FabSwingers.com forum: Trophy Husbands/Boyfriends for Women?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do, some don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably no more then Men do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly none that i've been with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somatic narcissists do this.

You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep they go into Harvey Nicholls and pick one out with the help of a personal shopper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably no more then Men do"

Both sexes are guilty og doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a trophy husband.... she ripped out all my innards... stuffed me with fluff, ripped out my eyes and replaced them with marbles, and put me in a cabinet for people to laugh at......

Theres probably an analogy or a metaphor in that somewhere.....I'm not bitter.....

((she's lovely really, wherever she is, bless you ma'am and all who sail in you))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been so long since I've had a guy to go out and about with. Last guy I dated was handsome and if was nice to hold his hand when we were out in public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep they go into Harvey Nicholls and pick one out with the help of a personal shopper."

Definitely shop at Harvey Nicholls rather than Aldi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't noticed that amongst us ordinary people. Celebrities maybe.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yeah, some.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

More like atrophy

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Is there a shop somewhere? I'll take a battered secondhand one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't noticed that amongst us ordinary people. Celebrities maybe. "

I've noticed it, one of my aunties is like this. Goes on about her fella's money, brags, is obsessed with status and finances of her partners (but never worked in her life to attain her own money).

When she splits up with them, usually coz they've no money left after being with her, she rips them shreds and slags them off, even made out one of her exes molested their son but never stopped him from seeing his son until he couldn't pay maintainence and then she told him he couldn't have visitation rights until he started paying again.

Awful people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

I would say it was more the other way round.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

Thankfully I know no women like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

Thankfully I know no women like this.

Has to be, I have had lots of dates and relationships, I think women are more forgiving of physical appearance when it comes to introductions to friends and family; guys can be a bit.... we'll, not so nice about it...

Off to polish my white knight armour... ciao ciao

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

I would say it was more the other way round."

I think that's what you women think of us men? But I don't know many men personally that date women just to impress other men etc ?

I couldn't give a shit what anyone thought about my partner (if I had one ) as long as she was attractive to me and we got on great.

That's all that would matter to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

I would say it was more the other way round.

I think that's what you women think of us men? But I don't know many men personally that date women just to impress other men etc ?

I couldn't give a shit what anyone thought about my partner (if I had one ) as long as she was attractive to me and we got on great.

That's all that would matter to me

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I think there's more trophy wives than husbands

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

I would say it was more the other way round.

I think that's what you women think of us men? But I don't know many men personally that date women just to impress other men etc ?

I couldn't give a shit what anyone thought about my partner (if I had one ) as long as she was attractive to me and we got on great.

That's all that would matter to me

I think there's more trophy wives than husbands "

It's certainly the more common phrasing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

I would say it was more the other way round.

I think that's what you women think of us men? But I don't know many men personally that date women just to impress other men etc ?

I couldn't give a shit what anyone thought about my partner (if I had one ) as long as she was attractive to me and we got on great.

That's all that would matter to me

I think there's more trophy wives than husbands "

But whose the trophy?

The beautiful trophy wife or the rich trophy husband she's bagged?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

I would say it was more the other way round.

I think that's what you women think of us men? But I don't know many men personally that date women just to impress other men etc ?

I couldn't give a shit what anyone thought about my partner (if I had one ) as long as she was attractive to me and we got on great.

That's all that would matter to me

I think there's more trophy wives than husbands

But whose the trophy?

The beautiful trophy wife or the rich trophy husband she's bagged?"
touché, fair point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

As far as I'm concerned I couldn't give a fiddlers feck what anyone else thinks. As this is my life. So I make my own decisions about who I want to see and who I don't. I wouldn't let anyone else opinion influence my choice of partner.

But I must say,I've never been dazzled by a shiny wrapper as I'm not a shallow person that judges people by how the look.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've yet to see a Trophy wife or girlfriend married/dating a short fat benefits Britain Guy that happens to have a good personality? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've yet to see a Trophy wife or girlfriend married/dating a short fat benefits Britain Guy that happens to have a good personality? Lol "

I've not seen it in reverse either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've yet to see a Trophy wife or girlfriend married/dating a short fat benefits Britain Guy that happens to have a good personality? Lol "

It's the 'benefits Britain' factor rather than the 'short fat' factor that would count for me towards my decision in that situation

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Nobody that I've ever been out with has done this. Because.....me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner gets looked at by woman more than I do by men, so I guess he's my trophy. Lucky me.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I know a man who does - he admitted it to me as well as we argued what a prick he is.....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife was after a trophy but she got me instead. You could say I was the bowl after the main event lol

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

I would say it was more the other way round.

