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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."

Sex isn't everything in a relationship.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."

honestly and this is just my opinion, no judgement on anyone..because they can have both these days x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."

Why do women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single.

Why do women?"

I got out of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex isn't everything but if your a couple you should make the effort, otherwise your just mates really who love each other. In reality we all want to be with someone whose caring but also you want to rip off all their clothes...

Only one shot at this, be with your true kindred

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."

The same reason women stay in them

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

They want to keep the family unit together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scared of losing access to thier kids if the mother is vindictive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also passion doesnt always have to mean sex. passion could be anything from a squeeze of a hip to full on dirty sex. everyone sees passion as different thing. passion is on a sliding scale and its finding what works for each other.

even though we are swingers i love to have a night were we cuddle up and and watch tv (juicy always falls asleep within 10 mins) but to me that is more passionate than anything else as i know she is comfortable and feels loved and safe which is all i would ever want for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also passion doesnt always have to mean sex. passion could be anything from a squeeze of a hip to full on dirty sex. everyone sees passion as different thing. passion is on a sliding scale and its finding what works for each other.

even though we are swingers i love to have a night were we cuddle up and and watch tv (juicy always falls asleep within 10 mins) but to me that is more passionate than anything else as i know she is comfortable and feels loved and safe which is all i would ever want for her."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They want to keep the family unit together?"

Spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single.

Why do women?

I got out of mine"

You have very captivateing eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

Well said "

thanks its possiblt the first post ive ever done that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

Well said

thanks its possiblt the first post ive ever done that makes sense"

lol well it made lots of sense to us as it's exactly how we feel too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They want to keep the family unit together?

Spot on! "

i think thats a load of crap tbh. a lot of familys dont have parents that are still together and it is more "normal than it was say 20 years ago.

it is that they dont appreciate what they have or dont realise it and use that as an easy excuse rather than finding out what the problem is and working on it.

i think the people that think that way are to blame because they dont realise how lucky they are to have some one that loves them.there are plenty of people in the world that are left abandoned and are literaly alone with no one to turn to yet these people have some one that loves them for who they are and still cant talk about how they feel or whats troubling them so they look for the easy way out.

these sort of people are the type that will always say it wasnt my fault it was because of xy&z when in reality if they opened up and expressed how they felt there is someone there that loves the, for what they are faults included that will help them through it and come out the other side wether that is together or seperated.

people are lazy and will genereally look for the easiest option and putting the blame on something like that is the best excuse they can come up with,

ill apologise now to all the spelling and grammar nazis reading this while sitting there with there head ready to explode lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."

I got out of mine years ago was it the right thing to do? Still not sure coz I was not in love with my ex when we split but it cost me a special relationship with my kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They want to keep the family unit together?

Spot on!

i think thats a load of crap tbh. a lot of familys dont have parents that are still together and it is more "normal than it was say 20 years ago.

it is that they dont appreciate what they have or dont realise it and use that as an easy excuse rather than finding out what the problem is and working on it.

i think the people that think that way are to blame because they dont realise how lucky they are to have some one that loves them.there are plenty of people in the world that are left abandoned and are literaly alone with no one to turn to yet these people have some one that loves them for who they are and still cant talk about how they feel or whats troubling them so they look for the easy way out.

these sort of people are the type that will always say it wasnt my fault it was because of xy&z when in reality if they opened up and expressed how they felt there is someone there that loves the, for what they are faults included that will help them through it and come out the other side wether that is together or seperated.

people are lazy and will genereally look for the easiest option and putting the blame on something like that is the best excuse they can come up with,

ill apologise now to all the spelling and grammar nazis reading this while sitting there with there head ready to explode lol"

It's what your saying that matters, not how your saying it so well done you, totally agree

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single.

Why do women?

I got out of mine"
Me too , only stayed for the kids . Towards the end I was loyal and celebate for 5 years .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am one of those men.....the simple answer is because i love her....but after many years of suffering silently i have decided i could take no more.....joined a swingers site looking for a little nsa sex with people i thought would be understanding/sympathetic......ouch got that wrong....there are a few and it is a few who see things from my point of _iew....sadly majority do not and make zero effort to do so....such is life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."

I stay for my lads it's as simple as that, the lads are my world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am one of those men.....the simple answer is because i love her....but after many years of suffering silently i have decided i could take no more.....joined a swingers site looking for a little nsa sex with people i thought would be understanding/sympathetic......ouch got that wrong....there are a few and it is a few who see things from my point of _iew....sadly majority do not and make zero effort to do so....such is life"

possibly because swinging is seen as an open and honest understanding between a couple.

they have that but your not bringing the same to the table if you know what i mesn

