FabSwingers.com forum: married men

By *e65 OP Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

this thread has been done to death fella and tbh you may end up getting a roasting from some given the issue..

there are countless threads about this..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A raw deal? What deal were you expecting?

It's difficult for a single man but fewer people will meet married men making it even more difficult for them. It isn't impossible though there are quite a few men who are married and meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the person as a whole not their martial status. As a man you are competing against 1000's of others, many who have better profiles & maybe less ties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe elaborate on why your sex life has taken a downturn? If the woman who loves you doesn't even want to have sex with you, why should anyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you think it's because your married. Yes it's a put off but your profile sucks and there are loads single guys out there all looking for the same thing

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By *e65 OP Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Thanks for your messages , some more helpful than others , some just rood

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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I think the biggest issue is the dishonesty and deceit really. Most people who become swingers and stay swingers do so because they have a really powerful relationship based on openness, trust, integrity and fantastic sex. The scene offers and extension to their already great relationship. Therefore if a man or woman is married and playing without their partners knowledge it goes against everything that brings people into the scene and this could be why your having issues. However there are also lots of married people playing with their partners permission and as long as this can be verified then there are lots of people open to it. I have no idea if you have permission or not but hope you can see the point. Perhaps a sex site might fulfill your needs more than a swinging site. Hope that makes sense and hope you manage to find your way going forward. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks for your messages , some more helpful than others , some just rood "

You haven't asked for advice on your profile so I won't give it but have you tried a club or investigated the possibility of an organised social in your area?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

What were you expecting from the site ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is right. You will find out it is ok to be a married woman. Cos many would over look it cos there are few women here lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

It's not just you.

Without looking at your profile, so I'm making no personal judgement here, it tends to be the married fellas who have bugger all in their profile, won't socialise, won't go to clubs, don't join in who end up blaming the fact they are married, when it may be that they're just not doing anything to make themselves more appealing than the 20,000 other men on here.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thanks for your messages , some more helpful than others , some just rood "

Not one reply to you has been rude. If you don't want to hear answers, don't as the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for your messages , some more helpful than others , some just rood "

You think that was rude?

I guess you're new to the forums too

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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"That is right. You will find out it is ok to be a married woman. Cos many would over look it cos there are few women here lol.

Have to be honest if it's a man or woman we would stay clear and have done so many times over the years in the scene, but you are still right many would over look the issue with a woman. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems that generally married men struggle more to get a meet. Many people won't meet them because they don't like meeting cheats. Also married men often have less available time to meet which can make it difficult to organise a meet.

We will meet married men however as we only meet at a club many married men worry about having to show the club some I.D. as they worry their about their wives finding out. Also because we say we want more than a quick 30 minute meet they often back out of meeting because they simply can't meet for very long without their wife wondering where they are !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for your messages , some more helpful than others , some just rood "

Who was rude???

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By *e65 OP Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Am new too all this , just looking for a woman in same boat as me , didn't think it was too much to ask for , I know I am only 1 of hundreds of men online up this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past when i was a single fem i met at hotels etc. I stopped meeting married men after a while because their wives often found out what they were up to, usually by looking at the guys phone or phone bill. I got fed up of getting phone calls from angry wives, especially when i hadn't known the guy was married !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I see and read it's hard to get meets if your single or a couple so it's really not surprising that it is really hard for a married man to get meets, best get used to it because it wont get any better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for your messages , some more helpful than others , some just rood "

You post on an open forum so you should expect good and bad feedback...

Suck it up buttercup

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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In all honesty perhaps swinging is not the best place for you. Might be worth trying your luck on a site like .illicitencounters, hope that helps x

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I think there are websites for those seeking extramarital affairs. You might have a better chance there as I assume everyone will be in the same boat.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I think there are websites for those seeking extramarital affairs. You might have a better chance there as I assume everyone will be in the same boat."

there are and from what iv'e heard they charge so that will for some guys n gals possibly present an awkward question once the credit card bill comes in..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

Your wife might want to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you do is your choice but what if it was the other way round and your wife was looking what would you say??

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

Not even the one their married to.

Cal

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

In general its tough for all men,however some have great pics and profiles which help them meet.

I wouldnt meet a married men,but some women do.Update your profile with what you can offer and add some pics .Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

A raw deal? No. You make your own luck here. No one owes you anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

No less than you deserve in my eyes

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I'll say two things to the OP

1. Your profile does suck, no pictures, lousey write up, totally unattractive. You don't have to put a face picture but surely you can come up with a few

2. Ignore the moralists here - lots of us don't mind married men. For me, I understand everyone's situation is unique and if you're honest and upfront about being married, I don't care. But if you lie and pretend to be single then that pisses the shit out of me and believe me a married man playing single is the EASIEST thing to detect, there are so many clues. So don't lie about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a bit rude and against the rules to give profile advice when it hasnt been requested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a bit rude and against the rules to give profile advice when it hasnt been requested."

Technically, he did ask for comparison: "is it just me?" he asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look at the person as a whole not their martial status. As a man you are competing against 1000's of others, many who have better profiles & maybe less ties."

Well said RoxiAnne. We all make our own choices in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

You think your getting a raw deal, think about you wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married here but my wife has her own profile too, so she knows about every meet I have, still less than hers but I have found regardless if the partner is aware their husband is on here, most still don't want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is right. You will find out it is ok to be a married woman. Cos many would over look it cos there are few women here lol.

Have to be honest if it's a man or woman we would stay clear and have done so many times over the years in the scene, but you are still right many would over look the issue with a woman. X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a bit rude and against the rules to give profile advice when it hasnt been requested.

Technically, he did ask for comparison: "is it just me?" he asked. "
i suppose...but then theres constructive advice and your profiles sucks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't understand the concept of "raw deal"...

...Why do single/married men believe that they cannot take as much control over meeting people as those they complain about?

It makes every single (married) man sound desperate, needy and miserable. You can get meets with other people, you just have to present yourself to people and see if their is a mutual attraction. If there isn't, move on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a bit rude and against the rules to give profile advice when it hasnt been requested.

Technically, he did ask for comparison: "is it just me?" he asked. i suppose...but then theres constructive advice and your profiles sucks..."

Like a dyson?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married here but my wife has her own profile too, so she knows about every meet I have, still less than hers but I have found regardless if the partner is aware their husband is on here, most still don't want to meet."

This scenario ^^ opens up another dynamic for me that's why I'm not keen to meet couples playing seperately, maybe others feel the same way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This scenario ^^ opens up another dynamic for me that's why I'm not keen to meet couples playing seperately, maybe others feel the same way?"

I think the majority do think the same as I've not had much luck when it comes to messaging couples who are looking for guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is not a matter that a girl married or not. Once she decided to get fucked, she would do it.

I am still looking for my mallu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe elaborate on why your sex life has taken a downturn? If the woman who loves you doesn't even want to have sex with you, why should anyone else?"

Now this is a comment that wouldn't be said if it was a woman posting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looooooong Sigh

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

People get what they earn on here. If you're not getting what you want, then you haven't earned it, and YOU need to make some changes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe elaborate on why your sex life has taken a downturn? If the woman who loves you doesn't even want to have sex with you, why should anyone else?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

You think your getting a raw deal, think about you wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married men on here .it must be a hardship . What must the wife think .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe elaborate on why your sex life has taken a downturn? If the woman who loves you doesn't even want to have sex with you, why should anyone else?"
brutal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only an idiot would tell the truth if you were selling a car you wouldt mention the defects ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

No more than the wife I guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no

I know what you mean. My wife won't touch me

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