FabSwingers.com forum: Would you rather date someone without kids?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you have no children yourself would you prefer to have a relationship with someone in the same position as you who also has no children or wouldn't it be an issue?

What ideally would you prefer ?

Someone with young kids at home or someone like yourself who is child free ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say yes. I'm generalising but it usually brings so much unnecessary drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've dated ladies with kids before.

Cant say it makes much of a difference really. Can be quite fun actually. I'm immature as fuck so quite often get on with kids and am happy to play silly games or go to the park or pick something else at the cinema or whatever

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

"I've dated ladies with kids before.

Same as you mate, it's all part of a settled life

Can see why some would prefer no kids tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I've dated men with children and the majority were part time parents with fucked up relationships with the mothers. I don't want to hear someone whinge or be petty about something as serious as raising a child. Some of them would offer to cancel seeing their children due to my lack of availability what with travelling for work, it was awful.

It's also something I want to share with someone who hasn't done it before either. It may be selfish, however it's my choice to wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone without kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking to date anyone so it makes no odds whether they have kids or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The man I was to date would probably not have young children,so it wouldn't make much difference. He would have to be brave to take on my family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kids i want a nice carefree decade or so before i settle down with kids.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I don't date but if I did, It would very much depend on how much I liked and got on with the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending on the age of the kids, it's just too much hassle and as Robert Winston said, it's a disaster for a man to look after and raise another man's genes. Having said that, some researchers reckon many men are bringing up kids they do not know are not biologically theirs anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To have a relation with married person is safer than anyone else. It is all about need. I prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't imagine my life being filled with the misery of a child!

I'm in no way shape or form ready for children and plan to keep it that way. No interest in them what so ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't imagine my life being filled with the misery of a child!

I'm in no way shape or form ready for children and plan to keep it that way. No interest in them what so ever "

You are still curvy. Keep it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No children is my preference. I want 5 of my own so that should keep him busy!

I've dated men with young children in the past, I love spending time with their kids but it often causes a strain the relationship.

Do you tell their child off if they're being naughty? I have done in the past and have been told that I was 'out of order'... maybe I was and should have asked permission. But when I was younger any adult could tell me off if I was being naughty as I was taught to respect my elders and not solely my parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't imagine my life being filled with the misery of a child!

I'm in no way shape or form ready for children and plan to keep it that way. No interest in them what so ever

You are still curvy. Keep it up"

There's a term I haven't heard used to describe me before.

Your down as straight, but I think you want a slice of these man-curves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you have indicated there, it's just too complicated, whatever the 'assurances' are. Grown up kids are perhaps a different matter but even they can be a pain.

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Definitely no children I've done my time got the tshirt want to concentrate on me and my man....if I had one! A man that is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our lives have 0 structure or organisation outside of work, we quite literally make everything up as we go along.

I wouldn't want to change that. I enjoy being able to do what I want and spend my money on whatever ridiculous idea pops into my head next.

I enjoy the freedom of almost no responsibility.

I don't think it would be fair to have a child whilst in this mind set.

A lot of people see it as really selfish, but I think it would be worse to have a kid because "it's what your supposed to do"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dunno really, never thought about dating for a while.

i think i'd not be bothered either way. if i really liked someone i'd not care about if they had kids or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dated someone with kids and without sounding like I blowing my own trumpet I've been told I treat and spoil the kids better than their own father. I got a PS4 for my Christmas not that I play on it much being at work all the time so I gave little man my PS3 that I had with all my games. It's easy with kids. I've even tucked them in bed before now and took them to school and let mum stay in bed lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer no kids as I think it would make things easier but if I met someone I liked then them having kids wouldn't put me off, its part of what makes them who they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather only date women with no kids. I think kids can be great but at the same time can restrict your life a lot. I'm not sure if I ever want kids to be honest but if it happens it happens and they'll be loved...but I like to be free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've dated ladies with kids before.

Same as you mate, it's all part of a settled life

Can see why some would prefer no kids tho. "

Not really part of a settled life as such for me.

More that if i like someone then their kids are part of the deal and i'm daft enough to get on with 'em mostly so yeah, i'm fine with kids. Guess it's my nature.

Easier to get on with half the time than adults

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. If he already had kids that's a bonus; ready made kids means I don't have to pop any out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was single, I wouldn't date any man with children. I don't want to make sacrifices in my lifestyle for children that aren't even mine.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

"I can't imagine my life being filled with the misery of a child!