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

It's not always "sexless" it can just be very differing sex drives and _iews on sex - I love my wife and we have great sex when we have it but it is on average about two/three times a month and very vanilla - i would like it more often and more varied - I don't want an affair so fab is my escape route as it is nsa - mainly cams/forums etc with the odd meet thrown in if I am very fortunate but in my position they are hard to get (which I understand) - fab is my way of getting a bj for instance or licking a pussy which are no no's for my Mrs - sex was something we used to argue about on a regular basis - we don't so much now thanks to fab - that's my reason/position no doubt some will shoot me down and others will agree and that's the beauty of fab too so many different opinions X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not always "sexless" it can just be very differing sex drives and _iews on sex - I love my wife and we have great sex when we have it but it is on average about two/three times a month and very vanilla - i would like it more often and more varied - I don't want an affair so fab is my escape route as it is nsa - mainly cams/forums etc with the odd meet thrown in if I am very fortunate but in my position they are hard to get (which I understand) - fab is my way of getting a bj for instance or licking a pussy which are no no's for my Mrs - sex was something we used to argue about on a regular basis - we don't so much now thanks to fab - that's my reason/position no doubt some will shoot me down and others will agree and that's the beauty of fab too so many different opinions X "

im not judging you because i dont have a right to or understabnd your relationship but wouldnt it be more productive for you to put your time and effort in ti your relarionship and find out what can be changed or worked on to make it perfect for the both of you rather than being on here looking for alternative sexual relief.

have you tried opening up and being totally honest about what your sexual desires are to your partner. i know its hard to start the talk but once the flood gates are open etc.

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth


"It's not always "sexless" it can just be very differing sex drives and _iews on sex - I love my wife and we have great sex when we have it but it is on average about two/three times a month and very vanilla - i would like it more often and more varied - I don't want an affair so fab is my escape route as it is nsa - mainly cams/forums etc with the odd meet thrown in if I am very fortunate but in my position they are hard to get (which I understand) - fab is my way of getting a bj for instance or licking a pussy which are no no's for my Mrs - sex was something we used to argue about on a regular basis - we don't so much now thanks to fab - that's my reason/position no doubt some will shoot me down and others will agree and that's the beauty of fab too so many different opinions X

im not judging you because i dont have a right to or understabnd your relationship but wouldnt it be more productive for you to put your time and effort in ti your relarionship and find out what can be changed or worked on to make it perfect for the both of you rather than being on here looking for alternative sexual relief.

have you tried opening up and being totally honest about what your sexual desires are to your partner. i know its hard to start the talk but once the flood gates are open etc.

"

After 20 years of marriage yes lots of times - the fact is it always leads to one of us giving in and compromising - why should I "force her" to do something she doesn't want to or enjoy? I love her too much for that so it usually ended with me "accepting what I got" but why should I be unfulfilled? Bit selfish you may say but it has pretty much stopped our fall outs over sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because there is more to a relationship than sex - we even have this here as we have made friends through fab and its not all about sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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even though we are swingers i love to have a night were we cuddle up and and watch tv (juicy always falls asleep within 10 mins) but to me that is more passionate than anything else as i know she is comfortable and feels loved and safe which is all i would ever want for her."

Brilliantly put.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not always "sexless" it can just be very differing sex drives and _iews on sex - I love my wife and we have great sex when we have it but it is on average about two/three times a month and very vanilla - i would like it more often and more varied - I don't want an affair so fab is my escape route as it is nsa - mainly cams/forums etc with the odd meet thrown in if I am very fortunate but in my position they are hard to get (which I understand) - fab is my way of getting a bj for instance or licking a pussy which are no no's for my Mrs - sex was something we used to argue about on a regular basis - we don't so much now thanks to fab - that's my reason/position no doubt some will shoot me down and others will agree and that's the beauty of fab too so many different opinions X

im not judging you because i dont have a right to or understabnd your relationship but wouldnt it be more productive for you to put your time and effort in ti your relarionship and find out what can be changed or worked on to make it perfect for the both of you rather than being on here looking for alternative sexual relief.

have you tried opening up and being totally honest about what your sexual desires are to your partner. i know its hard to start the talk but once the flood gates are open etc.

After 20 years of marriage yes lots of times - the fact is it always leads to one of us giving in and compromising - why should I "force her" to do something she doesn't want to or enjoy? I love her too much for that so it usually ended with me "accepting what I got" but why should I be unfulfilled? Bit selfish you may say but it has pretty much stopped our fall outs over sex... "

but if you loved her as much as you say then you wouldnt force her and be happy that she is happy the way things are. thats the way i see it that my love for my wife would make me be happy that she is happy. my desires would come after her happiness becasue all i want is for her to be happy and feel safe and by giving her that then. i get the greatest pleasure possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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even though we are swingers i love to have a night were we cuddle up and and watch tv (juicy always falls asleep within 10 mins) but to me that is more passionate than anything else as i know she is comfortable and feels loved and safe which is all i would ever want for her.

Brilliantly put.

Sarah "

thank you x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

"

How lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

Well said "

Ditto totally agree

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By *uffolkJPMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"They want to keep the family unit together?

Spot on! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They want to keep the family unit together?

Spot on!

"

This is why I did it a few years ago. Well just so I could see my daughter every day. My ex wife didn't have sex for 2 years before we split.

Thankfully we still get on and I still see my daughter every week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex isn't everything but if your a couple you should make the effort, otherwise your just mates really who love each other. In reality we all want to be with someone whose caring but also you want to rip off all their clothes...

Only one shot at this, be with your true kindred"

but surely the person you want to spend the rest of your life with should be your mate that you love!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

"

This!

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single.

I stay for my lads it's as simple as that, the lads are my world "

I sympathise but its nice to meet a woman that understands the predicament and doesn't want to tar and feather you in the middle of the local square..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men on here are married and they all say the same thing ,no sex from the misses ,or unhappy in the marridge...well stop your moaning and do somthing about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men on here are married and they all say the same thing ,no sex from the misses ,or unhappy in the marridge...well stop your moaning and do somthing about it "

They have, they're on here!