I think that's what you women think of us men? But I don't know many men personally that date women just to impress other men etc ?

I couldn't give a shit what anyone thought about my partner (if I had one ) as long as she was attractive to me and we got on great.

That's all that would matter to me

I think there's more trophy wives than husbands

But whose the trophy?

The beautiful trophy wife or the rich trophy husband she's bagged?"

Hmm Jerry Hall or Rupert Murdoch?? Jerry Hall is the trophy in my opinion, I think men are far more driven by overt display of their status symbols, their women just smile all the way to the bank. I think men are more concerned with looks, women with character and less obvious qualities

I go dancing with a couple of really good looking charismatic guys that all the younger, hotter women flock around. I just smile a mischievous smile, cos I know they love me for who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Murdoch probably has really gross balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Murdoch probably has really gross balls. "

Why? They can't be much wrinklier than the rest of him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goes to google old mens balls just to check though...hope i don't regret this.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I like the feeling of being seen out with a man by my side, even better if we're holding hands, tops if he's handsome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this? "

When did you notice that then?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

The women I know could care less what a man looks like as long as they don't frighten young children but they have to be in employment and solvent.

They are not gold diggers but employed and solvent and looking for the same.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I've yet to see a Trophy wife or girlfriend married/dating a short fat benefits Britain Guy that happens to have a good personality? Lol

It's the 'benefits Britain' factor rather than the 'short fat' factor that would count for me towards my decision in that situation

I wouldn't date David Gandy if he were on benefits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

The women I know could care less what a man looks like as long as they don't frighten young children but they have to be in employment and solvent.

They are not gold diggers but employed and solvent and looking for the same."

Haha i remeber getting lynched on here for saying for a parter for a long term relationship I'd prefer them to be on similar kind of money to me not benifits/minimum wage

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"My partner gets looked at by woman more than I do by men, so I guess he's my trophy. Lucky me. "

My other half is a Jason Statham/Bruce Willis hybrid, 6ft 1 and does kick boxing and has his own business as a heating engineer and is as fit as.

I'm 5ft 6, eight stones overweight with dodgy knees. When out and about my other half always asks if I'm ashamed of him because he likes to hold hands and kiss: he likes to feel reassured, I don't like pdas!

People generally look at us because we are an "odd" couple. That said, women used to stare at me when I was with my ex husband too as he was tall, dark and handsome. It was amusing watching some women trying to flirt with him, bless em, he never noticed and if I said so and so fancies you he'd look at me and tell me not to be ridiculous! Clueless! Still is.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

ok..each and every man i have had a relationship has been like a 'prize' for me..but maybe thats because i treasure them..have i had men treat me the same way..yes..how nice..dont knock it.

i feel its mostly observers, seeing couples together that say this about them..rather than the people in the couples themselves...i was with a 50 year old for four years when i was 27..he wasnt a rich sugar daddy..he was just an awesome person..would it look like something else..yes..but we didnt care. the partner that followed him i was with for 8 years i was 32, him 23..would it have looked like he was my trophy husband.. i dont know we just clicked and knew we had to be together..dont judge a book by its cover and "there are nout as strange as folk"..more than that, just be happy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My partner gets looked at by woman more than I do by men, so I guess he's my trophy. Lucky me.

My other half is a Jason Statham/Bruce Willis hybrid, 6ft 1 and does kick boxing and has his own business as a heating engineer and is as fit as.

That's adorable!

It's also because it's not just about looks- it's about personality.

An average looking person can be elevated by their partner just by being made to feel beautiful- like that film Shallow Hal xx

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

You seem to have a major chip on your shoulder over this issue OP

Most of the behaviours you mention I see more in men.

Yesterday morning in fact I had a guy taking the piss out out me for being "a tank" with his mates but when I had a meet advertised he still messaged me on here later that night for a shag. In response I reiterated my earlier sentiments to him that he's a wanker and he can do one.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"My partner gets looked at by woman more than I do by men, so I guess he's my trophy. Lucky me.

