FabSwingers.com forum: Slim Pretty=Respectful Messages? Overweight Ugly= Disrespectful Messages?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are people more respectful with their messages when chancing their luck messaging the more attractive people?

Do you think people tailor the respectfulness of the messages they send according to how attractive or unattractive the recipient is ?

What do you think?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I have the body of a Greek god, I never get disrespectful messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be surprised if people do that. Not surprised but maybe disappointed by their shallowness.

I try to treat all members the same regardless of age, size etc (I do prefer a larger lady!)

We're all human after all, we all hurt, we all bleed the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To a point yes, They may be more forgiving and let them try again over a few more messages, But a dick is a dick at the end of the day and I don't mean his dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh to get messages, lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have the body of a Greek god, I never get disrespectful messages"

What have I told you about kidnapping Greek Gods? You know what happened last time

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By *ofUs4UCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

We don't get any horrible messages and im a big girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have the body of a Greek god, I never get disrespectful messages"

I have the body of a god..... Buddha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't get any horrible messages and im a big girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are people more respectful with their messages when chancing their luck messaging the more attractive people?

Do you think people tailor the respectfulness of the messages they send according to how attractive or unattractive the recipient is ?

What do you think?"

What if they are slim and ugly.....it happens yanno

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

slim and pretty and overweight and ugly hmmmmm so you saying you cant be slim and ugly or oevrweight and pretty ?

Anyway back to the ops question ...I don't see it makes a difference in sure many women have been abused in this way at some point on here and thats down to the idiotic people who choose to be like that towards others and nothing to do with whether your slim or overweight or pretty or ugly .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not consxiouwly that would be stupid. But subconciouwly if you really fancy someone your more inclined to make 'morw of an effort' imo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not consxiouwly that would be stupid. But subconciouwly if you really fancy someone your more inclined to make 'morw of an effort' imo x"

Cant type for toffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't get any horrible messages and im a big girl.

I'm no oil painting and would never win any best body competition but I don't really get any rude messages either unless I've turned them down for a meet but I just take that as dummy spitting and they would be rude to any women who said no regardless of her look

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I haven't found this

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"I have the body of a Greek god, I never get disrespectful messages

What have I told you about kidnapping Greek Gods? You know what happened last time

I find that disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what a load of tosh! I fail to see how anyone can tell from a couple of extremely trimmed down pics whether a person is attractive or not...

I think the majority of men on here are just chancers and use the buckshot approach anyway, which has absolutely no bearing on how attractive or not anyone is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can count on one hand how many abusive messages we have had.

Don't think it's an issue.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Personally once I've decided to message someone (which is rare cos I'm a lazy bugger) I like to put a bit of effort into it as by choosing to send a message I've already decided that they are attractive (to me at least). I'm hardly gonna waste my time and theirs by messaging people I don't find attractive.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

It stands to reason that most people will make more of an effort with someone who looks attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always respectful lol, but I've found the more "attractive" they are (or think they are), then they're not respectful back. I've only been rude if they're rude or have an attitude lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It stands to reason that most people will make more of an effort with someone who looks attractive."

I does not however stand to reason why somebody would even mail somebody in the first place that they didn't find attractive

To me anyway

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

It's a man thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a body like my viking ancestors and I always get and send nice messages

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I get loads of crap messages if that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got a body like my viking ancestors and I always get and send nice messages

I always think Vikings as having big beer bellies and hairy chests

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I started off on here as a fat girl. I have stayed on here as I've moved from fat to podgy. The type of messages I get hasn't really changed. Some good, some bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got a body like my viking ancestors and I always get and send nice messages

I always think Vikings as having big beer bellies and hairy chests

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Yes some are and they do like their beer, but most are strong and muscular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my messages are lovely and respectful despite being a fat ugly old bird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men grovel to the hot women and us fatties should be grateful for getting messages from anyone half decent.

Is that what you meant? Only,it says on my profile that I'm fat,yet I don't get disrespectful messages,even after saying no ta.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got a body like my viking ancestors and I always get and send nice messages

You do know that Vikings didn't have gyms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt there's a difference. I think its one of two things (1) some people are just shit at rejection and respond negatively, (2) some people have bad attitudes and invite negative responses.