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth


"Most men on here are married and they all say the same thing ,no sex from the misses ,or unhappy in the marridge...well stop your moaning and do somthing about it "

Not quite that straight forward though is it - I do love my wife I do love being married but sex has been a nagging thorn in our side for all our married life - we have tried believe you me but we still face the same issues... It's about deciding what is important and finding a compromise/way to cope - unfortunately we don't all live in a perfect world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men on here are married and they all say the same thing ,no sex from the misses ,or unhappy in the marridge...well stop your moaning and do somthing about it "

I did and that's why I'm single on here living in Reading on my own

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"It's not always "sexless" it can just be very differing sex drives and _iews on sex - I love my wife and we have great sex when we have it but it is on average about two/three times a month and very vanilla - i would like it more often and more varied - I don't want an affair so fab is my escape route as it is nsa - mainly cams/forums etc with the odd meet thrown in if I am very fortunate but in my position they are hard to get (which I understand) - fab is my way of getting a bj for instance or licking a pussy which are no no's for my Mrs - sex was something we used to argue about on a regular basis - we don't so much now thanks to fab - that's my reason/position no doubt some will shoot me down and others will agree and that's the beauty of fab too so many different opinions X

im not judging you because i dont have a right to or understabnd your relationship but wouldnt it be more productive for you to put your time and effort in ti your relarionship and find out what can be changed or worked on to make it perfect for the both of you rather than being on here looking for alternative sexual relief.

have you tried opening up and being totally honest about what your sexual desires are to your partner. i know its hard to start the talk but once the flood gates are open etc.

I can relate (totally) to the first post, difference in sex drive and me wanting more variety - and more often and just him putting effort into making me cum. Occasionally he went down on me but a few times told me to 'hurry up' as 'I'm bored doing this'.

In terms to the second post.... I personally tried on many occasions to discuss it, act on it and improve it. And he listened and said the right things but didn't act on it with me. It fell on deaf ears. So I ended up feeling angry, sad and unwanted. It's (for some) a really heartbreaking situation when you love your partner but satisfying sex is important to you. So what do you do? Stay or leave? Life is short xx

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"Most men on here are married and they all say the same thing ,no sex from the misses ,or unhappy in the marridge...well stop your moaning and do somthing about it

Not quite that straight forward though is it - I do love my wife I do love being married but sex has been a nagging thorn in our side for all our married life - we have tried believe you me but we still face the same issues... It's about deciding what is important and finding a compromise/way to cope - unfortunately we don't all live in a perfect world "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men on here are married and they all say the same thing ,no sex from the misses ,or unhappy in the marridge...well stop your moaning and do somthing about it

Not quite that straight forward though is it - I do love my wife I do love being married but sex has been a nagging thorn in our side for all our married life - we have tried believe you me but we still face the same issues... It's about deciding what is important and finding a compromise/way to cope - unfortunately we don't all live in a perfect world

This! "

Sex was always an issue in our marriage to for a lot of it we did nothing but argue about it but as they say love conquers all and times changed and now the kids have grown up and money and work is less of an issue we have the best sex life ever . So glad I stuck it out to reap my rewards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine it's because of a variety of reasons, and probably none that would be in their 'ideal world'. Life creeps up on most people so I try not to judge or worry about others. The only one I don't particularly enjoy hearing of are the people who stay for money / lifestyle over true happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to wonder that when I was married. I came to the conclusion that he was comfy,with a roof over his head,washing done,food bought,cooked and handed to him,house cleaned and bills paid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who was deprived of sex and intimacy,I'm in the position to say that you can't force someone to want to have sex with you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You meet somebody, fall in love, get married over the course of many years you build up a great and loving relationship based on mutual respect, shared good and bad experiences, children possibly, a regular sex life. You love each other not that romantic crap but proper, real love based on warts and all knowledge of each other and founded on true respect...then one of you changes sexually, they either want more or different sex or an illness or some kind of medication makes them feel differently about sex would it be a good decision to throw the whole thing away because one small part is broken?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully sex isn't the most important factor in my relationship. I put my hands up and admit that i can go for months without wanting sex. Sometimes I make myself do it because i want to let my husband know that i do still fancy him and want sex with him even though it's not something i really feel a need for. It's a huge effort for me to turn the sexy on sometimes. I for one am extremely lucky that my husband understands this and we stay together because we have so much else together. So much more than sex......and sometimes i do even just feel sexy and then the more i get the more i want it. So maybe he sticks around waiting for those moments? Or maybe he loves me enough to put up with it? I don't know. But I'm very glad he does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You meet somebody, fall in love, get married over the course of many years you build up a great and loving relationship based on mutual respect, shared good and bad experiences, children possibly, a regular sex life. You love each other not that romantic crap but proper, real love based on warts and all knowledge of each other and founded on true respect...then one of you changes sexually, they either want more or different sex or an illness or some kind of medication makes them feel differently about sex would it be a good decision to throw the whole thing away because one small part is broken?"
coming from the other perspective. If you think of a clock if one cog stops functioning as it should then the rest of it won't work properly or in sync. Is it the same as a relationship one thing now working as you woukd ecpect it to has a knock on affect to the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You meet somebody, fall in love, get married over the course of many years you build up a great and loving relationship based on mutual respect, shared good and bad experiences, children possibly, a regular sex life. You love each other not that romantic crap but proper, real love based on warts and all knowledge of each other and founded on true respect...then one of you changes sexually, they either want more or different sex or an illness or some kind of medication makes them feel differently about sex would it be a good decision to throw the whole thing away because one small part is broken? coming from the other perspective. If you think of a clock if one cog stops functioning as it should then the rest of it won't work properly or in sync. Is it the same as a relationship one thing now working as you woukd ecpect it to has a knock on affect to the rest. "

