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What type of Fabber are you ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a perv and a wannabe show off here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell in a vat of Haribos when I was young which gave me a strange super power - I am unable to interact with the emotionally dead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like taking pics, showing them off, perving, chatting and maybe even meeting the odd lady now and then to get them naked and do unmentionable things with them.

I don't think I fit any neatly constructed definition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it was convenience, there was always someone available whenever I wanted sex. It was for times I couldn't see anyone I knew already.

I did meet some who were really nice though, and maintained contact despite no longer wanting to fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of the above

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I like taking pics, showing them off, perving, chatting and maybe even meeting the odd lady now and then to get them naked and do unmentionable things with them.

I don't think I fit any neatly constructed definition. "

to this. Although I don't just meet odd ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like taking pics, showing them off, perving, chatting and maybe even meeting the odd lady now and then to get them naked and do unmentionable things with them.

I don't think I fit any neatly constructed definition.

to this. Although I don't just meet odd ladies. "

You meet normal ladies too?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am a very happy and contented one, I like who I am, what I stand for and how I treat people who I have respect for. The rest, I am nicely indifferent to them.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I like taking pics, showing them off, perving, chatting and maybe even meeting the odd lady now and then to get them naked and do unmentionable things with them.

I don't think I fit any neatly constructed definition.

to this. Although I don't just meet odd ladies.

You meet normal ladies too? "

I do indeed. Like attracts like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laid back and up for a laugh

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

"

None of the above and things have evolved. Initially it was just use men for sex and put them back in their box and close the lid, don't want the hassle in real life, now its just part f our social life but we rarely play with others .... just like to socialise with people with a similar mind set.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, which type are you? All of your descriptions have a hint of desperation about them...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

None of them.

I'm not lonely.

Don't like telly much.

Like communicating.

Do this between writing tasks.

Uhmmmmmmmm ForumFabberFucker.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

None of those - but like GOOD sex and lots of it

Like the banter on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the 'hoping for occasional intellectual debate but mostly disappointed so nonetheless content with perving at nice pics' group.

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By *orthen soul manMan
over a year ago

aberdeen

None of the list,like people with a open mind not hung up about sex.

It just a pleaseable whey to pass time with people who think alike.

I Cant understand why people get so twisted by sex,nothing is forbidden if the two( or more) people enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like taking pics, showing them off, perving, chatting and maybe even meeting the odd lady now and then to get them naked and do unmentionable things with them.

I don't think I fit any neatly constructed definition. "

same but I'm yet to meet the odd man not lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To broaden my horizons which worked out far better than expected just love the fab site and all it has to offer . My vanilla life just wasn't what I wanted sexually xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my first pro it was because I wasn't gettin the attention from my oh. One this pro n now I'm single it's simply because I love the bantar n if I get laid as well then that's a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

"

..

None.... How about you?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I'm in the 'hoping for occasional intellectual debate but mostly disappointed so nonetheless content with perving at nice pics' group."

Crap.

Why would anyone come here for 'intellectual' debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None of them "

I just enjoy sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang on - is this something sort of sex site!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, which type are you? All of your descriptions have a hint of desperation about them..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just enjoy using men as sex objects but don't really like them as people.

(I may just be saying that for a giggle).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a perv and a wannabe show off here "

This

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive been a swinger all my life i love variety, i love sex and i love making friends. The day it started to give me as much hassle as it seems to give others id stop. And the day i stopped getting that nervous exitement before a meet id stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It provides me a way to meet lovely men for flirty fun & sex, something that was missing in real life.

I also like showing off different pics that I can't upload on other social media site & the attention that they generate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm....

You missed out "Sex Starved Millionaire, using the internet as a form of anonymity to ensure that women aren't just sleeping with him for his money"

...So I cant really answer

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

All of the above but I get sex so I'm happy with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of the above.

I enjoy being objectified and perved at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on an adventure and I get it . So I'm happy. Xx

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

"

Despite the jokey delivery, this is a very interesting question.

I'm comparatively new to social media of any kind (my only two forays have been two sex sites, inc this one, in less than two years) and possibly this isn't the most representative population sample...

BUT

I've noticed that of all kinks, persuasions and reasons people come on these sites

Loneliness

Is the common denominator. I also think rates of mental health, alcohol or substance misuse, as well as people seeking whatever type of validation are over represented against the general population.

These are *very* broad brushstrokes I'm painting but it's very interesting.

Answers on a postcard.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

None of the above - just refuse to go without sex in between relationships.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I fall into the

'I'm not waiting for someone to approach me in real life and I want to fit it around my time' category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mostly just use fab for the forum, it is comedy gold and also to chat with forum friends. I use another site for my sex meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

Despite the jokey delivery, this is a very interesting question.

I'm comparatively new to social media of any kind (my only two forays have been two sex sites, inc this one, in less than two years) and possibly this isn't the most representative population sample...

BUT

I've noticed that of all kinks, persuasions and reasons people come on these sites

Loneliness

Is the common denominator. I also think rates of mental health, alcohol or substance misuse, as well as people seeking whatever type of validation are over represented against the general population.

These are *very* broad brushstrokes I'm painting but it's very interesting.

Answers on a postcard.

"

In my past life case i totally agree with you. X

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I like taking pics, showing them off, perving, chatting and maybe even meeting the odd lady now and then to get them naked and do unmentionable things with them.

I don't think I fit any neatly constructed definition. "

Same for us, except we meet with other couples and singles.

