FabSwingers.com forum: It saddens me

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

vanilla men just arent compatible with fetish and swinging lifestyle experience. they dont understand what people get out of it, and im not fond of persuading or having a man as a project. growing together is one thing, reluctance, is quite another.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I get it a lot, I get asked what's wrong with me to be on fab and that I should be getting any guy I want...I'm on fab because I like kinky mind blowing sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant."

Chill

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

First of all sorry that you feel saddened.

I think they are just trying to pay you a compliment. No one really needs to be here, we choose to be here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often get comments like "your too sweet to be on here" but I find most of the ladies on site are quite lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's just something they say. Should I be worried that no one has ever said it to me?

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By *nlyme1978Man
over a year ago

Somewhere Near You

It's hard for simple minds to think the opposite sex could have the same devilish dirty wants and desires as us men the fact is everyone no matter who it is has a secret side they done always want to portray in front of friends and family.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

it's another ploy to get you to meet them the sad buggers.

Nobody ever told me too good for here I must be one he'll of a minger

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"It's hard for simple minds to think the opposite sex could have the same devilish dirty wants and desires as us men the fact is everyone no matter who it is has a secret side they done always want to portray in front of friends and family."

some of us arent that secret about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First of all sorry that you feel saddened.

I think they are just trying to pay you a compliment. No one really needs to be here, we choose to be here.

xx"

I understand what you're saying, its a very backhanded compliment though. Its akin to saying "they're all mingers, so why are you hanging out with them?"

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

butter them up

enjoy the feast

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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I think the scene is full of misconceptions like this to the new and or ignorant; it's a like the people who think couples are on here due to a poor sex life. The scene clearly attracts people from all possible walks of life and they are made up of all shapes, sizes, looks and personalities. This kind of thinking is frustrating but it will always be around. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Hell of a minger

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Ok can people keep it general rather than what was said in your mailboxes and please don't abuse the people for mailing you.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"First of all sorry that you feel saddened.

I think they are just trying to pay you a compliment. No one really needs to be here, we choose to be here.

I understand what you're saying, its a very backhanded compliment though. Its akin to saying "they're all mingers, so why are you hanging out with them?""

True but that's not what they are intending to mean. They are just ingratiate themselves. If you hang around in the chat rooms as much as I do , you'll see this happen quite a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

women have the right to enjoy sex whatever form it takes men who think differentley are way behind the timess moden women are not slaves anymore

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers"

Its misogynistic bullshit!

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers"
some men will almost sell their granny for a leg over and say anything to get in your knickers lol

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I'm good enough to have a wank

I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely think it's a misplaced compliment rather than anything more sinister or underhand.

The subtext is obviously an implication that - in general - swingers can't be nice or sweet etc. But when it's said I would treat it as someone trying to compliment you as a person rather than degenerate swingers in general.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"First of all sorry that you feel saddened.

I think they are just trying to pay you a compliment. No one really needs to be here, we choose to be here.

I understand what you're saying, its a very backhanded compliment though. Its akin to saying "they're all mingers, so why are you hanging out with them?""

Exactly!

Answer- because I want to and they aren't all mingers (cross section of humanity just like everywhere- there are some that I do not consider attractive, but I don't focus my attention there) X

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

it's another ploy to get you to meet them the sad buggers.

Nobody ever told me too good for here I must be one he'll of a minger

Me either. That's another club with just you and I in it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This might come out wrong because I'm having a fucked up brain day but here goes.

I've found that younger men tend to be less about whether a woman is good enough for them. They don't want an ego boost,just good sex. Older men are more judgmental about the number of partners a woman has and think that some women are beneath them and not good enough for their attentions,because it will reflect badly on them. Obviously I'm talking about the ones I have spoken to and not the whole site,but I have decided to stick with younger men because of the general attitude amongst them regarding women and sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I genuinely think it's a misplaced compliment rather than anything more sinister or underhand.

You see the good in Everyone Dan but it really isn't the case.

Sometimes it's people trying to create a hierarchy of attractiveness.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers

Its misogynistic bullshit!"

