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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So im thinking getting the 'snip'

Ive got my kids and I'm more than happy with what I have.

Can anyone give me first hand advice about what its like to have it done? Whats the recovery time like? And is it selfish of me to do this incase I decide to settle down and the lucky lady wants kids??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I obviously don't know anything about it from the pain side etc.

If you ever want it reversed you'll have to pay for it privately and it's currently about £3k I think. Plus your sperm may not return so you could end up doing IVF etc if you met someone else that you wanted children with.

Sarah

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

although not a guy..ive been sterilized...i saw it and treated it as the end of an era..i will say that despite my psychological relief at the whole thought of no more kids, it does come up when considering 'dating' or settling down.. if fact it would be one of my first questions..do you want any more kids, not because i regret my decision, but i wont invest time at my time of life settling down with someone who in two or three years time might want them...

so although you think you wont think about having kids anymore, i am definitely more acutely aware of the ages and family situation of a prospective partner..it seems to highlight it for me.. just my experience...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im thinking getting the 'snip'

Ive got my kids and I'm more than happy with what I have.

Can anyone give me first hand advice about what its like to have it done? Whats the recovery time like? And is it selfish of me to do this incase I decide to settle down and the lucky lady wants kids??"

I had a female sterilisation. I can't talk about the proceedure first hand, but I can talk about the second bit of your question.

No, it's not 'selfish' to have it done.

What you need to do is sit down and have a really, really good think about if you want to have more children. If you think that someone might sway you in the future then you should absolutely not get sterilized. This is *surgery* - it shouldn't be treated as just a temporary contraception.

If *you* might want to have children in the future then don't get it done. If *you* don't want to have children in the future then go and talk to your GP about your options.

*YOU* need to make the decision - and you should absolutely not make it based on if you think someone might change your mind in the future.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Just have a wank into a condom and chuck it in the freezer, easily thawed out if ya want kids later

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I had a vasectomy about 10 years ago.. the op itself is about 20 minutes... The bruising and swelling lasts about 7 days, there can be complications as with any op infections etc. .

My self I suffer from a constant ache in my left side bit like the feeling after you've banged your nuts ... The Dr reckons it's scar tissue,

The other bit can't speak for you fella I did it because at mthat / my age I didn't want to be a geriatric dad..

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Just have a wank into a condom and chuck it in the freezer, easily thawed out if ya want kids later "

Worked for Monica Lewinsky..

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

If you don't want anymore kids and are single no it's not selfish, what maybe would be considered selfish if you were with someone who wanted kids however you decided to have the snip anyway...in my dating life I really only date men who would consider having children in the future but that's not a first date discussion.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I had a vasectomy about 10 years ago.. the op itself is about 20 minutes... The bruising and swelling lasts about 7 days, there can be complications as with any op infections etc. .

My self I suffer from a constant ache in my left side bit like the feeling after you've banged your nuts ... The Dr reckons it's scar tissue,

The other bit can't speak for you fella I did it because at mthat / my age I didn't want to be a geriatric dad.. "

If I have kids I will be a geriatric mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't want anymore kids and are single no it's not selfish, what maybe would be considered selfish if you were with someone who wanted kids however you decided to have the snip anyway"

I don't think that's selfish actually. Selfish would be your partner not understanding that you don't want children, and trying to force you to have them anyway.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"If you don't want anymore kids and are single no it's not selfish, what maybe would be considered selfish if you were with someone who wanted kids however you decided to have the snip anyway

I don't think that's selfish actually. Selfish would be your partner not understanding that you don't want children, and trying to force you to have them anyway."

That's why I said maybe rather than it is selfish....

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I had a vasectomy about 10 years ago.. the op itself is about 20 minutes... The bruising and swelling lasts about 7 days, there can be complications as with any op infections etc. .

My self I suffer from a constant ache in my left side bit like the feeling after you've banged your nuts ... The Dr reckons it's scar tissue,

The other bit can't speak for you fella I did it because at mthat / my age I didn't want to be a geriatric dad..

