FabSwingers.com forum: what turns women off someone ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

is it distasteful pics ?

one liners ?

too many veris? not enough veris?

accent?

just curious because I'm starting to feel like I'm way too picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many close up cock pics from different angles

Multiple messages

Assuming we're meeting after a couple of messages

Big egos

To name a few

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

oh I had forgot to add the bit about assuming u want to meet just because u have replied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

keep going ladies I am taking notes

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

My 'off' switch is as fully functional as my 'on' switch, and I can never really tell what it will be that will flip either - however long the list I make there'll always be something else to add.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"keep going ladies I am taking notes

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having better hair. That's what I'm saying and I'm sticking to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My 'off' switch is as fully functional as my 'on' switch, and I can never really tell what it will be that will flip either - however long the list I make there'll always be something else to add.

makes me feel better now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you leave your socks on??

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yes, no, maybe, sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guys i find unattractive looking.

boring guys who only talk about sex or meeting.

too old looking or too young looking.

topping from the bottom.

saying they read/complimenting my profile when they haven't read it.

saying they want what i want when they don't.

liars.

being attached/invested in someone else.

manipulative behaviours.

selfish.

having a small dick.

wanting my kinks without even knowing me.

neglectful.

unable to form intimacy.

probably more stuff, i am fairly fussy.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Not having or showing at least 2 veris.

Hi how are you messages.

Men who obviously havnt read my profile.

Asking questions like what are you looking for or why are you on here. Nosy people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex shots on their profile

Stupid sayings like work hard play hard and partner in crime

Telling me I'll love their tongue and fingers

Being married or attached

Arrogance and having an ego

Copy and paste messages

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"guys i find unattractive looking.

boring guys who only talk about sex or meeting.

too old looking or too young looking.

topping from the bottom.

saying they read/complimenting my profile when they haven't read it.

saying they want what i want when they don't.

liars.

being attached/invested in someone else.

manipulative behaviours.

selfish.

having a small dick.

wanting my kinks without even knowing me.

neglectful.

unable to form intimacy.

probably more stuff, i am fairly fussy.

It always amuses me when "fussy" is used to describe desires such as not being lied to, not wanting to meet attached people, not wanting to be or feel manipulated, not being interested in people who tell you what you want to hear etc.

Fussy is wanting a guy who is 6' 2", mixed race, with a body fat of exactly 9%, who drives a blue coupé and works as a journalist.

Wanting someone honest, decent and into the same things you are is not fussy.

Fussy is one of the words that has a different definition on fab than it does elsewhere.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

Pushiness. First and foremost. If a man is pushy online, no way I'd trust him in person. Big turn off.

Other than that, disrespect and crude talk when I've asked him not to be (I'm not a prude, I just prefer not to hear certain things stated directly).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crudeness ,lack of manners, assuming that I can meet immediately !

Messages like "I've got an empty house for the next hour ( notes drive time is 30 minutes) fancy a fuck ? "

"I'm attached - partner doesn't know that I'm playing away -naughty me .....fancy a shag ?"

Jack the Ripper jokes ...WTF ???

Profiles that state that person in question is 'fabulous' self confessed 'attractive' this Screams out "I'm so fabulous ,attractive & amazing that I may not notice that you've entered the room ..... It's all about me me me ! A big pass on that one for me ,confidence is attractive ,arrogance is a major turn off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"guys i find unattractive looking.

boring guys who only talk about sex or meeting.

too old looking or too young looking.

topping from the bottom.

saying they read/complimenting my profile when they haven't read it.

saying they want what i want when they don't.

liars.

being attached/invested in someone else.

manipulative behaviours.

selfish.

having a small dick.

wanting my kinks without even knowing me.

neglectful.

unable to form intimacy.

probably more stuff, i am fairly fussy.

Fussy is wanting a guy who is 6' 2", mixed race, with a body fat of exactly 9%, who drives a blue coupé and works as a journalist.

Wanting someone honest, decent and into the same things you are is not fussy.

Fussy is one of the words that has a different definition on fab than it does elsewhere."

yeah i don't usually feel that fussy if i'm honest but it felt like i typed out loads there and the more i typed the fussier i felt.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Lack of respect

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

and yet we will continue to receive all these messages still. and then continue to listen to those men complain that they get nowhere on here lol

thank you ladies for confirming I'm not just 'up my own arse' as many have said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"keep going ladies I am taking notes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"guys i find unattractive looking.

boring guys who only talk about sex or meeting.

too old looking or too young looking.

topping from the bottom.

saying they read/complimenting my profile when they haven't read it.

saying they want what i want when they don't.

liars.

being attached/invested in someone else.

manipulative behaviours.

selfish.

having a small dick.

wanting my kinks without even knowing me.

neglectful.

unable to form intimacy.

probably more stuff, i am fairly fussy.