I think more a line to get into your knickers. Although I have no doubt there are men on this site who think any woman on a swinging site is a slut and they wouldn't take them home to meet their mum.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers

Its misogynistic bullshit!

I think more a line to get into your knickers. Although I have no doubt there are men on this site who think any woman on a swinging site is a slut and they wouldn't take them home to meet their mum."

I've met a blokes mum who I met on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers

Its misogynistic bullshit!"

Some Men will hump the leg of a table, comments are what they think you want to hear to shag you

I don't think your too good for this place if that helps

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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It is a line to get into your knickers some men will almost sell their granny for a leg over and say anything to get in your knickers lol

Agreed

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By *om Tom 1969Man
over a year ago

liverpool

'you look lovely today'

What? So I don't look lovely every day?

yawn........

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

Swinging is a lifestyle choice much like any other thing we choose to do in our live's, only difference being is we all know why we are here, unlike some other lifestyles where it's harder to work out why they are doing it, here we have a common goal "pleasure" in whatever form that takes according to the individuals taste and desires.

Just my honest opinion but I find that all of the ladies on here are very very sexy indeed, and the variety of type's is there for every taste too.

So ladies take it as a compliment when a guy remarks that you're too good to be on here, it's his way of saying you're a stunner

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers"

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By *nlyme1978Man
over a year ago

Somewhere Near You

some of us arent that secret about it

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good on you _uzy444 can safely say my family wouldn't approve.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"butter them up

enjoy the feast"

Prefer it on my hot cross buns tbh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP but I just can't take your complaint seriously until Thursday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do agree somewhat. In the fact there is a minority who think we can't get sex any other way. However for me it's opened all kinds of doors and I've made alot of genuine friendships. I've learned I can have adventure and eroticism in a safe environment. And not go out on a weekend, get hamme_ed and wake up with a dodgy one might stand .

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I often get comments like "your too sweet to be on here" but I find most of the ladies on site are quite lovely

\You're#gradmotherofaustrianorigin

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers

Its misogynistic bullshit!

I think more a line to get into your knickers. Although I have no doubt there are men on this site who think any woman on a swinging site is a slut and they wouldn't take them home to meet their mum.

I've met a blokes mum who I met on here...

I didn't mean I met his mum on here...I really should use grammar and punctuation

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I think more a line to get into your knickers. Although I have no doubt there are men on this site who think any woman on a swinging site is a slut and they wouldn't take them home to meet their mum.

I've met a blokes mum who I met on here...

You obviously met a bloke who wasn't in the group I was commenting on but I am guessing you knew what I was getting at

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

it's another ploy to get you to meet them the sad buggers.

Nobody ever told me too good for here I must be one he'll of a minger

Me either. That's another club with just you and I in it!"

meanwhile back at the club for poorly written posts with typos and missing words Mrs N seems to be the only member.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Swinging is a lifestyle choice much like any other thing we choose to do in our live's, only difference being is we all know why we are here, unlike some other lifestyles where it's harder to work out why they are doing it, here we have a common goal "pleasure" in whatever form that takes according to the individuals taste and desires.

Just my honest opinion but I find that all of the ladies on here are very very sexy indeed, and the variety of type's is there for every taste too.

So ladies take it as a compliment when a guy remarks that you're too good to be on here, it's his way of saying you're a stunner

Hello stranger

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think more a line to get into your knickers. Although I have no doubt there are men on this site who think any woman on a swinging site is a slut and they wouldn't take them home to meet their mum.

I've met a blokes mum who I met on here...

You obviously met a bloke who wasn't in the group I was commenting on but I am guessing you knew what I was getting at

Of course ruggers, I was just making a silly comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry. I checked your profile and you fit right in.

Steve - Senior Minger Inspector

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

it's another ploy to get you to meet them the sad buggers.

Nobody ever told me too good for here I must be one he'll of a minger

Me either. That's another club with just you and I in it!

meanwhile back at the club for poorly written posts with typos and missing words Mrs N seems to be the only member.

