FabSwingers.com forum: Does disability repulse?

By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

Just when does a disability become something that repulses other swingers? Are people comfortable meeting and swinging with severely disabled people? Totally blind people, severely disabled wheelchair users for example, and would people generally give those members a wide berth and not invite them to parties?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Disability doesn't repulse me.

And i wouldn't use someones disability as a reason to either not socialise or have sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just when does a disability become something that repulses other swingers? Are people comfortable meeting and swinging with severely disabled people? Totally blind people, severely disabled wheelchair users for example, and would people generally give those members a wide berth and not invite them to parties?"

Like alot of things on here it is entirely down to the individual and what they are comfortable with. There is discrimination and acceptance of all fetishes, sexualities and genres on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just see them as normal people and if i found a disabiled person sexy and we clicked yes i would have sex .. its like everyone here there has to be somthing that turn me on .... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t repulse me but I probably wouldn’t play with someone who is in a wheelchair like I also wouldn’t play with someone who is obese or someone with bad burns. That wouldn’t stop me liking them socially though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a very general question. For me (being very honest) I would need to know that the person could still do for me in the bedroom what anyone else could. I like a meeting of minds before the meeting of bodies. That said, I could never completely say it wouldn't bother me till I was in that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im miss practical so I'd like to make sure of their needs and know of their limitations - access to places etc., medicines if they took ill or how they manage toilet, washing etc. If I was required to help with their toilet needs then that and not their disability would put me off. I would find that a difficult task to do for either of my parents too. Its not as simple a thing in my eyes as saying disability puts you off or not but there has to be far more consideration of the practicalities just the same as weighing up the pros and cons of other meets.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I'd like to think it wouldn't matter.

However, I don't like girls with nervous ticks that make them crow like a chicken.

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

i'd have my choices about what I like and dont like, but as a generalisation no, physical disability wouldnt be enough alone to put me off ..but I'd still have to like them enough to play if they were able bodied too.

the only thing which would be an absolute no-no with regards to disability is where I had any concern about the person's mental capacity to consent, make and communicate informed decisions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only thing which would be an absolute no-no with regards to disability is where I had any concern about the person's mental capacity to consent, make and communicate informed decisions.

yes, agree totally!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to think it wouldn't matter.

However, I don't like girls with nervous ticks that make them crow like a chicken."

Dammit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dificult to answer unless it came up for real, it would obviously depend on the person and nature of the disability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would hate to think that anyone could be repulsed by any disability

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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

definitely, access has to be a consideration, but so long as that person has no trouble with access, has the mental capacity to make an informed and consentual decision decision, doesn't need assistance with anything other than having a jolly fun time. The initial spark and attraction whether disabled or not is the most important I seem to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dificult to answer unless it came up for real, it would obviously depend on the person and nature of the disability

True alot of guys run a mile, ive a friend on here she as a disability she hasnt put it on her profile but she as put shes complicated. and within a hour or 2 she tells who shes chatting to suprising how quick they block her even though she as no limitations in the bedroom

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Would hate to think that anyone could be repulsed by any disability"

........ but in the real world you know there are going to be people out there who will... just as there are people repulsed by age, or by colour, or by build.

it is an awkward... I would like to think that I would go into an circumstance with an open mind, and judge anything on a meet by meet basis...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dificult to answer unless it came up for real, it would obviously depend on the person and nature of the disability

Maybe it would be better for her to put it on her profile, that way she doesn't have to waste that hour or two chatting up a guy that won't want to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would hate to think that anyone could be repulsed by any disability

........ but in the real world you know there are going to be people out there who will... just as there are people repulsed by age, or by colour, or by build.

it is an awkward... I would like to think that I would go into an circumstance with an open mind, and judge anything on a meet by meet basis..."

my point exactly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would hate to think that anyone could be repulsed by any disability"

Unfortunately we live in a society where many are. I would never be repulsed by a disability if I was befriending someone, or going shopping with them, or having a meal with them. But put them naked by my side and ask me to be sexual with them and yes, in all honesty there will be some people with disabilities that would make me pull away. But having said that, there are some very able bodied folk about that would make me wretch more. An ugly mind is far uglier than a disabled body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm reminded of a Si Kahn song, part of which runs,

Now what's the good of two strong legs

If you only run away?

And what use is the finest voice

If you've nothing good to say?

