FabSwingers.com forum: Tips on going cold Turkey!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right I was going to leave but have decided to just hide profile and hope I can resist the eurge to come back on

Do you lovely lot think it's easier to just delete so there are no temptations? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on your reason for leaving I guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nooo where you going??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you really wanted to leave you would have deleted your profile and not even asked the question. If you just hide it you are still involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took up canoeing, worked for about 6 months...

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"If you really wanted to leave you would have deleted your profile and not even asked the question. If you just hide it you are still involved. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think you're gunna come back then just hide your profile and block the website from whatever devices you usually use.

If you don't want to ever come back then delete it and block.

I'll miss your pics either way, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Depends on your reason for leaving I guess?"

This. I wouldn't bother doing either if i still wanted to log on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you want to leave?

Why do you want to stay?

Only you can answer the above, if you're unsure I would just log off or hide your profile. It's always there to come back too. x

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

Noooo don't leave! ! Will miss your stunning legs & bum

I keep getting sucked back in whenever I think I will give up.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've left a few times,it's then a pain to get verified again because people won't meet because you have no verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deleting a profile is really no big deal anyway. It's not like you can't set up another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Deleting a profile is really no big deal anyway. It's not like you can't set up another."

I have zero self control. When I want a 'real' break I'll just delete and disappear. It's not like it matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id stay just for the forums if i wasnt meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as when I will move to spain. I would just have the profile to use the forum with.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We've never felt the need to delete, yet anyway to avoid temptation.

We often hide our profile or just disappear for weeks / months at a time or until we feel like coming back. Once we decide we've had enough, it's easy to stay away.

I'm sure one day, we will just decide not to come back. When that happens, we'll log on, delete and slip off unnoticed.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Don't go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way to stay away is to cancel your internet connection.

And ideally get locked in a padded cell for the foreseeable future.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If i was going to leave and not come back id just leave.

If i was just taking a break id hide my profile sometimes i just take a break and do nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've left and come back countless times...which doesn't say much for my self control

Now I just hide profile .. It really makes no odds unless you have verifications you want to keep

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Don't go OP!!

Just hide your profile if you fancy a break. No point in deleting it...everyone always comes back eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right I was going to leave but have decided to just hide profile and hope I can resist the eurge to come back on

Do you lovely lot think it's easier to just delete so there are no temptations? Xx "

Just delete if you really want to leave or you will be back

your breast size changes with every pic in your profile, are they inflatable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've never felt the need to delete, yet anyway to avoid temptation.

We often hide our profile or just disappear for weeks / months at a time or until we feel like coming back. Once we decide we've had enough, it's easy to stay away.

I'm sure one day, we will just decide not to come back. When that happens, we'll log on, delete and slip off unnoticed. "

give me a heads up so i can watch you leave..

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Delete

all the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i didnt log on for months

was pretty easy

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"We've never felt the need to delete, yet anyway to avoid temptation.

We often hide our profile or just disappear for weeks / months at a time or until we feel like coming back. Once we decide we've had enough, it's easy to stay away.

I'm sure one day, we will just decide not to come back. When that happens, we'll log on, delete and slip off unnoticed.

give me a heads up so i can watch you leave..

and then throw a thank fuck for that party!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right I was going to leave but have decided to just hide profile and hope I can resist the eurge to come back on

Do you lovely lot think it's easier to just delete so there are no temptations? Xx "

What you have to do to delete your profile (and therefore attempt to make a break), is not worry about the whole verification thing, once you can let go of the "but if I come back, I will have to start again" thing, the temptation to return is easier to deal with (maybe thats just a single guy thing).

Fab takes up your time, if you don't replace that activity with something else, you will return (probably), find something else that intrigues/excites and gives you pleasure and fab is in your past.

Good luck with whatever you decide xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Id stay just for the forums if i wasnt meeting"

I did this before but get drawn back in! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have someone you trust enough - they could change your password to one you don't know. Then you can't log in.

Or delete - as a single lady it's easier because you'll still get lots of attention when you return - whether you disappear for a week or months.

Only you can decide what's best for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Feel like we need a break from it and I have a lot going on in normal life! But sometimes its a great distraction from normality, I don't think I want to leave forever but was worried if I only hide it will be more tempting to pop back on!

I spend a lot of time on here so need to break that habit x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Right I was going to leave but have decided to just hide profile and hope I can resist the eurge to come back on

Do you lovely lot think it's easier to just delete so there are no temptations? Xx

Just delete if you really want to leave or you will be back

your breast size changes with every pic in your profile, are they inflatable?

Yes they are! I have a little pump I press

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel like we need a break from it and I have a lot going on in normal life! But sometimes its a great distraction from normality, I don't think I want to leave forever but was worried if I only hide it will be more tempting to pop back on!

