FabSwingers.com forum: smoke and mirrors. The fab way to flirt...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There has always been a great deal of flirting that goes on on the threads of the forums and obviously even more on PMs and the like, but at what point do you take it seriously? When you discuss meeting? when you arrange a meet? If they fab a photo?

I think I _iew flirting slightly differently than people and id be interested to get peoples feedback

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

When I orgasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I never take it to seriously, look at it as just a bit of fun

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By *ony HardcockMan
over a year ago

Shepperton

How do you _iew flirting OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think flirtings like fishing, you cast your bait into the water where you think the kind of fish you want will be, and see if you get a bite.

Of course, some guys are happy to catch anything at all, hence why you see them quite contentedly fishing for old boots.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I _iew flirting as just a bit of a lark nothing more or less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother flirting if you don't want to take it further?

If I'm not interested I don't flirt.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Totally indifferent to it all, I prefer straight talking and asking in PM

The public displays of flirting make me barf

most of the time. The declarations are more playing to the galleries, rather than the other person involved.

But what others

cool

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why bother flirting if you don't want to take it further?

If I'm not interested I don't flirt. "

I'm the same as you, if I'm not interested then I dont bother, but some will flirt with half the forum.

I just wondered when people know they've 'pulled'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The flirting that goes on in the forums is just a bit of fun. I don't take it seriously at all. In private messages with other forum users it's the same way. Things only get more serious if we actually discuss meeting in more than a social capacity. That has only happened for me with forum users in very very rare situations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it as harmless fun- if I actually want to meet someone, I just tell them via PM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why bother flirting if you don't want to take it further?

If I'm not interested I don't flirt.

I'm the same as you, if I'm not interested then I dont bother, but some will flirt with half the forum.

I just wondered when people know they've 'pulled' "

I like a flirt, it's just a bit of fun after all and if you click with them even better, I talk to a few on here who are way to far to meet but still nice to talk and chat,

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"I take it as harmless fun- if I actually want to meet someone, I just tell them via PM"

Should I read your pm now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be a flirt in the forum at times its all part of the fun. I'm not currently meeting, but when I was I'd meet with people that I'd built a bit of a friendship with.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I take the flirting with a huge pinch of salt . Some people will just say what ever to get a leg over ,so best to just treat it as abit of fun and not an ego feed .

If the flirting does develops further then great if not then you enjoyed abit of harmless banter .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not saying that if i flirt with someone that I'm picking out china patterns and floral arrangements. For me it means 'you seem nice' and that I want to chat, for some it seems to be a way to curry favour with forum users

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Its harmless fun and banter...take it as just that......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no expectations. If and when things develop they do so naturally, not because a checklist has been filled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it was all just banter?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have no expectations. If and when things develop they do so naturally, not because a checklist has been filled. "

What checklist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I flirt a lot but I'm completely monogamous with my wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I thought it was all just banter?"

For some yes, others no. I'm just trying to find where people draw the line from banter to 'I like you' clearly it happens for most people where the penny drops that something could happen

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Have been flirting with a forumite and am hoping to meet her eventually. In fact come to think of it all my meets have come via this method

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have been flirting with a forumite and am hoping to meet her eventually. In fact come to think of it all my meets have come via this method

this

and ive quite a few friends via the forums

though as yet havent met anyone

via forums

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I can't tell the difference between fun flirting just to pass the time and someone flirting with me because they may actually like me.

I had it pointed out to me just recently that some women who flirt with me and make suggested comments may actually be doing so with the intention of wanting it to go further. I always thought it was all just harmless nonsense and didn't pay it a lot of attention! Now I get the feeling I may have let some good things go. I'm so clueless

* Message to any women flirting with me in the future, please spell it out to me (in great detail) if you are wanting it to go further or are if you are being serious in your flirting. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no expectations. If and when things develop they do so naturally, not because a checklist has been filled.

What checklist?"

You said: "at what point do you take it seriously? When you discuss meeting? when you arrange a meet? If they fab a photo?"

Sounds like a checklist to me.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"There has always been a great deal of flirting that goes on on the threads of the forums and obviously even more on PMs and the like, but at what point do you take it seriously? When you discuss meeting? when you arrange a meet? If they fab a photo?

I think I _iew flirting slightly differently than people and id be interested to get peoples feedback"

I'm more playful on the forums now I am totally free and that could be misconstrued, but if I carry on flirting with someone in private, I mean it. In general if I flirt properly, I do mean it, I don't lead people on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have no expectations. If and when things develop they do so naturally, not because a checklist has been filled.

What checklist?

You said: "at what point do you take it seriously? When you discuss meeting? when you arrange a meet? If they fab a photo?"

Sounds like a checklist to me. "

I was giving options, asking where and when, not saying at each of those points. I realise that everyone is different and you take it as it comes, some dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always just take it as a bit of fun for both sides, the majority of women on here are confident enough and forward enough to let you know if it's more than that anyway.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I take any flirting / banter on the forums with a huge pinch of salt. I never take it seriously...