I doubt weight or attraction plays a noticeable role.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As of yet I've not received any offensive messages, though it's early days. But not likely to for the time being as my profile on Stealth mode

To be honest I don't imagine people bat an eyelash at rude messages,as it says more about the sender than the recipient. I'd just pop them on block and carry on having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got a body like my viking ancestors and I always get and send nice messages

You do know that Vikings didn't have gyms?

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That is right I do, they build their muscles by natural resources you know.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Are people more respectful with their messages when chancing their luck messaging the more attractive people?

Do you think people tailor the respectfulness of the messages they send according to how attractive or unattractive the recipient is ?

What do you think?"

We tend to only message (with a view to meeting) those who we think we might find attractive.

Yes we try and tailor messages to people by picking out something from their photos or text. We don't have a respectful scale that we work to according to 'hotness'.

We can count without running out of digits the amount of abusive messages we've had while on here.

So in my opinion, no.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I treat any female I message on fab exactly the same regardless of looks, a nice smile and a gsoh does it for me these days

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I doubt there's a difference. I think its one of two things (1) some people are just shit at rejection and respond negatively, (2) some people have bad attitudes and invite negative responses.

I doubt weight or attraction plays a noticeable role."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to think I treat every one with the same level of respect regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm interested in the logic behind your name considering you describe yourself as athletic and your profile alludes to the fact you've been her before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are,of course,people who come onto the forums to have a dig at the not so slim women on here.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I have noticed that a single F and MF couples that are mainly looking for black men tend to send quite different messages to those who aren't looking for any particular type.

It shouldn't be like that but is how the cookie crumbles nowadays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are people more respectful with their messages when chancing their luck messaging the more attractive people?

Do you think people tailor the respectfulness of the messages they send according to how attractive or unattractive the recipient is ?

What do you think?"
We generally find that the respectfulness of the messages is directly related to the vagina/penis ration of the senders...

i.e.

1 penis, 1 vagina - Polite, respectful, normally a informative message

1 penis, 0 vagina - Short, presumptive and sometimes quite rude (in about 99% of cases...

0 penis, 1 vagina - Unable or unwilling to send messages to us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in the logic behind your name considering you describe yourself as athletic and your profile alludes to the fact you've been her before?"

Well his user name is plural so maybe the fat swingers is aimed towards the users on here rather than himself

Just a thought

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"I'm interested in the logic behind your name considering you describe yourself as athletic and your profile alludes to the fact you've been her before?

Well his user name is plural so maybe the fat swingers is aimed towards the users on here rather than himself

Just a thought

You may have hit the nail on the head. My answer would have been the same regardless, having had a foot in both camps (so to speak).

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

No I dont get rude messages because I am fat. I am pretty lucky that people are quite pleasant to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are people more respectful with their messages when chancing their luck messaging the more attractive people?

Do you think people tailor the respectfulness of the messages they send according to how attractive or unattractive the recipient is ?

What do you think?We generally find that the respectfulness of the messages is directly related to the vagina/penis ration of the senders...

i.e.

1 penis, 1 vagina - Polite, respectful, normally a informative message

1 penis, 0 vagina - Short, presumptive and sometimes quite rude (in about 99% of cases...

0 penis, 1 vagina - Unable or unwilling to send messages to us...

I like to think i am in the 1% when it comes to respectful messages. Also not one to throw the toys around if its a no. this site is about fun, not jealous or sour grapes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im non judge mental I have no right to judge if you dont attract me thats it but I never send hurtful messages ... what give us the right to put someone down xx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I'm interested in the logic behind your name considering you describe yourself as athletic and your profile alludes to the fact you've been her before?

Well his user name is plural so maybe the fat swingers is aimed towards the users on here rather than himself

Just a thought

You may have hit the nail on the head. My answer would have been the same regardless, having had a foot in both camps (so to speak)."

It's also bloody rich to slag off people on here and not have any pics of yourself OP I wonder why you don't have any to show how athletic you really are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like to discriminate.

