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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok,in the world of fab we all know the single females are outnumbered greatly by the guys and on the whole I do feel for the decent single guys

. ..what I want to know is do you single fems realise that it's a numbers game and have your feet firmly on the ground or milk it for everything it's worth and take advantage of the fact you can pick and choose from guys that POSSIBLY wouldn't approach you /notice you in the real world. ..appreciate your answers and thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess so. i mean i'm not gonna settle for just anything when i don't have to. but then again i wouldn't do that in the 'real world' either.

tbh i'd rather meet real people and not online, there's too high an amount of people full of shit online.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"i guess so. i mean i'm not gonna settle for just anything when i don't have to. but then again i wouldn't do that in the 'real world' either.

tbh i'd rather meet real people and not online, there's too high an amount of people full of shit online."

Yup, I'd rather have soul food than eye candy, but that's harder to find online.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i guess so. i mean i'm not gonna settle for just anything when i don't have to. but then again i wouldn't do that in the 'real world' either.

tbh i'd rather meet real people and not online, there's too high an amount of people full of shit online."

thanks ...really appreciate your response ...I don't think anyone should settle for just anything ...guys on here included! !!xxx

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

I have a very particular taste in men which carries through in all aspects of my life. I know that I won't appeal to everyone of those guys who would appeal to me. So like to think I have my feet on the ground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you're welcome.

some guys who've contacted me i used to ask them why they wanna meet me because they're hot...they probably thought i was weird. it's only sex really and i get that certain things (many things) turn guys on, more than we realise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?"

Take it with a pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?"

It's utter bollocks. However if they play the game I'll drop my knickers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?

It's utter bollocks. However if they play the game I'll drop my knickers. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a hot man. In real life and on here.

One of the reasons I'm single is because I won't settle for anyone.

The other is coz I'm a whore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot of people will say or do anything just to get sex and that's the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i get the gym fit and muscly guys or the slim guys message me im sat there puzzled for a few minutes as to why they would message me as i know they wouldnt look at me twice in the real world then i just message them back once i have got over that feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?"

I think ...how the hell do you know, as you are obviously basing it on what you see on my profile and not by actually chatting to me face to face!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"a lot of people will say or do anything just to get sex and that's the real world "

true ...it's just easier to spot in the real world I guess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fab is deffo geared for ladies choice and is a candy store where you can choose a hottie you know would never approach you in your local wine bar I guess that's the fun fantasy side of swinging for a lot of ladies I may not be pammy Anderson in real life but on fab I can feel like her.

Being approached made to feel attractive an flirted with is a wonderful ego boost and the good thing about fab is you have lots of choice for what tickles your fancy and 1 ladies brad pitt is another ladies mutley because we all look for different thing is a play mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I now also won't fuck people who have fucked people who I don't think are at the same attractiveness level as me.

I'm picky in real life and here. Why not. I like to get what I want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?

I think ...how the hell do you know, as you are obviously basing it on what you see on my profile and not by actually chatting to me face to face! "

...but do you tell them that? ..delete their message or play along with it? ...or even believe it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?"

oh right, i babble on about shit all the time, sorry...

only guys who i talk to regular, and if it's appropriate that they say that. yeah i feel flattered then and feel like they genuinely mean it.

obviously loads of guys are gonna find you gorgeous (coz there's loads of guys) and many guys will find you gorgeous until they find someone new and think they're more gorgeous. there's plenty of fickle men (and women) about.

i don't need compliments, flattery, or charm and don't believe all of it because i also find it weird that someone would judge you on your looks alone when they don't even know anything about you.

plus plenty of people will talk shit just to get what they want or are crap at socialising so think complimenting you on your looks is the way to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok,in the world of fab we all know the single females are outnumbered greatly by the guys and on the whole I do feel for the decent single guys

. ..what I want to know is do you single fems realise that it's a numbers game and have your feet firmly on the ground or milk it for everything it's worth and take advantage of the fact you can pick and choose from guys that POSSIBLY wouldn't approach you /notice you in the real world. ..appreciate your answers and thoughts "

I have my feet on the ground.

I know my value.

I punch above my weight but have been doing it for so long I had to move up a weight!

By this, I mean that I am attracted to gorgeous guys and for some reason they are attracted yo me too, so it must be more than just the physical because I am perfectly aware of just how average I am.

(And no,no white knighting bullshit please)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?"

Take it with a pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I now also won't fuck people who have fucked people who I don't think are at the same attractiveness level as me.

I'm picky in real life and here. Why not. I like to get what I want. "

interesting. ..does that mean if a potential meet had met people who you felt were more attractive than you you wouldn't meet them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is right, fab is a womans world lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I now also won't fuck people who have fucked people who I don't think are at the same attractiveness level as me.