Most of these !

Not forgetting the fatal " can I ask you a question " & cut & paste messages that are a pet hate of mine!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

haha I am glad I kept my list short .. just showed that a lot of us women feel the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

slow down I don't write that fast,

I going to need a bigger book

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Men who say they want to try new things, well I don't.

Arrogant or too serious, acting immature. Long fingernails, too scruffy.

Men who aren't polite and well mannered.

Men who mention looks a lot, theirs or anyone elses.

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By *heclitmaster84Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Bad manners and stalkers lol x

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

when they show their true colours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is it distasteful pics ?

one liners ?

too many veris? not enough veris?

accent?

just curious because I'm starting to feel like I'm way too picky

don't find them attractive

too pushy

Tell you what they think you want to hear,easily sussed

too crude pictures and attitude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"is it distasteful pics ?

one liners ?

too many veris? not enough veris?

accent?

just curious because I'm starting to feel like I'm way too picky

don't find them attractive

too pushy

Tell you what they think you want to hear,easily sussed

too crude pictures and attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empty compliments your pretty when they haven't seen a face pic that's one I hate big time

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

a pic where they are strangling their cock so hard to show you they can dribble some cum from it........

Cum pics make me vom.....

I don't even know you ..... stop it!

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

"is it distasteful pics ?

one liners ?

too many veris? not enough veris?

accent?

just curious because I'm starting to feel like I'm way too picky

No OP. You are not picky. In fact I think you've held back on quite a few things!

I have quite a list. (takes breath)

Here goes...

More pictures of conquests than the person on the profile

Cock shots on profile

Textspeak... Misinterpretations can arise from this... English please.... I too have problems with autocorrect doing weird stuff messing up spelling. I accept that people may write as they speak, and it can change written grammar somewhat. I can deal with that. Just don't give me bloody Textspeak. Please.

One liner messages like 'hi', 'how ya doing', 'fancy a shag',

One liner profiles

Profiles that say 'fill in later'... Just shows they are too lazy to describe themselves

Profiles that say ' ask me for more info'... Please see above

Pictures of messy rooms, toilet bowls, asses being splayed apart with hands/fingers.... No no no

Pictures of unkempt growth of body hair. As one fabber put it 'take your sausage to a barber'.

Pictures older than 6 months. Instant reason to say no. Am I supposed to make a decision from pics which are years old? A lot can happen to your body (and your face).

Friend requests when I have NEVER communicated with you previously. A wink is one thing, but a request?? Errr... No.

No veris.

Blokes claiming that the missus have given permission... Really?

Expectations that fab is really instashag. No I'm not going to meet up with you on the next 10 minutes. Nor today either. Not next week...

Now....

Breathe.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who thinks incessant unoriginal one-liners makes him "funny"

Pushiness

Crudity

Obesity

Lack of effort in pics

More than one cock pic

Public pics of him fucking other people

Cheating

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

"is it distasteful pics ?

one liners ?

too many veris? not enough veris?

accent?

just curious because I'm starting to feel like I'm way too picky

don't find them attractive

too pushy

Tell you what they think you want to hear,easily sussed

too crude pictures and attitude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"is it distasteful pics ?

one liners ?

too many veris? not enough veris?

accent?

just curious because I'm starting to feel like I'm way too picky

No OP. You are not picky. In fact I think you've held back on quite a few things!

I have quite a list. (takes breath)

Here goes...

More pictures of conquests than the person on the profile

Cock shots on profile

One liner messages like 'hi', 'how ya doing', 'fancy a shag',

One liner profiles

Profiles that say 'fill in later'... Just shows they are too lazy to describe themselves

Profiles that say ' ask me for more info'... Please see above

Pictures of messy rooms, toilet bowls, asses being splayed apart with hands/fingers.... No no no

Pictures of unkempt growth of body hair. As one fabber put it 'take your sausage to a barber'.

Pictures older than 6 months. Instant reason to say no. Am I supposed to make a decision from pics which are years old? A lot can happen to your body (and your face).

Friend requests when I have NEVER communicated with you previously. A wink is one thing, but a request?? Errr... No.

No veris.

Blokes claiming that the missus have given permission... Really?

Expectations that fab is really instashag. No I'm not going to meet up with you on the next 10 minutes. Nor today either. Not next week...

Now....

Breathe..... "

oh believe me all and I mean ALL of them are on my list too .. I just wanted to give a few examples ... long hair is also on mine too .. on men of course

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I want everyone to agree that the 'cum' cock shot is vile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want everyone to agree that the 'cum' cock shot is vile."

my fabbed pics collection is pretty much only cummy cock pics...

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By *heclitmaster84Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"I want everyone to agree that the 'cum' cock shot is vile.

my fabbed pics collection is pretty much only cummy cock pics..."