I always think if someone is genuinely interested then they would message / chat privately rather than in front of an audience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I _iew flirting slightly differently than people and id be interested to get peoples feedback"

Does an X men wedding proposal count

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I _iew flirting slightly differently than people and id be interested to get peoples feedback

Does an X men wedding proposal count

It depends if its accepted or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I _iew flirting as just a bit of a lark nothing more or less."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I _iew flirting slightly differently than people and id be interested to get peoples feedback

Does an X men wedding proposal count

It depends if its accepted or not"

I'll be Jean Grey you can be Wolverine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I _iew flirting slightly differently than people and id be interested to get peoples feedback

Does an X men wedding proposal count

It depends if its accepted or not

I'll be Jean Grey you can be Wolverine

Sshhhting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirting on the forum threads is just a bit of fun - however if I like the look of that person I would let them know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just flirt for fun on the forums, sometimes it's with those we know already. I think you can tell someone via PM if you'd want to take it further.

Flirting is harmless and half the fun. It's why the flirt emoji was invented.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd love to be able to flirt with guys i don't fancy, it's supposed to be fun. but they take it serious and i'm like...oops...i stopped doing it now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally indifferent to it all, I prefer straight talking and asking in PM.

The public displays of flirting make me barf

most of the time.

Why does this make me want to flirt with you on the forums now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flirting on the forum threads is just a bit of fun - however if I like the look of that person I would let them know

Although I try not to flirt with someone I know I don't want to meet when talking in pm's

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I _iew flirting as an extra dimension within our communication options, rather than just tentative sexual shopping. I don't generally flirt much in the forums as my posts are generally already too long and not as clear as they might be - without adding more into the deal.

Otherwise flirt with sexy and fun people. It's natural to flirt a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't flirt, so I just tell people I want to have sex with that I would like to have sex with them. Sometimes they even do too, which is nice

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

"I can't flirt, so I just tell people I want to have sex with that I would like to have sex with them. Sometimes they even do too, which is nice

I try that and i get a slap in the face, drink thrown at me..... Or a given a list of prices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm truly amazed anyone on the forum actually has sex.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

"I'm truly amazed anyone on the forum actually has sex. "

Really? Shall i show you?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

If someone flirts with me can they please tell me .. I generally miss it.

My flirting involves the tried and tested teenager.. punching the lady on the shoulder. #imuselessatflirting..

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

I am crap at flirting really.....or seeing signs.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm truly amazed anyone on the forum actually has sex. "

I don't whilst I'm on the forums, that would be just rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when it gets taken into the inbox and a couple of messages leads to chatting and flirting for some time with the suggestion of a meet

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Have been flirting with a forumite and am hoping to meet her eventually. In fact come to think of it all my meets have come via this method

this

and ive quite a few friends via the forums

though as yet havent met anyone

via forums"

It's only a matter of time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am crap at flirting really.....or seeing signs........."

Oh I'm awful at sporting signs, verging on legendary. On an 18-30s style holiday many years ago I was invited back to a girls room because "she wanted to change her shoes" to which I replied "no, they look fine"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have been flirting with a forumite and am hoping to meet her eventually. In fact come to think of it all my meets have come via this method

this

and ive quite a few friends via the forums

though as yet havent met anyone

via forums

It's only a matter of time

yes i know and when ido finally get my mitts on you

well put it this way build up that stamina your going to need it

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Have been flirting with a forumite and am hoping to meet her eventually. In fact come to think of it all my meets have come via this method

this

and ive quite a few friends via the forums

though as yet havent met anyone

via forums

It's only a matter of time

yes i know and when ido finally get my mitts on you

well put it this way build up that stamina your going to need it

Am starting now, I spent 6 yrs with an Aberdonian and I know you northern ladies need a lot of loving

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

If I reckon I'm in I send a "fancy a fuck?" message, obviuously.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Not until their head is betwixt my thighs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally can't be bothered to flirt on the forums...i sometimes catch myself about to and then cringe....i prefer to flirt in private.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I generally can't be bothered to flirt on the forums...i sometimes catch myself about to and then cringe....i prefer to flirt in private."

Flirting is overrated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hopeless when it comes to flirting. Never know when someone is flirting with me nor do I intentionally flirt with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have been flirting with a forumite and am hoping to meet her eventually. In fact come to think of it all my meets have come via this method

this

and ive quite a few friends via the forums

though as yet havent met anyone

via forums

It's only a matter of time

yes i know and when ido finally get my mitts on you

well put it this way build up that stamina your going to need it

Am starting now, I spent 6 yrs with an Aberdonian and I know you northern ladies need a lot of loving

that we do and i reckon you like alot of loving to

x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally can't be bothered to flirt on the forums...i sometimes catch myself about to and then cringe....i prefer to flirt in private.

Flirting is overrated. "

Are you flirting with me

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I generally can't be bothered to flirt on the forums...i sometimes catch myself about to and then cringe....i prefer to flirt in private.

Flirting is overrated.

Are you flirting with me

Depends. Does your inbox contain a "fancy a fuck?" message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally can't be bothered to flirt on the forums...i sometimes catch myself about to and then cringe....i prefer to flirt in private.

Flirting is overrated.

Are you flirting with me

Depends. Does your inbox contain a "fancy a fuck?" message?"

It has several "Fuck off" messages. Is that the same thing?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Depends. Does your inbox contain a "fancy a fuck?" message?"

Oi piss off, that's my chat up line

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I generally can't be bothered to flirt on the forums...i sometimes catch myself about to and then cringe....i prefer to flirt in private.

Flirting is overrated.

Are you flirting with me

Depends. Does your inbox contain a "fancy a fuck?" message?

It has several "Fuck off" messages. Is that the same thing?"

Nah - they are more kinky.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

everyone flirts here, whether we intend to or not.... it's why we're here in the first place..flirt, have banter, and maybe, just maybe get some action

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