My other half is a Jason Statham/Bruce Willis hybrid, 6ft 1 and does kick boxing and has his own business as a heating engineer and is as fit as.

That's adorable!

It's also because it's not just about looks- it's about personality.

An average looking person can be elevated by their partner just by being made to feel beautiful- like that film Shallow Hal xx"

There's a bunch of people I know in happy marriages and their wives just glow. There's nothing as attractive as a well-loved woman.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this? "

I'm always upgrading and changing my handbags when they get tatty/worn or I get bored with them.

Where as Mr B has been knocking around for well over 20 years. He impresses me,that's all I'm fussed about, not what others think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wooden spoon here.......lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You can just imagine the veri after the meet -

Turned up on time and wow! He's for keeps, all the neighbours were eyeing him up, as we walked into my home from his Lambo. I couldn't resist sending selfies of us to all my friends. No good in bed but his capital assets will prove very satisfying. Hands off, he's all mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this? "

Don't most people do this. Not sure why you'd want a "minger" on your arm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this?

Don't most people do this. Not sure why you'd want a "minger" on your arm"

Because personality is more important than good looks

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

most of the women I know settle for what they can get and marry the first man who shows an interest in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this?

Don't most people do this. Not sure why you'd want a "minger" on your arm

Because personality is more important than good looks

Newsflash; there are people out there with fantastic personalities who are also attractive. I should know, I'm lucky enough to have an FB who more than fits this category.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this?

Don't most people do this. Not sure why you'd want a "minger" on your arm

Because personality is more important than good looks

Newsflash; there are people out there with fantastic personalities who are also attractive. I should know, I'm lucky enough to have an FB who more than fits this category. "

I don't have either so it's no suprise I can't pull in here

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this?

Don't most people do this. Not sure why you'd want a "minger" on your arm

Because personality is more important than good looks

Newsflash; there are people out there with fantastic personalities who are also attractive. I should know, I'm lucky enough to have an FB who more than fits this category. "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Couldn't care less what people think and neither does jay where definetly an odd couple but we don't care we love each other doesn't matter what anyone ekplse thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this?

Don't most people do this. Not sure why you'd want a "minger" on your arm

Because personality is more important than good looks

No both are important

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this?

Don't most people do this. Not sure why you'd want a "minger" on your arm

Because personality is more important than good looks

No both are important "

I agree both are important in equal balance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this? "

When you say you've noticed - where do you look / see it happening? I mean, sure we've all seen a couple in a street where one may look clearly younger / more 'attractive' (whatever that may be), but I don't think many people care really. I don't anyway

I know some relationships like this, but they're all based on good things, not her looks and his wallet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh to be a trophy...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Never really looked at it like that, I've attracted some gorgeous looking guys but not seen them as a thorphy after all I'm awesome myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can find me in the special offer section

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel a bit like a trophy. A bit battered from years of being handed from one recepient to another but I always polish up the next season.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have either so it's no suprise I can't pull in here

And I think here in lies your issue/chip...

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"I do think women are more image conscious than men and care more about what other women think of how they look and what type of partner they choose to date than men do.

It's seems like women are more competitive with each other in the appearance stakes.

Maybe I'm wrong ?

The women I know could care less what a man looks like as long as they don't frighten young children but they have to be in employment and solvent.

They are not gold diggers but employed and solvent and looking for the same.

Haha i remeber getting lynched on here for saying for a parter for a long term relationship I'd prefer them to be on similar kind of money to me not benifits/minimum wage"

pragmatic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I think it must be the other way round. I've been single so long because I'm not pretty enough perhaps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it must be the other way round. I've been single so long because I'm not pretty enough perhaps "

Possibly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it must be the other way round. I've been single so long because I'm not pretty enough perhaps

Possibly "

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this?

I know some relationships like this, but they're all based on good things, not her looks and his wallet

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I have noticed a lot of women seem to choose men like they would choose a new handbag or pair of shoes like a fashion accessory.

To look good on their arms, to impress their friends and family etc.

Do you think women actually do this?

I'm always upgrading and changing my handbags when they get tatty/worn or I get bored with them.

Where as Mr B has been knocking around for well over 20 years. He impresses me,that's all I'm fussed about, not what others think.

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