(And most of them are normalish rather than odd!)

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By *he Hobbit And MeCouple
over a year ago

southampton


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

"

All of the above

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

All of the above "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

All of the above

"

so a lonely, bored billy nomates who wants to be adventurous but has a phobia of the great outdoors, so he stays in his bedsit with only his cat for company?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Awesome forum legend?

Which ones best apply to you ?

"

Awesome forum legend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was single, i don't know what kind of fabber I was, I guess I was using it to 'get my kicks', fab opened doors for me in a way in the real world it wouldn't, I had men that actually fancied me, which was a welcome change, as a larger woman in the real world in the pub or whatever, an attractive man would never in a million years try and talk to me as they wouldn't be seen dead talking to a fatty but here, there isn't really that 'discrimination' if that's the word I could use and I managed to pull of some rather attractive sexy men.

For example: in the pub the other week, there is a guy who himself says he is a bit of a man whore, very nice body and such and was all over every single woman, taken or not. The only two he wasn't was me and my larger than me friend (who incidentally does the same thing as I once did) which at the time I didn't think anything of but actually had I been single I would have got very upset by this and my friends face said it all.

So maybe I'm a fabber that was filling the void of something missing in my life and now I have a gorgeous man in my life, that void is filled (well an truly! )

G x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I'm none of those things, you make it sound like you have to be socially bereft to be a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dirty perverts who get off on sex with strangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dirty perverts who get off on sex with strangers "

Wouldn't say perverts you're just doing what you want without caring what others think about it which I find refreshing.

I'm tending to just use Fab to see people I've ready met and just stay in touch with others and a bit of forum browsing.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

A lazy one. I can't be arsed usually to actually message anyone cos I can't be bothered to think of anything witty, captivating or intelligent to write

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the 'hoping for occasional intellectual debate but mostly disappointed so nonetheless content with perving at nice pics' group.

Crap.

Why would anyone come here for 'intellectual' debate. "

Like I said: mostly disappointed

To be honest I remembered these forums as having a lot of debate a couple of years ago. But most of those people seem to have gone and instead it seems more dominated by airheads and people with little gangs of merry followers and inflated egos - and while I'm sure that's nice for them... I'll bet in real life they don't get out of the basement too much

Or maybe some bastard has all those interesting people locked away in a basement?..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

"
none of these thankfully

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I like trucking and I like to truck.

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By *elle2016Woman
over a year ago

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"I'm in the 'hoping for occasional intellectual debate but mostly disappointed so nonetheless content with perving at nice pics' group.

Crap.

Why would anyone come here for 'intellectual' debate.

Like I said: mostly disappointed

To be honest I remembered these forums as having a lot of debate a couple of years ago. But most of those people seem to have gone and instead it seems more dominated by airheads and people with little gangs of merry followers and inflated egos - and while I'm sure that's nice for them... I'll bet in real life they don't get out of the basement too much

Or maybe some bastard has all those interesting people locked away in a basement?.."

Oh how I agree...Airheads rule!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the 'hoping for occasional intellectual debate but mostly disappointed so nonetheless content with perving at nice pics' group.

Crap.

Why would anyone come here for 'intellectual' debate.

Like I said: mostly disappointed

To be honest I remembered these forums as having a lot of debate a couple of years ago. But most of those people seem to have gone and instead it seems more dominated by airheads and people with little gangs of merry followers and inflated egos - and while I'm sure that's nice for them... I'll bet in real life they don't get out of the basement too much

Or maybe some bastard has all those interesting people locked away in a basement?.."

Do you know what happened to Soapy and Madcow? Miss those guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of your saddo ones

Just for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the 'hoping for occasional intellectual debate but mostly disappointed so nonetheless content with perving at nice pics' group.

Crap.

Why would anyone come here for 'intellectual' debate.

Like I said: mostly disappointed

To be honest I remembered these forums as having a lot of debate a couple of years ago. But most of those people seem to have gone and instead it seems more dominated by airheads and people with little gangs of merry followers and inflated egos - and while I'm sure that's nice for them... I'll bet in real life they don't get out of the basement too much

Or maybe some bastard has all those interesting people locked away in a basement?..

Oh how I agree...Airheads rule!"

What about the followers? I must be one of them as I'm to much of an airhead to find my own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of them.

I'm actually Sydney Universities research A.I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need loads of sex, even considering a relationship now to get the amount of sex i'm used to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needs something to occupy myself with while taking a dump. The forum is prefect for this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you know what happened to Soapy and Madcow? Miss those guys."

checked the basement?

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

"

None of the above;

Occasionally someone appears who is worth fucking; and the forum is amusing.

And I have found one really good long term fuckbuddy on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not as cynical or desperate as any of the OOs definitions.....so none of the above.

Initially just for a bit if fun as was introduced to another site by a "friend"(with benefits). Then to this site by a couple I met.

I don't do this instead of my life....this isn't my life and never has been nor will be. It is in addition...as I suspect it is for many.

Through this site I have met some great people...some of them now firm friends. Some still on the site...a fair few have left but are still friends, some of them more than that (lol).

Even though the OP has given a number of reasons they will not fit everyone, or even many? They all seem very negative reasons and most people I have met are far more positive about their use of the site and about themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of the above, have a social life, quite confident, only use fab now and again for sexual experiences over anything else.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'm in the 'hoping for occasional intellectual debate but mostly disappointed so nonetheless content with perving at nice pics' group.

Crap.

Why would anyone come here for 'intellectual' debate.

