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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As a single guy im finding it pretty difficult to get a meet. Now i by all means do not think that i am the prettiest guy on here n i know theres so much competition for single guys but im definetly no minger, but im sending so many mails to so many people n they just get deleted

just thought id share this on here to see if anyone else has this problem or if there are any tips for my profile to make it stand out, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number one tip.....have patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Name will put many off, but if your specifically looking for just cuckhold couples then don't worry ..

Photos are dire to be fair... Don't sell you well at all .. Profile isn't awful but needs more personality

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

"The number one tip.....have patience"

And remember that not everyone will want to jump in the sack with you just because you find them attractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh wow, im not even looking for cuckold couples, id better change my name then . Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I should do some new pics then too, but i dont want to show my face pics to the public, ive got them in friends only which i do send with my first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If so many of your messages are getting deleted have a think about what type message you are sending out, have you read their profile? Are you what they are looking for? Are you local? The list goes on......rethink your photos to sell yourself better and don't be pushy, play the long game and things might change for you.

Oh and if you ask for advice and are given some you agree with, use that advice, don't ask for it and do nothing to change your profile or outlook.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it's the content of your messages that leave little scope for a response?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Patience is key ur right there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks ill look into that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you're after.

If it is just to meet, fuck and go, then clubs seem best.

If you want the social aspect too then join in the forums, chat, let people get to know you, and see where things go. (and go to clubs as well).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like more body and bum shots of men with the cock hidden as a tease, maybe try that type of picture? And for us, messages that get a reply is normally polite ones showing they have read and looked at our profile. And have you thought of clubs or socials to get your face out there?? Good way of getting verified.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the best advice would be to listen to those that give it to you. I can't comment on your profile as I haven't looked at it, but your name does have certain nuances around it. Also look under the advice forums, there are many there asking the same questions. Look at the advice given to them and tailor it for yourself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The following need improvement;

user name, messy room, cock pictures.

Your profile text is ok but not outstanding.

Good luck k.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a little patience

Take that - patience https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=273eSvOwpKk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you copy and pasting if you're sending to a lot of people? because if so, we'd probably delete as well!

Make it personal, show you've read the profile.

If you're more looking for a quick lay then go to clubs or events.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is this name any better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"are you copy and pasting if you're sending to a lot of people? because if so, we'd probably delete as well!

Make it personal, show you've read the profile.

If you're more looking for a quick lay then go to clubs or events."

I'm copy and pasting my advice to the "why can't I get anyone to fuck me?" questions. Nobody ever seems to take notice.

Maybe I should start a thread about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy im finding it pretty difficult to get a meet. Now i by all means do not think that i am the prettiest guy on here n i know theres so much competition for single guys but im definetly no minger, but im sending so many mails to so many people n they just get deleted

just thought id share this on here to see if anyone else has this problem or if there are any tips for my profile to make it stand out, thanks"

nope I'm knee deep in pussy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Is this name any better?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way too many cock pics on your profile. To me it says. I'm all about my dick!! Add more pics, bum, torso and face in friends perhaps? Just my opinion...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just thought id share this on here to see if anyone else has this problem or if there are any tips for my profile to make it stand out, thanks

nope I'm knee deep in pussy

Oh look we've got a stud

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Way too many cock pics on your profile. To me it says. I'm all about my dick!! Add more pics, bum, torso and face in friends perhaps? Just my opinion..."

Yeah i have face pics in my friend pics but ur right ill take some torso n bum pics, few teasers n tidy my room lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The number one tip.....have patience"

number 1 tip...dont take a pic in front of a bin..especially in those pants!!!

cannot accom and discretion......people will find easy questions and answers on these two.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some good points already.

I see your body description as fantastic - so I'd encourage you to illustrate that with fitting photographs. People will be attracted to your personality, face and body - so give them a fair chance to ascertain if they do when they view your profile.

Remove blog type semi-discussion from your profile text about difficulty getting meets. Keep anything like that off or incredibly succinct.

But do expand upon your experience (you've got some there, so good!). Don't over-state or elaborate on the obvious, but on how you're unique. What are you really after, offering and small details on location and travel/accommodation is ideal.

Message viewers often just go straight to be profile, so keep activity upon improving it.

I'm happy to be your personal profile buddy, giving you feedback any time you fancy. Just mesas me and we can sort it out.