Yes but if it's a good quality clock you fix it. If it's a rubbish clock anyway you throw it away

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"You meet somebody, fall in love, get married over the course of many years you build up a great and loving relationship based on mutual respect, shared good and bad experiences, children possibly, a regular sex life. You love each other not that romantic crap but proper, real love based on warts and all knowledge of each other and founded on true respect...then one of you changes sexually, they either want more or different sex or an illness or some kind of medication makes them feel differently about sex would it be a good decision to throw the whole thing away because one small part is broken? coming from the other perspective. If you think of a clock if one cog stops functioning as it should then the rest of it won't work properly or in sync. Is it the same as a relationship one thing now working as you woukd ecpect it to has a knock on affect to the rest. "

Yep that's very true but you can choose to chuck the clock out or repair it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!"

Ask them both why? Then decide what is best for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have loved reading this thread...it's the most civilised non judgemental one that has ever touched on the 'here because of a sexless marriage' subject and I can relate to so much of it.

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By *9 kisses.Man
over a year ago

clacton on sea

I think every relationship has times where there is a lack sex, its being close to that person , the tight cuddles, laying there spooning and falling asleep together, when that stops and you become distant with each other, you miss that, and after a while you start to think whats wrong with me, and then you start flirting with other women, you start to feel wanted and enjoy the attention, im not a tart, honest. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!

Ask them both why? Then decide what is best for you"

Hubby n I r like passing ships. He can be very harsh in some things that he says. We hve tried but there's just nothing there.

Jack- just plain n simple told me he was no longer sexually attracted. I ask he ignores simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You meet somebody, fall in love, get married over the course of many years you build up a great and loving relationship based on mutual respect, shared good and bad experiences, children possibly, a regular sex life. You love each other not that romantic crap but proper, real love based on warts and all knowledge of each other and founded on true respect...then one of you changes sexually, they either want more or different sex or an illness or some kind of medication makes them feel differently about sex would it be a good decision to throw the whole thing away because one small part is broken? coming from the other perspective. If you think of a clock if one cog stops functioning as it should then the rest of it won't work properly or in sync. Is it the same as a relationship one thing now working as you woukd ecpect it to has a knock on affect to the rest.

Yep that's very true but you can choose to chuck the clock out or repair it "

But even if it was a cheap clock but had sentimental value (which you would think a relationship would have) then you would try to fix it before binning it. I think some of the time lack of sex is an easy thing to blame a relationship failure on. Like if a battery dies in a watch. Oh fuck it throw it in the bin and I'll get a new one from the market rather than repairing the one that fits nice and comfy and has never lost a miute, it's been reliable till this tiny little part has failed.

Something only fails if it is not maintained properly. Similar to a car service schedule if it's not stuck to there's more chance of failure on one part which can end in total engine failure.

Hope that makes sense cos it does in my head but hard to put in to words.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!

Ask them both why? Then decide what is best for you

Hubby n I r like passing ships. He can be very harsh in some things that he says. We hve tried but there's just nothing there.

Jack- just plain n simple told me he was no longer sexually attracted. I ask he ignores simple. "

Dump Jack, delete couple profile and create a single one and get yourself out there. No point wasting your efforts if you have tried, do something for you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think every relationship has times where there is a lack sex, its being close to that person , the tight cuddles, laying there spooning and falling asleep together, when that stops and you become distant with each other, you miss that, and after a while you start to think whats wrong with me, and then you start flirting with other women, you start to feel wanted and enjoy the attention, im not a tart, honest. Lol"

I do often think it isn't the lack of sex that's the major problem but the lack of intimacy the touching and non sexual body contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!"

Don't want to sound rude but it coukd be you! You coukd be giving off a vibe that has affected them.

If you can't love yourself how do you expect someone else to make love to you.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

"

I agree with this too I adore sex, but the above is so much more valuable

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You meet somebody, fall in love, get married over the course of many years you build up a great and loving relationship based on mutual respect, shared good and bad experiences, children possibly, a regular sex life. You love each other not that romantic crap but proper, real love based on warts and all knowledge of each other and founded on true respect...then one of you changes sexually, they either want more or different sex or an illness or some kind of medication makes them feel differently about sex would it be a good decision to throw the whole thing away because one small part is broken? coming from the other perspective. If you think of a clock if one cog stops functioning as it should then the rest of it won't work properly or in sync. Is it the same as a relationship one thing now working as you woukd ecpect it to has a knock on affect to the rest.

Yep that's very true but you can choose to chuck the clock out or repair it

But even if it was a cheap clock but had sentimental value (which you would think a relationship would have) then you would try to fix it before binning it. I think some of the time lack of sex is an easy thing to blame a relationship failure on. Like if a battery dies in a watch. Oh fuck it throw it in the bin and I'll get a new one from the market rather than repairing the one that fits nice and comfy and has never lost a miute, it's been reliable till this tiny little part has failed.

