FabSwingers.com forum: Bad Sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them...

Would you be able to sacrifice good sex for that kind of happiness?

Or would it be a deal breaker for you?

In this situation the relationship is solid and there is no chance of improving the quality of sex due to a medical condition of one of the parties involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be a happy wanker

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them...

Would you be able to sacrifice good sex for that kind of happiness?

Or would it be a deal breaker for you?

In this situation the relationship is solid and there is no chance of improving the quality of sex due to a medical condition of one of the parties involved "

It would be a problem for me, yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'e been in relationships where the guys were not good in bed.

It was ok with one guy but i did get sick of doing everything and getting nothing in return off him, but the other was willing to experiment and was very kinky so that helped a lot and i did enjoy sex with hi just for making the effort even if it ended up sometimes with me doing most of the work to make it better.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You have to take everything into account. If the person has many good qualities then i'd rather keep them and deal with sex another way.

I'd stay in the relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Good relationships are about so much more than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my wife were to be unable to have sex, there's absolutely no way I'd walk away due to just that. I'd be an utter shithead to do so.

This is why it's important to have as much sex as possible whenever you can.. (and get photos for when the memory's fucked).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If my wife were to be unable to have sex, there's absolutely no way I'd walk away due to just that. I'd be an utter shithead to do so.

This is why it's important to have as much sex as possible whenever you can.. (and get photos for when the memory's fucked)."

Wow!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Good relationships are about so much more than sex."

I agree, but I don't think I'd let myself get involved to the point of full on committal if the sex was bad in the first place. I think I'd struggle to fall in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I'd let myself get involved to the point of full on committal if the sex was bad in the first place. I think I'd struggle to fall in love. "

This is also true

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Good relationships are about so much more than sex.

I agree, but I don't think I'd let myself get involved to the point of full on committal if the sex was bad in the first place. I think I'd struggle to fall in love. "

What if the sex started out great and went downhill?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if the sex started out great and went downhill?"

This is normal. It's called becoming parents

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

"What if the sex started out great and went downhill?"

I've been there. I convinced myself it would get better again, but it didn't. I ended up dragging it two years longer than I should have

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I find intimacy more important in a relationship than sex.

Anyone I date now is made fully aware I don't want to give this malarkey up so yes, could live with meh sex as long as they were ok with me getting some elsewhere.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I find intimacy more important in a relationship than sex.

Anyone I date now is made fully aware I don't want to give this malarkey up so yes, could live with meh sex as long as they were ok with me getting some elsewhere. "

I think lots of people find intimacy more important and I think that's what many are looking for on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good relationships are about so much more than sex.

I agree, but I don't think I'd let myself get involved to the point of full on committal if the sex was bad in the first place. I think I'd struggle to fall in love. "

The falling in love happened before the sex in this case

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have to take everything into account. If the person has many good qualities then i'd rather keep them and deal with sex another way.

I'd stay in the relationship."

This would be my thinking too initially.

But then if you say you're ok with it now but then realise in a few months or years that you're not ok with it . Then you're in too deep to change your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them? "

Yes.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Good relationships are about so much more than sex.

I agree, but I don't think I'd let myself get involved to the point of full on committal if the sex was bad in the first place. I think I'd struggle to fall in love.

The falling in love happened before the sex in this case"

Has all possibility of being sexual ceased? I don't mean sex as in penetration but the whole gamut of erotic and sensual pleasures is that no longer possible?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them?

Yes. "

But sometimes it's difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them?

Yes.

But sometimes it's difficult. "

A relationship without love and affection: no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them...

Would you be able to sacrifice good sex for that kind of happiness?

Or would it be a deal breaker for you?

In this situation the relationship is solid and there is no chance of improving the quality of sex due to a medical condition of one of the parties involved

It would be a problem for me, yes"

I'm with him...dealbreaker for me...sex is very important to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me at all. Not a big fan of sex anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good relationships are about so much more than sex.

I agree, but I don't think I'd let myself get involved to the point of full on committal if the sex was bad in the first place. I think I'd struggle to fall in love.

The falling in love happened before the sex in this case

Has all possibility of being sexual ceased? I don't mean sex as in penetration but the whole gamut of erotic and sensual pleasures is that no longer possible?"

