FabSwingers.com forum: Verification paranoia

By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Does anyone else get slightly paranoid when people don't display the veri you wrote for them?

Now I know I'm not Shakespeare when it comes to writing them but it's happened a few times to me recently... Enough to make me think about why..

I'm hoping it's just to do with my name rather than a reflection on how good a time they had with me

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Does anyone else get slightly paranoid when people don't display the veri you wrote for them?

Now I know I'm not Shakespeare when it comes to writing them but it's happened a few times to me recently... Enough to make me think about why..

I'm hoping it's just to do with my name rather than a reflection on how good a time they had with me

Puzzled as to why you chose your username?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Write better verifications.

I don;t display the dull ones.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No, because I don't display mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this a few time too..I always write nice things so not sure why they're not published? !

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Does anyone else get slightly paranoid when people don't display the veri you wrote for them?

Now I know I'm not Shakespeare when it comes to writing them but it's happened a few times to me recently... Enough to make me think about why..

I'm hoping it's just to do with my name rather than a reflection on how good a time they had with me

Puzzled as to why you chose your username?

It was a dare but I've grown attached to it

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Write better verifications.

I don;t display the dull ones. "

I don't like to be graphic

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't often display mine so I don't mind if people don't show the ones I wrote them.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Theres a lot of verification paronia on here. I meet i verify if they leave one back then great if they dont fine its just there way but i wouldnt think to check if they where showing mine. But i do know two guys that arnt showing mine and i know the reasons why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always write jokey ones..and dont really care whether they are displayed or not as I don't display mine

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Write better verifications.

I don;t display the dull ones.

I don't like to be graphic"

You don;t have to be graphic in the slightest - just be original

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats a verification?

sweat, don't, small, stuff, the ... something like that anyway

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

If someone doesn't display any then I get that, but one with loads but not yours is where I wonder.

Not actively going back checking profiles, just kind of noticed (I've had a boring day)

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

just ask them, they may not realise

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"If someone doesn't display any then I get that, but one with loads but not yours is where I wonder.

Not actively going back checking profiles, just kind of noticed (I've had a boring day)

They don't display yours in case people are immediately put off meeting them if they've met you since you are the pinnacle of fabness. That's what I would tell myself in that situation, anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has happened to me loads of times. i must admit on occasion it's made me think that maybe they were embarrassed to have met me, so I've not gone back for a second meet.

But I don't tend to write the typical OTT, gushing, sycophantic epistles about how wonderful people are, so maybe they just don't want to display them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone doesn't display any then I get that, but one with loads but not yours is where I wonder.

Not actively going back checking profiles, just kind of noticed (I've had a boring day)

They don't display yours in case people are immediately put off meeting them if they've met you since you are the pinnacle of fabness. That's what I would tell myself in that situation, anyway.

erm, you kinda are the pinnacle of fabness

(Runs off into the woods after grabbing a small bag of coal and his favourite Tonka toy)

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"If someone doesn't display any then I get that, but one with loads but not yours is where I wonder.

Not actively going back checking profiles, just kind of noticed (I've had a boring day)

They don't display yours in case people are immediately put off meeting them if they've met you since you are the pinnacle of fabness. That's what I would tell myself in that situation, anyway.

I like your thinking

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"If someone doesn't display any then I get that, but one with loads but not yours is where I wonder.

Not actively going back checking profiles, just kind of noticed (I've had a boring day)

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in that case id just assume they didnt want people to know they had met me for whatever reason

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"This has happened to me loads of times. i must admit on occasion it's made me think that maybe they were embarrassed to have met me, so I've not gone back for a second meet.

But I don't tend to write the typical OTT, gushing, sycophantic epistles about how wonderful people are, so maybe they just don't want to display them

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thats what id think if i noticed it was happening to me loads

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"If someone doesn't display any then I get that, but one with loads but not yours is where I wonder.

Not actively going back checking profiles, just kind of noticed (I've had a boring day)

They don't display yours in case people are immediately put off meeting them if they've met you since you are the pinnacle of fabness. That's what I would tell myself in that situation, anyway.

I like your thinking

I'm not saying I'd believe myself though. Probably get paranoid and assume they were embarrassed to have met me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always write jokey ones..and dont really care whether they are displayed or not as I don't display mine

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... There was once a guy who walked into a bar with a parrot on his shoulder......

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

It'd probably because you didn't say "respect this person or else"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else get slightly paranoid when people don't display the veri you wrote for them?

Now I know I'm not Shakespeare when it comes to writing them but it's happened a few times to me recently... Enough to make me think about why..