I'm in no way shape or form ready for children and plan to keep it that way. No interest in them what so ever "

That's about spot on for me

The cat is more than enough responsibility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our lives have 0 structure or organisation outside of work, we quite literally make everything up as we go along.

I wouldn't want to change that. I enjoy being able to do what I want and spend my money on whatever ridiculous idea pops into my head next.

I enjoy the freedom of almost no responsibility.

I don't think it would be fair to have a child whilst in this mind set.

A lot of people see it as really selfish, but I think it would be worse to have a kid because "it's what your supposed to do""

I think the selfish ones are those that pop kids out because "it's what you're supposed to do".

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By *effrey45Man
over a year ago

Lytham

Dated women with kids - invariably you are expected to pay for them with very little thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not looking to date anyone so it makes no odds whether they have kids or not"

My thoughts exactly. We are here to form a social (and sexual) relationship with others not a family relationship. The only thing about having the children is it makes arranging the social side a little more challenging. The reason why we don't like to be messed around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather she didn't have kids but the older I get the more chance there is of me meeting a lass(roughly my own age)that does have kids already.

It's not a big deal braker for me,if I like the lass enough then I'll tolerate her brats

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

"If I was single, I wouldn't date any man with children. I don't want to make sacrifices in my lifestyle for children that aren't even mine. "

I agree ...it's a 30 year plus commitment ....I like to live my life for me ....school runs and bed time stories just don't float my boat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've dated ladies with kids before.

Same as you mate, it's all part of a settled life

Can see why some would prefer no kids tho. "

I have a very settled life without kids. You don't need kids to be settled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that there are way more men that are willing to do the step parent thing than women, a lot of women either run a mile when you tell them you have kids, or pretend it's fine, then get pissy, when you put your kids first, my kids come first before my own needs, so I'm damn sure their not going to come second to somebody else's.

My girlfriend and I have a great relationship we don't live together and we spend quality time together while the kids are at their dads/moms and right now it works, but I've been in a relationship before when she started to demand I change the level of involvement I have in my daughters life, to suit her and her needs, and she was shocked when I ended the relationship.

She knew I had a child, but either she didn't think it through, or she thought she could change my life to suit her from the beginning.

I don't get it, too many men walk away from their kids and never see them, and go on with their lives like they don't have kids, but when a man steps up, and looks after and takes responsibility for the kids he has bought into the world, most women don't want the "drama" there need not be any drama, not everyone tries to score points against their ex, I bend over backwards to keep things civil, but I think those that are expecting drama, are ones that would cause drama themselves, so it levels itself out a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to lend a voice to the other side since this thread is so overwhelming anti child, I took on someone else's child and it was a wonderful and very fulfilling experience, ultimately the relationship with her mum failed but my daughter still lives with me and I'm so very proud of who she's become. I would chose the same, time and again

Nature prefers the status quo 'a body in motion...' Etc and i think getting replies from mainly single swingers was always going to get this reaction

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looks like the overwhelming response to dating someone with kids by the majority of posters is a big fat No then so far.

I agree with the posters reasons above as to why they would prefer to date someone without children as this is how I feel too.

But put your personal feelings about not wanting to date someone with children on a dating site profile for instance and be prepared to be bombarded with messages of scorn from single parents and how selfish they think we are and how we will end up sad and lonely people as we are just too self centred to care about anyone else but ourselves ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always said I wouldn't but you reach an age where you either keep dating much younger women or massively reduce your options.

My girlfriend has a 13 year old son. It doesn't bother me, he's never going to mistake or want me as a substitute dad, I wouldn't have dated someone with a kid so young that they might do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've dated ladies with kids before.

Same as you mate, it's all part of a settled life

Can see why some would prefer no kids tho.

I have a very settled life without kids. You don't need kids to be settled."

YOU don't need kids to be settled, some people do, some people feel the need to do all of the parenty things, I wouldn't be settled or half as content as I am without my little crazy people, but some just find them a burden, in which case it's probably best those people don't have them, no point forcing someone to have a lifestyle they don't want is there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've dated ladies with kids before.

Same as you mate, it's all part of a settled life

Can see why some would prefer no kids tho.

I have a very settled life without kids. You don't need kids to be settled.