If I have kids I will be a geriatric mum "

Nope not really I had my first child at 36 nearly 37. My thoughts at the time I'd two great kids, and if I'd had more at 42, I'd be nearly 43 by the time they were born, at the age they were wanting to play on the swings slides football etc I might not be able to enjoy doing or being able to do that with them. it was my thoughts not that others would be or are .

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

I wouldn't.

I had it about 8 years ago.....

It affects the amount and the feeling when ejaculating.

Had a swollen testicle which needed a further op.

Can feel pain like a dull ache regularly.

Some mates have been okay and not had any complications, but if I could turn back the clock I would NOT do it again.

I also would def NOT do it if your thinking of s reversal before you even have had the OP!

Reversal is costly and has no guarantees.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I wouldn't.

I had it about 8 years ago.....

It affects the amount and the feeling when ejaculating.

Had a swollen testicle which needed a further op.

Can feel pain like a dull ache regularly.

Some mates have been okay and not had any complications, but if I could turn back the clock I would NOT do it again.

I also would def NOT do it if your thinking of s reversal before you even have had the OP!

Reversal is costly and has no guarantees.

"

I know a couple who went through hell with the reversal they managed to have a kid but it nearly destroyed them...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

Its been something ive thought about for a while, i think that by the time i settle down again, id be too old to want to be a dad again! (If i do choose to settle down that is!)

Its good to hear first hand how its affected people etc.

To the one who have been sterilised, was this a decision made as part of a couple or on your own? And do any of you have any regrets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im thinking getting the 'snip'

Ive got my kids and I'm more than happy with what I have.

Can anyone give me first hand advice about what its like to have it done? Whats the recovery time like? And is it selfish of me to do this incase I decide to settle down and the lucky lady wants kids??

I had a female sterilisation. I can't talk about the proceedure first hand, but I can talk about the second bit of your question.

No, it's not 'selfish' to have it done.

What you need to do is sit down and have a really, really good think about if you want to have more children. If you think that someone might sway you in the future then you should absolutely not get sterilized. This is *surgery* - it shouldn't be treated as just a temporary contraception.

If *you* might want to have children in the future then don't get it done. If *you* don't want to have children in the future then go and talk to your GP about your options.

*YOU* need to make the decision - and you should absolutely not make it based on if you think someone might change your mind in the future."

Talk to your g.p.... That's hilarious.... Literally phoned 108 times to get an appointment with the Dr only to be told "don't have any" & slam the phone down... Wouldn't mind so much if I was for me, but it was for my 5 month old baby who was poorly.

My last discussion with my gp about sterilization went down like a lead balloon... They prefer ltr.... Long term reversible... That's fine for younger people with a kid or two but I'm nearly 36 & have 5 children... I want to be sterilized

Mad though, 8 years ago they were offering me a hysterectomy... Now they just wanna fob me off again.

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By *rtfulfuckerMan
over a year ago

London, Essex

I've had the snip 20 years ago and I was put to sleep. I had no pain and I have become a heavy cummer since the snip I had 3 stitches on both sides which dissolved.

If you don't want any more children then go for it. But you really need to think about it. Like the other lady said it can be reverse in for a couple of grand

Some men do get problems with it so you need to sure. All the best Jon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im thinking getting the 'snip'

Ive got my kids and I'm more than happy with what I have.

Can anyone give me first hand advice about what its like to have it done? Whats the recovery time like? And is it selfish of me to do this incase I decide to settle down and the lucky lady wants kids??

I had a female sterilisation. I can't talk about the proceedure first hand, but I can talk about the second bit of your question.

No, it's not 'selfish' to have it done.

What you need to do is sit down and have a really, really good think about if you want to have more children. If you think that someone might sway you in the future then you should absolutely not get sterilized. This is *surgery* - it shouldn't be treated as just a temporary contraception.

If *you* might want to have children in the future then don't get it done. If *you* don't want to have children in the future then go and talk to your GP about your options.