Like I said: mostly disappointed

To be honest I remembered these forums as having a lot of debate a couple of years ago. But most of those people seem to have gone and instead it seems more dominated by airheads and people with little gangs of merry followers and inflated egos - and while I'm sure that's nice for them... I'll bet in real life they don't get out of the basement too much

Or maybe some bastard has all those interesting people locked away in a basement?..

Do you know what happened to Soapy and Madcow? Miss those guys."
madcow is fine alive and kicking and living back in the uk

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I might just stop posting. Being a relative newbie in forum terms I am no airhead, have no need of ego polishing and feel no need to blow smoke up peoples' assess. If those are the only options then I am sorry if my presence is bringing the overall level of debate down. As you all were before I bothered you with my one woman influx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might just stop posting. Being a relative newbie in forum terms I am no airhead, have no need of ego polishing and feel no need to blow smoke up peoples' assess. If those are the only options then I am sorry if my presence is bringing the overall level of debate down. As you all were before I bothered you with my one woman influx."

Luckily I have no problem bringing the level of debate down. I'll stay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might just stop posting. Being a relative newbie in forum terms I am no airhead, have no need of ego polishing and feel no need to blow smoke up peoples' assess. If those are the only options then I am sorry if my presence is bringing the overall level of debate down. As you all were before I bothered you with my one woman influx."

They're not the only options - just the most used at the mo.

People can do as they wish. Others can comment on them doing so. That's how a forum works ain't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the 'hoping for occasional intellectual debate but mostly disappointed so nonetheless content with perving at nice pics' group.

Crap.

Why would anyone come here for 'intellectual' debate.

Like I said: mostly disappointed

To be honest I remembered these forums as having a lot of debate a couple of years ago. But most of those people seem to have gone and instead it seems more dominated by airheads and people with little gangs of merry followers and inflated egos - and while I'm sure that's nice for them... I'll bet in real life they don't get out of the basement too much

Or maybe some bastard has all those interesting people locked away in a basement?..

Do you know what happened to Soapy and Madcow? Miss those guys.madcow is fine alive and kicking and living back in the uk"

Now there was a woman that could make you smile. Send her my best (and thank her for the quality street choc bar she bought me, all those years ago)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might just stop posting. Being a relative newbie in forum terms I am no airhead, have no need of ego polishing and feel no need to blow smoke up peoples' assess. If those are the only options then I am sorry if my presence is bringing the overall level of debate down. As you all were before I bothered you with my one woman influx.

Luckily I have no problem bringing the level of debate down. I'll stay. "

As one of said influx of attention-seeking airheads lowering the tone, I'm not that easily got rid of.

I suspect there could be a hint of rose-tinted glasses going on. I don't know, I wasn't here back in the good old days when it was wall-to-wall quality debate and hilarity, but it seems entirely possible...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might just stop posting. Being a relative newbie in forum terms I am no airhead, have no need of ego polishing and feel no need to blow smoke up peoples' assess. If those are the only options then I am sorry if my presence is bringing the overall level of debate down. As you all were before I bothered you with my one woman influx.

Luckily I have no problem bringing the level of debate down. I'll stay.

As one of said influx of attention-seeking airheads lowering the tone, I'm not that easily got rid of.

I suspect there could be a hint of rose-tinted glasses going on. I don't know, I wasn't here back in the good old days when it was wall-to-wall quality debate and hilarity, but it seems entirely possible..."

It was a "nicer" place... less vitriolic, less judgemental, more accepting. And I am afraid to say, more welcoming. Sorry to say that but true.

We had our ups and downs as the new lot do, and the clique back then was strong, but mostly people took the piss out of the sultans of swing and the banter remained light.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I might just stop posting. Being a relative newbie in forum terms I am no airhead, have no need of ego polishing and feel no need to blow smoke up peoples' assess. If those are the only options then I am sorry if my presence is bringing the overall level of debate down. As you all were before I bothered you with my one woman influx.

Luckily I have no problem bringing the level of debate down. I'll stay.

As one of said influx of attention-seeking airheads lowering the tone, I'm not that easily got rid of.

I suspect there could be a hint of rose-tinted glasses going on. I don't know, I wasn't here back in the good old days when it was wall-to-wall quality debate and hilarity, but it seems entirely possible...

It was a "nicer" place... less vitriolic, less judgemental, more accepting. And I am afraid to say, more welcoming. Sorry to say that but true.

We had our ups and downs as the new lot do, and the clique back then was strong, but mostly people took the piss out of the sultans of swing and the banter remained light."

And I refer back to my original point. If newbies aren't welcome then what is the point of a forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might just stop posting. Being a relative newbie in forum terms I am no airhead, have no need of ego polishing and feel no need to blow smoke up peoples' assess. If those are the only options then I am sorry if my presence is bringing the overall level of debate down. As you all were before I bothered you with my one woman influx.

Luckily I have no problem bringing the level of debate down. I'll stay.

As one of said influx of attention-seeking airheads lowering the tone, I'm not that easily got rid of.

I suspect there could be a hint of rose-tinted glasses going on. I don't know, I wasn't here back in the good old days when it was wall-to-wall quality debate and hilarity, but it seems entirely possible...

It was a "nicer" place... less vitriolic, less judgemental, more accepting. And I am afraid to say, more welcoming. Sorry to say that but true.

We had our ups and downs as the new lot do, and the clique back then was strong, but mostly people took the piss out of the sultans of swing and the banter remained light."