And me

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By *nlyme1978Man
over a year ago

Somewhere Near You

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers some men will almost sell their granny for a leg over and say anything to get in your knickers lol

"
I don't have a granny but got a few brothers I could sell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's another ploy to get you to meet them the sad buggers.

Nobody ever told me too good for here I must be one he'll of a minger

No hon, you are no minger, but way to naughty to be good

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I think more a line to get into your knickers. Although I have no doubt there are men on this site who think any woman on a swinging site is a slut and they wouldn't take them home to meet their mum.

I've met a blokes mum who I met on here...

You obviously met a bloke who wasn't in the group I was commenting on but I am guessing you knew what I was getting at

Of course ruggers, I was just making a silly comment

Not allowed, go sit out the next hour

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think more a line to get into your knickers. Although I have no doubt there are men on this site who think any woman on a swinging site is a slut and they wouldn't take them home to meet their mum.

I've met a blokes mum who I met on here...

You obviously met a bloke who wasn't in the group I was commenting on but I am guessing you knew what I was getting at

Of course ruggers, I was just making a silly comment

Not allowed, go sit out the next hour"

Ok mum

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

it's another ploy to get you to meet them the sad buggers.

Nobody ever told me too good for here I must be one he'll of a minger

No hon, you are no minger, but way to naughty to be good

Thank you kind sir

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I think a lot of the guys will just mean it as a compliment. Albeit one that can be easily misconstrued. Plus, I imagine if you hear it a lot it can become a bit wearing.

No one ever says it to me sadly but I'd probably take it as a bit of a compliment if they did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"some men will almost sell their granny for a leg over and say anything to get in your knickers lol

Can't give my gran away, let alone use her as a knicker removal tool

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I think more a line to get into your knickers. Although I have no doubt there are men on this site who think any woman on a swinging site is a slut and they wouldn't take them home to meet their mum.

I've met a blokes mum who I met on here...

You obviously met a bloke who wasn't in the group I was commenting on but I am guessing you knew what I was getting at

Of course ruggers, I was just making a silly comment

Not allowed, go sit out the next hour

Ok mum

I was just gonna say bog off I am not that old, but I looked at your age and realised if I had started young I could have been !!

Off for a lie down now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm good enough to have a wank

I think

If it's good enough for you, it's good enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's another ploy to get you to meet them the sad buggers.

Nobody ever told me too good for here I must be one he'll of a minger

No hon, you are no minger, but way to naughty to be good

Thank you kind sir

You are welcome too far away person x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"I often get comments like "your too sweet to be on here" but I find most of the ladies on site are quite lovely

I agree, I think we're a little better than the average out there. I guess these guys either have met some awful people before, haven't met anyone here yet or are poor with their choice of words.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"some men will almost sell their granny for a leg over and say anything to get in your knickers lol

Can't give my gran away, let alone use her as a knicker removal tool

Sometimes I feel sca_ed to speak in case I inadvertently upset someone, I can’t speak for all on the site, to the best of my recollection I don’t think I’ve used those words ever anywhere. I’m just here to have a bit of fun conversing with likeminded folks as I’m sure most are. So if I’ve ever upset anyone by intentionally or unintentionally complimenting them or by not complementing them or for that matter anything that I might have said or done during my time here.

I am sincerely sorry

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

it's another ploy to get you to meet them the sad buggers.

Nobody ever told me too good for here I must be one he'll of a minger

Me either. That's another club with just you and I in it!

meanwhile back at the club for poorly written posts with typos and missing words Mrs N seems to be the only member.

Look behind you, I'm using you as cover...

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

It's just evidence that they're misconstrued why people they say this to are on here in the first place.

It's a site for fucking, not dating, and the comment reveals that they either don't 'get' this, are mixing up sex and dating, or consider people who are on here as wanting to fuck as somehow making do when they 'ought' to be dating instead.

It's both undervaluing why people want to fuck(as recreational, rather than as part of a 'solid'/vanilla relationship (swingers aside, obviously), patronising women for wanting to fuck purely for their own recreational needs as perfectly independent, empowe_ed people, and shows an unhealthy attitude(and a very typically 'stiff', ha, British one at that) to sex.