Kinky where have you been not seen you on here for awhile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like the overwhelming response to dating someone with kids by the majority of posters is a big fat No then so far.

I agree with the posters reasons above as to why they would prefer to date someone without children as this is how I feel too.

Do you care about messages of scorn from people who made poor choices about who to bring life into the world with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post is me answering if i were childless

I WOULD prefer to date a man with a child/children. I love them dearly but never wanted any of my own. This way he's fulfilled his fatherhood ambitions and i get a content man because of that fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've dated ladies with kids before.

Same as you mate, it's all part of a settled life

Can see why some would prefer no kids tho.

I have a very settled life without kids. You don't need kids to be settled.

Kinky where have you been not seen you on here for awhile"

Combination of spending time with my kids, Xbox, and a girlfriend with new toys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This post is me answering if i were childless

I WOULD prefer to date a man with a child/children. I love them dearly but never wanted any of my own. This way he's fulfilled his fatherhood ambitions and i get a content man because of that fact. "

To add to my post ^^

I don't think i could EVER date a man who has children who isn't involved with his children.

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

NOT KIDS life is better without them freedom haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 50 so most ladies I have met do have children. Doesn't bother me a jot. I have a son and daughter. Both grown up and flown the nest so at least now I can watch what I want on TV and do not have to listen to limp brisket anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NOT KIDS life is better without them freedom haha "

Funnily enough i felt that before my daughter came along.. then i realized she was my purpose in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 4 grandkids and i love it at weekends spending time with them,its a joy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like the overwhelming response to dating someone with kids by the majority of posters is a big fat No then so far.

I agree with the posters reasons above as to why they would prefer to date someone without children as this is how I feel too.

Do you care about messages of scorn from people who made poor choices about who to bring life into the world with?"

I don't believe most people expect to split from the other parent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like the overwhelming response to dating someone with kids by the majority of posters is a big fat No then so far.

I agree with the posters reasons above as to why they would prefer to date someone without children as this is how I feel too.

Do you care about messages of scorn from people who made poor choices about who to bring life into the world with?

I don't believe most people expect to split from the other parent. "

I think this thread is horses for courses and an interesting example of how threads can develop when there is a groundswell in a certain direction.

Pop this question on mumsnet and see what the answer is, or the first 2 posts are from couples and watch the replies be massively different.

Single people without children will overwhelmingly choose to stay as they are. That's really not a shock surely

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Children are a godsend, keep you fit active grounded, and selfless......and when i am old,i have been promised a nice care home for when im old

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I'm not childless myself,but at my time of life I wouldn't want to date someone with younger children really. I'm not hugely against it I have done in the past,it just makes it very hard to have some alone time together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend on the person my last long term relationship had a child and ot was difficult all the way through but in the end it was the only thing that kept me with him as long as i did but each person is different and you cabt help who you fall in love with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...people who made poor choices about who to bring life into the world with?"

Is that what you think of single parents then Ruby?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god sorry for the typos on that didnt look before sending live and learn lol

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

As a person with kids I wouldn't give most of the posters here a chance to date me or be near my kids

It's a two way street

My kids come first. And second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...people who made poor choices about who to bring life into the world with?

Is that what you think of single parents then Ruby?"

It's what I think of those single parents who would accuse someone of being selfish, uncaring and unfeeling if they stated on their profile on a dating site that they had no interest in meeting people with children.

It's also what I think of single parents who publicly condemn and criticise their ex partners at every given opportunity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hypothetically speaking, at my age I wouldn't want to date someone who has really young children as I've done all that and wouldn't want to repeat the experience with another.

Older children / teenagers I wouldn't have a problem with, they have their own routines / friends which keeps them occupied & happy.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It really wouldn't be a consideration for me. I like kids. It's grown ups that get on my nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've dated ladies with kids before.

Same as you mate, it's all part of a settled life

Can see why some would prefer no kids tho.

I have a very settled life without kids. You don't need kids to be settled.

That was exactly my point.

Someone said "kids are part of a settled life" and I said "well no they're not, not everyone needs/wants that".

Everyone is different. I was refuting the claim that '[kids are] part of a settled life'. Because they're not. Settled is different for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why use won't date, no one wants a chick with kids, especially guys my own age. Grand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've dated ladies with kids before.

Same as you mate, it's all part of a settled life

Can see why some would prefer no kids tho.

I have a very settled life without kids. You don't need kids to be settled.