I'm hoping it's just to do with my name rather than a reflection on how good a time they had with me

unless you ask you will never know for sure...you will just end up getting more and more paranoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always write jokey ones..and dont really care whether they are displayed or not as I don't display mine

... There was once a guy who walked into a bar with a parrot on his shoulder......

aaaarrrrrrrrrrrr!!

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Does anyone else get slightly paranoid when people don't display the veri you wrote for them?

Now I know I'm not Shakespeare when it comes to writing them but it's happened a few times to me recently... Enough to make me think about why..

I'm hoping it's just to do with my name rather than a reflection on how good a time they had with me

unless you ask you will never know for sure...you will just end up getting more and more paranoid

Nah it's happened before it will happen again

it was only cos it was 3 from the same club visit that even made me think about it.

Making me think I should cull the veris I show though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my , we are way past caring or even noticing whether people display our veris .

We have actually told some single guys who got their first veri from us , that it may not bear well if they are looking for very selective women if they show our veri !

We only display a few of ours , but tend to switch them around depending on what we are looking for

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Does anyone else get slightly paranoid when people don't display the veri you wrote for them?

Now I know I'm not Shakespeare when it comes to writing them but it's happened a few times to me recently... Enough to make me think about why..

I'm hoping it's just to do with my name rather than a reflection on how good a time they had with me

unless you ask you will never know for sure...you will just end up getting more and more paranoid

Nah it's happened before it will happen again

it was only cos it was 3 from the same club visit that even made me think about it.

Making me think I should cull the veris I show though

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did they leave you a verification

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

did you ask the people concerned

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Does anyone else get slightly paranoid when people don't display the veri you wrote for them?

Now I know I'm not Shakespeare when it comes to writing them but it's happened a few times to me recently... Enough to make me think about why..

I'm hoping it's just to do with my name rather than a reflection on how good a time they had with me

unless you ask you will never know for sure...you will just end up getting more and more paranoid

Nah it's happened before it will happen again

it was only cos it was 3 from the same club visit that even made me think about it.

Making me think I should cull the veris I show though

did they leave you a verification"

One didn't

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"did you ask the people concerned"

it's not up to me how people run their profiles, if they choose to not show then that's up to them.

I just wondered if anyone else felt the same sometimes.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

My first verification on this profile was displayed. The person it came from then started asking for participants, and engaging, in activities I have no wish to be associated with.

I consequently blocked her so our verifications of each other don't show.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"did you ask the people concerned

it's not up to me how people run their profiles, if they choose to not show then that's up to them.

I just wondered if anyone else felt the same sometimes."

paranoia it is then

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't ask for veri's and I rarely leave them only in a social enviroment

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"did you ask the people concerned

it's not up to me how people run their profiles, if they choose to not show then that's up to them.

I just wondered if anyone else felt the same sometimes.

paranoia it is then"

this is what happens when I have a day to myself with nowt to do

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Does anyone else get slightly paranoid when people don't display the veri you wrote for them?

Now I know I'm not Shakespeare when it comes to writing them but it's happened a few times to me recently... Enough to make me think about why..

I'm hoping it's just to do with my name rather than a reflection on how good a time they had with me

unless you ask you will never know for sure...you will just end up getting more and more paranoid

Nah it's happened before it will happen again

it was only cos it was 3 from the same club visit that even made me think about it.

Making me think I should cull the veris I show though

did they leave you a verification

One didn't "
one didnt and the rest did so what you worried about

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I don't care if they don't display mine. I only show veris from socials. It's nobody else's business who I meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always leave veri's, but after a few incidents I no longer show mine. It's just too much hassle with people getting upset because I haven't arranged a meet with them yet etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show all my verifications, if people don't like that I'm not showing theirs then that is their issue not mine. I won't show graphic ones I receive, I show ones that are social or meet ones which say, yes I'm who I say I am, and we had fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry - we tend to only show social ones to prove we are real and fairly sane. Some see them as some kind of badge of honour - but who sees a bad one ? The other way to look at it is - perhaps they enjoyed meeting you and like to keep your meeting to themselves. Could be a myriad of things.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't worry about verifications at all so i probably wouldn't even notice if they displayed it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"did you ask the people concerned

it's not up to me how people run their profiles, if they choose to not show then that's up to them.

I just wondered if anyone else felt the same sometimes."

If they didn't display it initially I might send a cheeky message asking if they didn't like it,depends on the person concerned.

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I have just asked someone who I met ages ago, and chat to quote regularly why he doesn't display mine and he said he had a few guys message and ask him to go into detail about what we got up to

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By *eanut Butter Cup OP Woman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I have just asked someone who I met ages ago, and chat to quote regularly why he doesn't display mine and he said he had a few guys message and ask him to go into detail about what we got up to

*Quite ffs

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