I spend a lot of time on here so need to break that habit x"

So then delete. Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has reasons for both being here and deciding to leave.

I left a few weeks ago because I started getting abusive messages. I've left in the past because I questioned why I was here.

Asking others if you should leave is never a good idea I think. It doesn't really matter what others think about you leaving OR coming back.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Every time you log on .I'll perv your profile .. That should put you off

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Right I was going to leave but have decided to just hide profile and hope I can resist the eurge to come back on

Do you lovely lot think it's easier to just delete so there are no temptations? Xx

Just delete if you really want to leave or you will be back

your breast size changes with every pic in your profile, are they inflatable?

Yes they are! I have a little pump I press

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I've got one of those attached to my cock

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Join Fab Anonymous, great group support "I'm a Fabber, it is 7 days since I last fabbed". Good luck in your challenge

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

It's usually better to go cold turkey after Christmas

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I hid my profile a while ago, I found as long as I had something else to do I didn't log on. After a while I didn't notice fab..

Stay, hide, leave Whatever you do .. have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Everyone has reasons for both being here and deciding to leave.

I left a few weeks ago because I started getting abusive messages. I've left in the past because I questioned why I was here.

Asking others if you should leave is never a good idea I think. It doesn't really matter what others think about you leaving OR coming back."

This is exactly what I think too. Everyone will have an opinion on why you have left or why you have returned, if you do, but you are the only one who really knows so do what's right for you and to hell with everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get someone you trust to change your password and they only give it to you on a given day, say a week later.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I will never leave this site*, but when I have had enough of the site I hide my profile, filter all messages, turn off my pics, and change my password to a random generated one that I copy and paste over then forget.

When I want to come back I click 'forgot my password', set up a new one, and off I go.

*unless it starts charging or I get pushed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I guess I was trying to get opinions on whether others that hide their profile rather than leaving still find it to hard to stay away. I don't want to leave completely yet but wasn't sure if just hiding would be too tempting!

I don't think I will be gone forever but wanted a proper break to see how I then feel.

I am going to hide my profile and if I can't resist I will then leave.

Thanks for all of your comments, I know that starting a thread asking for opinions is opening up a bowl of worms but you've all been pretty nice xxxx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

OP, are you taking a break from everything, just Fab or just the forum?

I hid for about 6 months, recently back. I took a chunk of time away from the forum too.

The trick is to not be interested in this but be interested in other things.

Have fun and I hope to see you some time in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right I was going to leave but have decided to just hide profile and hope I can resist the eurge to come back on

Do you lovely lot think it's easier to just delete so there are no temptations? Xx "

I thought I had deleted until months later I just clicked on a link for Fab on my phone and it automatically took me to my profile (minus all photos) but still photo verified

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, are you taking a break from everything, just Fab or just the forum?

I hid for about 6 months, recently back. I took a chunk of time away from the forum too.

The trick is to not be interested in this but be interested in other things.

Have fun and I hope to see you some time in the future.

Hi Lickety, a break from it all! It's the forums that are addictive for me but once I'm on I answer messages and upload pics etc. So I need a complete breather Xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"OP, are you taking a break from everything, just Fab or just the forum?

I hid for about 6 months, recently back. I took a chunk of time away from the forum too.

The trick is to not be interested in this but be interested in other things.

Have fun and I hope to see you some time in the future.

Hi Lickety, a break from it all! It's the forums that are addictive for me but once I'm on I answer messages and upload pics etc. So I need a complete breather Xx "

Just go into hiding. Don't log on and don't read the forum by looking at the site without logging on. Cold turkey is best, in my experience, as the addiction bit is seeing how a thread turns out/seeing who has answered your question.

When you're ready to come back let us know and we'll all gather at VA for a celebration.

Be at peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nooo where you going??

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

I've just come back from an 18 month break from Fab. Didn't delete or hide just did not log on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, are you taking a break from everything, just Fab or just the forum?

I hid for about 6 months, recently back. I took a chunk of time away from the forum too.

The trick is to not be interested in this but be interested in other things.

Have fun and I hope to see you some time in the future.

Hi Lickety, a break from it all! It's the forums that are addictive for me but once I'm on I answer messages and upload pics etc. So I need a complete breather Xx "

Is it taking up too much time or conflicting with reality?!

I would hide but if you don't think you can do that then like SSS did a clean break & delete x

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Fab is like Hotel California.

You check out anytime you like, but you can never leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh don't you just love the ones that make a big announcement about stopping or going !!!....like anyone really cares in the whole space of things ...ffs

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple
over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

"OP, are you taking a break from everything, just Fab or just the forum?

I hid for about 6 months, recently back. I took a chunk of time away from the forum too.

The trick is to not be interested in this but be interested in other things.

Have fun and I hope to see you some time in the future.

