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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So after countless rubbish messages please read this guide on how to send better messages and adapt to your needs.

Most fems on here get loads of messages from loads of men as men outnumber ten to one. As a result YOU ARE COMPETING WITH OTHER MEN EVEN FROM YOUR FIRST MESSAGE. MAKE IT COUNT!

Below is advice I had on profile but decided to share.

Having that number of men messaging also means girls get a crazy number of messages. Personally I don't have time to play message ping pong. By the time I've exchanged three messages with fifty men that's 150 messages right there. Therefore if your profile doesn't have clear pics the same way mine does and you don't send pics in first message you will be blocked because I don't have time to be chasing pics. I will not WhatsApp or kik for pics. I like to be straight to the point. If your constantly messaging me even though you know Ive told you I can't meet you will be blocked. It's just easier than explaining things over and over. Same goes for men who message me constantly with nothing in particular to say - I simply don't have the time to 'chat' over random things. Be to the point and include detail in your messages to avoid back and forth messages.

Suggested information for first message (use this when you message other people too as they will appreciate it). Obviously don't number it.

1. Name, age, location

2. Marital status and job

3. What you are looking for and what you can offer.

4. Availability and ability to accommodate.

5. Don't forget to read the person's profile first and tailor the message to them. This shows them that you have read their profile and are actually showing an interest in what they want instead of just what you want.

6. Pictures of face and body, especially if you have none in profile. Personally I like cock pics in first message but others don't.

The above are a basic introduction which most guys seem to have forgotten how to do. Actually missing this is not that important if you have a complete profile but most men have neither complete profile nor pictures.

Example of a good first message is: "Hey I'm Brian. I'm a 33yo married builder based in Romford but I work near Enfield often. I'm looking for my first encounter with a sissy and I really like what you say about teaching first timers. I love your pictures too I think you have a great body. I'm 6ft2 and dominant with a hard 7 inches for you to enjoy. I can't accommodate but I can travel. I'm normally available weekdays during the daytime and early evenings. Have a look at the pictures I've attached and Hey back to me if your interested in having fun together"

The above is an example of the kind of message I personally prefer instead of "hi wanna suck my cock" with an empty profile and no picture of the cock I'm meant to suck.

Feel free to use the template and edit it to use. You might even use it as your profile text if you have a pretty blank profile and need to update it with some extra details.

Rant over.

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

You forgot to say prior to sending a message check out the profile first. If you're not what someone is looking for you're unlikely to get a positive response no matter how good your message is.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

My job ?

MY JOB ?

In case they don't fuck Nuclear Scientists ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

your message is good to be fair

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Gizzashagtabitch works well

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Try to read their profile ans refer to something in it if possible .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to get to know them through messaging then asking to meet with the first message or telling them all that information in one message, I suppose that's why I stick to the forums more then asking random Women I have come across on fab

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

And if you're a single woman 'hi' works well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And if you're a single woman 'hi' works well. "

Single women send first messages ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the profile to see if they're even likely to meet or chat in the first place. For example receiving a message saying "I've read your profile and I'm sure I'm just what your looking for" when your a bloke messaging a woman who clearly and politely states she isn't meeting men is unlikely to result in a positive outcome.

Be respectful, you wouldn't walk up to a complete stranger in a bar and say "I wanna smash your back doors in and destroy your pussy", well I'd hope not.

If you have a cut and paste message that someone responds to with a polite no thank you, block them or make a note of it to prevent you sending the exact same message to them three times in a month!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See that first message wouldn't get my attention at all. I might not even click on it to read the rest.

I like full sentences, no text speak, and showing a glimmer of intellect and playfulness.

Talk to me about Schroedinger's cat or something. Geeks make me melt.

And I can't stand cock photos, I would probably not meet purely on the basis of a cock photo being sent in a first message.

So it's different for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And if you're a single woman 'hi' works well.

Single women send first messages ?"

I've sent first messages before now. Although I don't think I have ever met someone I sent a first message to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And if you're a single woman 'hi' works well.

Single women send first messages ?

I've sent first messages before now. Although I don't think I have ever met someone I sent a first message to?"

I was only joking . I know females sent first messages but they do tend to be very short from my experience.

I seem to have messaged you and gotten a response, though I have no clue what it was about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ye, however. Half the time they don't even get looked at. Never mind read properly! To type that out every time to only get a reply ( even if it's just a no thanks) 1 out of 10 , gets a bit tedious. That's why a lot of men don't write much on their first message. It's all swings and round abouts.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Ye, however. Half the time they don't even get looked at. Never mind read properly! To type that out every time to only get a reply ( even if it's just a no thanks) 1 out of 10 , gets a bit tedious. That's why a lot of men don't write much on their first message. It's all swings and round abouts. "

So true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ye, however. Half the time they don't even get looked at. Never mind read properly! To type that out every time to only get a reply ( even if it's just a no thanks) 1 out of 10 , gets a bit tedious. That's why a lot of men don't write much on their first message. It's all swings and round abouts. "

Also would that be classed as a "copy an paste" message if you did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True, if I knew I'd get a reply, i would put the effort in to typing a decent message. Like I said before, even if it's just a 'no thanks'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I don't see the problem if someone did, If you come across 10 profiles that you like and think you would match them in what they like, Change a few words in the message and maybe explain that you have sent more then one similar message to Women about meeting over say the next few weeks/months due to the lack of response Men in general get on fab,

You're not looking for a gf/wife in most cases and in my eyes you have made them sort of "special" otherwise you wouldn't of sent the message in the first place,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You forgot to say prior to sending a message check out the profile first. If you're not what someone is looking for you're unlikely to get a positive response no matter how good your message is. "

That's included in point 5

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ye, however. Half the time they don't even get looked at. Never mind read properly! To type that out every time to only get a reply ( even if it's just a no thanks) 1 out of 10 , gets a bit tedious. That's why a lot of men don't write much on their first message. It's all swings and round abouts. "

You can improve that by including the details I highlight above in your profile and also by saving a draft copy of the message which you can just edit to make it specific to the individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I send a first message its usually a one liner

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My job ?

MY JOB ?

In case they don't fuck Nuclear Scientists ?"

For me personally it's a very significant indicator of personality and some jobs are simply sexy. While you may not agree, for me it is important.

There is expected to be a difference in looks and behaviour and life outlook between a scaffolder, an administrator and a barrister for example. It gives you a general impression of the person you are meeting. It's the basic premise of sociology that different groups generally conform to their group and peer activities, behaviours, speech, dress code etc.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I prefer to get to know them through messaging then asking to meet with the first message or telling them all that information in one message, I suppose that's why I stick to the forums more then asking random Women I have come across on fab"

Same here. I either message through the forums or the women message me, again through the forums. Messaging women randomly never worked for me.

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