That was exactly my point.

Someone said "kids are part of a settled life" and I said "well no they're not, not everyone needs/wants that".

Everyone is different. I was refuting the claim that '[kids are] part of a settled life'. Because they're not. Settled is different for everyone."

Yes I was enforcing that point, and doing that irritating thing parents do of taking the opportunity to gush about how much better my life is with kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone is different. I was refuting the claim that '[kids are] part of a settled life'. Because they're not. Settled is different for everyone.

Yes I was enforcing that point, and doing that irritating thing parents do of taking the opportunity to gush about how much better my life is with kids

Oh well, kids would ruin my life, my health, and my mental health. So you know, I could gush about how much I enjoy being single? And then get told I'm a selfish person for not wanting to use my uterus for it's apparently intended purpose.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"As a person with kids I wouldn't give most of the posters here a chance to date me or be near my kids

It's a two way street

My kids come first. And second"

That's a little harsh. Any good parent will put their children first that doesn't need to be said really.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I have got a grown up son but I wouldn't want to date someone who had kids, it makes things complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a person with kids I wouldn't give most of the posters here a chance to date me or be near my kids

It's a two way street

My kids come first. And second

That's a little harsh. Any good parent will put their children first that doesn't need to be said really."

And it's also precisely the point why some people therefore wouldn't want to date someone with children - because they understand that your children will come first, and they don't want to be second place or an afterthought in a potential partner's life.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Prefer to meet someone with adult kids as my son is an adult. Wanna be free to do whatever whenever without much or any consideration. Please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it crass when people on dating sites 'advertise' their kids on their profile; including them in pics etc. I avoid those types of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone is different. I was refuting the claim that '[kids are] part of a settled life'. Because they're not. Settled is different for everyone.

Yes I was enforcing that point, and doing that irritating thing parents do of taking the opportunity to gush about how much better my life is with kids

I'm a great believer in doing what makes you happy, and if not having kids makes you happy, then it's go no one else to tell you you should have kids, it's no ones business but your own, it's when people who don't want kids, have kids because they feel forced to by social convention that you get in happy parents and even un happier children, what's the point in that

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"As a person with kids I wouldn't give most of the posters here a chance to date me or be near my kids

It's a two way street

My kids come first. And second

That's a little harsh. Any good parent will put their children first that doesn't need to be said really.

I can understand that,when I go on a certain dating site any profiles that say my kids come first I move on from,dating men with young children is not easy as you are second place and are squeezed into a few hours they may have spare during the week. I don't really want to be an afterthought.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I find it crass when people on dating sites 'advertise' their kids on their profile; including them in pics etc. I avoid those types of people.

I agree,yes children are a huge part of your life obviously,but for god sake keep your family photos for your family albums! I'm not dating your child,I wouldn't dream of sticking my children on a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a person with kids I wouldn't give most of the posters here a chance to date me or be near my kids

It's a two way street

My kids come first. And second

That's a little harsh. Any good parent will put their children first that doesn't need to be said really.

Ahh but some of us are soooo fucking worth it lol

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By *enuinedannyMan
over a year ago

walsall

I would date someone with kids I have done in the past if you like or love this person then they come as a package and well I am a big kid myself and kids are great fun so why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a person with kids I wouldn't give most of the posters here a chance to date me or be near my kids

It's a two way street

My kids come first. And second

That's a little harsh. Any good parent will put their children first that doesn't need to be said really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it crass when people on dating sites 'advertise' their kids on their profile; including them in pics etc. I avoid those types of people.

Yeah, it beggars belief that people use children to boost their chances on dating sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why use won't date, no one wants a chick with kids, especially guys my own age. Grand."

I don't mind...they're just small people

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Hypothetically speaking, at my age I wouldn't want to date someone who has really young children as I've done all that and wouldn't want to repeat the experience with another.

Older children / teenagers I wouldn't have a problem with, they have their own routines / friends which keeps them occupied & happy."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well this thread was an eye opener!

single life forever it is then

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

If I found the lady attractive and she liked me, I'd date the lady her having children wouldn't be a deal breaker,

I've dated a lady who had kids, I've two little ladies myself, they can add an additional complication,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't make any difference to me, people are who they are. If you like someone you kinda need to like them as a while in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wouldn't make any difference to me, people are who they are. If you like someone you kinda need to like them as a while in my eyes

*whole rather

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

No interest in having my own or having them in my life.

