FabSwingers.com forum: They want to meet me at my home. Have I done anything wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had contacted a couple and had a chat in the midnight. Asked for my telephone number which I gave to them. Soon later she called me and wanted to see me at my home. That time I couldn't accommodate them. Later she asked me whether I was an Asian to which question I said "yes" she was not interested.

Two weeks later, soon after I uploaded my third picture she contacted and said she wanted to use my cock as it seemed to be think. I reminded her that I was an indian cock but she was happy with it.

We had a few chat they want to come to my home. I said to her to just meet at costa coffee that very close to me home then we start from there.

They were not willing to see me in a public place or in a shop but she still want to try my cock. Husband only will watch. So many times I said to meet only once outside. I really felt nervous to give my home address.

Very last two days ago, they want to meet me at my home. I said to them, I got a house which on the market to sale. Take an appointment through agency so that I can come over but no bed there. Suddenly they said no no no no. Then blocked me. Do you think I have done anything wrong. ???

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

No.

And DONT speak to them if they come on again.

It's just a nutter after your addy.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Block and ignore

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Sometimes I get dismayed and disheartened at the rudeness some blokes will tolerate in the name of sex.

I wish more of them would realise that no one wanks their cock with the skill and knowledge that they themselves do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Never do anything you don't want to.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

not an attack... more an observation...

they want you to jump thru hoops..... you want them to do the same...

is end really worth all the angst....

if you can't accom you can't accom.... if they don't want to meet socially first, they don't want to meet socially....

it feels like there is game playing going on..... on both sides....

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Sounds suspect to me. I'd give them a wide berth if they contact again.

Odd that they wouldn't meet in a public place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never give in to pressure. Tell them you don't meet at your home and that is your final word. Then block them,no pussy is worth the aggro.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not an attack... more an observation...

they want you to jump thru hoops..... you want them to do the same...

is end really worth all the angst....

if you can't accom you can't accom.... if they don't want to meet socially first, they don't want to meet socially....

it feels like there is game playing going on..... on both sides...."

I don't see him asking them to jump through hoops. He's offered alternatives to his home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You said you wanted to meet in a public place first which is a reasonable condition. If anybody tramples all over someone else's boundaries then they're not worth meeting anyway. Have to respect people's limits. You did the right thing.

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By *u and DuCouple
over a year ago

gosport

"Never do anything you don't want to."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

And DONT speak to them if they come on again.

It's just a nutter after your addy.

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not an attack... more an observation...

they want you to jump thru hoops..... you want them to do the same...

is end really worth all the angst....

if you can't accom you can't accom.... if they don't want to meet socially first, they don't want to meet socially....

it feels like there is game playing going on..... on both sides...."

Why is he game playing because he don't want to give out his address?

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

No you have not done anything wrong. Selling your house or not.. a no is a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should respect your boundaries. Men deserve respect as much as women. Im the first to slate some men for thier behaviour, but i felt they were not accepting of your boundaries and if a man was like that to me he be blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't even waste your time worrying about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Why is he game playing because he don't want to give out his address?"

if someone said to you... "I got a house which on the market to sale. Take an appointment through agency so that I can come over but no bed there"

would you meet them there..... because if you would i think you would be in the minority....

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Only thing you done wrong is not blocking them after they weren't interested last time, and continuing this farce .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"however fast I dance to make the sunshine I will never fall down"

Probably irrelevant but it's a nice lyric...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is he game playing because he don't want to give out his address?

if someone said to you... "I got a house which on the market to sale. Take an appointment through agency so that I can come over but no bed there"

would you meet them there..... because if you would i think you would be in the minority...."

Yes, it is a bit weird.

On the other hand, we always meet socially first. Not going to invite bunny boilers to my house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think you done anything wrong buddy apart from you should have blocked them after they wouldnt meet at costa.

move on dude. Good luck to ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"not an attack... more an observation...

they want you to jump thru hoops..... you want them to do the same...

is end really worth all the angst....

if you can't accom you can't accom.... if they don't want to meet socially first, they don't want to meet socially....

it feels like there is game playing going on..... on both sides....

I don't see him asking them to jump through hoops. He's offered alternatives to his home. "

I am 100% genuine and real. Also I am having a professional job. So I need to be very careful. I could accommodate but I was so scared. Thanks for the messages.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"not an attack... more an observation...

they want you to jump thru hoops..... you want them to do the same...

is end really worth all the angst....

if you can't accom you can't accom.... if they don't want to meet socially first, they don't want to meet socially....

it feels like there is game playing going on..... on both sides....

I don't see him asking them to jump through hoops. He's offered alternatives to his home.

I am 100% genuine and real. Also I am having a professional job. So I need to be very careful. I could accommodate but I was so scared. Thanks for the messages. "

You were right to be wary of anyone who wouldn't meet you in a neutral location before being invited to your home. I would always advise against giving a stranger from the internet your home address, it's common sense.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Why is he game playing because he don't want to give out his address?

if someone said to you... "I got a house which on the market to sale. Take an appointment through agency so that I can come over but no bed there"

would you meet them there..... because if you would i think you would be in the minority....

Yes, it is a bit weird.

