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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You would trust someone before using restraints/handcuffs etc, Assuming you liked them enough for a repeat meet and are into that sort of thing, 3rd 4th meet or save it for a bf or trusted fb ?

And couples the fact that your partner is present would you do it on a first meet ?

I have always liked the idea of rubbing massage oil all over a Woman then using various sex toys and watching her cum over and over, Having sex and starting again,

I'm not sure if I could be tied up completely, Maybe the hands but not hands and legs as the thought of not being able to move freaks me out a little

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I can't even spend a night with someone I haven't known for at least a year! I have trust issues.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The question was meant for the ladies but change a few words and the same questions for the Men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a bad experience with restraints while I was at a club so I'm a bit weird about them now. I would only do it with someone after at least one meet, probably more. I've only used them once on a meet, though I hope to try out more permutations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't impose restraints etc on a first meet as I wouldn't be comfortable myself.

Maybe a couple of meets down the line?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

1 social. 1 play meet..then the fun can start

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

There's only one person I'd trust to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have tied my wife to the bed and invited somebody round to fuck her without ever having met them before.

Worked out pretty well.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I would have to know somebody for an awfully long time. I'm more than happy to be helpless and vulnerable with Mr N and if he's present with other people but one to one with another person is unlikely to ever happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the bosses at a certain holiday park was well known for having been tied to the bed by a sexy lady... who then walked off with his wallet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one social with hubby there played with Sir next meet but we had chatted loads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a bad experience with restraints while I was at a club so I'm a bit weird about them now. I would only do it with someone after at least one meet, probably more. I've only used them once on a meet, though I hope to try out more permutations. "

I should note that this is assuming Marc is present. Without him there it wouldn't happen at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

trust W to do this or him to be there - maybe one or two of my girlfriends as i have done this to one already -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have to know them pretty well before I let them loose with the restraints.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Ermmmmm along time but I have no time span...I guess you just get a feeling of who you can trust to do it, however you may know someone for a long time and they may take the piss I think I just go by caution and that you really don't know people fully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a bad experience with restraints while I was at a club so I'm a bit weird about them now. I would only do it with someone after at least one meet, probably more. I've only used them once on a meet, though I hope to try out more permutations.

I should note that this is assuming Marc is present. Without him there it wouldn't happen at all. "

Crowd management - I get that role too - it ain't easy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One female restrained me handcuffs a few years ago.

I'm just coming to the end of my community service.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's only one person I'd trust to do that"

Thanks Joe

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Not until after the second coffee.

I ain't easy you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ermmmmm along time but I have no time span...I guess you just get a feeling of who you can trust to do it, however you may know someone for a long time and they may take the piss I think I just go by caution and that you really don't know people fully. "

I suppose after each meet your trust in them goes a little further but I get what you're saying about not really knowing someone

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Ermmmmm along time but I have no time span...I guess you just get a feeling of who you can trust to do it, however you may know someone for a long time and they may take the piss I think I just go by caution and that you really don't know people fully.

I suppose after each meet your trust in them goes a little further but I get what you're saying about not really knowing someone"

I learnt my lesson with that, don't get me wrong I love being restrained but I have only met one man who I would let him do it...which is a shame as I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always liked the idea of this, but like others, have that trust issue. Rather than cuffs, I purchased some velcro restraints. They kinda give me the sense that I'd still be able to get free if needed. Still to have them used on myself, but used them on a guy who I had met several times previously.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I doubt few singles would be up for it straight away. Why leave yourself so vulnerable to a stranger? I'd have to know someone quite well first. My safety is paramount.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr G - I love being restrained and using cuffs etc. But I trust him implicitly.

Would we do it with someone else there and how soon. With another lady - yes. With another man - not as yet.

Cuffs that Velcro are a good option I'm thinking if you just want to try it out lightly - as you can unfasten easily if you're uncomfortable at all.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have always liked the idea of this, but like others, have that trust issue. Rather than cuffs, I purchased some velcro restraints. They kinda give me the sense that I'd still be able to get free if needed. Still to have them used on myself, but used them on a guy who I had met several times previously."

I probably would only have the velcro restraints used on me as well for the same reason, And with a couple or in a MFM when we needed to have a rest we could always leave a couple of sex toys with/in her while we had a pint and watched

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I doubt few singles would be up for it straight away. Why leave yourself so vulnerable to a stranger? I'd have to know someone quite well first. My safety is paramount."

Bloody hell where you been hiding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have only let one guy off fab 'tie me up' and he did that with restraints i could get out of easily.

i don't trust easily at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ladies I've met from fab I've trusted from the first time.

I mean what's the worst they could do while I was tied, spreadeagle, unable to stop them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally not the same thing but I dated a guy a few years back and it was the first time he stayed over, he was a really bad snorer so I went and got my nasal spray for blocked noses and sprayed it up his nostrils, he woke up to me leaning over him holding the spray between my fingers like a syringe, I've never seen a guy look so frightened and thinking if it had been the other way round it would've frightened me too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The ladies I've met from fab I've trusted from the first time.

I mean what's the worst they could do while I was tied, spreadeagle, unable to stop them...

"

A reason to keep my legs free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would trust a lady on the first meet because its a fantasy of mine. In case of emergency I know how to break out of several type of cuffs, police issued including (don't ask me how).

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

One social, one play meet then maybe but only if I got a good vibe off him. Well if I didn't I wouldn't meet him again anyway!

Safety first though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(don't ask me how)."

Okay.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I would trust a lady on the first meet because its a fantasy of mine. In case of emergency I know how to break out of several type of cuffs, police issued including (don't ask me how)."

You been watching those Facebook how to break out of videos?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would trust a lady on the first meet because its a fantasy of mine. In case of emergency I know how to break out of several type of cuffs, police issued including (don't ask me how).

You been watching those Facebook how to break out of videos? "

No, let's just say I had an accident when I was younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally not the same thing but I dated a guy a few years back and it was the first time he stayed over, he was a really bad snorer so I went and got my nasal spray for blocked noses and sprayed it up his nostrils, he woke up to me leaning over him holding the spray between my fingers like a syringe, I've never seen a guy look so frightened and thinking if it had been the other way round it would've frightened me too!"

You penetrated his nose without permission

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I doubt few singles would be up for it straight away. Why leave yourself so vulnerable to a stranger? I'd have to know someone quite well first. My safety is paramount.

Bloody hell where you been hiding "

Been busy and kind of on a fab break. Life gets in the way.

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