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"Thank you, I don't actually have to confidence to go to a meet, I'm just after a bit of NSA. And thank you for the compliment " How do you get nsa if youre not going to go for a meet? | |||
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"I think, perhaps you are taking Fabs a bit too seriously. I seem to be the exception in that I apparently find it much easier to have casual sex through Fabs, I absolutley suck at both casual and serious dating on dating sites. I don't wonder if on Fabs, people are much more ready to accept me being a sarcastic twat, whereas on dating sites they get mortally offended..." Cheers Jim, I know what you mean. I just don't think the site is for me, I reckon I'm a bit too reserved for the site haha. Thank you for your input though! | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. " Tree trunk? | |||
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"Totally get what you mean, but I'm quite the reserved person. That profile is exactly how I intend people to find me. I don't want to post things like "i want to bend you over and obliterate you in front of an open fire" because personally I don't think anyone should need to. (Given, I know that isn't the "sexy" you were defining, but do you get what I mean?)" I never do that shit. I'm not here for cheap textual thrills, I like actual sex, with people. | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. " They may not be sexy to you, but they are sexy in there own way and some one will appreciate them. | |||
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"On your profile pic you look a lot like Justin Bobby from the Hills " I'll take that as a compliment. Thank you, although I look nothing like him from another angle haha | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. " A lot of Men/Women like "tree trunk fatties" And a lot are successful on here despite the ratio of Men to Women | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. " You have an extremely low opinion of some men and women | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. " lol. | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. You have an extremely low opinion of some men and women " I could have gone lower believe me | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. They may not be sexy to you, but they are sexy in there own way and some one will appreciate them. " Yes very true but not for me | |||
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"I've never understood why it's scary to go to a club. Take Xtasia for example. It's a nightclub where some people somewhere may be having a shag. OP, what did you think you would get out of joining Fab?" I would find it too scary to go to a normal nightclub by myself too. The idea of walking into a club full of regulars on my own horrifies me, so I can understand why not everyone finds it an easy option. | |||
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"you ask if you know what you mean but i am noit really sure what the point of your post is....what does the title mean 'membership imminent'?. Are you trying to decide if it it worth a fiver every 60 days?" I think my main incentive to this post, albeit a very vague one was to 1) try and see how others have coped with this consistent uphill struggle of successfully messaging someone. 2) spread awareness that new users actually exist and given the time of day, they might actually be worth speaking to. Obviously I can understand women on here get 20 messages a minute, but for men it's the opposite. We're lucky if we get a view in a week, and even then it wouldn't be accompanied by anything, so I can't justify spending money to be a verified member, to appease someone's rules for meeting if they won't give you the time of day to begin with. It's a constant catch 22. | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. Tree trunk? " Ignore him. He's forgetting that us ugly tree trunk fatties have standereds n while men may just "shag anytging" is women won't. X | |||
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"you ask if you know what you mean but i am noit really sure what the point of your post is....what does the title mean 'membership imminent'?. Are you trying to decide if it it worth a fiver every 60 days? I think my main incentive to this post, albeit a very vague one was to 1) try and see how others have coped with this consistent uphill struggle of successfully messaging someone. 2) spread awareness that new users actually exist and given the time of day, they might actually be worth speaking to. Obviously I can understand women on here get 20 messages a minute, but for men it's the opposite. We're lucky if we get a view in a week, and even then it wouldn't be accompanied by anything, so I can't justify spending money to be a verified member, to appease someone's rules for meeting if they won't give you the time of day to begin with. It's a constant catch 22. " Not everyone requires membership or verifications. My partner and I both meet people on our own and together who don't have memberships or verifications. | |||
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"OP, just don't become a bitter person like some seem to on here." Oh no, far from it. It isn't in my nature, I think it's just one of those where I can't justify investing. | |||
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"you ask if you know what you mean but i am noit really sure what the point of your post is....what does the title mean 'membership imminent'?. Are you trying to decide if it it worth a fiver every 60 days? I think my main incentive to this post, albeit a very vague one was to 1) try and see how others have coped with this consistent uphill struggle of successfully messaging someone. 2) spread awareness that new users actually exist and given the time of day, they might actually be worth speaking to. Obviously I can understand women on here get 20 messages a minute, but for men it's the opposite. We're lucky if we get a view in a week, and even then it wouldn't be accompanied by anything, so I can't justify spending money to be a verified member, to appease someone's rules for meeting if they won't give you the time of day to begin with. It's a constant catch 22. " Just dive in and message people - normally they have written something I find interesting so I ask/take the piss out of that... | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. Tree trunk? Ignore him. He's forgetting that us ugly tree trunk fatties have standereds n while men may just "shag anytging" is women won't. X" I just didn't even get what it meant. Brown and barking? | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. Tree trunk? Ignore him. He's forgetting that us ugly tree trunk fatties have standereds n while men may just "shag anytging" is women won't. X" You haven't ignored me by replying lol and I'm fine with critism....preferences, preferences, preferences | |||