Some long-term single guys perhaps get a meet every month or so, so stay positive and adjust expectations, so that you don't get despondently thinking you're doing badly.

It's better to really have determination and tenacity, so that you stick it out. If you will have extreme persistence and flexibility to adjust your approach then you can do it. (Assuming enough of us will find you attractive).

Finally - aim to have a clear, preferably smiling face pic that's taken by someone else -even if it's in your private pics. Selfies are often showing someone who isn't as relaxed and inviting as they could be imo).

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, your profile is awful. All it says, when it boils down to it, is that you have had sex in the past (shock, horror), some bad, and that you want some more.

As for the photos, they are offputting. Messy room. Most of them show you naked except for socks. Not a good look.

Start again. This time show some humour, personality, respect and imagination.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself to a social and a few clubs. This site works best as a way to keep in contact with those you've already met, not as a way to meet new people.

Put the effort in and you'll reap the rewards, there are no shortcuts.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"The number one tip.....have patience

number 1 tip...dont take a pic in front of a bin..especially in those pants!!!

cannot accom and discretion......people will find easy questions and answers on these two."

I wasn't going to comment ... but can you believe it.....

Someone stands in the garden with the back of their trainers trodden down, next to what looks like a hose pipe in a bin bag and adjacent to an open fucking bin !

Now I might not be as practised as I like in the art of gentle seduction but ffs... FFS !

Is this a jolly jape ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The number one tip.....have patience

number 1 tip...dont take a pic in front of a bin..especially in those pants!!!

cannot accom and discretion......people will find easy questions and answers on these two.

I wasn't going to comment ... but can you believe it.....

Someone stands in the garden with the back of their trainers trodden down, next to what looks like a hose pipe in a bin bag and adjacent to an open fucking bin !

Now I might not be as practised as I like in the art of gentle seduction but ffs... FFS !

Is this a jolly jape ?"

I was thinking this, too.

OP, sort out some better pictures

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as with most things its just easier in person

what do you do when you wanna pull? you hit the town/clubs

try a swingers club

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The number one tip.....have patience

number 1 tip...dont take a pic in front of a bin..especially in those pants!!!

cannot accom and discretion......people will find easy questions and answers on these two.

I wasn't going to comment ... but can you believe it.....

Someone stands in the garden with the back of their trainers trodden down, next to what looks like a hose pipe in a bin bag and adjacent to an open fucking bin !

Now I might not be as practised as I like in the art of gentle seduction but ffs... FFS !

Is this a jolly jape ?"

Id been working on an ex girlfriends garden that day rendering her wall i went back out at the night time in my boxers putting stuff away before it rained, my ex took a photo, i thought it was funny. The bin was full off bags, cement, stuff like that, not waste like ur making out. But thanks anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The number one tip.....have patience

number 1 tip...dont take a pic in front of a bin..especially in those pants!!!

cannot accom and discretion......people will find easy questions and answers on these two.

I wasn't going to comment ... but can you believe it.....

Someone stands in the garden with the back of their trainers trodden down, next to what looks like a hose pipe in a bin bag and adjacent to an open fucking bin !

Now I might not be as practised as I like in the art of gentle seduction but ffs... FFS !

Is this a jolly jape ?

I was thinking this, too.

OP, sort out some better pictures

-Courtney "

Thanks ill put some better pics up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get yourself to a social and a few clubs. This site works best as a way to keep in contact with those you've already met, not as a way to meet new people.

Put the effort in and you'll reap the rewards, there are no shortcuts."
thanks mate ill take that on board

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, your profile is awful. All it says, when it boils down to it, is that you have had sex in the past (shock, horror), some bad, and that you want some more.

As for the photos, they are offputting. Messy room. Most of them show you naked except for socks. Not a good look.

Start again. This time show some humour, personality, respect and imagination."

Wow thanks for being so blunt ill look into everything you said, but please dont talk to me about being offputting with them pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"as with most things its just easier in person

what do you do when you wanna pull? you hit the town/clubs

try a swingers club

Yeah i dont really have a problem when im out, just on here, i think ill try some clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get yourself to a social and a few clubs. This site works best as a way to keep in contact with those you've already met, not as a way to meet new people.

