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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Being a first generation immigrant from a former colony, I honestly cannot remember any unpleasantries being directed at me due to my race, size, sexual preferences or whatever.

Nothing I cannot handle, and am not one that would take it lying down either!

I am what I am, and if one does not like it, it is one's problem, not mine!

How do peeps handle theirs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time I laugh with them but when it's over the top about me being a tranny I will say something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a fat bird, I am thick skinned!

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By *rumalexMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

i let it wash over me i am what i am i cant and wouldn't change it i dont let other peoples problems become mine

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am very happy being Bisexual.. and have the utmost respect for Str8, Gay, TV, TS sexuality.

The latter part of my childhood, earlier part of my adult life was not great due to some homophobia.. several beatings, much name calling but in the scheme of some of the bullying that goes on, often driving people to suicide...... I was lucky.

It helped shape my character, made me a great people manager and supported a very successful career..

so I have something to thank the bullies for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a first generation immigrant from a former colony, I honestly cannot remember any unpleasantries being directed at me due to my race, size, sexual preferences or whatever.

Nothing I cannot handle, and am not one that would take it lying down either!

I am what I am, and if one does not like it, it is one's problem, not mine!

How do peeps handle theirs? "

Put on 7" inch heels, hunt them down and stamp them to death. Or failing that I laugh, delete and forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, i have been ridiculed, name called and sneered at, guys pretending to throw up at the sight of me, comments of "i dont fancy yours", "nice legs shame about the face" and the most recent at the pub where i still work, being called Olive I cannot help having to wear glasses, i know they dont help but i cannot afford some nice ones that do suit me or contacts. It has dragged me down over the years and only very recently have i tried to come to terms with myself, put myself in situations like wearing nice clothes making me the centre of attraction instead of hiding in baggy trousers or black. My biggest step has been going to Chameleons. I think it is one of the reasons that I worry about my weight, not just because i am loathe to be compared to my mother but because i think if i am slim, at least i have something to offer a man.

The oddest thing though is that its never bothered me in the slightest being asked if i was english as i am whats called sallow skinned therefore giving me an oriental/eastern look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

water under the bridge ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i often get called a bitch....getting used to it by now and think its me first name

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been labelled as being too far up my own arse for daring to put "professional" in my profile.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Cant ever in my life remember having downright nasty comments made about me. The odd sarcastic comment over the years has never bothered me. Think alot has to do with someones personality and not what they look like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been labelled as being too far up my own arse for daring to put "professional" in my profile.

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have a look for the mustard while yer up there girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i often get called a bitch....getting used to it by now and think its me first name "

they might be calling you beach cos they like laying on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had years of abuse through my youth and adulthood

at one point it did bother me in fact so much i wouldn't go anywhere on my own as i found no one was brave enough to shout taunts at me if someone was with me

few examples

we bought a sofa from tesco it broke i went in the store to ask how i sorted it as it was only a short while after purchase as i walked away after sorting it i heard the woman behind the desk say "not surprised with something that fat sitting on it" and it wasn't in my head she admitted it in her diciplinary

our 5 year old son stopped eating after a guy at the shops taunted me so much and informed him he would grow up to be fat and ugly like me

i could keep going but i think you get the jist

but thankfully with love and encouragement from a fabulous hubby and wonderfull friends i now couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone has to say

i am who i am and those that see past the wobbliness and get to know me find i'm actually an ok person

i hold my head up high n never let anything anyone has to say bother me even one tiny jot

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By *eighleedsMan
over a year ago

leeds


"I am very happy being Bisexual.. and have the utmost respect for Str8, Gay, TV, TS sexuality.

The latter part of my childhood, earlier part of my adult life was not great due to some homophobia.. several beatings, much name calling but in the scheme of some of the bullying that goes on, often driving people to suicide...... I was lucky.

It helped shape my character, made me a great people manager and supported a very successful career..

so I have something to thank the bullies for."

Had similar at school in my teens from one particular bully. kept calling me gay and other words etc,

Didnt even know i was Bi for certain in those days, and certainly didnt do anything to suggest it (it was a fairly tough innercity school in Leeds)

My only crime for getting this abuse was because i was born in teh south i had a southern accent,

The sad thing about it i guess is, i have later found out said person who gave me the abuse, is Gay and lives somewhere in teh Med with his male partner,

could be that he knew what he is, and didnt liek it at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant ever in my life remember having downright nasty comments made about me. The odd sarcastic comment over the years has never bothered me. Think alot has to do with someones personality and not what they look like"

In my experience once someone has got close enough to another person to see their personality they no longer see the 'label' or purely physical attribute. The problem is most people who see you will never get to know your personality and the (in my opinion) natural behavior of the insecure is to try to bring others down, some are 'brave' enough or ignorant enough to say what's on their mind. The majority who are like this just keep their thoughts to themselves.