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"I've never understood why it's scary to go to a club. Take Xtasia for example. It's a nightclub where some people somewhere may be having a shag. OP, what did you think you would get out of joining Fab?" Personally, I thought I would meet some genuine likeminded people, send a few messages, go for a drink and then just have casual sex now and again. But there's women like "I will ONLY meet in clubs" on their profile which require you to spend £30 on the door, to then have a dress down rule imposed upon you. That sounds terrifying, you've got to bare in mind I'm 28, I'm still in the category where I can go out "on the pull" but I don't because I'm not confident enough. I was after a more relaxing environment. | |||
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"I've never understood why it's scary to go to a club. Take Xtasia for example. It's a nightclub where some people somewhere may be having a shag. OP, what did you think you would get out of joining Fab? I would find it too scary to go to a normal nightclub by myself too. The idea of walking into a club full of regulars on my own horrifies me, so I can understand why not everyone finds it an easy option. " | |||
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"I've never understood why it's scary to go to a club. Take Xtasia for example. It's a nightclub where some people somewhere may be having a shag. OP, what did you think you would get out of joining Fab? Personally, I thought I would meet some genuine likeminded people, send a few messages, go for a drink and then just have casual sex now and again. But there's women like "I will ONLY meet in clubs" on their profile which require you to spend £30 on the door, to then have a dress down rule imposed upon you. That sounds terrifying, you've got to bare in mind I'm 28, I'm still in the category where I can go out "on the pull" but I don't because I'm not confident enough. I was after a more relaxing environment. " Learning not to give a shit is quite empowering. You can certainly meet people in the way you describe - I have. I'm not sure about turning up at a club by myself either. | |||
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"I've never understood why it's scary to go to a club. Take Xtasia for example. It's a nightclub where some people somewhere may be having a shag. OP, what did you think you would get out of joining Fab? Personally, I thought I would meet some genuine likeminded people, send a few messages, go for a drink and then just have casual sex now and again. But there's women like "I will ONLY meet in clubs" on their profile which require you to spend £30 on the door, to then have a dress down rule imposed upon you. That sounds terrifying, you've got to bare in mind I'm 28, I'm still in the category where I can go out "on the pull" but I don't because I'm not confident enough. I was after a more relaxing environment. " There are women on here who will fit what you're looking for. Just don't message the ones only looking to meet in a club. Good luck on here xxx | |||
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"I've never understood why it's scary to go to a club. Take Xtasia for example. It's a nightclub where some people somewhere may be having a shag. OP, what did you think you would get out of joining Fab? I would find it too scary to go to a normal nightclub by myself too. The idea of walking into a club full of regulars on my own horrifies me, so I can understand why not everyone finds it an easy option. " But what is there to really be scared of? Go to the bar, order a drink and hang or find a seat. Talk to people or not, it's not like everybody knows everybody apart from you. I rarely see someone I know but I bumped into Wasphunter recently and although we didn't get a chance to have a conversation, we know that we will eventually. | |||
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"Tip: Don't just rely on one site for the action, instead use few sites. I have noticed that women are up for things differently, depending on what sites you use." Would you recommend any? I might have to give that a try! | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. Tree trunk? Ignore him. He's forgetting that us ugly tree trunk fatties have standereds n while men may just "shag anytging" is women won't. X You haven't ignored me by replying lol and I'm fine with critism....preferences, preferences, preferences " Having preferences is perfectly normal and acceptable, being rude about those that don't fit yours isn't | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. Tree trunk? Ignore him. He's forgetting that us ugly tree trunk fatties have standereds n while men may just "shag anytging" is women won't. X I just didn't even get what it meant. Brown and barking?" Hehehe so if I coated myself in ronseal n woofed do ya recon id still get meets x | |||
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"Honestly OP aka Alex1988, bide you're time and relax and remember to expect nothing off this site mate.. cold messaging people is useless most off the time if some one is interested in you they will more or less approach you first chances are better with that.. best you can do is stick to forums/chat rooms or sometimes hit a forum social or a swingers club is you're best option, I know it's not exactly the best thing for me to say but I find it's more better there.. it will take a while for you to come across some one chances are but it can be worth the wait, think some off the guys who join up this place and become a bit soft tbh in the sense they want to be recognised and embraced by whoever it is they they want to meet then end up becoming demoralised by constant rejections over time.. some do have better success but the truth is some guys do sadly become soft over time on here and end up letting it get to them when they don't get what they want, its normal in a sense as some women do have that effect on us it's natural we want to be happy and have a good time with them but the truth is be a gentleman sure but don't expect much or miracles etc just sit back relax and watch how the show/events unfold. that's just my take I know there will be a fair amount who disagree but that's just the way I see it, you will make off this site however way you wish to.. best off luck OP " Thank you very much for taking the time to write something that profound. I really will take note. Thank you! | |||
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"i want to bend you over and obliterate you in front of an open fire" | |||
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"i want to bend you over and obliterate you in front of an open fire " Hello new status. | |||
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" Thank you very much for taking the time to write something that profound. I really will take note. Thank you! " no worries buddy, I'm happy to try offer up some advice when and if I can even though I'm not all that experienced myself on this scene.. remember to NEVER let this place make you soft or turn you into some kind off sad sour puss or sissy/suck up because some woman didn't want to meet you or you don't fit their requirements for one reason or the other let them have their own reasons or ways of functioning their different from us in that sense they do things their own way kind off like how us men do things our own way.. it does get frustrating some times but you need to remember to not take it too serious. | |||