I'm sure it's not meant that way, and is, as others have said, also meant as a compliment, but reveals that they are either a bit insecure about how they _iew women(hence patriachal, if not misogynistic)and sex, and assume they 'know' what women want.

Sorry. Interesting thread. Think I've rambled and repeated myself a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did someone say there was a granny available? Is it an auction or 'free to a good home?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what the original poster is saying, is that lots of people assume that this is a dating site. It's not really. Swinging isn't really dating. It's swinging. There is supposed to be a level of maturity. Swinging is non committal sex between consenting adults or groups of consenting adults. It sits right there on the edges of acceptable society, with kink and non monogamous relationships. I'm not here because I need to have sex. I have a very fulfilling sex life. I'm here because I want to explore, meet interesting people, push the boundaries of my relationship. My wife is here for different reasons but ultimately the same ones.

They see an attractive woman and they think they are paying her a compliment (ignore the fact it's a backhanded compliment because there is no cure for stupidity). What they are really doing is showing their own insecurity. If they really believe she's too good for here what are they doing here?

They see her as out of their league and they basically tell her they are chancing their arm in trying to get her attention.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

"I think what the original poster is saying, is that lots of people assume that this is a dating site. It's not really. Swinging isn't really dating. It's swinging. There is supposed to be a level of maturity. Swinging is non committal sex between consenting adults or groups of consenting adults. It sits right there on the edges of acceptable society, with kink and non monogamous relationships. I'm not here because I need to have sex. I have a very fulfilling sex life. I'm here because I want to explore, meet interesting people, push the boundaries of my relationship. My wife is here for different reasons but ultimately the same ones.

They see her as out of their league and they basically tell her they are chancing their arm in trying to get her attention.

Sorry, yeah. knew I forgot something I wanted to say: the stupidity angle.

It could be, but I'd like to say it was more ignorance that they are showcasing. Doubtless some of them may be stupid too though..!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant."

Do you actually believe that? When they tell you you're too good to be in here ??

They say that to all the women in here. It's just a chat up line and one of many lines frequently used by alot of men in here.

Surely you're not naive enough to believe it's anything more than just another bullshit line ??

Naivety and swinging is a dangerous mix !

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Good point. I suppose it colours the comment differently if the person says it prior to meeting, or during.

So prior to meeting then yes, could well be a chat up line. Still doesn't mean it's not insulting the intelligence/individuality of the woman though at the same time.

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

I'm a 59 year old gentleman and I personally take offence to this ageist remark,I certainly don't ever think any woman is beneath me, nor do I hold it against them for the number of partners they may or may not have had.

We are all entitled to a life and the right to lead it in the manner we see fit or suit's our needs, if a lady or man for that matter choose's to have many partners or swing then that is their business and nothing to do with me, you or anyone in or out of your life choice.

Respect of others is paramount specially in this lifestyle, and if you can't show that respect then you can't expect to get along here either.

Some people, both male and female find it hard to compliment others and sometimes use what others see as a lame statement on trying to extend a compliment to that person, remember, "Judge not, lest thee be judged too".

So ladies lager or small,short or Tall, you're each and everyone of you as beautiful as the other in your own right, and no matter how sideways a compliment might be, please accept it for what it was meant to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant."

I honestly think it's a usual a supply and demand issue with too many men compa_ed to woman, thus giving some women false interpretation.

To quote a status from a girl who I admire and has been on here a while and got her head screwed on.

3 hours ago... I have 2 laugh @ the fugly women on here who make more profile demands than the hot sexy chicks. Get Real Bitches & Be Grateful! See I do back ya lads

No wonder the men are saying they are too good for this place when half the women couldn't pull in their local kebab house at 2 o clock in the morning.

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

Hello stranger"

Hello Ruby Have we met young lady ?

my memory is like my sex life

slow and fading

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant.

Do you actually believe that? When they tell you you're too good to be in here ??

They say that to all the women in here. It's just a chat up line and one of many lines frequently used by alot of men in here.

Surely you're not naive enough to believe it's anything more than just another bullshit line ??

