FabSwingers.com forum: avoid list

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

apparently there is an "avoid list" on here. Would it be nice to know how people can put you in that list and who check their reports . any infos ? thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There isn't one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's called the block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've never heard of it and i fuck and chat to a lot of people. doubt many people are using that list (if it exists).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooo never heard of this

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would love to be on it, or thankful I am

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Reckon I'm on a fair few avoid lists then.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I have been assured by a Platinum Member that my name is on the list.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Reckon I'm on a fair few avoid lists then.

probably not as many as me...

I use my hotlist like an avoid list.... does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm....even if such a thing existed i would avoid those that took notice of such a thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well in that case is not fair that Platinum members can ruin the experience here of other members

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh hang on is it when people post nasty/wierd/odd forum posts n we all say "now we know who to avoid"?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes its definetly available to platinum members only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people who tell you there isn't one are lying - they just don't want you to know if it's existence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be on it lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use my hotlist as my avoid list...

and just in case I forgot why I put someone on it I make a note, just in case...

once an administrator, always an administrator

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My name is written on it in capitals and underlined in red three times.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"well in that case is not fair that Platinum members can ruin the experience here of other members "

OP there is no such thing as a platimum member and theres no 'avoid list' - both are just things that people say to wind others up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well it is not nice when you write to someon and they answer insulting you saying that u are in such a list in the last montha it happened to me 3 or 4 times

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"well in that case is not fair that Platinum members can ruin the experience here of other members "

It's part of the perks of Platinum membership. They get to read the threads that have been removed too.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"well in that case is not fair that Platinum members can ruin the experience here of other members "
what makes you think your on some non existant avoid list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ell it does not look like . people i never spoke with and were here since few days made reference to such a list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

because people answered my firs message to them referring to it just before blocking me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"well it is not nice when you write to someon and they answer insulting you saying that u are in such a list in the last montha it happened to me 3 or 4 times "
did they say avoid list or block list

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The block list? I'm on some peoples.....some peoples are on mine.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"well it is not nice when you write to someon and they answer insulting you saying that u are in such a list in the last montha it happened to me 3 or 4 times "

They are talking out of their arses, if they are being abusive report the messages and then block. Otherwise just ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy fix - just change your name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because people answered my firs message to them referring to it just before blocking me "

I think they are just talking about blocking you. There really isn't an avoid list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well it is not nice when you write to someon and they answer insulting you saying that u are in such a list in the last montha it happened to me 3 or 4 times "

Block and move on. Only way forward.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"The people who tell you there isn't one are lying - they just don't want you to know if it's existence."

A conspiracy theory, I simply love it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

avoid. i repeat it. people i never dealt with before.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"well it is not nice when you write to someon and they answer insulting you saying that u are in such a list in the last montha it happened to me 3 or 4 times

They are talking out of their arses, if they are being abusive report the messages and then block. Otherwise just ignore them."

That

funny when it's your bottom avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"avoid. i repeat it. people i never dealt with before. "

OK. Fine. You win, it exists.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"avoid. i repeat it. people i never dealt with before. "
ok everyone is able to block someone so you will be on their personal block/avoid list there is no central database you pop up on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sorry but how can it be if I never spoke or written to these people before.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"avoid. i repeat it. people i never dealt with before.

OK. Fine. You win, it exists. "

did someone just end up on the avoid list.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id love to know what the message is if it gets onto the 'avoid list' every time

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

It may well be that certain people talk about certain people, as people do ... I certain have a very extensive block list because I frequent the forums, and I am sure I am on a lot of people's lists too ... I am not here to be popular though, but to find like minded people, and these are few and far between

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"id love to know what the message is if it gets onto the 'avoid list' every time

One can only imagine!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Welcome OP

You're not on the avoid forum list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

oh I would send it to you but it seems i'm too young for you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"sorry but how can it be if I never spoke or written to these people before. "
hang on are you saying people youve never messaged are messaging you just to say your on an avoid list and youve never spoken to them or do you mean after youve sent a first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"avoid. i repeat it. people i never dealt with before.

OK. Fine. You win, it exists.

did someone just end up on the avoid list.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no avoid list. But if multiple people are continually telling you that they have heard you should be avoided then maybe for whatever reason you have got yourself a reputation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well some people i'm quite sure were here for not so loon to have created such an effective network here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

daje. it happens 4 times in few months and they all referred to the "avoid list"

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"well some people i'm quite sure were here for not so loon to have created such an effective network here "

Truly who cares about other people's bitching, just leave them be and chat to people who want to chat with you.

Makes Fab life angst free....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

message vary since i do not like copy paste but they are ok no rude stuff

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Reckon I'm on a fair few avoid lists then.

probably not as many as me...

I use my hotlist like an avoid list.... does that count?

