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Do you say what you mean.....

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

and mean what you say?

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

In work I'm a bit of a hard-nosed bastard... mostly because I have to be in my line of duty. So yes, I do both whilst at work.

Outside of work, I'm completely different though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and mean what you say? "

.

What do you think?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"and mean what you say? "

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im the same - at work I can't sugar coat it and have to be very direct, assertive and honest - at home I try and use tact where possible x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fraid so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am more diplomatic at work in order to keep the peace, and only just a little bit more.

When peeps ask me for my opinion/view, they know they'll get the truth as I see fit with no BS.

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

yeah pretty much tell it as it is. so dont ask if your bum looks big in something if not ready for a "yes it does" lol x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Always, but if someone gets a compliment from me they know i mean it and not just bullshitting. Would much sooner go to someone for advice that i know is going to give me the truth rather than what i want to here even if i may not like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always....i'm often told i'm blunt.

i don't see the point in keeping folk wondering what it is i'm thinking or making them figure out what it is i'm trying to say...it takes up too much of my time.

and i'm exactly the same at work...but the folk i work with have a respect for it and they know i don't bullshit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fraid so , and i've got the scars to prove it !

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

yep, and has got me in trouble on more than one occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In work I'm a bit of a hard-nosed bastard... mostly because I have to be in my line of duty. So yes, I do both whilst at work.

Outside of work, I'm completely different though "

ditto

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Not me.

I always sugar coat it, and avoid upsetting people by softening my opinions to avoid causing offence or hurt.

Especially on the internet where people don't know me, nuance and tone are difficult to get across, so i'm always very careful about anything I write.

I'd hate to think there were people who read my posts and didnt like them or found them patronising etc.

That would be simply awful.

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By *econdhand RoseWoman
over a year ago

Nr Dumfries

My ex always used to say that we had to go places twice - the second time so he could apologise for me!!

I don't think I'm that bad but I do like straight talking and can't be bothered with dithering about a subject or issue.

I would still like to think I have some tact and diplomacy but certainly call a spade a spade and will speak my mind quite clearly.

Vixen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think being diplomatic isn't saying what you mean - it's saying what you mean without hurting someone's feelings. As the saying goes ... a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down

Sugar x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant say it to my face, dont say it at all, thats my motto, and yes the truth does hurt!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and sadly doesn't go down to well especially on here lol

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

Saying what I mean - no I dont always, even though the core of what i mean will remain strong .

I would always try and use diplomacy and tact to get my point across even if that means softening the edge of my messages a little to avoid unecessary hurt, distress or humiliation to the other party.

certainly on here I would far rather say ( and hear! ) "sorry you're not for us " than something along the lines of the fact im too fat, too old, too unattractive, enjoy things I wouldnt touch with the end of a stick etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At work I have to say it straight and too the point which does sometimes reflect in my private life.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I'm respectful and tactful first, but I will stick up for something really important.... but to be honest most daily stuff isn't really that important enough for me to be too blunt or forceful.

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