Fair enough, as I said - I wasn't here. But it's also entirely possible that there were people who thought it was wank back then, and that's why they're no longer using them. It seems a little bit of a self-selecting sample to me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

All of the above

so a lonely, bored billy nomates who wants to be adventurous but has a phobia of the great outdoors, so he stays in his bedsit with only his cat for company? "

Oi I'm a woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first one

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I might just stop posting. Being a relative newbie in forum terms I am no airhead, have no need of ego polishing and feel no need to blow smoke up peoples' assess. If those are the only options then I am sorry if my presence is bringing the overall level of debate down. As you all were before I bothered you with my one woman influx.

Luckily I have no problem bringing the level of debate down. I'll stay.

As one of said influx of attention-seeking airheads lowering the tone, I'm not that easily got rid of.

I suspect there could be a hint of rose-tinted glasses going on. I don't know, I wasn't here back in the good old days when it was wall-to-wall quality debate and hilarity, but it seems entirely possible...

It was a "nicer" place... less vitriolic, less judgemental, more accepting. And I am afraid to say, more welcoming. Sorry to say that but true.

We had our ups and downs as the new lot do, and the clique back then was strong, but mostly people took the piss out of the sultans of swing and the banter remained light."
that is true but there was some fucking rows but it was a community back then everyone joining in not trying to out do each other but things change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might just stop posting. Being a relative newbie in forum terms I am no airhead, have no need of ego polishing and feel no need to blow smoke up peoples' assess. If those are the only options then I am sorry if my presence is bringing the overall level of debate down. As you all were before I bothered you with my one woman influx.

Luckily I have no problem bringing the level of debate down. I'll stay.

As one of said influx of attention-seeking airheads lowering the tone, I'm not that easily got rid of.

I suspect there could be a hint of rose-tinted glasses going on. I don't know, I wasn't here back in the good old days when it was wall-to-wall quality debate and hilarity, but it seems entirely possible...

It was a "nicer" place... less vitriolic, less judgemental, more accepting. And I am afraid to say, more welcoming. Sorry to say that but true.

We had our ups and downs as the new lot do, and the clique back then was strong, but mostly people took the piss out of the sultans of swing and the banter remained light.

And I refer back to my original point. If newbies aren't welcome then what is the point of a forum?"

I am just saying how I experienced it as a newbie back then. That's all. Swinging has changed a lot since I began. There has always been a clique, however I didn't used to get insulting pm 's when I didn't agree with them.

Things change, I will carry on posting in the forums regardless, and if people don't like it.... well tough. I miss banter with old friends; making new ones on this current forum is more difficult (from my personal perspecyive) that's all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"that is true but there was some fucking rows but it was a community back then everyone joining in not trying to out do each other but things change"

That's what I remembered.. lots of rows.

I liked them

and less of the 'I won't debate with you because you haven't blown enough smoke up my ass-ness'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

"

Perhaps from - "it used to be a warm, welcoming and friendly place back in the old days, all these influx of airhead newbies have spoiled it..."

Yes, such statements are incredibly welcoming...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"OP, which type are you? All of your descriptions have a hint of desperation about them..."

I agree.

None of those for me btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

Perhaps from - "it used to be a warm, welcoming and friendly place back in the old days, all these influx of airhead newbies have spoiled it..."

Yes, such statements are incredibly welcoming...

"

I haven't seen that comment & still can't find it?

I made the airhead comment. I admire that some have chosen to 'own it'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

Perhaps from - "it used to be a warm, welcoming and friendly place back in the old days, all these influx of airhead newbies have spoiled it..."

Yes, such statements are incredibly welcoming...

I haven't seen that comment & still can't find it?

I made the airhead comment. I admire that some have chosen to 'own it' "

It's a tl;dr not a direct quote.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

"

Well, suggesting that none of us relative newcomers have anything to offer by way of debate compared to previous forumites and are airheads et al isn't exactly welcoming, is it? I've always told people that there are only cliques on here if you don't join in, yet this is one of the few threads ever where I have felt totally marginalised purely by virtue of not being an old hand at this swinging lark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

Perhaps from - "it used to be a warm, welcoming and friendly place back in the old days, all these influx of airhead newbies have spoiled it..."

Yes, such statements are incredibly welcoming...

I haven't seen that comment & still can't find it?

I made the airhead comment. I admire that some have chosen to 'own it' "

I think we have both been paraphrased (hold on I will look that up)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

Well, suggesting that none of us relative newcomers have anything to offer by way of debate compared to previous forumites and are airheads et al isn't exactly welcoming, is it? I've always told people that there are only cliques on here if you don't join in, yet this is one of the few threads ever where I have felt totally marginalised purely by virtue of not being an old hand at this swinging lark."

Yes, well explained by the airhead above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

Perhaps from - "it used to be a warm, welcoming and friendly place back in the old days, all these influx of airhead newbies have spoiled it..."

Yes, such statements are incredibly welcoming...

I haven't seen that comment & still can't find it?

I made the airhead comment. I admire that some have chosen to 'own it'

It's a tl;dr not a direct quote.

"

You just made up a comment that wasn't made!?! This is like arguing with my wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

Perhaps from - "it used to be a warm, welcoming and friendly place back in the old days, all these influx of airhead newbies have spoiled it..."

Yes, such statements are incredibly welcoming...

I haven't seen that comment & still can't find it?

I made the airhead comment. I admire that some have chosen to 'own it'

It's a tl;dr not a direct quote.

