FabSwingers.com forum: Is this the F or M half

By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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Always amuses me the number of people that happily chat to you ( generally without reading the profile ) and assume they are talking to the Mrs, however as soon as its pointed out to them that it's the Mr, the messages dry up and they go offline. We are just here to chat for now anyway and it does not bother me, however if they really thought about it they must understand that both half of the couple need to be happy if any meets are ever going to be on the cards. Anyway, just makes me smile. Have a great day people X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll chat with anyone.....I haven't any freinds you see

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

We both chat in ours

As it's both of us in this too

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Always amuses me the number of people that happily chat to you ( generally without reading the profile ) and assume they are talking to the Mrs, however as soon as its pointed out to them that it's the Mr, the messages dry up and they go offline. We are just here to chat for now anyway and it does not bother me, however if they really thought about it they must understand that both half of the couple need to be happy if any meets are ever going to be on the cards. Anyway, just makes me smile. Have a great day people X "

You look nice in that nurses uniform Mr oswestry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the other hand, I find that couples message me and rarely say which half is messaging. I'm less inclined to reply unless it's clear.

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By *andaCouple
over a year ago

co down

Yes we normally ask straight away and tell them who their chatting to. In case they forget

Mrs signs off with

and mr doesn't!

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

As it's me mostly that's on here and posting, I've set the profile pic, profile heading and status accordingly, to help avoid doubt or confusion.

When we're looking to meet as a couple, I change them.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

We both chat. I always sign mine so people know it's me, he doesn't. But he does say if it looks like it's been written by a 5yr old, it's from him lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll talk to either, if all else fails I talk to myself

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By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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"On the other hand, I find that couples message me and rarely say which half is messaging. I'm less inclined to reply unless it's clear. "

I think it's important to make things clear as early as possible really, although if ever we send a message out to someone who has not contacted us we are both always there as we would have made a joint decision to do so and we would always sign from both of us. X

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I used to assume that when chatting to Couples that any messages that ended with a x were from the F, I have since found out that is not always the case

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why don't you show a pic of the male when the male is chatting and a pic of the female when it is her chatting.

You could change your status to reflect this.

I don't think it's odd for a bloke to see a pair of boobs and to assume he's talking to a female.

And some men just want to chat to a female not another bloke so there's nothing sinister in the chat drying up.

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

"We both chat. I always sign mine so people know it's me, he doesn't. But he does say if it looks like it's been written by a 5yr old, it's from him lol

So it is you or him posting?

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By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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"Why don't you show a pic of the male when the male is chatting and a pic of the female when it is her chatting.

You could change your status to reflect this.

I don't think it's odd for a bloke to see a pair of boobs and to assume he's talking to a female.

And some men just want to chat to a female not another bloke so there's nothing sinister in the chat drying up.

To be honest I don't think the changing profile phot would resolve matters as we both log in throughout the day to reply to messages etc, so it would still confuse people.

It's not that I think it's sinister, I just find it a shame that people messaging a couple are not wanting to chat to both halves of the couple. It just makes me smile. X

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By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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"We both chat. I always sign mine so people know it's me, he doesn't. But he does say if it looks like it's been written by a 5yr old, it's from him lol

So it is you or him posting?

In this instance it's Mr writing but with Mrs watching the forums closely lol X

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Always amuses me the number of people that happily chat to you ( generally without reading the profile ) and assume they are talking to the Mrs"

I think it's easy to just assume that you're interacting with the person in the Avatar.

Cal

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By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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"Always amuses me the number of people that happily chat to you ( generally without reading the profile ) and assume they are talking to the Mrs

I think it's easy to just assume that you're interacting with the person in the Avatar.

Cal "

To be honest I have no issue with the assumptions being made, just find it funny when they don't want to chat to male halves and stop writing g back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha...few homophones out there I reckon!!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I always sign off miss when its me chatting as it can be confusing .

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By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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"I always sign off miss when its me chatting as it can be confusing ."

Normally the conversation goes like this:

Them: hi

Me: hi

Them: how are you

Me: great, just having a cups etc

Them: cool, is this F or M

Me: it's Mr O, what you up to

Them: ...... .....(end of messages lol)

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

If using our couples profile I sign off JG so they know.

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl

I like to talk for the sake of talking as I'm here to get to know people even if it's an goldfish il chat it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile clearly says who uses it but guys still usually ask if it's the m or f ... annoys me !

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

Yes its quite funny actually when they realise they are chatting frank up instead of betty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually find the opposite - people assume that they are talking to my male partner, when in fact they are talking to me.

They usually make some comments about how his 'wife' has great tits or something. So I point out that I wouldn't marry him if you paid me a million pounds...