I'm equally a cunt to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I'm curious since you asked the question...

Do you tailor the respectfulness of your messages according to how attractive or unattractive the recipient is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in the logic behind your name considering you describe yourself as athletic and your profile alludes to the fact you've been her before?

Well his user name is plural so maybe the fat swingers is aimed towards the users on here rather than himself

Just a thought

Are you trying to tell me he's just a bitter troll?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in the logic behind your name considering you describe yourself as athletic and your profile alludes to the fact you've been her before?

Well his user name is plural so maybe the fat swingers is aimed towards the users on here rather than himself

Just a thought

You may have hit the nail on the head. My answer would have been the same regardless, having had a foot in both camps (so to speak).

It's also bloody rich to slag off people on here and not have any pics of yourself OP I wonder why you don't have any to show how athletic you really are

That was going to be my next guess, maybe he's fab athletic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like to discriminate.

I'm equally a cunt to everyone

I feel sad for your mum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in the logic behind your name considering you describe yourself as athletic and your profile alludes to the fact you've been her before?

Well his user name is plural so maybe the fat swingers is aimed towards the users on here rather than himself

Just a thought

Are you trying to tell me he's just a bitter troll?

No I could be wrong I'm only guessing

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I have never sent or received a disrespectful message. If I, we ever do I'm sure I would report it.

The strange request or slightly illegal request yes but non disrespectful received.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I so fucking want to.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Spit it out, Lib

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I so fucking want to."

Do it

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I so fucking want to."

Don't risk it lol - why some people just want to troll is beyond me but the OP seems to be staying away from his own thread, I wonder why?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have the body of a Greek god, I never get disrespectful messages

What have I told you about kidnapping Greek Gods? You know what happened last time

I find that disrespectful

You ain't seen nuffin yet Apollo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are,of course,people who come onto the forums to have a dig at the not so slim women on here. "

Equally there are plenty who have a range of digs reserved for slim women. Apparently variety is the spice of life when it comes to small minded insults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are,of course,people who come onto the forums to have a dig at the not so slim women on here.

Equally there are plenty who have a range of digs reserved for slim women. Apparently variety is the spice of life when it comes to small minded insults. "

My insults are never "small" minded, lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Are people more respectful with their messages when chancing their luck messaging the more attractive people?

Do you think people tailor the respectfulness of the messages they send according to how attractive or unattractive the recipient is ?

What do you think?"

I have been on site seven years. Beyonce I'm not yet I've only had one disrespectful message...so, my personal experience is no.

I do however, believe sycophantic messages are sent in the hope flattery will get you somewhere!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I can imagine that the greater someone's desires are for another then the more that they will invest into trying to secure their shag.

More effort on the messages that they send, where they might take them for a social meet etc.

I respect everyone but some are happy not to. They will be very clear that they have lashings of respect for their target of interest.

I can get a little excited when I'm with someone who I really fancy but I need their input and feedback to help it rise - I'm not into one way streets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would only message someone I found attractive and who I thought might find me attractive too.

My messages would, therefore, only ever be worded in a manner that would hopefully lead to a positive response.

To that end, being 'disrespectful' wouldn't really be all that wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of my messages are lovely and respectful despite being a fat ugly old bird

That's because you're actually gorgeous! ...Unless those pictures on your profile are someone else!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I missing the point?!

Surely you only message people you find attractive whether they are deemed to be fat / slim / ugly / pretty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I missing the point?!

Surely you only message people you find attractive whether they are deemed to be fat / slim / ugly / pretty.

that was pretty much what I was going to say. Why message someone you didn't like !!

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Am I missing the point?!

Surely you only message people you find attractive whether they are deemed to be fat / slim / ugly / pretty.

No it doesn't work like that, you message people who you think will want to have sex with you or who likes the same things as you do.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

What are these things 'messages'..??

I thought my inbox was only for show.. you mean it works ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I missing the point?!

Surely you only message people you find attractive whether they are deemed to be fat / slim / ugly / pretty.

No it doesn't work like that, you message people who you think will want to have sex with you or who likes the same things as you do."

Absolutely. The horny man is like electricity. He will follow the path of least resistance.

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