Sometimes it is simply an indication that the concept of swinging is distasteful to them. I have heard it from men who did not stay here long - they came for a look, they expected the place to be full of ho's, it was just their way of saying 'You seem normal like me, I'd message you on a dating site, what the hell are you doing here?'

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over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant.

I honestly think it's a usual a supply and demand issue with too many men compa_ed to woman, thus giving some women false interpretation.

To quote a status from a girl who I admire and has been on here a while and got her head screwed on.

3 hours ago... I have 2 laugh @ the fugly women on here who make more profile demands than the hot sexy chicks. Get Real Bitches & Be Grateful! See I do back ya lads

No wonder the men are saying they are too good for this place when half the women couldn't pull in their local kebab house at 2 o clock in the morning. "

There IS a supply and demand thing. There are 20 men to every 1 woman. At least 20 to 1. Probably more. It's common sense to pick the best match for you. Why would women accept a crap lay? Why would anyone? Would you??

I come from a bdsm power dynamic background and it has its own supply and demand. There are only a few experienced dominants and they get all the attention (male and female) that's how life works. I like the fact that here women have more power (mainly because I am not stuck on the excess supply part)

I'm not a fan of what this poster said tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't worry. I checked your profile and you fit right in.

Steve - Senior Minger Inspector

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I have met men on here who I didn't really like, just because they were available and I didn't enjoy myself, so now I have my excellent new rabbit vibrator I will only meet men who I am sure I want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met men on here who I didn't really like, just because they were available and I didn't enjoy myself, so now I have my excellent new rabbit vibrator I will only meet men who I am sure I want to meet.

Exactly. Life is too short

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant.

Do you actually believe that? When they tell you you're too good to be in here ??

They say that to all the women in here. It's just a chat up line and one of many lines frequently used by alot of men in here.

Surely you're not naive enough to believe it's anything more than just another bullshit line ??

Naivety and swinging is a dangerous mix !"

No I don't believe it for one minute. I believe it's bull.

It's very revealing about their attitude though- both towards swinging and non-monogamous relationships, and women.

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By *orksfuncoupleCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

Ah but some guys see it as a compliment 'whats a girl like you doing in a place like this' kinda thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been told I'm too nice or too gorgeous...

My ego is crushed now

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

some of us arent that secret about it

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lol same most of my friends know I go to swingers clubs an if anything ask to come with me but part of going to the one I do is it's some where no one knows me so I don't have to put a front up can just be me lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant."

No reason to be sad, it's said to get into your knickers, nothing less...nothing more.

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Never been told iam too good for here...... let alone anywhere lol as iav said before what I lack in looks I make up in my personality if iam not to some ones taste that's fine just how the dice roll I guess lol - ugly metal face xxx

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers"

This. A p_edictable, shit one at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant."

You're a bit early doors there, couldn't you have waited?

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By *ws101Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Dont even have to watch porn since i found this site... fuck the barbies in this world... you lot look amazing... skinny, bbw, tall, small you all have loads to offer... just wish ude offer it me lol you all have perks that make you amazing in its own... takes alot to bare all.. but to do it all over and over club after club... your all passion warriors... follow love but lust is more fun :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly. Life is too short "

True, but it's still the longest thing you'll ever do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant.

No reason to be sad, it's said to get into your knickers, nothing less...nothing more."

Ok but I might not be wearing any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well its just an insight into the way they think. Perhaps a reflection/ projection of why they think 'here' exists and their reasons for signing up.

Says something about them, nothing about you as with most comments. I really wouldnt give it a second thought xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Hello stranger

Hello Ruby Have we met young lady ?

my memory is like my sex life

slow and fading

No sir, I was just saying hello to someone who hasn't posted for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why worry what others think? lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think yer all gorgeous. And yer knickers

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I've had it said to me a number of times

One has a choice

Over think it and take offence and ridicule the sender

Or take it as intended harmless waffle from someone not conversant with the opinions of the forum xxx

They want to get into your pants they have thought it through no further

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

Reading this. I wonder what would the females / female of couples reaction would be. If having sent face , body photo's to a guy . Message came back saying . Sorry do not find you attractive. This as most men look at physical _iew first. Would you be offended , then block etc ?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

They might be deluded, but surely it would be worse if they thought that you were "ugly enough to be a swinger"....