Something only fails if it is not maintained properly. Similar to a car service schedule if it's not stuck to there's more chance of failure on one part which can end in total engine failure.

Hope that makes sense cos it does in my head but hard to put in to words. "

It does make sense to me, I think we are actually agreeing with each other. If the overall relationship is good hang on to it, sort it out...that might mean that one of you needs to find sex elsewhere, it is only sex after all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!

Ask them both why? Then decide what is best for you

Hubby n I r like passing ships. He can be very harsh in some things that he says. We hve tried but there's just nothing there.

Jack- just plain n simple told me he was no longer sexually attracted. I ask he ignores simple. "

So you still have a couples profile because...?

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!

Ask them both why? Then decide what is best for you

Hubby n I r like passing ships. He can be very harsh in some things that he says. We hve tried but there's just nothing there.

Jack- just plain n simple told me he was no longer sexually attracted. I ask he ignores simple. "

I agree with above that you need to find something else that suits you x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think a lot of people who sign up need the attention to feel that they are attractive, appealing and wanted. They desire to feel loved.

Some get it. Some need to find it before joining here.

Lots of hurt and pain oozes out of the words in threads, I hope they heal because it does start and finish with them.

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Who will iron the shirts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!

Ask them both why? Then decide what is best for you

Hubby n I r like passing ships. He can be very harsh in some things that he says. We hve tried but there's just nothing there.

Jack- just plain n simple told me he was no longer sexually attracted. I ask he ignores simple.

So you still have a couples profile because...?"

Because I'm trying not to loose hope that things might just improve with Jack.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!

Ask them both why? Then decide what is best for you

Hubby n I r like passing ships. He can be very harsh in some things that he says. We hve tried but there's just nothing there.

Jack- just plain n simple told me he was no longer sexually attracted. I ask he ignores simple.

So you still have a couples profile because...?

Because I'm trying not to loose hope that things might just improve with Jack. "

I don't mean this harshly but self respect and self worth is where to start and sitting waiting for Jack to show interest needs to change

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You meet somebody, fall in love, get married over the course of many years you build up a great and loving relationship based on mutual respect, shared good and bad experiences, children possibly, a regular sex life. You love each other not that romantic crap but proper, real love based on warts and all knowledge of each other and founded on true respect...then one of you changes sexually, they either want more or different sex or an illness or some kind of medication makes them feel differently about sex would it be a good decision to throw the whole thing away because one small part is broken? coming from the other perspective. If you think of a clock if one cog stops functioning as it should then the rest of it won't work properly or in sync. Is it the same as a relationship one thing now working as you woukd ecpect it to has a knock on affect to the rest.

Yep that's very true but you can choose to chuck the clock out or repair it "

That reminds me I've got a clock that needs repairing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hubby & I don't hve sex hence reason I started an affair with Jack. Lol.... He's now lost interest in sex with me. Guess it must be me. Wld love to look & feel attractive again but no idea how!!

Ask them both why? Then decide what is best for you

Hubby n I r like passing ships. He can be very harsh in some things that he says. We hve tried but there's just nothing there.

Jack- just plain n simple told me he was no longer sexually attracted. I ask he ignores simple.

So you still have a couples profile because...?

Because I'm trying not to loose hope that things might just improve with Jack. "

Ok, going back to your statement above that you would love to look and feel attractive again but you don't know how, start by binning a man who has told you he doesn't find you attractive and with who you have no binding relationship. You ARE attractive...just not to him, first step is believing that. Good luck

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Who will iron the shirts..."

Just as with every other service it can be outsourced

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single.

Why do women?

I got out of mine"

So did I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If men are not getting sex ,they will look else were ,,,on here or go to escouts ,same as a women they will be on here or they go else were ,most people say in a sex less marriage due to the kids ..but in the end you end up hurting each other ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing people forget is we all grow old and some people may think it's better to have a person who they like around rather than someone who was a good shag but crap to be around

Before anyone asks I got the best of both as when she meet me her eyesight was bad and being nice she just stayed round lol lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think every relationship has times where there is a lack sex, its being close to that person , the tight cuddles, laying there spooning and falling asleep together, when that stops and you become distant with each other, you miss that, and after a while you start to think whats wrong with me, and then you start flirting with other women, you start to feel wanted and enjoy the attention, im not a tart, honest. Lol

I do often think it isn't the lack of sex that's the major problem but the lack of intimacy the touching and non sexual body contact."

Totally agree. Mine wasn't just sexless. It was totally devoid of all intimacy. I tried but it's soul destroying when it isn't reciprocated. So I did the best thing for me.

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."
very hard one I don't think I could do it but iam sure some guys can as it's been said sex is not every thing but ied say it is needed and wanted as much as I love rough sex and kinks and such ied be as happy with a lass cuddled up films on takeaway few beers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sexless men tire of wanking and will find someone eventually to suck em off !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?"

They aren't the only options.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they love their partner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?"

You dont leave the love of your life or soul partner because of the lack of sex its deeper than that

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Not a man, but there's no way I could live in a sexless relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

They aren't the only options. "

Happy to hear more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stayed in a loveless /sexless relationship for over 7yrs. I was with him for over 9yrs in total , we were young when we got together & became parents so I stayed with him because of our child .