I'm picky in real life and here. Why not. I like to get what I want.

interesting. ..does that mean if a potential meet had met people who you felt were more attractive than you you wouldn't meet them? "

Yes. If I felt someone was super hot. I'd wonder why they were lowering their standards meeting me.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?"

I take those messages with about a kilo of salt!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I now also won't fuck people who have fucked people who I don't think are at the same attractiveness level as me.

I'm picky in real life and here. Why not. I like to get what I want.

interesting. ..does that mean if a potential meet had met people who you felt were more attractive than you you wouldn't meet them?

Yes. If I felt someone was super hot. I'd wonder why they were lowering their standards meeting me. "

but couldn't /wouldn't you think, hey they've messaged me!they must want to get to know me because they find something in my profile attractive

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

My feet have always been firmly on the floor as far as meets are concerned, I have never succumbed to the "wow you are gorgeous" flattery, I know what I look like thanks plus I have never met anyone that I wouldn't be interested in in the "real world", looks/height/6pack has never been a requirement for me, I know what and who interests me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My feet have always been firmly on the floor as far as meets are concerned, I have never succumbed to the "wow you are gorgeous" flattery, I know what I look like thanks plus I have never met anyone that I wouldn't be interested in in the "real world", looks/height/6pack has never been a requirement for me, I know what and who interests me "

Ok those things haven't ever been a requirement but what if you got a message from a super hot 6 pack ripped guy. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your type of person in real life and a shag via fab are going to be miles apart surely swinging is for fun real life is for relationships and dates ect ect..that's how we view it we look for normal people who look like they are going to be fun and avoid the mirror huggers as much as poss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you cant really blame the ladies that use this place for a break from reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I'll only tell someone I think they look gorgeous if I've seen face pictures. And generally I only message people who fall within a certain category, well the type of women I go for. If you read my veri's you can see I have a sort of type and I tend to meet those.

I guess you can say I am constant. I don't think I've come across many people who play games and lead people on for fun. I think there are some but I'm lucky anyone I have met I've got on with really well and would say I've stayed friends with as well as play mates.

It is difficult for guys because even some of the genuine ones get labelled with the same brush but same time you can't blame women. I get a lot of replies from people who are shocked I've actually read their profile before messaging them. I always say how do you know whose right for you to message if you don't read a profile first! I do find it sadden that I get replies like that, that so many people do not read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok,in the world of fab we all know the single females are outnumbered greatly by the guys and on the whole I do feel for the decent single guys

. ..what I want to know is do you single fems realise that it's a numbers game and have your feet firmly on the ground or milk it for everything it's worth and take advantage of the fact you can pick and choose from guys that POSSIBLY wouldn't approach you /notice you in the real world. ..appreciate your answers and thoughts

I have my feet on the ground.

I know my value.

I punch above my weight but have been doing it for so long I had to move up a weight!

By this, I mean that I am attracted to gorgeous guys and for some reason they are attracted yo me too, so it must be more than just the physical because I am perfectly aware of just how average I am.

(And no,no white knighting bullshit please)"

i'm not white knighting but most people start off as average.

you can shove on some fancy clothes, accessories, and make up and become more than average that way or you can neglect yourself and become less than average.

i don't get how there's supposedly levels of attractiveness and what makes it so? apart from the neglect/booster i mentioned above.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?"

If they say that about my viewable pics I just assume they have a shoe fetish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?

If they say that about my viewable pics I just assume they have a shoe fetish."
well maybe ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when i get the gym fit and muscly guys or the slim guys message me im sat there puzzled for a few minutes as to why they would message me as i know they wouldnt look at me twice in the real world then i just message them back once i have got over that feeling"

Not always the case. In the real world I have been with woman all shapes and sizes because I've seen something attractive in them, whether it's her eyes, smile or she's got nice feet something made me notice her and from there her body size is not even in my mind

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"My feet have always been firmly on the floor as far as meets are concerned, I have never succumbed to the "wow you are gorgeous" flattery, I know what I look like thanks plus I have never met anyone that I wouldn't be interested in in the "real world", looks/height/6pack has never been a requirement for me, I know what and who interests me

Ok those things haven't ever been a requirement but what if you got a message from a super hot 6 pack ripped guy. .. "

I'd say no thank you

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Pragmatism and common sense is a must. I don't meet anyone one on one from here for sex that I wouldn't want to meet randomly in real life and have a chat to. I understand that other people approach fab differently, but that's how it works for me. As to believing the gorgeous bullshit; I appreciate a compliment as much as the next person. But it's usually pretty obvious when it's meant and when it's given for other reasons. If I can be stunning without a face, for example, then we aren't suited since they obviously go for body first when it comes to attraction and I just don't.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"I mean when you get messages saying you're gorgeous /beautiful etc etc are you flattered or do you take it with a pinch of salt...?"

I don't very often get those messages and prefer not too, I think if they say you look nice when you meet its better.

I don't say it myself anyway because its not important, its more important how you treat people, words are just words they don't mean anything.

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