And what good is strength and muscle

If you only push and shove?

And what's the use of two good ears

If you can't hear those you love?

Between those who use their neighbours

And those who use a cane

Between those in constant power

And those in constant pain

Between those who run to evil

And those who cannot run

Tell me which ones are the cripples

And which ones touch the sun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's called "What you do with what you've got".

The only version I can find on youtube is by Eddi Reader - and it ain't very good.

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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

I'm with you there! Tolerence of others certainly is a beautiful quality, it makes for a beautiful mind, something that vanity and looks can never replace!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm with you there! Tolerence of others certainly is a beautiful quality, it makes for a beautiful mind, something that vanity and looks can never replace!"

Social tolerance for the disabled is a different thing I think. Sexual attraction depends on lots of factors. If theres no attraction you can't create the electricity. I would hate to think anyone in my bed was being tolerant of me..... same as disabled people might not fancy everyone who fancies them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its an interesting thread and i think if we all honest, there are certain things which we dont find sexy in a person.

Be it a disability, looks, size and colour, attitude to life and for me the biggest one has to be "ugly from the inside out"

Meaning someone can be absolutely drop dead gorgeous but have an ugly attitude to others and be so far up their own arses. no one else matters but them.

I have a disability. Its not something noticable to others when meeting.

It limits the gymnastics in the bedroom but apart from that, i still function and feel and still like to have fun.

Just means i aint olga korbut beween the sheets

But those who know me well , also know it aint summat thats gonna put a halt on living, loving and having a good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have no problem inviting disabled, blind, deaf etc. swingers to parties.

I would hope they say on their profile or when chatting though, you need to know how best to accommodate them.

As for sex? there would have to be that spark regardless of how enabled they were or were not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats your tolerance level towards the disabled please OP?

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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

I'm blind, I consider myself disabled by the attitudes of some others unfortunately. My tolerence towards other disabled people is that it doesn't matter to me, I have swung with blind women, deaf women and wheelchair users, it is that attraction and spark that decides whether or not I want to have sex with them or anyone come to that. I think that we all have a fairly similar _iew, disability isn't repulsive and it shouldn't repel, a bad additude and an ugly mind are greater turn offs.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"a bad additude and an ugly mind are greater turn offs."

Glad to see you're in the same position as the rest of us regarding meeting people from Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bit strong

No disability repulses me, does not mean i will find all diabeled people attractive but then i dont find all abeled bodies people attractive

ive never had an offer to have sex by anyone disabeled so to be honest its not something i have ever thought about

I shall go and think about it now tho and return lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm blind, I consider myself disabled by the attitudes of some others unfortunately. My tolerence towards other disabled people is that it doesn't matter to me, I have swung with blind women, deaf women and wheelchair users, it is that attraction and spark that decides whether or not I want to have sex with them or anyone come to that. I think that we all have a fairly similar _iew, disability isn't repulsive and it shouldn't repel, a bad additude and an ugly mind are greater turn offs."

Thanks for sharing the additional info about your situation, _iewpoints and experiences. But people will find all kinds of different things sexually repulsive and disability is just one of them. Disability deemed socially repulsive and a reason not to mix or invite is certainly bigotted. Really enjoyable read. Thanks for raising it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone can have a bad attitude disabled or not disabled. Looks wise we all like what we like.

Just out of a matter of interest how do you use fab if your blind? I have a friend who is and he has software for reading web pages but using forums is very difficult for him to navigate. What do you use?

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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

on the subject of nabigating the website I use a screen reading software package called JAWS, the only feature on the whole site I have problems with is the chat. O, and photographs as well obviously, but I like to think that I am able to distinguish between beautiful people from their profiles. If I really feel that I need to have the photos described to me, then I ask a friend.

Fab has been really great for me, the help I received from the admin when I first wanted to set up and send e mails to people was fantastic, they dropped the visual capja nonsense for me as it wasn't accessible.

I think Fab is wonderful, I have met some really tremendous people and hope to continue to meet people and have loads more fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sniff...sniff...sniff...sorry, I'm welling up here with all the love. Wow, I can't believe my eyes...all the tolerant people loving the "crippled and maimed"...yeah, right!!!

Oh do leave it out!!!

Are these the same people who type they find fat people disgusting, and black people a turn off?!! But suddenly you're all comfortable playing with the disabled?!!