Hi Lickety, a break from it all! It's the forums that are addictive for me but once I'm on I answer messages and upload pics etc. So I need a complete breather Xx "

If it's a break from it all then just hide your account ( in case you want to come back ) log out, remove fab swingers from your history and search bar ect, and then get on with real life!

It's really easy to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you know what's best for yourself lovely .

Maybe a break from all things fab is what's needed. Then, after a few months you'll have a better idea of what you really want. Xx

Good luck whatever you decide .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhh don't you just love the ones that make a big announcement about stopping or going !!!....like anyone really cares in the whole space of things ...ffs

Some people do!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhh don't you just love the ones that make a big announcement about stopping or going !!!....like anyone really cares in the whole space of things ...ffs

Some people do!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhh don't you just love the ones that make a big announcement about stopping or going !!!....like anyone really cares in the whole space of things ...ffs

Some people do!!"

if they cared that much they'd make sure they'd got them on whatsapp /kik etc etc ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhh don't you just love the ones that make a big announcement about stopping or going !!!....like anyone really cares in the whole space of things ...ffs

Some people do!

if they cared that much they'd make sure they'd got them on whatsapp /kik etc etc ...

Harsh!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhh don't you just love the ones that make a big announcement about stopping or going !!!....like anyone really cares in the whole space of things ...ffs

Some people do!!

if they cared that much they'd make sure they'd got them on whatsapp /kik etc etc ...

Maybe they do just to keep in touch with friends but its the actual site that's so tempting, Most people come back eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhh don't you just love the ones that make a big announcement about stopping or going !!!....like anyone really cares in the whole space of things ...ffs

Some people do!

if they cared that much they'd make sure they'd got them on whatsapp /kik etc etc ...

Harsh!!!"

true though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhh don't you just love the ones that make a big announcement about stopping or going !!!....like anyone really cares in the whole space of things ...ffs

Some people do!!

if they cared that much they'd make sure they'd got them on whatsapp /kik etc etc ...

Maybe they do just to keep in touch with friends but its the actual site that's so tempting, Most people come back eventually "

This

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By *ods_Perfect_IdiotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I won't delete it's taken years to get my verifications and don't won't them disappearing lol but no doubt I'll be back at some point if I did putting far too much effort in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhh don't you just love the ones that make a big announcement about stopping or going !!!....like anyone really cares in the whole space of things ...ffs

Some people do!

if they cared that much they'd make sure they'd got them on whatsapp /kik etc etc ...

Harsh!!!

true though

Not really. No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right I was going to leave but have decided to just hide profile and hope I can resist the eurge to come back on

Do you lovely lot think it's easier to just delete so there are no temptations? Xx

Just delete if you really want to leave or you will be back

your breast size changes with every pic in your profile, are they inflatable?

Why was that necessary

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, are you taking a break from everything, just Fab or just the forum?

I hid for about 6 months, recently back. I took a chunk of time away from the forum too.

The trick is to not be interested in this but be interested in other things.

Have fun and I hope to see you some time in the future.

Hi Lickety, a break from it all! It's the forums that are addictive for me but once I'm on I answer messages and upload pics etc. So I need a complete breather Xx

Is it taking up too much time or conflicting with reality?!

I would hide but if you don't think you can do that then like SSS did a clean break & delete x"

Haha yes he did but he came back and went again but still says he's coming back again

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

" Depends on your reason for leaving I guess?"

This is odd - rumours of of your UNLOS were greatly exaggerated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, are you taking a break from everything, just Fab or just the forum?

I hid for about 6 months, recently back. I took a chunk of time away from the forum too.

The trick is to not be interested in this but be interested in other things.

Have fun and I hope to see you some time in the future.

Hi Lickety, a break from it all! It's the forums that are addictive for me but once I'm on I answer messages and upload pics etc. So I need a complete breather Xx

Is it taking up too much time or conflicting with reality?!

I would hide but if you don't think you can do that then like SSS did a clean break & delete x

Haha yes he did but he came back and went again but still says he's coming back again

True but he went cold turkey & deleted.

It's all down to your own reasoning as to why you want a break. If it's more than just being bored & your will power is lacking then I would say deleting is the way forward.

Only you know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id stay just for the forums if i wasnt meeting"

this is me also -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Depends on your reason for leaving I guess?

This is odd - rumours of of your UNLOS were greatly exaggerated

not by me I hasten to add !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Depends on your reason for leaving I guess?

This is odd - rumours of of your UNLOS were greatly exaggerated

not by me I hasten to add !"

Here means me.

Joe he did leave- but we are obviously irresistible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Depends on your reason for leaving I guess?

This is odd - rumours of of your UNLOS were greatly exaggerated

not by me I hasten to add !

Here means me.

Joe he did leave- but we are obviously irresistible!

Actually I did

. I left for a specific reason but it's pants reading the forum for 168 hours without being able to scream in retaliation at others comments!

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