On the other hand, we always meet socially first. Not going to invite bunny boilers to my house."
the problem with bunny boilers is you never know until you look in the pot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is he game playing because he don't want to give out his address?

if someone said to you... "I got a house which on the market to sale. Take an appointment through agency so that I can come over but no bed there"

would you meet them there..... because if you would i think you would be in the minority....

Yes, it is a bit weird.

On the other hand, we always meet socially first. Not going to invite bunny boilers to my house.the problem with bunny boilers is you never know until you look in the pot"

Just look in Snowy's eyes on the social, if he is trying to send you frantic signals, don't ignore them (frantic signals include him sliding a paw across his throat, nervous twitching and boarding up his own hutch)

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

They sound like trouble. Don't meet them xxx

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

You've done nothing wrong.

I think guys get a raw deal here. Plenty of us are genuine, but so many women/couples seem to want to take advantage and abuse our goodness.

My general rule is, if they behave suspicious, I've still got my hands, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you had a lucky escape...

Always stick to your guns in situations like that as they invariably turn out to be dodgy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's not a chance in hell that I would ever have anyone from this site back to my house.

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

"I had contacted a couple and had a chat in the midnight. Asked for my telephone number which I gave to them. Soon later she called me and wanted to see me at my home. That time I couldn't accommodate them. Later she asked me whether I was an Asian to which question I said "yes" she was not interested.

Two weeks later, soon after I uploaded my third picture she contacted and said she wanted to use my cock as it seemed to be think. I reminded her that I was an indian cock but she was happy with it.

We had a few chat they want to come to my home. I said to her to just meet at costa coffee that very close to me home then we start from there.

Anything from anyone that makes you hmmm or suspect or even land in forums asking for advice should spell something out.

As for giving out your personal info/address to complete strangers, people you've never met before, dont do it. Meeting people local to you and heading back to yours is one thing. Giving your address to people you've met times before away from yours is another thing. However as already said 'giving out your personal info/address to complete strangers, people you've never met before, dont do it'.

What you've described simply sounds like a pisstaker. Genuine cpls/fems wanting real, genuine meets will not have you with all out suspicion seeking advice on a forum.

Be smart, be wise and have great fun with great people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not an attack... more an observation...

they want you to jump thru hoops..... you want them to do the same...

is end really worth all the angst....

if you can't accom you can't accom.... if they don't want to meet socially first, they don't want to meet socially....

it feels like there is game playing going on..... on both sides...."

How on both sides? He doesn't want them at home without a public meet first, seems fair enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not an attack... more an observation...

they want you to jump thru hoops..... you want them to do the same...

is end really worth all the angst....

if you can't accom you can't accom.... if they don't want to meet socially first, they don't want to meet socially....

it feels like there is game playing going on..... on both sides....

I don't see him asking them to jump through hoops. He's offered alternatives to his home.

I am 100% genuine and real. Also I am having a professional job. So I need to be very careful. I could accommodate but I was so scared. Thanks for the messages. "

Stick to your guns mate, you are in the right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds very dubious to us. If someone won't meet us in a public place to start - we wouldn't meet them full stop. Good enough to shag means good enough to be seen with in Costa coffee. It's a coffee shop - no-one knows why you're there.

You had a lucky escape, probably fantasists anyway.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No. Don't meet them either. Don't answer your phone to them. Only meet people in a public place first. Men need to be aware of safety same as anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the whole of this sounds weird - i would avoid them if it was me i would feel uneasy and thats not how it should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's not a chance in hell that I would ever have anyone from this site back to my house. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds suspect to me. I'd give them a wide berth if they contact again.

Odd that they wouldn't meet in a public place. "

Honestly? I don't.

Experience has shown many couples don't either do socials or will refuse to meet elsewhere.

Demanding you go straight to their house as "our family and friends live nearby and we don't want them knowing what we do".

Hoops to jump through - "my way or the highway".

They are the ones actively seeking the single bi-fem but expect all the rules their way too!

I don't have an issue with the privacy/discretion.

I have an issue with walking into something I have no idea of what is going to potentially occur.

All the veri's in the world can't help you when it's hubby and friends rather than the wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only thing you done wrong is not blocking them after they weren't interested last time, and continuing this farce . "

I haven't blocked them. They blocked me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Only thing you done wrong is not blocking them after they weren't interested last time, and continuing this farce .

I haven't blocked them. They blocked me. "

You can block them yourself even though you're blocked to stop them contacting you.

In swinging, if you have any doubts - trust your gut feeling and let your brain do the thinking, not your cock.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Ledbury

I think, were I the OP, my response wouthd be something along the lines of: fuck the fuck off.

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By *iss AdventureWoman
over a year ago

Wonderland

Being a naturally cautious person, there is no way I would give someone my address before I've met them. I wouldn't do it in normal life and I wouldn't do here.

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By *emon tart Double creamCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Sounds to me like they wanted Indian cock but were embarrassed to be seen with you. It was probably both of their fantasies to see her have sex with a foreign guy.

You weren't going to just meet them without a social which is fully understandable so they moved on.

You were right not to give anything away if it didn't feel right.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Only thing you done wrong is not blocking them after they weren't interested last time, and continuing this farce .

I haven't blocked them. They blocked me. "

I'd still block them as it seems clear that they are wrong for you. As others state, always stick within your own boundaries.

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