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verification is the name of the game?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

I was in the Directing room this morning and loads of peeps were chatting to a couple who had just had sex. Fair enough, the couple then asked someone in the room to verify them, a few offered, nothing wrong with that. but what followed alarmed me a little. other room members started asking to verify each other, which a few people agreed too.

I know I cant say that they didn't know each other, but this seemed to go against the whole idea of trust. I understand that nothing can ever be one hundred percent secure, but a few idiots could ruin the whole concept of verification.

that's out of my system now I feel much better! or do i?

Steve x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i only prefere to give veri's if meetin in public and only tend to read the in person veri's x as i dont trust the web cam ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i only prefere to give veri's if meetin in public and only tend to read the in person veri's x as i dont trust the web cam ones "

meeting in person even

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i only prefere to give veri's if meetin in public and only tend to read the in person veri's x as i dont trust the web cam ones "

makes wonder whos genuine though doesnt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i only prefere to give veri's if meetin in public and only tend to read the in person veri's x as i dont trust the web cam ones

meeting in person even "
same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

prefer veri's in person then you know it's genuine!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"prefer veri's in person then you know it's genuine!"

Personally I think in person is the only way. Verification by cam is a open to abuse. but the rules say its ok.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I prefer to suss people out for myself. I trust my own judgement a lot more than the typed word of a total stranger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The verification system allows for us to give each other webcam verifications so why not..

Its up to us as individuals if we chose to validate these verifications when looking at other peoples profiles. If you dont agree with them you can just dismiss them mentally, however some people find them an acceptable method.

Least it shows that a person is who they say they aer physically i guess - still could turn out to be a nutcase though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"prefer veri's in person then you know it's genuine!

Personally I think in person is the only way. Verification by cam is a open to abuse. but the rules say its ok. "

What do you mean by open to abuse?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"The verification system allows for us to give each other webcam verifications so why not..

Its up to us as individuals if we chose to validate these verifications when looking at other peoples profiles. If you dont agree with them you can just dismiss them mentally, however some people find them an acceptable method.

Least it shows that a person is who they say they aer physically i guess - still could turn out to be a nutcase though lol "

Do you want to see my puppies *grins*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do you mean by open to abuse? "

it may not be the person/s you think your talking too, although saying that. that could happen on a meet anyway.

Personally i would not verify someone over a cam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want to see my puppies *grins* "

NO.. haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean by open to abuse?

it may not be the person/s you think your talking too, although saying that. that could happen on a meet anyway.

Personally i would not verify someone over a cam. "

Dont quite understand how a person can be a fake if they are on webcam showing they are a real, moving, talking person?

Im confuddled.. doesnt take much haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I was in the Directing room this morning and loads of peeps were chatting to a couple who had just had sex. Fair enough, the couple then asked someone in the room to verify them, a few offered, nothing wrong with that. but what followed alarmed me a little. other room members started asking to verify each other, which a few people agreed too.

I know I cant say that they didn't know each other, but this seemed to go against the whole idea of trust. I understand that nothing can ever be one hundred percent secure, but a few idiots could ruin the whole concept of verification.

that's out of my system now I feel much better! or do i?

Steve x"

Somehow it seems really sad if they are going into the chat rooms and asking for verifications. I don’t do cam verifications as it means so little. People who have lots of them just say one thing to me and it isn’t that they meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean by open to abuse?

it may not be the person/s you think your talking too, although saying that. that could happen on a meet anyway.

Personally i would not verify someone over a cam.

Dont quite understand how a person can be a fake if they are on webcam showing they are a real, moving, talking person?

Im confuddled.. doesnt take much haha"

There still real its just that some just want cam fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the verified by webcam is pretty pointless as it's just the same as being photo verified. It just proves you're not some dude with a moustache when you say you're a single female and that's it.

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By *berman5Man
over a year ago

aberystwyth

If you can only get verified by a meet in person - but you wont meet a person without them having been verified - how can that work in practice. Surely the most important thing is to meet people for the first time somewhere as safe as possible - with other people, a public place, cafe - where if you are not happy you can walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the verified by webcam is pretty pointless as it's just the same as being photo verified. It just proves you're not some dude with a moustache when you say you're a single female and that's it."

It doesn't even do that because you can fake cams apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with Polo on this.

I don't know any of you, so what you have to say regarding another member is not of relevance to me. I like to make my own mind up about things.

I've met men that have had brief profiles and no verifications, but their initial message to me floated my boat. I also always meet socially before playing, so I'm able to see the whites of their eyes and judge for myself whether I want to take it further. They've all be real!

In three years, I've yet to encounter a timewaster!