Me too.. also the private message feature on profiles is very handy.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ps... Have you got yourself into a tizzy over anything else, as people may have noticed and commented

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"daje. it happens 4 times in few months and they all referred to the "avoid list" "
do you go to clubs or parties up your way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes they answered referring to the list and then blocked me after my first message to them

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

As an aside, it seems I am on the OPs 'avoid' list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

never met anyone from here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As an aside, it seems I am on the OPs 'avoid' list

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"never met anyone from here "

Keep getting involved and you will soon get yourself known.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbf I think op has come up with a new fab feature.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"never met anyone from here "
well in that case just assume they are talking about personal block lists nothing to worry about

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"It's called the block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid list?? Damn I want to see that list

However reality is, there is no such list but people do talk to each other, so if you've been rude, stood someone up etc previously then unfortunately word can get around in certain circles. However most people have the ability and sense to make up their own minds

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sorry if i was i their block list i could not write to them. and we are speaking of people i never spoke or messafged before. block list is ok. is the existence of a shared/common avoid list if exists that i do not like.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I'm on it, it's a badge of honour

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

" is the existence of a shared/common avoid list if exists

It doesnt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

not convinced. 2 of them suscribed since very few days. that shocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sorry if i was i their block list i could not write to them. and we are speaking of people i never spoke or messafged before. block list is ok. is the existence of a shared/common avoid list if exists that i do not like. "

**Sigh**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not convinced. 2 of them suscribed since very few days. that shocked me "

No such list exists. Maybe they are people returning who you have messaged on previous profiles and they don't want contact with you.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

OP, I feel something may have been lost in translation.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Half full glass or a half empty one.....

Your choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been assured by a Platinum Member that my name is on the list.

I didn't tell you that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

not really the simplest solution.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

" is the existence of a shared/common avoid list if exists

It doesnt"

You sure?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing devil's advocate here, if you message someone who has filters set to not accept for example single males does the system send an auto response of "you are on our avoid list" maybe???

Mrs rsc

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"not convinced. 2 of them suscribed since very few days. that shocked me "

Next time you get one, all you need to do is take as much notice of it as you have done to the answers in this thread and your problem will be solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes they answered referring to the list and then blocked me after my first message to them "

It's called "taking the piss" there really is no such list!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no i never do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid avoid avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or are they warning you about a big hole........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know people can put you on a block list after they've spoken to you. You can be blocked at any time

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

" is the existence of a shared/common avoid list if exists

It doesnt

You sure?

It does now

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Playing devil's advocate here, if you message someone who has filters set to not accept for example single males does the system send an auto response of "you are on our avoid list" maybe???

Mrs rsc"

No. It sends a 'you cannot message this person due to XYZ' warning.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"not convinced. 2 of them suscribed since very few days. that shocked me "
so how come none of us know about the list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes, thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

oh that's useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing devil's advocate here, if you message someone who has filters set to not accept for example single males does the system send an auto response of "you are on our avoid list" maybe???

Mrs rsc

No. It sends a 'you cannot message this person due to XYZ' warning."

Ahh ok thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I made the list.. You're all on it...... And anyone who doesn't use reply +quote, are on it, in red capitals.. At the top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's pretty shite if that's what you've been lead to believe.

Everyone can block & as a single man use this tool to your advantage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well it is not nice when you write to someon and they answer insulting you saying that u are in such a list in the last montha it happened to me 3 or 4 times "

I have seen some women on the forum say that they discuss people with their friends and decide who to avoid. Perhaps they mean something similar?

Either way it's not worth worrying about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just had a quick look at the list and it seems quite a few people in here are on it.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"apparently there is an "avoid list" on here. Would it be nice to know how people can put you in that list and who check their reports . any infos ? thanks "

There isn't one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are even on it twice.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"well it is not nice when you write to someon and they answer insulting you saying that u are in such a list in the last montha it happened to me 3 or 4 times

I have seen some women on the forum say that they discuss people with their friends and decide who to avoid. Perhaps they mean something similar?

Either way it's not worth worrying about.

Avoid anyone who copies their friends .... they don't have a mind of their own .... that's my advice, but don't follow it because you'll be copying me then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just had a quick look at the list and it seems quite a few people in here are on it.

I wish people would learn to read it then as i still get asked if i want to meet

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Some are even on it twice."

Only twice? I must try harder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some are even on it twice."

If your on it twice does that mean we have to avoid ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some are even on it twice."

He's checking his list, he's checking it twice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i am not worried. i wanted to check if soneon knew something about. if it has to do with the site i think some admin should tell u.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just had a quick look at the list and it seems quite a few people in here are on it.

Can we be on it?? We like a good list!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"well in that case is not fair that Platinum members can ruin the experience here of other members "

Take no notice, there is no platinum membership and no list.

Some people might talk to each other about other people for most of us like to make our own mind up so don't do that.

Welcome to the forum, stick around and join in.

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