I just believe you shouldn't live your life worrying about what's inside someone elses head, but if they ever let it out of their head in anyway (whether aimed at you or someone else) you should ALWAYS challenge their insecurities. It just makes them think twice the next time, and may diminish the chances of them offending the next person. So in answer to the Op, that's how I deal with that behavior, I challenge it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been the odd sarcastic comment about my pictures, things like 'wonder what you look like in real life' etc. What amuses me is that I once had a bitchy comment only to find they tried to replicate a similar pic of themselves - hmm they hated it that much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a tough time at school: but I was not alone. As first generation children of immigrants we were looked on as a strange species. My fellow black students and I were put in "special" classes as we were deemed thick for no other reason than we used different words for every day objects. My parents called a tap a pipe, oven was stove etc but this was just seen as "dumb".

Leaving college and going to work I went to one company and was intere_iew by a really lovely man, but he looked stricken and I couldn't tell why. He said you'd be perfect for this job but I don't think you'd be happy. I didn't understand and he took me through to the main office where I would be working if offered the job. The office was full of middle aged white men...and they weren't friendly looking.

I actually felt sorry for the man as he wanted to offer me the job, I wanted it but could tell my life would be a misery...so walked away.

This kind of thing went on for a few years until the laws slowly changed, but even before the change I never became bitter, it just fuelled me to be better.

I thank the bigots for my life. I'm a solicitor, I live in a lovely part of the nations capital, I have children who have never experienced prejudice therefore don't see glass ceilings or judge others by the colour of their skin.

My daughter had a go at me once because I asked what colour her boyfriend was. I thought I was being funny, as I couldn't tell under all the ink he had on his body... ...but my daughter didn't see the joke!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a tough time at school: but I was not alone. As first generation children of immigrants we were looked on as a strange species. My fellow black students and I were put in "special" classes as we were deemed thick for no other reason than we used different words for every day objects. My parents called a tap a pipe, oven was stove etc but this was just seen as "dumb".

Leaving college and going to work I went to one company and was intere_iew by a really lovely man, but he looked stricken and I couldn't tell why. He said you'd be perfect for this job but I don't think you'd be happy. I didn't understand and he took me through to the main office where I would be working if offered the job. The office was full of middle aged white men...and they weren't friendly looking.

I actually felt sorry for the man as he wanted to offer me the job, I wanted it but could tell my life would be a misery...so walked away.

This kind of thing went on for a few years until the laws slowly changed, but even before the change I never became bitter, it just fuelled me to be better.

I thank the bigots for my life. I'm a solicitor, I live in a lovely part of the nations capital, I have children who have never experienced prejudice therefore don't see glass ceilings or judge others by the colour of their skin.

My daughter had a go at me once because I asked what colour her boyfriend was. I thought I was being funny, as I couldn't tell under all the ink he had on his body... ...but my daughter didn't see the joke!"

I should add...never really had a problem as regards my size. The last time someone commented - that I'm aware of - was a colleague to a friend of mine. They said I'd be absolutely stunning...if I were slim! Bloody cheek, I'm stunning full stop!

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By *hocotreacleWoman
over a year ago

lost in the city of Atlantis

I feel so left out, I was never bullied, but have had someone accuse me of stealing because of my skin colour. I put him right pretty sharpish.

The way I see it I got the best of both worlds, a bit of white and a bit of black = my gorgeous self.

I may be fat, but I am way too confident to let some stupid idiotic fool make me feel bad about it.

If a person is ignorant enough to take shots at others for reasons like colour, size etc, then that says a lot about them and thier level of intelligence.

Thier ignorance makes me better than them.

I see myself as a nice person, I don't like confrontation and much prefer happy people round me, but I can be a nasty piece of work when someone pisses me off...so I don't get pissed off.

My therapist says, when you start to see someone surrounded by a red haze and all you can see is you sitting on them and suffocating them to death than its time.

You must put Dan Gibson on and take deep calming breaths, imagining yourself in a calm and quiet place, the sound of the stream in the background and the dirds chirping, breathing deeply....in and out.......

Top of the morning to you! What was I talking about again? See, works everytime.

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By *hocotreacleWoman
over a year ago

lost in the city of Atlantis

There goes all my meets...

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By *edhotminxWoman
over a year ago

Turn left at the Singing Ringing Tree

I got teased and bullied for being a redhead. It followed me throughout my school life and into early adulthood. And I was never popular with the boys because of my red hair.

Times have changed, men declare their absolute love of redheads and I don't take any stick from anyone with name calling. I'm happy with who I am, red hair and all, and if it wasn't for past experiences, I wouldn't be the person I am today.

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