You just made up a comment that wasn't made!?! This is like arguing with my wife "

No; I explained the way I'd interpreted some of the comments I'd read. I appreciate the quotation marks may have been misleading.

Your wife sounds a smart lady

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers"

Though I always have a shower before a meet.

Actually I like being here, as I can be honest about just wanting physical pleasure. I'm looking for a long term relationship, but I don't want celibacy until I meet the one. I've made errors in the past confusing lust for love.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Personally I don't care if those form the good old days think I'm no good because I'm new.

I enjoy the forums, I've seen some good debate and I've met and made some great friends.

Sorry 'old regulars' but this is now. Perhaps you miss the people who used to blow up your arses?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"where did the 'newbies aren't welcome' thing come from? (I missed whatever that refers to)

Well, suggesting that none of us relative newcomers have anything to offer by way of debate compared to previous forumites and are airheads et al isn't exactly welcoming, is it? I've always told people that there are only cliques on here if you don't join in, yet this is one of the few threads ever where I have felt totally marginalised purely by virtue of not being an old hand at this swinging lark."

Firstly I can't figure out what swinging has to do with this particular part of discussion?

Secondly I made a comment in reference to somebody taking the piss about my claim to be here for 'intellectual debate'.

That comment didn't say all people on here are empty headed numpties. It didn't make any reference to whether people are welcome or not.

Funnily enough it's me that's new compared to most in this thread and as an (albeit returning) newbie two things I have noticed:

1. A tendency by people to argue in extremes (you said EVERYONE is an airhead etc. when that was never the case)

2. A tendency by many of the current most frequent posters to ignore new posters.

Why my _iews would in any way arse you when they so clearly don't usually, is odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You just made up a comment that wasn't made!?! This is like arguing with my wife

No; I explained the way I'd interpreted some of the comments I'd read. I appreciate the quotation marks may have been misleading.

Your wife sounds a smart lady "

Well she wins all our arguments using similar tactics, so you may be right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past. I used to love winding up the old clique and I swear some of them would have rammed my keyboard up my are if they could have.

I quite like winding up the new clique too and thankfully I use a mobile phone these days so less lube is required.

It's YOUR site as much as it's mine. I like helping the newbies, the single guys asking for advice (hell I get tired of people slamming single guys for "where am I going wrong" posts, when they have posted in the advice section). Or somebody says ooh a look at me post when someone asks for advice on their profile. Newsflash ALL posts are look at me posts.... even mine.

Just seems mighty angsty, round here at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I don't care if those form the good old days think I'm no good because I'm new.

I enjoy the forums, I've seen some good debate and I've met and made some great friends.

Sorry 'old regulars' but this is now. Perhaps you miss the people who used to blow up your arses?"

too right

admittedly not much smoke made it's way up there

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

It was different, maybe not better just different.

It evolved, so did I.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past."

We get it, we're not good/fun/interesting/clever/whatever for you. You don't need to come in here if us newbies bug you so much and make the forum not fun any more.

I suspect you wanted a hero's welcome on your return and didn't get one because you're the newbie atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a clique off brewing , old V new.

The period of time when you know the majority & are in the thick of it will always seem like the best to you, maybe not to others though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was different, maybe not better just different.

It evolved, so did I.

"

It doesn't feel like evolution when I struggle to reach down to tie my laces

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"It was different, maybe not better just different.

It evolved, so did I.

It doesn't feel like evolution when I struggle to reach down to tie my laces"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

Despite the jokey delivery, this is a very interesting question.

I'm comparatively new to social media of any kind (my only two forays have been two sex sites, inc this one, in less than two years) and possibly this isn't the most representative population sample...

BUT

I've noticed that of all kinks, persuasions and reasons people come on these sites

Loneliness

Is the common denominator. I also think rates of mental health, alcohol or substance misuse, as well as people seeking whatever type of validation are over represented against the general population.

These are *very* broad brushstrokes I'm painting but it's very interesting.

Answers on a postcard.

"

Yep, couple of functioning alcoholics here, plus a fella who knows the DSM IV of by heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past.

We get it, we're not good/fun/interesting/clever/whatever for you. You don't need to come in here if us newbies bug you so much and make the forum not fun any more.

I suspect you wanted a hero's welcome on your return and didn't get one because you're the newbie atm "

That's the kinda post I mean

At no point have I insulted anyone else. I just said it was more welcoming back a few years. And trust me, it wouldn't have been a hero's welcome

I haven't said you aren't intelligent or witty.

What I have posted is MY experiences of the forum past and present. I am sorry if that causes offense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably all of those types

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"

The period of time when you know the majority & are in the thick of it will always seem like the best to you, maybe not to others though.

"

I think that sums it up perfectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*peeks through the door .. Steps slowly away from the thread* ...

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Aye lad, I remember when all this were fields....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like taking pics, showing them off, perving, chatting and maybe even meeting the odd lady now and then to get them naked and do unmentionable things with them.

I don't think I fit any neatly constructed definition. "

Ooops - had a wee fabbing frenzy there! Just ignore the perv from Scotland

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past.

We get it, we're not good/fun/interesting/clever/whatever for you. You don't need to come in here if us newbies bug you so much and make the forum not fun any more.

I suspect you wanted a hero's welcome on your return and didn't get one because you're the newbie atm

That's the kinda post I mean

At no point have I insulted anyone else. I just said it was more welcoming back a few years. And trust me, it wouldn't have been a hero's welcome

I haven't said you aren't intelligent or witty.