When we finally did split up after about 5mths one night myself & my daughter were chatting & out of nowhere she said to me 'I'm so happy that you & daddy don't live together anymore cause you were both very unhappy & now you are smiling again !!

People stay in these relationships for diffrent reasons but I think when it comes to being both loveless & sexless it's time to move on & staying with someone just because you have kids with them is not productive for the kids wellbeing . Kids pick up on emotions & feelings they know what's going on,

If Mummy & Daddy are sad it will make them sad also .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

They aren't the only options.

Happy to hear more "

It's not as straightforward as a choice between one or the other there are some whole range of options in between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

They aren't the only options.

Happy to hear more

It's not as straightforward as a choice between one or the other there are some whole range of options in between "

Wasn't being fun I really wanted to know,

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

They aren't the only options.

Happy to hear more

It's not as straightforward as a choice between one or the other there are some whole range of options in between

Wasn't being fun I really wanted to know, "

I know you weren't .

I've never been in the situation myself and what I really meant was that in a good relationship I would hope that (as difficult as it would be) the people involved could negotiate a compromise that suited them both. I was really referring to the idea that nothing is ever as straightforward as a choice between three options. However I know that sex is a very difficult subject especially if two people have different ideas on it and its not always an easy thing to talk about honestly if it's going wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

They aren't the only options.

Happy to hear more

It's not as straightforward as a choice between one or the other there are some whole range of options in between

Wasn't being fun I really wanted to know,

I know you weren't .

I've never been in the situation myself and what I really meant was that in a good relationship I would hope that (as difficult as it would be) the people involved could negotiate a compromise that suited them both. I was really referring to the idea that nothing is ever as straightforward as a choice between three options. However I know that sex is a very difficult subject especially if two people have different ideas on it and its not always an easy thing to talk about honestly if it's going wrong."

We have had "the talk" and she see my position and I see hers but as of today have found no real answer to it.

We will talk again I am sure, she see how hard it is for me having to go without and I can see it's not her fault she can no longer have sex.

Life can be a bit of a shit at times really

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

They aren't the only options.

Happy to hear more

It's not as straightforward as a choice between one or the other there are some whole range of options in between

Wasn't being fun I really wanted to know,

I know you weren't .

I've never been in the situation myself and what I really meant was that in a good relationship I would hope that (as difficult as it would be) the people involved could negotiate a compromise that suited them both. I was really referring to the idea that nothing is ever as straightforward as a choice between three options. However I know that sex is a very difficult subject especially if two people have different ideas on it and its not always an easy thing to talk about honestly if it's going wrong.

We have had "the talk" and she see my position and I see hers but as of today have found no real answer to it.

We will talk again I am sure, she see how hard it is for me having to go without and I can see it's not her fault she can no longer have sex.

Life can be a bit of a shit at times really"

Yes it really can.

I hope the two of you can work through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think every relationship has times where there is a lack sex, its being close to that person , the tight cuddles, laying there spooning and falling asleep together, when that stops and you become distant with each other, you miss that, and after a while you start to think whats wrong with me, and then you start flirting with other women, you start to feel wanted and enjoy the attention, im not a tart, honest. Lol

I do often think it isn't the lack of sex that's the major problem but the lack of intimacy the touching and non sexual body contact.

Totally agree. Mine wasn't just sexless. It was totally devoid of all intimacy. I tried but it's soul destroying when it isn't reciprocated. So I did the best thing for me. "

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

Really glad this wasn't degenerated to the usual points scoring - lots of valid points and reasons - life is rarely straightforward and sometimes it's not a yes/no answer...

We all find ways to get through it I guess

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

They aren't the only options.

Happy to hear more

It's not as straightforward as a choice between one or the other there are some whole range of options in between

Wasn't being fun I really wanted to know,

I know you weren't .

I've never been in the situation myself and what I really meant was that in a good relationship I would hope that (as difficult as it would be) the people involved could negotiate a compromise that suited them both. I was really referring to the idea that nothing is ever as straightforward as a choice between three options. However I know that sex is a very difficult subject especially if two people have different ideas on it and its not always an easy thing to talk about honestly if it's going wrong.

We have had "the talk" and she see my position and I see hers but as of today have found no real answer to it.

We will talk again I am sure, she see how hard it is for me having to go without and I can see it's not her fault she can no longer have sex.

Life can be a bit of a shit at times really"

Brave step though, I wish you well. x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

They aren't the only options.

Happy to hear more

It's not as straightforward as a choice between one or the other there are some whole range of options in between

Wasn't being fun I really wanted to know,

I know you weren't .

I've never been in the situation myself and what I really meant was that in a good relationship I would hope that (as difficult as it would be) the people involved could negotiate a compromise that suited them both. I was really referring to the idea that nothing is ever as straightforward as a choice between three options. However I know that sex is a very difficult subject especially if two people have different ideas on it and its not always an easy thing to talk about honestly if it's going wrong.

We have had "the talk" and she see my position and I see hers but as of today have found no real answer to it.

We will talk again I am sure, she see how hard it is for me having to go without and I can see it's not her fault she can no longer have sex.

Life can be a bit of a shit at times really"
I hope you find a good solution .. After several years of a similar situation we finally split up.. I hope we made the right decision in the long run .. I'm fully aware that this may not be the same for you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Really glad this wasn't degenerated to the usual points scoring - lots of valid points and reasons - life is rarely straightforward and sometimes it's not a yes/no answer...