No. Just penetrative sex is pretty much off the table.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be a happy wanker"

Lol ! Yep me to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It Wouldn't be a deal breaker or an issue for me if I really loved my partner.

There's usually solutions that could be found as a solid couple.

I was In a relationship where things had to change regarding sex due to health reasons following a savage diagnosis.

It didn't make a difference to me & it wasn't an issue in my eyes because I loved him - unconditional love.

We always had great sex to be honest but that was just a bonus because I loved him for who he was, it wasn't based on sex alone (awesome as it was) so I would never of walked away from him based on any changes in that department.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find my DIY methods to be better than men on most days anyway.. Wouldn't bother me

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I've been in a relationship where I was constantly turned down and made to feel bad for the one or two times I turned them down and it did affect my self esteem in the end so for me I would have to say sex is a big part of a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them...

Would you be able to sacrifice good sex for that kind of happiness?

Or would it be a deal breaker for you?

In this situation the relationship is solid and there is no chance of improving the quality of sex due to a medical condition of one of the parties involved "

I have been in 2. One for 9 years and one for 4.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I've been in a relationship where I was constantly turned down and made to feel bad for the one or two times I turned them down and it did affect my self esteem in the end so for me I would have to say sex is a big part of a relationship.

I've been there too.....

Not nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them...

Would you be able to sacrifice good sex for that kind of happiness?

Or would it be a deal breaker for you?

In this situation the relationship is solid and there is no chance of improving the quality of sex due to a medical condition of one of the parties involved

I have been in 2. One for 9 years and one for 4."

By choice? Were you happy?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Yes I did it, the sex in my first marriage was never great but I loved him even when the sex stopped completely (4.5 years without any he had depression so when it was bad I was used to going without and opting for intimacy In other ways anyway) I remained loyal but it turns out I wasn't getting it because he was getting it elsewhere, when he left me for her I joined fab and made up for lost time. He as since tried to come back recently turns out the grass wasnt greener on the other side of the fence, her solution to helping is sexless bouts of depression was to cheat on him, think that's what they call Karma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only last night my friend was telling me she's still seeing her ex who's become her fb on here and doesn't know why cause the sex is worse than when she was with her husband. I told her she was mad and get a new fb!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as there was intimacy and other forms of pleasure used then yes , but would I still fancy them ? I don't know , would they be able to make my heart skip a beat when they walk into a room I have no idea . X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Good relationships are about so much more than sex.

I agree, but I don't think I'd let myself get involved to the point of full on committal if the sex was bad in the first place. I think I'd struggle to fall in love.

The falling in love happened before the sex in this case

Has all possibility of being sexual ceased? I don't mean sex as in penetration but the whole gamut of erotic and sensual pleasures is that no longer possible?

No. Just penetrative sex is pretty much off the table."

If that is important to you to the point that not experiencing penetration is making you unhappy then I would say it is a deal breaker but if there's any way that you can experience being sexual in all the other ways possible it might not be. How's the sexual communication?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good relationships are about so much more than sex.

I agree, but I don't think I'd let myself get involved to the point of full on committal if the sex was bad in the first place. I think I'd struggle to fall in love.

The falling in love happened before the sex in this case

Has all possibility of being sexual ceased? I don't mean sex as in penetration but the whole gamut of erotic and sensual pleasures is that no longer possible?

No. Just penetrative sex is pretty much off the table.

Penetrative sex was always important but now I'm finding myself reevaluating just how important it is really. Or whether it's important at all in the grand scheme of things.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No. Just penetrative sex is pretty much off the table.

Penetrative sex was always important but now I'm finding myself reevaluating just how important it is really. Or whether it's important at all in the grand scheme of things.