What I have posted is MY experiences of the forum past and present. I am sorry if that causes offense "

Telling a forum that it used to be better comes across, whether you meant it to or not, that the current people aren't good enough forumites for you. And it seems to me that others have taken it that way.

"That's the kinda post I mean" what does that mean if it's not a dig?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of these descriptions apply to you as to why you use FAB ?

Don't get much action in real life so thought you'd try your luck in here?

Low self esteem so your here to try and boost it?

High ratio of men to women so you get the attention you wouldn't in real life?

Have no real friends or social life so have to fill that void by pretending you have friends in here?

Bored with your life?

Lonely?

Bored of same old routines with your partner so wanted to liven your sex life up?

Or just a dirty pervert who gets off on sex with strangers?

Which ones best apply to you ?

"

None of the above!

Attractive and get attention in the real world however, until they invent x ray glasses that allow me to see the contents of a guys underpants I hve to use this site as a way to see the guys willy before I decide to do anything.

I've tried dating sites but as soon as I request a picture of the dick it puts me in the 'just a fuck' category. On here maybe I can find a big dick guy who may want a permanent lady friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"[Removed by poster at 03/04/16 21:17:05]"

Do narcassists wank in front of mirrors?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"[Removed by poster at 03/04/16 21:17:05]"

Yeah but I you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 03/04/16 21:17:05]

Do narcassists wank in front of mirrors?"

I know I certainly do.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

The period of time when you know the majority & are in the thick of it will always seem like the best to you, maybe not to others though.

I think that sums it up perfectly "

Not always, I was more involved before and I never enjoyed it more, it was a different dynamic

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"[Removed by poster at 03/04/16 21:17:05]

Do narcassists wank in front of mirrors?

I know I certainly do. "

Do it on camera next time then, sweetcheeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past.

We get it, we're not good/fun/interesting/clever/whatever for you. You don't need to come in here if us newbies bug you so much and make the forum not fun any more.

I suspect you wanted a hero's welcome on your return and didn't get one because you're the newbie atm

That's the kinda post I mean

At no point have I insulted anyone else. I just said it was more welcoming back a few years. And trust me, it wouldn't have been a hero's welcome

I haven't said you aren't intelligent or witty.

What I have posted is MY experiences of the forum past and present. I am sorry if that causes offense

Telling a forum that it used to be better comes across, whether you meant it to or not, that the current people aren't good enough forumites for you. And it seems to me that others have taken it that way.

"That's the kinda post I mean" what does that mean if it's not a dig?

"

I never said the forum was "better" I just said it was friendlier. When I first joined oh so many years ago, new people were welcomed all the time onto the forum and (I may well be wrong) it wasn't the same 30 people or so posting all the time. With newcomers trying to get involved, in the main, ignored (and no, I am not talking about me). I was never in a clique but as stated did enjoy calling them out from time to time. It never led to rude pm's.

As for saying I had a dig, telling me to like it or leave got my back up a little, this I admit.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Ok, I'll be honest here. I get no action in real life.

I've suffered from low self-esteem in the past but that's not why I'm here. Some wonderful people on Fab have really helped me conquer my issues with low self-esteem to the point where it doesn't really bother me now. I'm currently in a very good place.

I had no real friends or a social life before Fab, but again I didn't come on here so I could pretend I had friends. As it turns out I've genuinely found some really good friends through Fab. In truth that's been the highlight of me being here.

I've never been bored with life. I've had many dark days. Days where I've questioned whether I've even wanted to carry on. The fact that I have such a love for life was the only thing that actually kept me going.

Lonely? I've suffered soul crushing loneliness for most of my life. I certainly didn't come onto Fab to escape that.

I came on Fab because I like this lifestyle. I like the whole idea of this swinging mullarkey. I know it's who I am. I don't do vanilla. I want sex all the time. I love being around women. Sadly, I've found it really difficult to find women who are interested in me. I'm not the kind of guy that women will be immediately interested in, and around here that means I get overlooked. To say that's been frustrating would be an understatement. But it turns out I've learnt so much about myself during this long period of no action. Even though it initially was a disaster coming on here, I've finally turned a corner with it all. Things are now beginning to happen liked I hoped they would when I first joined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past.

We get it, we're not good/fun/interesting/clever/whatever for you. You don't need to come in here if us newbies bug you so much and make the forum not fun any more.

I suspect you wanted a hero's welcome on your return and didn't get one because you're the newbie atm

That's the kinda post I mean

At no point have I insulted anyone else. I just said it was more welcoming back a few years. And trust me, it wouldn't have been a hero's welcome

I haven't said you aren't intelligent or witty.

What I have posted is MY experiences of the forum past and present. I am sorry if that causes offense

Telling a forum that it used to be better comes across, whether you meant it to or not, that the current people aren't good enough forumites for you. And it seems to me that others have taken it that way.

"That's the kinda post I mean" what does that mean if it's not a dig?

I never said the forum was "better" I just said it was friendlier. When I first joined oh so many years ago, new people were welcomed all the time onto the forum and (I may well be wrong) it wasn't the same 30 people or so posting all the time. With newcomers trying to get involved, in the main, ignored (and no, I am not talking about me). I was never in a clique but as stated did enjoy calling them out from time to time. It never led to rude pm's.

As for saying I had a dig, telling me to like it or leave got my back up a little, this I admit. "

I joined nearly 3 years ago so I'm not a newbie or an oldie I just blend in.