*YOU* need to make the decision - and you should absolutely not make it based on if you think someone might change your mind in the future.

Talk to your g.p.... That's hilarious.... Literally phoned 108 times to get an appointment with the Dr only to be told "don't have any" & slam the phone down... Wouldn't mind so much if I was for me, but it was for my 5 month old baby who was poorly.

My last discussion with my gp about sterilization went down like a lead balloon... They prefer ltr.... Long term reversible... That's fine for younger people with a kid or two but I'm nearly 36 & have 5 children... I want to be sterilized

Mad though, 8 years ago they were offering me a hysterectomy... Now they just wanna fob me off again."

I'm sorry to hear you've had such a poor experience. I have never waited more than 48 hours to get an appointment with my GP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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To the one who have been sterilised, was this a decision made as part of a couple or on your own? And do any of you have any regrets?"

I made my decision completely on my own. I told both my partners that I was having it done, and if they had any desire to have children then they needed to do that with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im thinking getting the 'snip'

Ive got my kids and I'm more than happy with what I have.

Can anyone give me first hand advice about what its like to have it done? Whats the recovery time like? And is it selfish of me to do this incase I decide to settle down and the lucky lady wants kids??

I had a female sterilisation. I can't talk about the proceedure first hand, but I can talk about the second bit of your question.

No, it's not 'selfish' to have it done.

What you need to do is sit down and have a really, really good think about if you want to have more children. If you think that someone might sway you in the future then you should absolutely not get sterilized. This is *surgery* - it shouldn't be treated as just a temporary contraception.

If *you* might want to have children in the future then don't get it done. If *you* don't want to have children in the future then go and talk to your GP about your options.

*YOU* need to make the decision - and you should absolutely not make it based on if you think someone might change your mind in the future.

Talk to your g.p.... That's hilarious.... Literally phoned 108 times to get an appointment with the Dr only to be told "don't have any" & slam the phone down... Wouldn't mind so much if I was for me, but it was for my 5 month old baby who was poorly.

My last discussion with my gp about sterilization went down like a lead balloon... They prefer ltr.... Long term reversible... That's fine for younger people with a kid or two but I'm nearly 36 & have 5 children... I want to be sterilized

Mad though, 8 years ago they were offering me a hysterectomy... Now they just wanna fob me off again."

That's dreadful here you get a same day appointment if you phone before 10 or the next day if you phone up after.

Should be consistent everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im thinking getting the 'snip'

Ive got my kids and I'm more than happy with what I have.

Can anyone give me first hand advice about what its like to have it done? Whats the recovery time like? And is it selfish of me to do this incase I decide to settle down and the lucky lady wants kids??

I had a female sterilisation. I can't talk about the proceedure first hand, but I can talk about the second bit of your question.

No, it's not 'selfish' to have it done.

What you need to do is sit down and have a really, really good think about if you want to have more children. If you think that someone might sway you in the future then you should absolutely not get sterilized. This is *surgery* - it shouldn't be treated as just a temporary contraception.

If *you* might want to have children in the future then don't get it done. If *you* don't want to have children in the future then go and talk to your GP about your options.

*YOU* need to make the decision - and you should absolutely not make it based on if you think someone might change your mind in the future.

Talk to your g.p.... That's hilarious.... Literally phoned 108 times to get an appointment with the Dr only to be told "don't have any" & slam the phone down... Wouldn't mind so much if I was for me, but it was for my 5 month old baby who was poorly.

My last discussion with my gp about sterilization went down like a lead balloon... They prefer ltr.... Long term reversible... That's fine for younger people with a kid or two but I'm nearly 36 & have 5 children... I want to be sterilized

Mad though, 8 years ago they were offering me a hysterectomy... Now they just wanna fob me off again."

I wouldn't put up with a doctor that behaved like that, change your doctor

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Thanks everyone

Its been something ive thought about for a while, i think that by the time i settle down again, id be too old to want to be a dad again! (If i do choose to settle down that is!)

