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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

I have swung on and off over the last couple of years. End of last year I decided I wanted more that just sex. Anything found a great guy who I've been dating and recently started a sexual relationship with him........ Alls great apart from the sex. He isn't very experienced and doesn't like to try anything new. I have tried to talk about it but it don't seem to make a difference.

He knows I'm on here to chat and flirt and encourages me but what can I do to improve things in the bedroom ?

Yours frustrated from Lincolnshire

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ask him what his fantasy is once you've told him yours. Sounds like he might need a confidence boost? If it's anything achievable, you could sY you'd like to try out his fantasy....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think your right. Guys I've been with previously have been sexually confident I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask him what his fantasy is once you've told him yours. Sounds like he might need a confidence boost? If it's anything achievable, you could sY you'd like to try out his fantasy...."

Like your style brother.

Just, do you think he could be moulded?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Take him to VA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi

I have swung on and off over the last couple of years. End of last year I decided I wanted more that just sex. Anything found a great guy who I've been dating and recently started a sexual relationship with him........ Alls great apart from the sex. He isn't very experienced and doesn't like to try anything new. I have tried to talk about it but it don't seem to make a difference.

He knows I'm on here to chat and flirt and encourages me but what can I do to improve things in the bedroom ?

Yours frustrated from Lincolnshire "

I'd come off here. That won't be doing his confidence much good if he thinks he is having to live up to fab.

Spend time talking to him and exploring what he likes and dislikes. Experiment and grow together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be frustrating for someone that is sexual liberated so to speak to then have a sexual relationship with someone more vanilla than them.

All I can advise is to try and boost their confidence and get them to talk

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

What does he's not very experienced mean ?

Serious question.

Do you mean he hasn't done it often or hasn't tried different things ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Does he just do a quicky till he's come ? That's all that many blokes want.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

If he continues ditch him, sex is important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is he not very experienced because he's not had a varied sex life? He obviously realises you've been a swinger if he knows you're here. Does that intimidate him a little maybe ?

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

It sounds like he maybe have just gotten into a comfort zone sexually or is apprehensive about trying different stuff due to the inexperience, perhaps he's trying to stick with what he Knows.

Could you try gradually taking the lead a little? Things aren't going to change overnight but maybe he just needs a little encouragement and reassurance that he's good in bed?

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Hi

I have swung on and off over the last couple of years. End of last year I decided I wanted more that just sex. Anything found a great guy who I've been dating and recently started a sexual relationship with him........ Alls great apart from the sex. He isn't very experienced and doesn't like to try anything new. I have tried to talk about it but it don't seem to make a difference.

He knows I'm on here to chat and flirt and encourages me but what can I do to improve things in the bedroom ?

Yours frustrated from Lincolnshire

I'd come off here. That won't be doing his confidence much good if he thinks he is having to live up to fab.

Spend time talking to him and exploring what he likes and dislikes. Experiment and grow together."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What does he's not very experienced mean ?

Serious question.

Do you mean he hasn't done it often or hasn't tried different things ?

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Only had 4 partners. Not into trying anything new or things he wasn't keen on before

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi

I have swung on and off over the last couple of years. End of last year I decided I wanted more that just sex. Anything found a great guy who I've been dating and recently started a sexual relationship with him........ Alls great apart from the sex. He isn't very experienced and doesn't like to try anything new. I have tried to talk about it but it don't seem to make a difference.

He knows I'm on here to chat and flirt and encourages me but what can I do to improve things in the bedroom ?

Yours frustrated from Lincolnshire

I'd come off here. That won't be doing his confidence much good if he thinks he is having to live up to fab.

Spend time talking to him and exploring what he likes and dislikes. Experiment and grow together."

He encouraged me to rejoin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of things to take into account as to difference of sexual libido and experimenting.

How old is he ? Age does affect some people regarding how often they feel they want sex and what sort of sex they are happy with.

I personally are not that driven sexually really and once a week is fine for me as I just don't have the desire that I did in youth.

It's all about finding someone who matches your sexual needs and desires.

I don't really think you can change someone to be someone they arnt?

Only my opinion for what it's worth

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Hi

I have swung on and off over the last couple of years. End of last year I decided I wanted more that just sex. Anything found a great guy who I've been dating and recently started a sexual relationship with him........ Alls great apart from the sex. He isn't very experienced and doesn't like to try anything new. I have tried to talk about it but it don't seem to make a difference.

He knows I'm on here to chat and flirt and encourages me but what can I do to improve things in the bedroom ?

Yours frustrated from Lincolnshire

I'd come off here. That won't be doing his confidence much good if he thinks he is having to live up to fab.

Spend time talking to him and exploring what he likes and dislikes. Experiment and grow together.

He encouraged me to rejoin "

Perhaps he likes the cuckolded relationship watch you enjoying yourself he might try when your both alone??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finger up his bum for starters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect his wishes and stop trying to make him do things he doesn't want to.

If it's very important to you that the sex isn't what you want, perhaps it's time to reassess if the relationship will work. x

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