We all find ways to get through it I guess "

I think that's down to the fact that nobody is blaming or disrespectful of their partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because circumstances make it difficult to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am one of those men.....the simple answer is because i love her....but after many years of suffering silently i have decided i could take no more.....joined a swingers site looking for a little nsa sex with people i thought would be understanding/sympathetic......ouch got that wrong....there are a few and it is a few who see things from my point of _iew....sadly majority do not and make zero effort to do so....such is life"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't depend on why it's sexless, sometimes the man or woman may wish to have sex but because of illness or disability they can't.

Do you walk away and say, hard luck I am off or look for something on the side or go without sex for the rest of your life.

What would you do?

They aren't the only options.

Happy to hear more

It's not as straightforward as a choice between one or the other there are some whole range of options in between

Wasn't being fun I really wanted to know,

I know you weren't .

I've never been in the situation myself and what I really meant was that in a good relationship I would hope that (as difficult as it would be) the people involved could negotiate a compromise that suited them both. I was really referring to the idea that nothing is ever as straightforward as a choice between three options. However I know that sex is a very difficult subject especially if two people have different ideas on it and its not always an easy thing to talk about honestly if it's going wrong.

We have had "the talk" and she see my position and I see hers but as of today have found no real answer to it.

We will talk again I am sure, she see how hard it is for me having to go without and I can see it's not her fault she can no longer have sex.

Life can be a bit of a shit at times reallyI hope you find a good solution .. After several years of a similar situation we finally split up.. I hope we made the right decision in the long run .. I'm fully aware that this may not be the same for you "

Thank you, every one is different as we know and leaving is something I couldn't do, she has some hard times ahead of her and I couldn't let her go through them on her own.

Oh the bright side I will always have a right hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who was deprived of sex and intimacy,I'm in the position to say that you can't force someone to want to have sex with you."

This is very true I was in a sexless marriage for 3 years out of a 9

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not always "sexless" it can just be very differing sex drives and _iews on sex - I love my wife and we have great sex when we have it but it is on average about two/three times a month and very vanilla - i would like it more often and more varied - I don't want an affair so fab is my escape route as it is nsa - mainly cams/forums etc with the odd meet thrown in if I am very fortunate but in my position they are hard to get (which I understand) - fab is my way of getting a bj for instance or licking a pussy which are no no's for my Mrs - sex was something we used to argue about on a regular basis - we don't so much now thanks to fab - that's my reason/position no doubt some will shoot me down and others will agree and that's the beauty of fab too so many different opinions X

im not judging you because i dont have a right to or understabnd your relationship but wouldnt it be more productive for you to put your time and effort in ti your relarionship and find out what can be changed or worked on to make it perfect for the both of you rather than being on here looking for alternative sexual relief.

have you tried opening up and being totally honest about what your sexual desires are to your partner. i know its hard to start the talk but once the flood gates are open etc.

After 20 years of marriage yes lots of times - the fact is it always leads to one of us giving in and compromising - why should I "force her" to do something she doesn't want to or enjoy? I love her too much for that so it usually ended with me "accepting what I got" but why should I be unfulfilled? Bit selfish you may say but it has pretty much stopped our fall outs over sex...

but if you loved her as much as you say then you wouldnt force her and be happy that she is happy the way things are. thats the way i see it that my love for my wife would make me be happy that she is happy. my desires would come after her happiness becasue all i want is for her to be happy and feel safe and by giving her that then. i get the greatest pleasure possible."

Some people are happy to make their partner happy , and as you put it you put your desires come after her happiness . That's cool as it makes you happy .

But it sure wouldn't make me happy at all . There's no way I would put my desires on the backburner and say that's ok because at least my wife is happy !

Maybe I'm selfish , or maybe I'm not a doormat , I don't know . We may only get one shot at this life and I'm buggered if I'm going to seek happiness for myself by giving up on my desires if my wife doesn't want sex .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single.

Why do women?"

Because everything but the sex is there in abundance and they wouldnt give it up for just sex...

I love my old git, though we don't have sex.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

To some love outweigh sex...I was in a sexless marriage and it's not something I think I could handle again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Late to the conversation, but meh...

I love my partner to bits, but we haven't had sex in about 3 months. She just doesn't have the drive. At most, I'll occasionally get to let my hands wander south, which she loves and always gets off on, but that's it and that's where it ends. No involvement from her, no reciprocating, nothing...

Our relationship is a lot more than just sex though. Emotionally we're so well connected and well-matched. She's perfectly happy how she is, and aside from the lack of sex, so am I. I don't want to end up resenting her for it and hating our relationship, and so here I am...

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

wouldnt stay in a relationship with no sex over an extended period of time, they could let me have sex with others and i wouldnt leave..but nope, have me as a friend..this is my life and im entitled to enjoy it to the max..if i fell ill or was incapacitate from having sex for an extended period i would give them permission to go get it elsewhere..i would probably split with them actually...that is my love for someone..let them go if you dont make them happy. life is too short x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."
Because I can't afford to get out. Plus it would destroy my youngest.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

god people come up with all sorts of bollox and tripe to justify having sex with other people when in a relationship. Spice it up together, explore each others fetish, kinks rather than dip into someone else's pot....devils advocate.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

"

Great post which sounds very genuine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."