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"We both chat. I always sign mine so people know it's me, he doesn't. But he does say if it looks like it's been written by a 5yr old, it's from him lol

So it is you or him posting?

Haha, he never steps foot near the forum!

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I think I'm the F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally ask by the second email as most don't think to say, but I will happy chat to both, helps kill time when it's a slow day

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

95%of the time is me (mrs) but we always say who is talking.

Mrsxx

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By *ristol_MTB_cplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Had an odd one the other day in response to the "dirty message thread" first message was describing a situation and wasn't really directed at either one of us. I (m) responded clearly referencing my wife in the third person, the guy's next message was something along the lines of "I want you to bounce on my cock while I finger your ass hole" made me chuckle as he was straight.

Generally with messages I'll sign off from both of us with my wife's name in brackets, as communication involves both of us, but it make it clear who's speaking at that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite enjoy chatting to the male half as much as the female

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By *ndianswingers.Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

I'm online most of the time whilst hubby at work then both on together later at night x

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Don't mind chatting to both the male or the female of a couple as long as I know which one at the time of chatting, after all you need to get on with them both if there is to be a potential meet as a threesome & to be fair the male half is sharing his partner with you, so there has to be respect in that case.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We find its often the opposite and people assume it's the male half they're chatting to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because in reality everyone are after the mrs in the couple profiles lol.

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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago

Lichfield

My wife always adds x's to her conversations. I don't.

Had to smile reading about conversations drying up when male half continues the conversation with a male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What frustrates me is when I point out it's me (Ads) talking and they carry on suggesting they're going to pound my pussy then they moan if A couple blocks single men

-Ads

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Always amuses me the number of people that happily chat to you ( generally without reading the profile ) and assume they are talking to the Mrs, "

Have you conside_ed having an avatar of the two of you? When I'm listening to someone talk while staring at a pair of boobs I tend to assume I'm talking to a woman too!

Mr ddc

(We also simply sign our initial posts and PMs to avoid confusion - you'd be surprised how many people aren't psychic

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Why don't you show a pic of the male when the male is chatting and a pic of the female when it is her chatting.

You could change your status to reflect this.

I don't think it's odd for a bloke to see a pair of boobs and to assume he's talking to a female.

And some men just want to chat to a female not another bloke so there's nothing sinister in the chat drying up.

Exactly Granny, get yer tits out

My granddad had 3 nipples btw, so I'll know if you have photoshopped a pic of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we had our couples profile the guys always assumed it was the Mrs they where chatting to, and like you, as soon as you point out its the male, silence

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By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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"Exactly Granny, get yer tits out

My granddad had 3 nipples btw, so I'll know if you have photoshopped a pic of him

Don't understand that one sorry

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"When we had our couples profile the guys always assumed it was the Mrs they where chatting to, and like you, as soon as you point out its the male, silence

Did you really want to talk to them, yourself, then?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Exactly Granny, get yer tits out

My granddad had 3 nipples btw, so I'll know if you have photoshopped a pic of him

Don't understand that one sorry

It was just a reference to Granny's comment about changing your avatar pic about who's posting at that particular time

Some folk put a signature after posting when on a couple's profile, i.e. -Courtney, but most of us know it's her posting anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we had our couples profile the guys always assumed it was the Mrs they where chatting to, and like you, as soon as you point out its the male, silence

Did you really want to talk to them, yourself, then?"

I chat to anyone who messaged us, Mrs only looked at conversations I'd had but the first couple of messages that where sent where pretty generic, was only when they tried cyber sex I had to point out it was the male of the couple online, they usually said sorry and that was it, never heard from them again.

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By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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"Exactly Granny, get yer tits out

My granddad had 3 nipples btw, so I'll know if you have photoshopped a pic of him

Don't understand that one sorry

It was just a reference to Granny's comment about changing your avatar pic about who's posting at that particular time

Some folk put a signature after posting when on a couple's profile, i.e. -Courtney, but most of us know it's her posting anyway

Cheers...I've been told I can be a bit slow at times

, thanks for posting back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gentleman only ever addresses in the plural.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"When we had our couples profile the guys always assumed it was the Mrs they where chatting to, and like you, as soon as you point out its the male, silence

Did you really want to talk to them, yourself, then?

So if you didn't want cyber-sex with them, and they stopped replying, then I don't see the actual problem.

I still think, as above, it is surprising the number of people who send mail or post from a couples account, without saying who it's from, and then get miffed when the other person guesses wrong.

Sometimes we truely are the masters of our own fate...

(Ps, if you're still not sure, I'm the short bald one on the right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We read all messages together or don't respond until we've both read it and have agreed on a response. If you message us then you're chatting to us both!