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

"I want everyone to agree that the 'cum' cock shot is vile."

You've got my vote on that one....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I want everyone to agree that the 'cum' cock shot is vile."

100% agree ... and what on earth is it with photos of men Cumming in a condom and thinking that's appealing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this another "moan about people" thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is it distasteful pics ?

one liners ?

too many veris? not enough veris?

accent?

just curious because I'm starting to feel like I'm way too picky

No OP. You are not picky. In fact I think you've held back on quite a few things!

I have quite a list. (takes breath)

Here goes...

More pictures of conquests than the person on the profile

Cock shots on profile

One liner messages like 'hi', 'how ya doing', 'fancy a shag',

One liner profiles

Profiles that say 'fill in later'... Just shows they are too lazy to describe themselves

Profiles that say ' ask me for more info'... Please see above

Pictures of messy rooms, toilet bowls, asses being splayed apart with hands/fingers.... No no no

Pictures of unkempt growth of body hair. As one fabber put it 'take your sausage to a barber'.

Pictures older than 6 months. Instant reason to say no. Am I supposed to make a decision from pics which are years old? A lot can happen to your body (and your face).

Friend requests when I have NEVER communicated with you previously. A wink is one thing, but a request?? Errr... No.

No veris.

Blokes claiming that the missus have given permission... Really?

Expectations that fab is really instashag. No I'm not going to meet up with you on the next 10 minutes. Nor today either. Not next week...

Now....

Breathe..... "

Oh yeah, so it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?"

Welcome to the forums. Beer or whisky?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?

Welcome to the forums. Beer or whisky?"

Got any apples?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?"

Yup.

We have quota to meet you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?

Welcome to the forums. Beer or whisky?

Got any apples?"

I gave those up ages ago. It got embarrassing when no one wanted them, even with a bj included.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Multiple messages and them not reading my wants on my profile....

They see pics they like and ping - does my head in!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?

Welcome to the forums. Beer or whisky?"

Can i join you? I need both...I've been sat in standstill traffic desperately needing a wee......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is some Women love some of the things described, You wont please everyone,

It is all just about preferences,

Just like some Men don't like open leg pics, Cum filled pussy pics or Women pouting or sticking their tongue out in pictures

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?

Welcome to the forums. Beer or whisky?

Got any apples?

I gave those up ages ago. It got embarrassing when no one wanted them, even with a bj included.

Dammit. I've decided I prefer apples to cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?

Welcome to the forums. Beer or whisky?

Can i join you? I need both...I've been sat in standstill traffic desperately needing a wee......"

Of course. Although I'm not sure beer or whisky would help your situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?

Welcome to the forums. Beer or whisky?

Can i join you? I need both...I've been sat in standstill traffic desperately needing a wee......

Of course. Although I'm not sure beer or whisky would help your situation.

It's ok, she's wee'd now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?

Welcome to the forums. Beer or whisky?

Can i join you? I need both...I've been sat in standstill traffic desperately needing a wee......

Of course. Although I'm not sure beer or whisky would help your situation.

I'm home and had a wee now...although i did start searching through the car for something i could wee in if it came to it....wondering if a waitrose carrier bag would contain it without leakage...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming he fits what I'm looking for physically the things that would put me off are verifications from people that look a bit ropey, seeing pictures of previous conquests. Minor things are spelling and grammatical errors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the spirit of all the forum "help" for single guys, I've decided to make my profile even slicker!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this another "moan about people" thread?

Welcome to the forums. Beer or whisky?

Can i join you? I need both...I've been sat in standstill traffic desperately needing a wee......

Of course. Although I'm not sure beer or whisky would help your situation.

I'm home and had a wee now...although i did start searching through the car for something i could wee in if it came to it....wondering if a waitrose carrier bag would contain it without leakage...

Empty coffee cups are your friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women are not into gym guys, they think we spend most of our time there lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most women are not into gym guys, they think we spend most of our time there lol."

And do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most women are not into gym guys, they think we spend most of our time there lol.

And do you?"
Yes I do, it is my 2nd home, well just going 3 to 4 times a week you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All kind of things, some big, some small, some that don't even make any sense to anyone else. The number 1 is probably stupidity though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Literally anything for me and it can be so trivial. I'm fickle

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"Literally anything for me and it can be so trivial. I'm fickle"

This is me - I can have the same message two days running but one will get the no thank you and the other will get the okay let's talk depending on my mood for the day.....I do genuinely feel sorry for some of the people who message me and get a blast of hormones in response

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Literally anything for me and it can be so trivial. I'm fickle

I have sometimes thought it's all very much mood based with women too .. that is so me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brown t-shirt not quite reaching the brown corduroy trousers with brown socks and brown sandals.

Fucking hate that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It helps to not keep correcting their spelling and grammar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh fuck

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