The forums back then were far from friendly imo. It felt past the clique stage borderline pack mentality from what I witnessed, took me ages to pluck up the courage to post in the fear of being nit picked to death.

However, over time some of those people moved on, newbies arrived & with them a new lease of life. I doubt I would have stayed if it hadn't of changed.

Again I'm not saying it's better but it needs to keep evolving to stay fresh.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I never said the forum was "better" I just said it was friendlier. When I first joined oh so many years ago, new people were welcomed all the time onto the forum and (I may well be wrong) it wasn't the same 30 people or so posting all the time. With newcomers trying to get involved, in the main, ignored (and no, I am not talking about me). I was never in a clique but as stated did enjoy calling them out from time to time. It never led to rude pm's.

As for saying I had a dig, telling me to like it or leave got my back up a little, this I admit. "

I mistook friendlier for better As always with written 'speech' it is open to misinterpretation.

I don't believe there is a clique in here. I believe there are a bunch of people who tend to post more and interact better. But that's because of personal effort and personality.

I apologise for getting your back up a little. I tend to say what I think but without any intention of pissing anyone off.

I was a newcomer not that long ago and got ignored but that's how it is. Once people realise you're not a quick post and gone type of person then the friendliness begins I find

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Again I'm not saying it's better but it needs to keep evolving to stay fresh."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past.

We get it, we're not good/fun/interesting/clever/whatever for you. You don't need to come in here if us newbies bug you so much and make the forum not fun any more.

I suspect you wanted a hero's welcome on your return and didn't get one because you're the newbie atm

That's the kinda post I mean

At no point have I insulted anyone else. I just said it was more welcoming back a few years. And trust me, it wouldn't have been a hero's welcome

I haven't said you aren't intelligent or witty.

What I have posted is MY experiences of the forum past and present. I am sorry if that causes offense

Telling a forum that it used to be better comes across, whether you meant it to or not, that the current people aren't good enough forumites for you. And it seems to me that others have taken it that way.

"That's the kinda post I mean" what does that mean if it's not a dig?

I never said the forum was "better" I just said it was friendlier. When I first joined oh so many years ago, new people were welcomed all the time onto the forum and (I may well be wrong) it wasn't the same 30 people or so posting all the time. With newcomers trying to get involved, in the main, ignored (and no, I am not talking about me). I was never in a clique but as stated did enjoy calling them out from time to time. It never led to rude pm's.

As for saying I had a dig, telling me to like it or leave got my back up a little, this I admit.

I joined nearly 3 years ago so I'm not a newbie or an oldie I just blend in.

The forums back then were far from friendly imo. It felt past the clique stage borderline pack mentality from what I witnessed, took me ages to pluck up the courage to post in the fear of being nit picked to death.

However, over time some of those people moved on, newbies arrived & with them a new lease of life. I doubt I would have stayed if it hadn't of changed.

Again I'm not saying it's better but it needs to keep evolving to stay fresh.

"

Well there you go. Two different opinions of the past. Neither wrong nor right, just personal experience. Thanks for putting that up, u wasn't around 3 years ago, they sound like right bastards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past.

We get it, we're not good/fun/interesting/clever/whatever for you. You don't need to come in here if us newbies bug you so much and make the forum not fun any more.

I suspect you wanted a hero's welcome on your return and didn't get one because you're the newbie atm

That's the kinda post I mean

At no point have I insulted anyone else. I just said it was more welcoming back a few years. And trust me, it wouldn't have been a hero's welcome

I haven't said you aren't intelligent or witty.

What I have posted is MY experiences of the forum past and present. I am sorry if that causes offense

Telling a forum that it used to be better comes across, whether you meant it to or not, that the current people aren't good enough forumites for you. And it seems to me that others have taken it that way.

"That's the kinda post I mean" what does that mean if it's not a dig?

I never said the forum was "better" I just said it was friendlier. When I first joined oh so many years ago, new people were welcomed all the time onto the forum and (I may well be wrong) it wasn't the same 30 people or so posting all the time. With newcomers trying to get involved, in the main, ignored (and no, I am not talking about me). I was never in a clique but as stated did enjoy calling them out from time to time. It never led to rude pm's.

As for saying I had a dig, telling me to like it or leave got my back up a little, this I admit.

I joined nearly 3 years ago so I'm not a newbie or an oldie I just blend in.

The forums back then were far from friendly imo. It felt past the clique stage borderline pack mentality from what I witnessed, took me ages to pluck up the courage to post in the fear of being nit picked to death.

However, over time some of those people moved on, newbies arrived & with them a new lease of life. I doubt I would have stayed if it hadn't of changed.

Again I'm not saying it's better but it needs to keep evolving to stay fresh.

Well there you go. Two different opinions of the past. Neither wrong nor right, just personal experience. Thanks for putting that up, u wasn't around 3 years ago, they sound like right bastards "

"I" not "u"... anyone got an old man phone with bigger button's?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum"

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past.

We get it, we're not good/fun/interesting/clever/whatever for you. You don't need to come in here if us newbies bug you so much and make the forum not fun any more.

I suspect you wanted a hero's welcome on your return and didn't get one because you're the newbie atm

That's the kinda post I mean

At no point have I insulted anyone else. I just said it was more welcoming back a few years. And trust me, it wouldn't have been a hero's welcome

I haven't said you aren't intelligent or witty.