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

If I find out it's the Mr I'm talking to makes no difference as nothing should happen without his knowledge/approval/participation anyhow, as you say.

I might swap x's for Smiley's though. And am careful if they claim the missus is shampooing the goldfish and can't chat... ever.

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

"I always sign off miss when its me chatting as it can be confusing .

Normally the conversation goes like this:

Them: hi

Me: hi

Them: how are you

Me: great, just having a cups etc

Them: cool, is this F or M

Me: it's Mr O, what you up to

Them: ...... .....(end of messages lol)"

I'd just compliment you on your OHs ladybumps.. I'm getting distracted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we had our couples profile the guys always assumed it was the Mrs they where chatting to, and like you, as soon as you point out its the male, silence

Did you really want to talk to them, yourself, then?

So if you didn't want cyber-sex with them, and they stopped replying, then I don't see the actual problem.

I still think, as above, it is surprising the number of people who send mail or post from a couples account, without saying who it's from, and then get miffed when the other person guesses wrong.

Sometimes we truely are the masters of our own fate...

(Ps, if you're still not sure, I'm the short bald one on the right

We only ever messaged other couples initially, guys would message us assuming it's just the Mrs managing the account and a lot of other couples seemed to have the same issue as ourselves, anyway, we ditched the couples profile cause it just wasn't working for us.

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By *awtynNice OP Couple
over a year ago

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There seems to be some confusion in here, so just to make it clear.

If we message people we always sign from both as we are looking to take things further and we do everything together.

If one of us is responding to a random message that says hi we do try and let the people know who is responding as soon as possible, usually in the first message although if not I tend to use very blokey language that is a give away.

I do not get pissed-off or annoyed, it just makes me smile that some people don't want to chat to the man as well as the woman when looking to play with a couple.

Hope that makes sense.

Mr O xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for clearing that up, think I went down the wrong road with this thread

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Hope that makes sense.

Mr O xxx

Ty.

Our experience is that those sort are the ones who only want to talk dirty to Mrs ddc, rather than meet, so we have a very generic, plain, 'sorry, we don't do sexy chat' style message for them, then wish them well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its happened to me numerous times. But I'm more than happy to chat to both, had some great chats on here with the Mr of a couple!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Why don't you show a pic of the male when the male is chatting and a pic of the female when it is her chatting.

You could change your status to reflect this.

I don't think it's odd for a bloke to see a pair of boobs and to assume he's talking to a female.

And some men just want to chat to a female not another bloke so there's nothing sinister in the chat drying up.

Exactly Granny, get yer tits out

My granddad had 3 nipples btw, so I'll know if you have photoshopped a pic of him

I'm wearing them for ear muffs this morning........

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Sorry I should have signed that.

Granny.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Sorry I should have signed that.

Granny."

Fancy a fuck Granny

- Ace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy too chat too either half of a couple, and always address opening messages too both of them, i think it is important too respect they are a couple rather than focusing your attention too one or the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

M here............. 'Oh you've gone !'

Happens all the while . For the record , James types in blue ....Louise types in fuschia (pink) ??

Amazing how some can't work that out !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Mr) never say who is messaging unless the other person starts the filthy chat then I'll let them know it's me and like magic the messages stop which works fine for me as I've no interest in talking dirty to anyone on here

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

I'll always assume both partners who are present and in full knowledge of the conversation as it happens. However, it's pretty easy to tell whether it's him or her who I'm chatting with, after a couple of messages. I do have good instincts though, so maybe that helps.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

If people aren't happy chatting to both of us on here we assume they wouldn't want to chat to both of us on a meet...Even if P's playing solo it's our joint decision that chooses who she plays with so if there's no chat there's no meet.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

It's just plain laziness. That's probably why they don't get many meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We both chat in ours

As it's both of us in this too "

Same here, though Blondie isn't so fond of the forums so that is usually me, but on messages you pays ya money, you takes ya chance, as it could be either one of us, or both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can usually tell ifs the mr chatting from a couples profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some couples confuse me - one couple had all female pictures but the guy was the messenger and asking what kind of stuff I enjoyed or would like to do to his wife etc. I'm sure it was a bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some couples confuse me - one couple had all female pictures but the guy was the messenger and asking what kind of stuff I enjoyed or would like to do to his wife etc. I'm sure it was a bloke

As in just a bloke, sounded a little daft there....

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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago

Lichfield

"If people aren't happy chatting to both of us on here we assume they wouldn't want to chat to both of us on a meet...Even if P's playing solo it's our joint decision that chooses who she plays with so if there's no chat there's no meet."

Yep. Sounds familiar. Lots of men wanting to chat up A, ignore the profile and test the waters to see if she wants to meet without me when A has a friendly conversation with them. They kind of forget that I can see their messages too.

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