Kids are like sponges, wouldn't want to inflict my lifestyle on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my son full time, Ive dated women with kids and women without never really been an issue, if i like the person then i accept them and their situation. whatever it may be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a boyfriend about 6 years ago who had a daughter from a previous relationship. It was one of the things that contributed to the end of our relationship to be honest, becusse he was always involved in some kind of big drama or row with her mother, and in the end I just decided it wasn't what I wanted for the rest of my life. I was young though, I might have felt differently if I'd been older. If I ended up single again I'd be wary of men with children.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

For me its a yes .miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean meet for sex...or "date"... .? Understood this as a swinging site....dating is for the site with the fishes etc?

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

For a relationship yes I'd prefer someone with no kids, however these days that seems hard to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have kids but my youngest is 15, the other two are in their 20s, I wouldn't date anybody anyway untill my youngest was at last 18, but if when she has grown up and I did look to date (which I doubt) it wouldnt be anybody with dependant aged children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you mean meet for sex...or "date"... .? Understood this as a swinging site....dating is for the site with the fishes etc?"

Some of us like to date other swingers, it makes it more likely that you will have compatible lifestyles when it comes to swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For a relationship yes I'd prefer someone with no kids, however these days that seems hard to find."

Yes especially if they also have to live locally ?

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

If I liked the person enough to start a relationship with them then their parental situation wouldn't bother me either way.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I won't be having a relationship with a lady with children xxx

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Depends what you class the ages of children, mine are 26 and 30...hardly children now I guess though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like the overwhelming response to dating someone with kids by the majority of posters is a big fat No then so far.

I agree with the posters reasons above as to why they would prefer to date someone without children as this is how I feel too.

This also happens to me frequently. The messages are often extremely insulting x

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Looks like the overwhelming response to dating someone with kids by the majority of posters is a big fat No then so far.

I agree with the posters reasons above as to why they would prefer to date someone without children as this is how I feel too.

This also happens to me frequently. The messages are often extremely insulting x"

Don't worry they are probably just jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like the overwhelming response to dating someone with kids by the majority of posters is a big fat No then so far.

I agree with the posters reasons above as to why they would prefer to date someone without children as this is how I feel too.

This also happens to me frequently. The messages are often extremely insulting x

Don't worry they are probably just jealous."

I try not to let strangers on a website upset me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i would. I have a son myself

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

This thread is definitley an eye opener, and not in a good way.

I can't believe that people would consider themselves an afterthought if a person put their children first - the love that you have for your children is totally different to romantic love.

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over a year ago

"This thread is definitley an eye opener, and not in a good way.

I can't believe that people would consider themselves an afterthought if a person put their children first - the love that you have for your children is totally different to romantic love.

I would be putting my partner first. And would expect the same.

Those of us who are childfree are still in default setting. You remember that from before you had children?

No one who is mentally stable would ask a parent to put their child second, we are just saying that situation wouldn't suit us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread is definitley an eye opener, and not in a good way.

I can't believe that people would consider themselves an afterthought if a person put their children first - the love that you have for your children is totally different to romantic love.

I don't think anyone is saying that people putting their children first is a bad thing - of course they are going to, it's to be expected, it's what any normal decent parent does. But I wouldn't want a hypothetical relationship with anyone who wasn't totally putting me and our relationship first, whatever the reason for it - be that career, family, whatever. It's not magically different because the thing they're prioritising is a child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really like kids, so no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely don't like children. I couldn't ever see myself with someone who has or wants children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have no children yourself would you prefer to have a relationship with someone in the same position as you who also has no children or wouldn't it be an issue?

What ideally would you prefer ?

Someone with young kids at home or someone like yourself who is child free ?

The OP is only really asking for comments from those who don't have children themselves. I can't understand why on dating sites as mentioned above - single parents would have a go if that puts someone off. I imagine that's a minority though as most would rather have honesty in the first place.

Many with children, date others with children and it works. Likewise some who've never had children date single parents or parents with access/joint custody or another variation and it works. And some have no children and again it works. Be boring if we were all the same.

Sarah

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"I genuinely don't like children. I couldn't ever see myself with someone who has or wants children."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends really, I would still like to have children, And if she had kids but didn't want more I probably wouldn't as I know I would get attached to her children and it would just make it harder if/when we parted for everyone involved

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