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

some people might not be ready to meet so why not have a verification from webcam, there isnt that many people that we would meet over here so webcam is are next best thing as are meets are few and far between

Another thing is what if people are looking a first meet but only have webcam verification would you not meet him/her!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We webcam only to verify the person we are meeting. Verfication by cam is a valid verification it means you have seen the person.

We cam and we will still cam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We webcam only to verify the person we are meeting. Verfication by cam is a valid verification it means you have seen the person.

We cam and we will still cam "

That's if it is them and not a fake played to you. Unless you meet face to face your never 100% sure they are who they say they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with Polo on this.

I don't know any of you, so what you have to say regarding another member is not of relevance to me. I like to make my own mind up about things.

I've met men that have had brief profiles and no verifications, but their initial message to me floated my boat. I also always meet socially before playing, so I'm able to see the whites of their eyes and judge for myself whether I want to take it further. They've all be real!

In three years, I've yet to encounter a timewaster! "

I agree too

i have met many men with no verifications, dont mean they not genuine

I've also had no shows and guys cancel last min from verified people

they dont hold much weight with me and i would never meet or not meet someone based on their verifications or lack of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i just think its wrong that other people could even think about verifying someone because they are in the same room and not even seen each other. quote "I wish someone could verify me lol." the reply "no problem mate, i'll do that for ya." Neither on cam mind you. must have been ten requests in five mins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We webcam only to verify the person we are meeting. Verfication by cam is a valid verification it means you have seen the person.

We cam and we will still cam

That's if it is them and not a fake played to you. Unless you meet face to face your never 100% sure they are who they say they are. "

How can someone be fake on a cam your seeing the person/persons on there. Not everyone we cam with we will meet. And we can via msn not the chatrooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as a matter of interest, i was wondering other peoples thought on couples profiles where only one members been verified

I had a message from a couple yesterday, where it was only the male half asking to meet, i read their verifications and there was four that all only verified they had met him alone

i just found that very odd, why not just have a single guys profile if your only meeting as a single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i just think its wrong that other people could even think about verifying someone because they are in the same room and not even seen each other. quote "I wish someone could verify me lol." the reply "no problem mate, i'll do that for ya." Neither on cam mind you. must have been ten requests in five mins. "

Then report them to admin if you have seen it with your very own eyes and it's not hearsay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i just think its wrong that other people could even think about verifying someone because they are in the same room and not even seen each other. quote "I wish someone could verify me lol." the reply "no problem mate, i'll do that for ya." Neither on cam mind you. must have been ten requests in five mins.

Then report them to admin if you have seen it with your very own eyes and it's not hearsay "

you dont know if they have seen each other on cam at another date tho

All because the cams not on there and then dont mean they have never been seen on cam by others

So long as you have seen someone on cam you can verify they at any point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Then report them to admin if you have seen it with your very own eyes and it's not hearsay "

Marley i think i will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We webcam only to verify the person we are meeting. Verfication by cam is a valid verification it means you have seen the person.

We cam and we will still cam

That's if it is them and not a fake played to you. Unless you meet face to face your never 100% sure they are who they say they are.

How can someone be fake on a cam your seeing the person/persons on there. Not everyone we cam with we will meet. And we can via msn not the chatrooms "

I was shown by a friend how easy it is with the right software. All some has to do is record or use a downloaded recording of someone and the program them plays it as some sort of fake cam thing. I didn't believe it until he actually showed me. It did make a mockery of cam verifications for me afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the verified by webcam is pretty pointless as it's just the same as being photo verified. It just proves you're not some dude with a moustache when you say you're a single female and that's it.

It doesn't even do that because you can fake cams apparently."

Yeah but you're only supposed to verify if you get them to wave or something, so it's not just a vid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without webcam I wouldn't see who I was getting on a meet it's a valuable tool for me I can either say yes I'll meet you or delete and block them

once I've seen them. As for couples if the lady never came on cam I'd report the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the verified by webcam is pretty pointless as it's just the same as being photo verified. It just proves you're not some dude with a moustache when you say you're a single female and that's it.

It doesn't even do that because you can fake cams apparently.

Yeah but you're only supposed to verify if you get them to wave or something, so it's not just a vid."

I know its really sad that some go to such lengths. The one i was shown had a woman waving and flashing her boobs and tapping away on the keyboard. It was convincing and has made me a little suspicious at times.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

We only take any notice of “Meet in Person” verifications and then only as an indication that they are indeed a couple! We thought that was all they were!

We certainly wouldn't take a phrase like "This couple are the real deal, they are so much fun" to be anything other than one persons opinion. We may be worlds apart on what we think are good playmates!

We would still like (although not essential) to cam as well just to see both in the same place at the same time. But preferred method for us is the good old phone call.

Nothing is 100%, but as long as you are sensible and meet for a social first, what can go wrong???

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