Same reason as a lot of women do I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"god people come up with all sorts of bollox and tripe to justify having sex with other people when in a relationship. Spice it up together, explore each others fetish, kinks rather than dip into someone else's pot....devils advocate."

You can't spice up something that is dead and some people don't like kink,or fetish or spice.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I stayed in one for almost 4 years, remaining faithful for all of it, yes I missed sex and still wanted it with him but in every other way he was a good husband. Well at least I thought so until he left me for the woman he been having an affair with for all that time, made me feel like an idiot for standing by him

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Often, not always, the relationship is sexless because of something a bit deeper which has not been addressed. All sorts of reasons are thought of as the cause but they may not be the solution.

Resentment of the partner, disappointment with the partner, not wanting to be close to the partner (for whatever genuine and understandable reason) will kill the sex drive in most cases.

Sometimes people get together and have children without ever really having "fancied" the other. If you never fancied your partner, it is not something that is likely to happen. That does not mean you cannot love them though.

Equally, there are many reasons why people stay in less than fulfilling relationships. Some cannot see themselves managing life, kids etc on their own. Others are too scared to make that move. Some would be embarrassed to admit "failure" ... there are so many reasons.

People who saty together for the sake of their children are commendable - sadly it invariably does not work and children are very perceptive of parental dissonance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wouldnt stay in a relationship with no sex over an extended period of time, they could let me have sex with others and i wouldnt leave..but nope, have me as a friend..this is my life and im entitled to enjoy it to the max..if i fell ill or was incapacitate from having sex for an extended period i would give them permission to go get it elsewhere..i would probably split with them actually...that is my love for someone..let them go if you dont make them happy. life is too short x"

I feel the same.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Financial reasons

Scared of the unknown

Kids involved

They don't mind not having sex

Scared to leave their partner

Stuck in a rut

Busy lives....many reasons x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same reason women stay in abusive relationships, because love is a curse!! Bring on the lust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Same reason women stay in abusive relationships, because love is a curse!! Bring on the lust "

I didn't... I got out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Financial reasons

Scared of the unknown

Kids involved

They don't mind not having sex

Scared to leave their partner

Stuck in a rut

Busy lives....many reasons x"

These, plus fear of what others will think or say/loss of social "status"/perception of failure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Same reason women stay in abusive relationships, because love is a curse!! Bring on the lust

I didn't... I got out "

you have my respect & kisses xx

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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

I am going to make a sexist comment/observation, love and sex are two different things for most males, convention of society leads us all to think great sex is within a loving relationship. I feel most women feel happier with warm loving sex?

The real turner here is the internet has allowed some women to find their sexual desires, and yippee for that!

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Why do men stay in sexless relationship? Am a passionate lady and am single."

Love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not always "sexless" it can just be very differing sex drives and _iews on sex - I love my wife and we have great sex when we have it but it is on average about two/three times a month and very vanilla - i would like it more often and more varied - I don't want an affair so fab is my escape route as it is nsa - mainly cams/forums etc with the odd meet thrown in if I am very fortunate but in my position they are hard to get (which I understand) - fab is my way of getting a bj for instance or licking a pussy which are no no's for my Mrs - sex was something we used toargue about on a regular basis - we don't so much now thanks to fab - that's my reason/position no doubt some will shoot me down and others will agree and that's the beauty of fab too so many different opinions X "

Don't think I've ever seen such an honest comment from an attached single guy!

X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would love to feel wanted. At times i want a cuddle.

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth


"It's not always "sexless" it can just be very differing sex drives and _iews on sex - I love my wife and we have great sex when we have it but it is on average about two/three times a month and very vanilla - i would like it more often and more varied - I don't want an affair so fab is my escape route as it is nsa - mainly cams/forums etc with the odd meet thrown in if I am very fortunate but in my position they are hard to get (which I understand) - fab is my way of getting a bj for instance or licking a pussy which are no no's for my Mrs - sex was something we used toargue about on a regular basis - we don't so much now thanks to fab - that's my reason/position no doubt some will shoot me down and others will agree and that's the beauty of fab too so many different opinions X

Don't think I've ever seen such an honest comment from an attached single guy!

X"

Thank you - I may not be everyone's cup of tea but why lie on here? This is fab and we are all here for our own reasons - I see some of the more extreme profiles and think not for me but I don't judge...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sex is a small part of a relationship

if i had to choose over sex on tap or a relationship with someone i love everything about and is my best friend like juicy is i would die knowing i had spent every minute i possibly could with my best friend.

sex isnt the be all and end all in a relationship. spending time and enjoying that time with someone that i love and enjoy the laughs we have is a lot more important to me than sex.

i get more enjoyment and satisfaction from laughing together about a crap joke, a little kiss, spooning when we go to sleep, waking up and seeing juicy asleep happy with no worries at all than sex could ever give me.

Well said

thanks its possiblt the first post ive ever done that makes sense

lol well it made lots of sense to us as it's exactly how we feel too xx "

We feel the same. Well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've experienced both extremes in my past relationships (never been married mind). I've been with frigid Fiona and high sex drive Hailey, and I loved them both for very different reasons. If I could pick and choose parts of them and turn it into my ideal woman, I would definitely put a ring on it. But it seldom works that way does it. I think the key is to work on the weaknesses but never forget the strengths i.e. what brings a couple together in the first place. It will never be an easy ride though. Good luck

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