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get it a lot, I get asked what's wrong with me to be on fab and that I should be getting any guy I want...I'm on fab because I like kinky mind blowing sex...

Ditto ... My best friend hates me being on here. Said I'm too good to be a swinger

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Reading this. I wonder what would the females / female of couples reaction would be. If having sent face , body photo's to a guy . Message came back saying . Sorry do not find you attractive. This as most men look at physical _iew first. Would you be offended , then block etc ? "

Having experienced this I am butthurt for all of five seconds. Then I shrug and get on with my day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello chums , this has happened to me , more than once .

I have sent a face picture after lots of messages and then nothing or blocked. It happened with some one who was jolly chatty this week.

Does it bother me ,no not really . I know I am no George Clooney .

I get miffed for a nanosecond and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent a guy my face picture this one time and he deleted the message and put a status update asking for someone to restore his faith in fab. I never even got a no thanks message back.

I was fine with it. Not everyone will be attracted to everyone else...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Potentially it's down to the fact that being sexually liberated,still isn't socially accepted by all?

I imagine there's many folk on here who wouldn't dare reveal to all and sundry the fact they pursue sexual fantasies for real. As such people associate sites like this, with people who either can't get what they want in a vanilla sense, or are a little odd.

As long as you're chasing fantasies with a healthy mindset,fill your boots I say.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm always inc_edibly impressed by ladies and couples who swing.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Had this happen quite a few times or messages just deleted.

*shrugs* Rejection is part and parcel of swinging. No one will be attractive to everyone.

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

"I get it a lot, I get asked what's wrong with me to be on fab and that I should be getting any guy I want...I'm on fab because I like kinky mind blowing sex...

To be fair the chicken is a good clue about your kinkiness..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it amusing rather than sad really...

Some really will try anything, bless 'em

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

"I think it's just something they say. Should I be worried that no one has ever said it to me?

Courtney.. It's not said to you because it wouldn't be the same without you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it amusing rather than sad really...

Some really will try anything, bless 'em

Yeah those 'chances' will say anything! I'm not like them at all! And i can see that you're not like all those other girls either! It's so refreshing to see a "real" woman on here.I loved reading your profile to! I'd send you a face pic but because of my very important job i can't. I'd love to meet up with you some time, i can pay for a hotel if you like, well i don't have a c_edit or debit card but i can give you the cash (plus a bit more if you like

) oh because of my important job i can only meet during working hours. Look forward to hearing from you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find it amusing rather than sad really...

Some really will try anything, bless 'em

) oh because of my important job i can only meet during working hours. Look forward to hearing from you!

You forgot to ask for her account number and sort code!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had this happen quite a few times or messages just deleted.

*shrugs* Rejection is part and parcel of swinging. No one will be attractive to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it amusing rather than sad really...

Some really will try anything, bless 'em

) oh because of my important job i can only meet during working hours. Look forward to hearing from you!

Tee hee..that's the sort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get it a lot with my old profile name, too nice, too sweet, too........

To me it's just a line, another way to approach messaging, probably copy / pasted to all within a 50 mile radius.

Don't get them so much now, not sure what that indicates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the most attractive and sexiest people I've ever met are on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a either a poorly made compliment or a poor attempt to get in your knickers. File in bash stupid males folder and move on. Note to self stop reading the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Y'know what? You're exactly good enough to do whatever the hell you want. Do whatever makes you happy and fie on anyone else's opinion!

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over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

It is a line to get into your knickers"

I am too good for this place!

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

It's a bollocks rainbow gushing compliment. However i'm sure plenty are told they're not good enough to be on here

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Take it as a compliment, after all it beats the usual your fit fancy a fuck line some male use.

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over a year ago

"That there is a common misconception on here that the women who choose to swing/hook up/whatever do so because they are not attractive enough to find what they are looking for out there.

Increasingly I get comments saying I am 'too good' for this place.

Well you know what, actually the men (it has been my experience that it is the men that say this) that say this to me, are not good enough!!!