Put the effort in and you'll reap the rewards, there are no shortcuts. thanks mate ill take that on board

And when I say effort its taken me 18 months of being on the forums to get to the point where people want to meet me. Effort = rewards

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"The number one tip.....have patience

number 1 tip...dont take a pic in front of a bin..especially in those pants!!!

cannot accom and discretion......people will find easy questions and answers on these two.

I wasn't going to comment ... but can you believe it.....

Someone stands in the garden with the back of their trainers trodden down, next to what looks like a hose pipe in a bin bag and adjacent to an open fucking bin !

Now I might not be as practised as I like in the art of gentle seduction but ffs... FFS !

Is this a jolly jape ?

I thought that was one of the most ridiculous pics I've ever seen on Fab. Really funny. And coming from me that's saying something

One tip I would give you OP. I'd stop sending out loads of messages. You're wasting your time there. Just try and be a bit more select. Start off by getting a couple of women interested and build it slowly from there. It'll take time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The number one tip.....have patience

number 1 tip...dont take a pic in front of a bin..especially in those pants!!!

cannot accom and discretion......people will find easy questions and answers on these two.

I wasn't going to comment ... but can you believe it.....

Someone stands in the garden with the back of their trainers trodden down, next to what looks like a hose pipe in a bin bag and adjacent to an open fucking bin !

Now I might not be as practised as I like in the art of gentle seduction but ffs... FFS !

Is this a jolly jape ?

I thought that was one of the most ridiculous pics I've ever seen on Fab. Really funny. And coming from me that's saying something

Lol thanks taken on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, your profile is awful. All it says, when it boils down to it, is that you have had sex in the past (shock, horror), some bad, and that you want some more.

As for the photos, they are offputting. Messy room. Most of them show you naked except for socks. Not a good look.

Start again. This time show some humour, personality, respect and imagination.

Wow thanks for being so blunt ill look into everything you said, but please dont talk to me about being offputting with them pics

I did not ask for your opinion, OP.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Advice requested, advice given, advice ignored. You've had some tips about your pictures which might help and while you aren't obliged to take the advice given I'm not sure that continuing to do what by your own admission isn't working is going to help either.

What exactly did you expect from your post? How do "you" think your profile and pictures could be improved?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Advice requested, advice given, advice ignored. You've had some tips about your pictures which might help and while you aren't obliged to take the advice given I'm not sure that continuing to do what by your own admission isn't working is going to help either.

What exactly did you expect from your post? How do "you" think your profile and pictures could be improved?"

What advice was ignored? I asked the question 2 hours ago, ill change it when im ready not straight away, doesnt mean im ignoring anything.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What exactly did you expect from your post? How do "you" think your profile and pictures could be improved?

What advice was ignored? I asked the question 2 hours ago, ill change it when im ready not straight away, doesnt mean im ignoring anything."

Fine! Can I point out that the way you interact with people has a direct bearing on whether others will meet you. You're coming in for a bit of criticism here and that must be difficult to take.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What exactly did you expect from your post? How do "you" think your profile and pictures could be improved?

What advice was ignored? I asked the question 2 hours ago, ill change it when im ready not straight away, doesnt mean im ignoring anything.

Fine! Can I point out that the way you interact with people has a direct bearing on whether others will meet you. You're coming in for a bit of criticism here and that must be difficult to take.

Good luck "

Thanks and yeah some people like to critisize a bit too much, im still learning

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What exactly did you expect from your post? How do "you" think your profile and pictures could be improved?

What advice was ignored? I asked the question 2 hours ago, ill change it when im ready not straight away, doesnt mean im ignoring anything.

Fine! Can I point out that the way you interact with people has a direct bearing on whether others will meet you. You're coming in for a bit of criticism here and that must be difficult to take.

Good luck

Thanks and yeah some people like to critisize a bit too much, im still learning "

Well I think I criticised you too but the point is if you post for tips on your profile or help to get a meet you will get some critics. It's how you counter or accept that and ultimately choose to act on it or not.

It's entirely up to you what you put on your profile, in your pictures and messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What exactly did you expect from your post? How do "you" think your profile and pictures could be improved?

What advice was ignored? I asked the question 2 hours ago, ill change it when im ready not straight away, doesnt mean im ignoring anything.

Fine! Can I point out that the way you interact with people has a direct bearing on whether others will meet you. You're coming in for a bit of criticism here and that must be difficult to take.

Good luck

Thanks and yeah some people like to critisize a bit too much, im still learning "

Perhaps you ignored the advice I gave?

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