FabSwingers.com forum: Needy men...

By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Does anyone else come across this?

I dare say there are needy women too but I've fortunately never experienced that.

By needy... I mean you have a meet, it all goes okay... nothing spectacular as far as you're concerned but it was okay. Perhaps not one you'd rush back to see again but you wouldn't rule it out either.

After that they won't leave you alone. The texts come: where are you, what are you doing, who are going out with, when can I see you again... blah blah blah...

Why? Why do people do this? This is a swinging site. It's not a dating site. There are loads of those freebie dating sites round and about, if you're looking for a partner, wouldn't you go look on one of those rather than looking here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so ya stopped answerin me texts so when can i see ya again?? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of needy people out there and especially the ones I meet.

The won't go home when you give them the hint,they text all the time and then get upset when you have a meet with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Why you had to tell them Mally I was your secret stalker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so ya stopped answerin me texts so when can i see ya again?? xx

You stopped bending over so I stopped texting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of needy people out there and especially the ones I meet.

The won't go home when you give them the hint,they text all the time and then get upset when you have a meet with someone else."

no that feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Send me ya number make it three lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Why you had to tell them Mally I was your secret stalker?"

sorry make that 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations , you know you've made it when you get yourself a stalker !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and ignore!

I've had a few of those, they've even had the hump when I've other meets planned. I hid my verifications as one had met someone who one of my meets had met and he questioned her about my meet. He came back to me to tell me things about this person that were not my business, and he was going through my verifications.

Found it creepy, inappropriate and rather pathetic and told him as much.

I don't think it's gender specific, some people just don't seem to grasp nsa!

We live and learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of needy people out there and especially the ones I meet.

The won't go home when you give them the hint,they text all the time and then get upset when you have a meet with someone else.

no that feeling

I yawn I say ive got to get up early in the end I just have to tell them in a polite way to f off x

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By *hi-John69Man
over a year ago

chichester

"Loads of needy people out there and especially the ones I meet.

The won't go home when you give them the hint,they text all the time and then get upset when you have a meet with someone else.

no that feeling

wish I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Congratulations , you know you've made it when you get yourself a stalker !

But I want a hot stalker mine are creepy or very bad tvs with beards

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Why you had to tell them Mally I was your secret stalker?

sorry make that 3

4!!! and i just wiped my arse on the restraining order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Why you had to tell them Mally I was your secret stalker?

sorry make that 3

Look, I stopped after you took of the Deisel pic...it was a moment of madness ok!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok will probably make a few of you hurl here but the last txt I got which was last week, the guy wanted to come to my works, pass me a condom for me to fill (yeah right) and then pass it back to him so he can drink it, it turned my stomach just the though, sorry if its had the same on some members reading it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok will probably make a few of you hurl here but the last txt I got which was last week, the guy wanted to come to my works, pass me a condom for me to fill (yeah right) and then pass it back to him so he can drink it, it turned my stomach just the though, sorry if its had the same on some members reading it now

Thats sick and creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shit what have I started here, all go away, I have enough stalkers, your gunna make other single guys very jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A disclaimer form is needed before any play begins. I'll whip one up shortly. All you then have to do is go through the points on the form, get ur potential playmate to sign and date then happy days!

If they break the rules laid out on the form, simple - you SUE THEM!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read worse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck me they askin fa takeaways now then?? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Why you had to tell them Mally I was your secret stalker?

sorry make that 3

Look, I stopped after you took of the Deisel pic...it was a moment of madness ok!

I have just gone very hot I just had to look those yellow pants are wow wow wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"shit what have I started here, all go away, I have enough stalkers, your gunna make other single guys very jealous

Oh Mally, Mally, Mally...as if telling me to go away ever worked!!!

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

was he gonna let it go cold first?

hehehehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"shit what have I started here, all go away, I have enough stalkers, your gunna make other single guys very jealous

The new Mr Cornwall Male and we know what happened there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck me they askin fa takeaways now then?? xx

*Giggles* Soapy, you made me pee my pants!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

was he gonna let it go cold first?

hehehehehe"

oh dont even go there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck me they askin fa takeaways now then?? xx

*Giggles* Soapy, you made me pee my pants!

me too, nice one bubbles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Why you had to tell them Mally I was your secret stalker?

sorry make that 3

Look, I stopped after you took of the Deisel pic...it was a moment of madness ok!

I have just gone very hot I just had to look those yellow pants are wow wow wow "

He's a fine specimen that's for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"shit what have I started here, all go away, I have enough stalkers, your gunna make other single guys very jealous

Oh Mally, Mally, Mally...as if telling me to go away ever worked!!!

well ya don't know till ya try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Why you had to tell them Mally I was your secret stalker?

sorry make that 3

Look, I stopped after you took of the Deisel pic...it was a moment of madness ok!

I have just gone very hot I just had to look those yellow pants are wow wow wow

He's a fine specimen that's for sure!

If I keep looking which I am doing I will be a stalker. Who cares we need some eye candy on a monday afternoon lol

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Not sure whether to class ourselves as lucky or unlucky as we’ve never been stalked

Maybe, just maybe, we’re to selective in our choices regarding who to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeap, I'm currently being stalked by 2 people off this site

Why you had to tell them Mally I was your secret stalker?

sorry make that 3

Look, I stopped after you took of the Deisel pic...it was a moment of madness ok!