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"i want to bend you over and obliterate you in front of an open fire Hello new status." You talking to me? | |||
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"I've never understood why it's scary to go to a club. Take Xtasia for example. It's a nightclub where some people somewhere may be having a shag. OP, what did you think you would get out of joining Fab? Personally, I thought I would meet some genuine likeminded people, send a few messages, go for a drink and then just have casual sex now and again. But there's women like "I will ONLY meet in clubs" on their profile which require you to spend £30 on the door, to then have a dress down rule imposed upon you. That sounds terrifying, you've got to bare in mind I'm 28, I'm still in the category where I can go out "on the pull" but I don't because I'm not confident enough. I was after a more relaxing environment. Learning not to give a shit is quite empowering. You can certainly meet people in the way you describe - I have. I'm not sure about turning up at a club by myself either. " I'm not sure, I think I'm just a little bit too passive. I'm like a dog chasing a car. I wouldn't know what to do with one when I caught it. Haha | |||
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"i want to bend you over and obliterate you in front of an open fire Hello new status." haha let me know if it works. | |||
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"i want to bend you over and obliterate you in front of an open fire Hello new status. haha let me know if it works. " I can imagine it will earn me at least a couple of blocks. | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. Tree trunk? Ignore him. He's forgetting that us ugly tree trunk fatties have standereds n while men may just "shag anytging" is women won't. X You haven't ignored me by replying lol and I'm fine with critism....preferences, preferences, preferences Having preferences is perfectly normal and acceptable, being rude about those that don't fit yours isn't" I was being descriptive not rude and this is a public forum where we express our views just as you have....no more no less. | |||
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" I'm not sure, I think I'm just a little bit too passive. I'm like a dog chasing a car. I wouldn't know what to do with one when I caught it. Haha" I feel like that way too sometimes OP but the truth is just to go with the flow and I suppose relax... I was told by a forumite I met at a forum social that I was tense and the truth is I was even though I behaved myself and socialised part off me was still kind off in paranoid/on guard mode and didn't really let myself cool it.. | |||
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"i want to bend you over and obliterate you in front of an open fire Hello new status. haha let me know if it works. I can imagine it will earn me at least a couple of blocks. " haha I can't afford that unfortunately. | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. Tree trunk? Ignore him. He's forgetting that us ugly tree trunk fatties have standereds n while men may just "shag anytging" is women won't. X You haven't ignored me by replying lol and I'm fine with critism....preferences, preferences, preferences Having preferences is perfectly normal and acceptable, being rude about those that don't fit yours isn't I was being descriptive not rude and this is a public forum where we express our views just as you have....no more no less. " Your definition of being descriptive is interesting to say the least... There seems plenty that have a "descriptive" view of your attitude now. Good luck with that lol | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. Tree trunk? Ignore him. He's forgetting that us ugly tree trunk fatties have standereds n while men may just "shag anytging" is women won't. X You haven't ignored me by replying lol and I'm fine with critism....preferences, preferences, preferences Having preferences is perfectly normal and acceptable, being rude about those that don't fit yours isn't I was being descriptive not rude and this is a public forum where we express our views just as you have....no more no less. Your definition of being descriptive is interesting to say the least... There seems plenty that have a "descriptive" view of your attitude now. Good luck with that lol" That's good and shows clarity and fairness in the forums ...we all cant agree with everything. | |||
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"That's good and shows clarity and fairness in the forums ...we all cant agree with everything. " As you used the word "fairness" a quick definition for you. "Fairness is the quality of making judgments that are free from discrimination. Judges, umpires, and teachers should all strive to practice fairness." Just because it's a forum that people can post views on, it doesn't give licence to say anything. | |||
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"Most women on here are elevated well above what they could attain in the real world out there in public on a night out on the town . Its a game of statistics , age, and gym body I find. The men outnumber woman 50 to one and that means even ugly tree trunk fatties think they are attractive as some men will shag anything. Tree trunk? Ignore him. He's forgetting that us ugly tree trunk fatties have standereds n while men may just "shag anytging" is women won't. X You haven't ignored me by replying lol and I'm fine with critism....preferences, preferences, preferences Having preferences is perfectly normal and acceptable, being rude about those that don't fit yours isn't I was being descriptive not rude and this is a public forum where we express our views just as you have....no more no less. Your definition of being descriptive is interesting to say the least... There seems plenty that have a "descriptive" view of your attitude now. Good luck with that lol" | |||
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"That's good and shows clarity and fairness in the forums ...we all cant agree with everything. As you used the word "fairness" a quick definition for you. "Fairness is the quality of making judgments that are free from discrimination. Judges, umpires, and teachers should all strive to practice fairness." Just because it's a forum that people can post views on, it doesn't give licence to say anything." I'm afraid it does and I have. | |||
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"i want to bend you over and obliterate you in front of an open fire Hello new status." | |||
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"i want to bend you over and obliterate you in front of an open fire Hello new status. " That made me laugh | |||
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