Haaaa haaaa haaaa haaaa haaaa...oooooh please, do me a favour! Shuh!!!

In answer to the OP...this is fantasy for me. My fantasy at the moment is tall, alpha (outside the bedroom) sub males. I wouldn't get a kick out of tying up and dominating a blind man say, any more than I would a 24 year old Adonis with 20/20 vision...not part of my fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sniff...sniff...sniff...sorry, I'm welling up here with all the love. Wow, I can't believe my eyes...all the tolerant people loving the "crippled and maimed"...yeah, right!!!

Oh do leave it out!!!

Are these the same people who type they find fat people disgusting, and black people a turn off?!! But suddenly you're all comfortable playing with the disabled?!!

Haaaa haaaa haaaa haaaa haaaa...oooooh please, do me a favour! Shuh!!!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Are these the same people who type they find fat people disgusting, and black people a turn off?!! But suddenly you're all comfortable playing with the disabled?!!

To answer your question honestly and at the risk of being politically incorrect, I have a deep seated longing to fuck a female amputee, and have had for ages.

So, does that make me a sick monster, or someone who is inclusive towards people with a disability?

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over a year ago

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By *DD1EMan
over a year ago

sea

I used to go out with a dwarf for many months when I was a lot younger, at first I did it just for a laugh but the sex was great and my friends were very envious of me, they all wanted a go, for them it was of novelty value to bed someone different, in the end I didn't think of her being any different to my other girlfriends although i was over 6ft and she was nearly 4 ft the only thing that did me in was my constant bad back from all the bending over I had to do but we both laughed at this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are these the same people who type they find fat people disgusting, and black people a turn off?!! But suddenly you're all comfortable playing with the disabled?!!

To answer your question honestly and at the risk of being politically incorrect, I have a deep seated longing to fuck a female amputee, and have had for ages.

So, does that make me a sick monster, or someone who is inclusive towards people with a disability?

No its a common interest and theres a club called Fascination for amputee admirers.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

"on the subject of nabigating the website I use a screen reading software package called JAWS, the only feature on the whole site I have problems with is the chat. O, and photographs as well obviously, but I like to think that I am able to distinguish between beautiful people from their profiles. If I really feel that I need to have the photos described to me, then I ask a friend.

I think Fab is wonderful, I have met some really tremendous people and hope to continue to meet people and have loads more fun."

Really glad to hear that you can use this site to your advantage! I`ve played with a lady who has MS and is slowly using her eyesight and use of her legs. It does hurt to think that she used to play hockey and netball at a quite competitive level before she became ill but as long as you make allowances for her lack of mobility, there`s nothing to stop you both enjoying the experience!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

*googles*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are these the same people who type they find fat people disgusting, and black people a turn off?!! But suddenly you're all comfortable playing with the disabled?!!

To answer your question honestly and at the risk of being politically incorrect, I have a deep seated longing to fuck a female amputee, and have had for ages.

So, does that make me a sick monster, or someone who is inclusive towards people with a disability?

Your fantasy is your fantasy...hardly in a position to call you a sick monster as I stick wasabi around the ring piece of my playmates, shave their balls and suck them with a mouth full of brandy.

Pot...kettle...!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't rule it out and wouldn't rule it in!! Depends on the individual. But it wouldn't be because of the disability,, it'd be cos I didn't fancy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your fantasy is your fantasy...hardly in a position to call you a sick monster as I stick wasabi around the ring piece of my playmates, shave their balls and suck them with a mouth full of brandy.

Pot...kettle...!!!

Another one for the ladies that I lunch with.........

Keep em comin!!!

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By *HAGADELICCouple
over a year ago

south london

A tough one to answer without sounding cruel.

"Repulsed" is the wrong word, but would have to say it would be "something else to think about".

We have met two people with what could be called a disability. One guy in a couple was totally up front about it before we met and said he wouldn't be offended if it put us off (leg ampuated below knee from car accident)

And they turned out a nice couple.

Then there was a single girl who had an amputated arm... and she hid the fact completely and looking at her profile later she was actually deceitful ie she had pictures with only one arm in shot but she had flipped some pictures left to right so she appeared to have a right arm and a left arm - when she had only the left!

She insisted on keeping the artifical arm on which was very ugly and also very cumbersome.