Its good to hear first hand how its affected people etc.

To the one who have been sterilised, was this a decision made as part of a couple or on your own? And do any of you have any regrets?"

if talking to me..i made the decision on my own not in a relationship and not seeing anyone..it was my time to decide..i took no one else into consideration apart from my existing kids x no..no regrets..ill happily wait a few years and enjoy my grand kids xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im thinking getting the 'snip'

Ive got my kids and I'm more than happy with what I have.

Can anyone give me first hand advice about what its like to have it done? Whats the recovery time like? And is it selfish of me to do this incase I decide to settle down and the lucky lady wants kids??"

I had it done about 25 years ago. Two days off work, no sports for two weeks. little discomfort, no real pain ... However friend of mine, two weeks off work lots of pain about a month before back to normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had it done 6 year ago,

Ops not too bad, in out, cup of tea toast home.

Bruising is a bit painful and took me a week to get physical at work ( up ladders etc) but fine now.

If ur happy with ur lot why not. the woman goes through far worse at child birth.

( Oh and it's not like my mate thought... I dont have my nuts bobbing about in a pickle jar at side of my bed)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it done at 27. I've got 3 kids didn't ever think of leaving the mrs. If I did and met someone else then that's their problem if they wanted kids.

The procedure was quick but due to my ball bag being very tight and small when examined I was knocked out.

I had no problems and played football 2 days later. After 5 days the stitches irritated me so I took them out myself.

Never had any problems before during or after.

My advice. Go for it. It that's what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgot. You have a two sperm tests by wanking in a pot after I think 7 and 12 weeks ( might be wrong in that)

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By *obka3Couple
over a year ago

bournemouth


"I had it done at 27. I've got 3 kids didn't ever think of leaving the mrs. If I did and met someone else then that's their problem if they wanted kids.

The procedure was quick but due to my ball bag being very tight and small when examined I was knocked out.

I had no problems and played football 2 days later. After 5 days the stitches irritated me so I took them out myself.

Never had any problems before during or after.

My advice. Go for it. It that's what you want. "

Good man, whats up with all these softies having time off?Had mine down 15 yrs ago, it was by the electronic sealing method, two little cuts a quick zap on each tube and two more on the cuts , job done, back at work next morning, no bruising or pain, apart from bouncing over pot holes in the tractor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ha ha that made me giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had it done 5-6 years ago, op itself was nothing to speak of, some discomfort for a week or so. Every now and then I get a nasty dull ache on the left testicle that lasts from a few minutes to a couple of hours, as someone else said, doc reckons it's scar tissue. Usually have to give two sperm samples over the course of 3-4 months, for some reason I had to give 5 samples, they never did explain that, other than to say the test wasn't conclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it done four years ago like above some discomfort for a few days and black balls but it was bearable

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West


"So im thinking getting the 'snip'

Ive got my kids and I'm more than happy with what I have.

Can anyone give me first hand advice about what its like to have it done? Whats the recovery time like? And is it selfish of me to do this incase I decide to settle down and the lucky lady wants kids??"

I had it 20 years ago and it was the best decision ever. Inside of the marriage it just takes away so much pressure abnd worry about contraception and really allows you (both) to relax.

It was a little painful for a week or so afterwards but that soon goes away. There is probably a slight reduction in volume of semen but I would hardly call it a drawback.

Selfish???? Only you know if you want more kids. I knew that three was enough and I had no doubts whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the snip 17 years ago. had 3 kids and didn't want any more. Op was fine. Beware if you have a manual job. I went back to work after a Cpl of days and ripped the stiches out which gave me infection. Longer time off work.

But after no problems. Like some said stops the issues of conception. still a heavy cummer. But its not every one cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fred had it done a few years back, other than I think it tastes different neither of us have noticed any other differences.

Healing time was about a week, though sometimes it was a bit achey after ejaculation.

The one thing that I would say is make sure that the Dr leaves a sufficient gap between aneathatising and cauterising as Fred ended up with an electric shock to his bits.

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