man up? Perhaps remove them from your life for now, they're contributing to your mood.

I'd also see a doctor for a medication review. And use the talking therapy on offer, it's there for use. "

Have a look for your local MIND they offer a counselling service. .. I think you can refer yourself, but be patient as they do have a waiting list. In the mean time try and get yourself a hobby... as childish as it may sound maybe do a bit of colouring just to take your mind off procrastinating xx DG

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"A site like this is first of all not really a place to find answers and also emotionless sex although fun at the time and can be confidence building can also make your depression worse due to the lack of emotional commitment, if your still feeling uncontrollably bad you should contact your doctor and have your meds reviewed as each ones affect people in different ways, what could work for one person may not for another but meds are only there to help you manage, the best thing is talking to others and getting out there and socialising on the days you feel better, make the most of your good days and accept your bad ones for what they are and don't tell yourself off for having one, on a bad day try putting your ipod on earphones in with a mix of your fave uplifting tunes and ones from times in your life that may have caused your depression and go for a walk maybe even stop for a bite to eat (of something light and healthy), let yourself be engulfed by your thoughts but finish with some uplifting music that has no connection to any memory."
thank you and I am\have started working out again and if anything have been seeing more people so that has been doing me a world of good and I think the meds I am on are good I just don't wanna go any higher on them ( iam on 40mg a day)

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"How are you today?

More hugs (and a cup of Ovaltine) coming your way.

Lisa xx

No it's my turn to hug him

I think OP would prefer a fuck more ?

Nah, his recent threads show he just needs to have a good bag of crisps and tub of ice cream

"
some days it is true loll

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I have read somewhere that exercise helps with anxiety and depression, as it releases endorphins."
yeah your right lov have just started working out asnd such soo keep it up and see how my moods go.thank you

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Ive suffered with both since my late 30s really bad anxiety where i couldnt even leave the house

ive had all the dnt think about it and pull yourself together which would just make me sink in2 depression

if people could walk in your shoes for just 1 day they would quit with there un welcome remarks

im doing really well now i pushed myself a little further mentally and phyiscaly every day and i feel so damn good"
it's hard for others who don't have it to under stand my dad for one but now we just have a luagh about it all and is much better with me and iam glad your feeling much better keep it up mrs

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Excersise would help a lot, especially running, start carefully though, avoid pills if you can "
I am just starting slow again push ups sit ups and suchs get the heart going kinda thing and won't do the beer belly any harm lol

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I have meds to take but turn me into a zombie

Had depression, paranoid thoughts for years

Best to share explain to people.

I didn't for years as the firsr doctor I saw at 17 told me not to be so silly.

"
yeah it is always better to get it out and have a little moan about it and I get nasty if I have not had them in about a week and yes have found some docs like that

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Who is telling you to man up? Perhaps remove them from your life for now, they're contributing to your mood.

I'd also see a doctor for a medication review. And use the talking therapy on offer, it's there for use.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Once again huggee thanks to every one for posting and been very kind for th help and advise means a lot also If I have not got back to any one iam sorry did not do it on perpose

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By *kninjaMan
over a year ago

manchester

I have suffered for a number of years. Tried councilling, cbt neither seemed of much help,both while on 100mg of certralin.

But now just coming to the end of a course of therapy called EMDR. It has been a revalation for me. Reduced my meds to 50mg and I feel like a new person. I know that I am still suffering but there is a lot less bad days and apparently things continue to get better after the therapy has Finnished.

I agree with a lot of the earlier post, exercise is also very important. Doesn't have to be the gym. A decent walk will be good enough. As long as you start doing it regularly.

Ask your doctor to put you in touch with your local mental health services. They will assess you and give you a number of treatment suggestions.

I hope that you are feeling better soon, but unfortunately it is usually a long and rocky road. Just persevere and you will find what is the best sort of help for you.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I have suffered for a number of years. Tried councilling, cbt neither seemed of much help,both while on 100mg of certralin.

I agree with a lot of the earlier post, exercise is also very important. Doesn't have to be the gym. A decent walk will be good enough. As long as you start doing it regularly.

Ask your doctor to put you in touch with your local mental health services. They will assess you and give you a number of treatment suggestions.

I hope that you are feeling better soon, but unfortunately it is usually a long and rocky road. Just persevere and you will find what is the best sort of help for you. "
Hi and thank you and iam sorry to hear bu glad your slowly getting there and some one one has told me to have a look a MIND so goner see what that's about thank you tho

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Once again huggee thanks to every one for posting and been very kind for th help and advise means a lot also If I have not got back to any one iam sorry did not do it on perpose "

Glad to hear you're doing the exercise. As someone else said, it can just be a walk.

Concentrate on being nice to yourself and try to identify and avoid situations that add to stress and worries. I know I have a tendency to take on things I shouldn't in some vain effort to "fight it". Organising that orgy with eight Brazilian pornstars was a prime example. Stressful

Don't fight it - accept and try to move forward bit by bit. Don't turn in on yourself and blame yourself (unless you've done something terrible like not turn up for an orgy with Brazilian pornstars)

One nice thing is that I the "simple things" take on an extra significance, especially if you feel a flicker of happiness. I dunno, it could be a cute puppy in a park or something.

Modern life is a bit mad really and it seems to me most people are "hitting the buffers" in some. I know there's times when thought "nah, you're really in the s**t this time - there is no way out, other than.....". You just have to have faith that sometime, somewhere, probably when you least expect it, little things/ connections/chance encounters etc will plant a seed or offer a different path (sadly it's unlikely that will involve Brazilian pornstars)z

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