You should look to yourselves and realise that You are not good enough to be here, if you think like that.

The double standards of the Madonna complex that is present in Some of those on here needs to stop.

#Premature rant."
I don't mean to burst anyone's bubble but this really just sounds like a guy was trying to give you a compliment and now it's got way put of proportion.

Here's a secret so shhhhh "most guys on here will tell women whatever they think they want to hear to insure they get in your panties" don't tell anyone though

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey

"I get it a lot, I get asked what's wrong with me to be on fab and that I should be getting any guy I want...I'm on fab because I like kinky mind blowing sex...

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Bloody well said , that saucy woman !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

might be they think youre more lovely/nicer/sexier than they expected - not sure whether id be insulted or thrilled

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I had a thrill once

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The last few comments just prove that, much like womens' profiles- the men couldn't be arsed to read the thread!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I get it a lot, I get asked what's wrong with me to be on fab and that I should be getting any guy I want...I'm on fab because I like kinky mind blowing sex...

Ditto ... My best friend hates me being on here. Said I'm too good to be a swinger

Oh yeah, all my friends think I am too good for this, even my ex-swinger friend says 'Get off that dreadful site!!'

We forget that is the normal _iew of casual sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only time ive been called ugly is from someone who hasnt seen a face pic. I couldnt care less tbh. Im failry average. I think its more of a hmmm ok yeah i guess i could reaction. Well apart from that one time i got asked if i had a paper bag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get it a lot, I get asked what's wrong with me to be on fab and that I should be getting any guy I want...I'm on fab because I like kinky mind blowing sex...

Ditto ... My best friend hates me being on here. Said I'm too good to be a swinger

Oh yeah, all my friends think I am too good for this, even my ex-swinger friend says 'Get off that dreadful site!!'

We forget that is the normal _iew of casual sex."

This "casual sex" you speak of. What is it?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I get it a lot, I get asked what's wrong with me to be on fab and that I should be getting any guy I want...I'm on fab because I like kinky mind blowing sex...

Ditto ... My best friend hates me being on here. Said I'm too good to be a swinger

Oh yeah, all my friends think I am too good for this, even my ex-swinger friend says 'Get off that dreadful site!!'

We forget that is the normal _iew of casual sex.

This "casual sex" you speak of. What is it?

Not sure, I tend to avoid it

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Take it as a compliment, after all it beats the usual your fit fancy a fuck line some male use."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might think they need glasses

but I wouldn't be offended, block or send a 'your loss' type message back.

Then again, I'm not sending out loads of messages, getting rejected & pissed off on a regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK, now I can take you seriously

The men who say such things, are not swingers, they have no concept of what swinging is about, but have unortunately joined this site hoping for easy sex.

They are probably the same guys who while shagging someone's wife declare that if they had such a sexy wife they wouldn't let her have sex with others.

In some ways it is a shame that they exist on here, but hey there is a case for saying any cock will do for nsa, use them kick them out and then block them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK, now I can take you seriously

The men who say such things, are not swingers, they have no concept of what swinging is about, but have unortunately joined this site hoping for easy sex.

They are probably the same guys who while shagging someone's wife declare that if they had such a sexy wife they wouldn't let her have sex with others.

In some ways it is a shame that they exist on here, but hey there is a case for saying any cock will do for nsa, use them kick them out and then block them.

I have come to the conclusion- that like many things on here, it actually provides a useful filter as to the kind of person I am looking for, sorry for complaining x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sorry for complaining x"

No problem, but please remember decorum and order at all times, save your rants valid or otherwise for Thursdays in future

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over a year ago

"I get it a lot, I get asked what's wrong with me to be on fab and that I should be getting any guy I want...I'm on fab because I like kinky mind blowing sex...

Ditto ... My best friend hates me being on here. Said I'm too good to be a swinger

Oh yeah, all my friends think I am too good for this, even my ex-swinger friend says 'Get off that dreadful site!!'

We forget that is the normal _iew of casual sex.

This "casual sex" you speak of. What is it?

Not sure, I tend to avoid it

There's playing hard to get and there's.

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