It's a tough one. Good luck to you

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Sex less relationship as in nothing at all or reduced activity yes I'd stay with good communications and lots of it sex can be replaced. It's a tricky balancing act taking their feelings in to account what they want from the relationship, taking into account their knowledge of your sexual appetite can sometimes help as long as sex can be separated from love talked about and discussed with out damaging either partys self worth

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I would think there's a difference between bad sex and non sexual relationships... the bad sex can be worked upon and let's he honest trying new things can be fun... communication goes a long way if you can't communicate regarding sex with your partner there is something seriously wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would think there's a difference between bad sex and non sexual relationships... the bad sex can be worked upon and let's he honest trying new things can be fun... communication goes a long way if you can't communicate regarding sex with your partner there is something seriously wrong. "

As already stated, the relationship is solid. It's not a case of not communicating or trying new things. It's not a non sexual relationship.

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I could as long as I could have sex with other people!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I could as long as I could have sex with other people!!

See that's a road I'm not sure I would want to go down. Wouldn't he feel then like he's not enough?

He's never been involved in swinging and I doubt he'd want to.

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

I was married for 28 years and when I was going through the change my ex husband told me the marriage was over !! What a dick head wish I had never married him if I had known that was to come now alone

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I could as long as I could have sex with other people!!

See that's a road I'm not sure I would want to go down. Wouldn't he feel then like he's not enough?

He's never been involved in swinging and I doubt he'd want to. "

Only you can decide what's right for you.Can you at least discuss this with your partner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if the sex was great at the start but through no fault of their own, illness, you partner couldn't have sex any more, do you stay and go with, walk away because sex is a big part of it for you or play away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good relationships are about so much more than sex."

If I was the sort of person that cared more about sex than them, they'd be much better off without me.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"Only last night my friend was telling me she's still seeing her ex who's become her fb on here and doesn't know why cause the sex is worse than when she was with her husband. I told her she was mad and get a new fb!"

I told you not to tell anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good relationships are about so much more than sex.

If I was the sort of person that cared more about sex than them, they'd be much better off without me. "

^ This!

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By *ig al100Man
over a year ago

Drogheda

"Could you be in a relationship with someone if the sex was bad?

If everything about that person was perfect and you wanted to spend the rest of your days with them...

Would you be able to sacrifice good sex for that kind of happiness?

Or would it be a deal breaker for you?

In this situation the relationship is solid and there is no chance of improving the quality of sex due to a medical condition of one of the parties involved "
plenty of other available partners to have sex with, it's not the be all and end all of an otherwise good relationship the sex I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was married for 10 years and the sex was never good and we were ultimately just friends, very good ones, but friends nonetheless. Eventually we just stopped doing it, which caused a lot of upset for both of us for various reasons. Ex and I are now both in very satisfying relationships with people we are compatible with. Of course relationships are about more than sex, but for me it's an essential component. The intimacy and connection when having sex with someone you're in love with is not something I could do without in a relationship.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd not get why the sex couldn't be improved upon. I'd struggle if it was the worst sex on the planet but all the more reason for an open relationship.

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By *UN TIME COUPLECouple
over a year ago

redditch

I'd try new things add spice toys food lol other people train her up lol

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By *ig al100Man
over a year ago

Drogheda

A friend of mine had a bad motorcycle accident around 12 years ago and he was unable to have penetrative sex but was in an otherwise loving relationship his partner suggested her meeting an ex of hers for the sex that he couldn't perform he agreed and now the two men are great pals and enjoy a drink regular, so the woman gets the sex from the ex and her man gets her love and affection,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be a happy wanker

Lol ! Yep me to

Quite often we settle for a wank together anyway

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

This is why I insist on sex before the first date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd not get why the sex couldn't be improved upon. I'd struggle if it was the worst sex on the planet but all the more reason for an open relationship."

In my case we just liked very different things and were unfulfilled. We did try to improve things but it didn't work. After a while I lost all interest in sex with him and I suggested an open relationship so he could stil get what he wanted, but my ex wasn't able to even consider it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All ways try before you buy .......

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Sex isnt everything .... but every one has needs ....

It depends how the person you are with treats you .... if they are you soul mate .... stay ....

If not ..... its your decision ....

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I've been married for 18 yrs to my best friend and soul mate. Not had sex for yrs as hubby has no sexual urges. I use this site to get my sexual needs satisfied. I'd say that I was 100% content as I've got the best of both worlds; mind blowing NSA sex with my fbs and the love of my life to spend my days with. I appreciate this isn't for everyone but it certainly works for us x

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