What I have posted is MY experiences of the forum past and present. I am sorry if that causes offense

Telling a forum that it used to be better comes across, whether you meant it to or not, that the current people aren't good enough forumites for you. And it seems to me that others have taken it that way.

"That's the kinda post I mean" what does that mean if it's not a dig?

I never said the forum was "better" I just said it was friendlier. When I first joined oh so many years ago, new people were welcomed all the time onto the forum and (I may well be wrong) it wasn't the same 30 people or so posting all the time. With newcomers trying to get involved, in the main, ignored (and no, I am not talking about me). I was never in a clique but as stated did enjoy calling them out from time to time. It never led to rude pm's.

As for saying I had a dig, telling me to like it or leave got my back up a little, this I admit.

I joined nearly 3 years ago so I'm not a newbie or an oldie I just blend in.

The forums back then were far from friendly imo. It felt past the clique stage borderline pack mentality from what I witnessed, took me ages to pluck up the courage to post in the fear of being nit picked to death.

However, over time some of those people moved on, newbies arrived & with them a new lease of life. I doubt I would have stayed if it hadn't of changed.

Again I'm not saying it's better but it needs to keep evolving to stay fresh.

Well there you go. Two different opinions of the past. Neither wrong nor right, just personal experience. Thanks for putting that up, u wasn't around 3 years ago, they sound like right bastards

"I" not "u"... anyone got an old man phone with bigger button's?"

Auto correct is a biatch at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look the way I see it, my "fun" days on the forum are in the past.

We get it, we're not good/fun/interesting/clever/whatever for you. You don't need to come in here if us newbies bug you so much and make the forum not fun any more.

I suspect you wanted a hero's welcome on your return and didn't get one because you're the newbie atm

That's the kinda post I mean

At no point have I insulted anyone else. I just said it was more welcoming back a few years. And trust me, it wouldn't have been a hero's welcome

I haven't said you aren't intelligent or witty.

What I have posted is MY experiences of the forum past and present. I am sorry if that causes offense

Telling a forum that it used to be better comes across, whether you meant it to or not, that the current people aren't good enough forumites for you. And it seems to me that others have taken it that way.

"That's the kinda post I mean" what does that mean if it's not a dig?

I never said the forum was "better" I just said it was friendlier. When I first joined oh so many years ago, new people were welcomed all the time onto the forum and (I may well be wrong) it wasn't the same 30 people or so posting all the time. With newcomers trying to get involved, in the main, ignored (and no, I am not talking about me). I was never in a clique but as stated did enjoy calling them out from time to time. It never led to rude pm's.

As for saying I had a dig, telling me to like it or leave got my back up a little, this I admit.

I joined nearly 3 years ago so I'm not a newbie or an oldie I just blend in.

The forums back then were far from friendly imo. It felt past the clique stage borderline pack mentality from what I witnessed, took me ages to pluck up the courage to post in the fear of being nit picked to death.

However, over time some of those people moved on, newbies arrived & with them a new lease of life. I doubt I would have stayed if it hadn't of changed.

Again I'm not saying it's better but it needs to keep evolving to stay fresh.

Well there you go. Two different opinions of the past. Neither wrong nor right, just personal experience. Thanks for putting that up, u wasn't around 3 years ago, they sound like right bastards

"I" not "u"... anyone got an old man phone with bigger button's?

Auto correct is a biatch at times "

Tell me about it...... I need one of those big button phones or can we just write in to the forums? That would be best.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!! "

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion when reading it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion whent reading it "
no time outs and never ending threads i still laugh at poor stu tearing his hair out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion when reading it "

Did you find my rose tinted glasses down there?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion whent reading it no time outs and never ending threads i still laugh at poor stu tearing his hair out"

I think you will find there was time outs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion whent reading it no time outs and never ending threads i still laugh at poor stu tearing his hair out

I think you will find there was time outs."

Yes there were

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion whent reading it no time outs and never ending threads i still laugh at poor stu tearing his hair out

I think you will find there was time outs."
really? I never knew that i never heard of anyone getting one

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion when reading it

Did you find my rose tinted glasses down there? "

Yep, along with a couple of marbles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion whent reading it no time outs and never ending threads i still laugh at poor stu tearing his hair out

I think you will find there was time outs.really? I never knew that i never heard of anyone getting one"

Erm.... you know those peeps we talked about... lol and maybe me, once or twice

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion whent reading it no time outs and never ending threads i still laugh at poor stu tearing his hair out

I think you will find there was time outs.

Yes there were "
you got a time out of stu you must of done something pretty bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion whent reading it no time outs and never ending threads i still laugh at poor stu tearing his hair out

I think you will find there was time outs.

Yes there were you got a time out of stu you must of done something pretty bad "

I wouldn't say bad... just "different"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"This sounds a bit like my forum is betterer than your forum

You can't say that though. You have been here forever!!

I have

From your time though, I thought it was scarier than now, I used to hide behind the cushion whent reading it no time outs and never ending threads i still laugh at poor stu tearing his hair out

I think you will find there was time outs.really? I never knew that i never heard of anyone getting one

Erm.... you know those peeps we talked about... lol and maybe me, once or twice "
well i must of been totally oblivious to it all lol

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"I like taking pics, showing them off, perving, chatting and maybe even meeting the odd lady now and then to get them naked and do unmentionable things with them.

I don't think I fit any neatly constructed definition.

Same for us, except we meet with other couples and singles.

(And most of them are normalish rather than odd!) "

This sums me up too. I like meeting strangers who become friends, sometimes naked playing friends

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