I have just gone very hot I just had to look those yellow pants are wow wow wow

He's a fine specimen that's for sure!

If I keep looking which I am doing I will be a stalker. Who cares we need some eye candy on a monday afternoon lol "

Me? Eye Candy? you've got to be taking the pee there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else come across this?

I dare say there are needy women too but I've fortunately never experienced that.

After that they won't leave you alone. The texts come: where are you, what are you doing, who are going out with, when can I see you again... blah blah blah...

yeah me an someone was on about this earlier to be honest

there is a few about and attention seeking ones

so i decided to block x not like i was gonan sleep with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me no I never take the piss when calling someone eye candy,I mean it

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Block and ignore!

Found it creepy, inappropriate and rather pathetic and told him as much.

I don't think it's gender specific, some people just don't seem to grasp nsa!

We live and learn."

It's not me... fortunately... I'm generally a bit shirty with giving out my number etc. but it was on the back of a conversation with a friend.

I think its creepy and pathetic too... makes my skin crawl a bit so I don't really put myself in that situation but it did really surprise me that men are like that, more so than women, that's not really a great surprise in my mind. Perhaps harsh, but in my experience, that's generally how it's been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will say in all my years swinging I have found men to be more needy then women but thats my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me no I never take the piss when calling someone eye candy,I mean it

And you haven't even seen his face!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

has now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me no I never take the piss when calling someone eye candy,I mean it

And you haven't even seen his face!!!

I have now and hes still lush x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mally ya mean i had ta wait outside ya house fa days ta see ya face

And ya sent her a pic!!!! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG!! what??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me no I never take the piss when calling someone eye candy,I mean it

And you haven't even seen his face!!!

I have now and hes still lush x"

That's what I mean. I've seen his face and think he's "lush" too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never been stalked.. i feel so left out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me no I never take the piss when calling someone eye candy,I mean it

And you haven't even seen his face!!!

I have now and hes still lush x

That's what I mean. I've seen his face and think he's "lush" too!

ok do i get to see pleaseeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me no I never take the piss when calling someone eye candy,I mean it

And you haven't even seen his face!!!

I have now and hes still lush x

That's what I mean. I've seen his face and think he's "lush" too!

OK stop right there, you're beginning to make me feel confident about my own looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cmon mally u gotta send round the face pics now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me no I never take the piss when calling someone eye candy,I mean it

And you haven't even seen his face!!!

I have now and hes still lush x

That's what I mean. I've seen his face and think he's "lush" too!

OK stop right there, you're beginning to make me feel confident about my own looks

Ooooh Mally...no false modesty now - you're a hottie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me no I never take the piss when calling someone eye candy,I mean it

And you haven't even seen his face!!!

I have now and hes still lush x

That's what I mean. I've seen his face and think he's "lush" too!

ok do i get to see pleaseeee

the ladies where right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cmon mally u gotta send round the face pics now

check your inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones that really wind me up are the ones getting on fine swap numbers thenonly want phone sex and to swap pics whats that all about.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I don't give out my (play phone) number that often, so don;t get many texts like it, but I do get the meets which were good/ better than good and then the frequent throughout the day, every day messages from the other party. I go from thinking 'ooh, I'd like to do that again - sometime

' to 'ooohhh.. creepy stalker person.. - no way

' These are usually single males without family responsibilities, so seem to think everyone is in the same boat and can freely meet whenever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cmon mally u gotta send round the face pics now

check your inbox

dishy!!!! can i be stalker number 4?? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cmon mally u gotta send round the face pics now

check your inbox

dishy!!!! can i be stalker number 4?? lol"

I'd make you my number 1

ooh how cheesy was that line? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cmon mally u gotta send round the face pics now

check your inbox

dishy!!!! can i be stalker number 4?? lol

I'd make you my number 1

ooh how cheesy was that line? lol"

haha i actually had to laugh out loud then,, brilliant!! instant promotion to number one

*dances round front room*

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

No..but then they only get a number for our play phone which isn't always switched on , they don't get our own mobile numbers.

If they started harrasing us on the play phone though, they would be deleted and told we don't want to play again.

I think we have been lucky though, as we seemed to have picked the people who want the same things as us or they respect what we ask.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Any guy i meet knows the sure way for me not to meet again is bombard me with messages. Makes me feel claustraphobic, i like breathing space and i like to meet in my own good time.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Has he suggested you both get a couple profile together.......

if not...

he will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, know exactly what you mean. Hate it.

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By *unlovers2009Couple
over a year ago

chester

We find it more after a meet with single guys, mainly the ones that I play alone with. Although it has happened with couples too.

It's a shame when its been a really good meet and then you get inundated with messages despite being told that we dont do repeat performances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't got time for anyone that gets needy. Our playmates may very well become friends but the second lovey dovey needy emotions show.... they can say hello to the door.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

some times you have to distance youself and not get to close you know when it starts with the text more than a cpl times a day its ok to be friends but always keep your distance or someone is going to get hurt hard but harsh words

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