When we said "it's OK you can ... etc etc.... we don't have a problem..."

She got quite nastily aggressive - "well I don't so why the fuck should you?"

The evening did not go well

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Your fantasy is your fantasy...hardly in a position to call you a sick monster as I stick wasabi around the ring piece of my playmates, shave their balls and suck them with a mouth full of brandy.

Pot...kettle...!!!

Now that's just sick monster behaviour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*googles*"

google amelotasis then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your fantasy is your fantasy...hardly in a position to call you a sick monster as I stick wasabi around the ring piece of my playmates, shave their balls and suck them with a mouth full of brandy.

Pot...kettle...!!!

Another one for the ladies that I lunch with.........

Keep em comin!!!"

Oh to have ladies to lunch that I could hold these kinds of conversations with!!! My ladies would choke on their scaloppine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your fantasy is your fantasy...hardly in a position to call you a sick monster as I stick wasabi around the ring piece of my playmates, shave their balls and suck them with a mouth full of brandy.

Pot...kettle...!!!

Now that's just sick monster behaviour!"

Yeah...I know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your fantasy is your fantasy...hardly in a position to call you a sick monster as I stick wasabi around the ring piece of my playmates, shave their balls and suck them with a mouth full of brandy.

Pot...kettle...!!!

Another one for the ladies that I lunch with.........

Keep em comin!!!

Oh to have ladies to lunch that I could hold these kinds of conversations with!!! My ladies would choke on their scaloppine!

Mine too.... I was being cute! Theres not a smiley face for that....

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By *orestersCouple
over a year ago

The Forest

I have a deep seated longing to fuck a female amputee, and have had for ages.

So, does that make me a sick monster, or someone who is inclusive towards people with a disability?

You're Paul McCartney and I claim my £10

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have a deep seated longing to fuck a female amputee, and have had for ages.

So, does that make me a sick monster, or someone who is inclusive towards people with a disability?

You're Paul McCartney and I claim my £10

Nah, has to be above the knee.

Both legs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it doesnt, indeed i have met someone who was registered deaf and lip reads, we chose not to meet again because there was no mutual attraction on either part not because he was deaf

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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

For sure, so long as each other understands how best to accommodate one another and not to assume anything, just because I can't see I don't want to be disempowered. I would rather someone ask me how best they can help than assume that I will need things done for me that I don't actually need as I don't have a physical disability that impedes my mobility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For sure, so long as each other understands how best to accommodate one another and not to assume anything, just because I can't see I don't want to be disempowered. I would rather someone ask me how best they can help than assume that I will need things done for me that I don't actually need as I don't have a physical disability that impedes my mobility"

Likewise many people are physically fit but have mental health problems. Never seen but there all the same.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

none would repulse me.

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By *he tactile technician OP Man
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

and hidden diabilities in particular mental health difficulties present a completely unknown reaction. Statistics record that 1 in 4 of us will experience or know someone that experiences some form of mental ill health throughout their life. If we were to react from the negative publicity that the press use whenever anyone with a mental ill health history goes off the rails, would we be so keen as to swing with that mad axe weilding lunatic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repulse ..no

Twitch ...yes depending on the disability ....

Would never stop me having a relationship with someone disabled ..

I`d struggle to be intimate in a sexual way with some disabled people ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and hidden diabilities in particular mental health difficulties present a completely unknown reaction. Statistics record that 1 in 4 of us will experience or know someone that experiences some form of mental ill health throughout their life. If we were to react from the negative publicity that the press use whenever anyone with a mental ill health history goes off the rails, would we be so keen as to swing with that mad axe weilding lunatic?

I was thinking about a for instance someone with agoraphobia , would you have to go to their home only?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is moving away from what you first posted a bit. You can't be repulsed by something you can't physically see - as in mental health. Lots of people have mental health problems/depression/phobias and function still, without anyone knowing of their problems as easily as a physical disability. Of course you can be affected by their behaviour and be wary but I don't think you can be repulsed by it can you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repulsed is a word I`m struggling with ...it kinda alludes to disgust ...one primal emotion that can be argued is a universal emotion ...no matter your origin of birth ..not something imbued by learning say ..

I would find it hard to have nsa sex with someone who was incontinent..and had a colostomy bag ....I would feel unease and uncomfortable..scared even ...but not repulsed ...

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