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By *iSTARess OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"

Skinny feckers!! Yay ....... no, oaky then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure "

You're right there - some of them think they are Gods gift to mankind

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather have the guy that looks after himself over the guy that doesn't give a shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer somewhere between ripped and average. And most of the guys we've met have been awesome.

I don't see how this is different from the slim vs. curvy threads. Surely it's the person and not their body that makes the sex good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"

You just become my best friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a range of male body types, height is my only deal breaker, and that's more about me than them.

As with the equivalent female body obsession, it's not really about what the opposite sex think most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not insecure at all but I doubt me and a ripped guy would have much in common. .so although I do love looking at them I tend to go for guys who I could share chocolate or ice cream in bed with

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"

Average to chunky (I love a little furry cake baby to stroke!) is my preference for my own private reasons, but as long as you are kind, respectful, don't smoke and want me I don't discriminate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer ripped cos I just love following the contours of their muscles with my tounge.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer somewhere between ripped and average. And most of the guys we've met have been awesome.

I don't see how this is different from the slim vs. curvy threads. Surely it's the person and not their body that makes the sex good?"

This

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm not insecure at all but I doubt me and a ripped guy would have much in common. .so although I do love looking at them I tend to go for guys who I could share chocolate or ice cream in bed with "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is going to be controversial

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like all different types its the face nd personality that attract me.

Body wise i wouldnt say it didnt matter but i have no requirments i dont value muscles over normal or anything.

Just be yourself and smile guys! I love a nice smile

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin


"Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure "

I am

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By *iSTARess OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"I like a range of male body types, height is my only deal breaker, and that's more about me than them.

As with the equivalent female body obsession, it's not really about what the opposite sex think most of the time. "

Hence why I'm asking all genders, not just women.

And of course preference is about the person, not about physicality. I don't mean to turn this into one of those hateful BBW v Skinny threads. Just curious.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I look at some guys and I think I wouldn't have the dedication to achieve there bodies, then I look at average fifty something and I'm ripped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer somewhere between ripped and average. And most of the guys we've met have been awesome.

I don't see how this is different from the slim vs. curvy threads. Surely it's the person and not their body that makes the sex good?"

I agree

Not the slim vs ripped bod bit, as I'm not into guys

But I do prefer someone who takes care of themselves

We all have our own preferences, and each to their own

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies"

We equally live in a time where some fems and males consider looking after their bodies a non starter. Based on the above logic that must be because they're secure about their bodies ??

I suppose the OP reality is the difference between those who's focus is image, how they look in the eyes of others in contrast someone with a natural focus to keep fit, trim for something within themselves and no one else.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Meets we have had with ripped guys tend to be not as good as the average guy. So we now don't really message guys with the muscular body. We also like to go out drinking and socialising and for some reason guys that are ripped aren't really into that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I am a skinny fella, and for a long time, I would never post pics of my body, just my wang.

But then I got to thinking, that I was setting myself up for a fall, in that by not showing a body pic straight off, the people that maybe wanted to meet me, weren't getting the full picture.

So now its face/body/wang in my photos and if someone messages me, I know that they might like what they see, nothing hidden. It made me more body confident and i get to meet people whose preferences I fit.

So regardless of size, I think its a confidence thing (with all things actually)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried the gym thing for a while and found myself popping to the pub afterwards because I thought "I deserve this". Turns out I enjoyed the pub more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure

I am "

Oh, that's my point ruined

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure

I am "

Come, let me reassure you.....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I like a variety of male body types but generally fit. The 6 pack is a hard one for guys to maintain, so I'm not expecting just those guys. ShagTonight has it all - what's not to love!

But I study with sports science guys and tons are insecure, packing muscle to cushion themselves.

I go for the good lover who is fit, rather than just a guy who's bulking but clueless in pleasing me.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure

I am "

Ooh nice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think everyone who is ripped doesn't eat chocolate or drink beer

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By *iSTARess OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies

We equally live in a time where some fems and males consider looking after their bodies a non starter. Based on the above logic that must be because they're secure about their bodies ??

I suppose the OP reality is the difference between those who's focus is image, how they look in the eyes of others in contrast someone with a natural focus to keep fit, trim for something within themselves and no one else.

"

Ok maybe I'm not making myself clear. I'm not attacking anyone who looks after themselves, good for then, groovy. Same for anyone who likes a cake, its all good.

Just questioning the recent increase of ripped culture, especially with men. Most lads played a bit of sport and kept fit when I were a lass. Now so many are obsessed with muscle definition and selfies. It's no bad thing, people can do whatever they want with their bodys, merely an observation and a straw poll

(quickly regrets thread)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm "average" bodied and I do worry that maybe I should get fit. I won't take my shirt off even on a hot day. I don't like to feel uncomfortable.

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin


"Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure

I am

Come, let me reassure you..... "

Could take quite a few sessions me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"

Average joe

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

depends what you mean by average, I like slim to average sized men.

I don't think looks are everything but it does help if you fancy someone a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?

Average joe"

Name-ist

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm "average" bodied and I do worry that maybe I should get fit. I won't take my shirt off even on a hot day. I don't like to feel uncomfortable."

Don't you feel more uncomfortable keeping the shirt on, though? Heat-wise, I mean. Or if every other guy has his shirt off and you're the only one still covered?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried the gym thing for a while and found myself popping to the pub afterwards because I thought "I deserve this". Turns out I enjoyed the pub more "

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"I tried the gym thing for a while and found myself popping to the pub afterwards because I thought "I deserve this". Turns out I enjoyed the pub more "

I always pop into the local chippy on the way home from circuit training and I like a good few pints of beer on the weekends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?

Average joe"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm "average" bodied and I do worry that maybe I should get fit. I won't take my shirt off even on a hot day. I don't like to feel uncomfortable.

Don't you feel more uncomfortable keeping the shirt on, though? Heat-wise, I mean. Or if every other guy has his shirt off and you're the only one still covered?"

I do but I'd rather keep it on.

Plus, I burn really easily in the sun so I just use that excuse with my mates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like muscle bound men with shiny waxed chests. A man should look like a man and not a plastic action man lol...that's just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies

We equally live in a time where some fems and males consider looking after their bodies a non starter. Based on the above logic that must be because they're secure about their bodies ??

I suppose the OP reality is the difference between those who's focus is image, how they look in the eyes of others in contrast someone with a natural focus to keep fit, trim for something within themselves and no one else.

Ok maybe I'm not making myself clear. I'm not attacking anyone who looks after themselves, good for then, groovy. Same for anyone who likes a cake, its all good.

Just questioning the recent increase of ripped culture, especially with men. Most lads played a bit of sport and kept fit when I were a lass. Now so many are obsessed with muscle definition and selfies. It's no bad thing, people can do whatever they want with their bodys, merely an observation and a straw poll

(quickly regrets thread)"

I do get what you mean - and I think it's a source of new competitiveness between men, which is sad. There was a thread a while back where a lad was asking opinions on his abs and a load of other guys (and a few women) jumped in telling him he was too skinny, should eat a burger, that abs on a thin guy "don't count" - and it was all about appearance rather than fitness. It's no wonder that more and more young men when subjected to that kind of chat feel like they have to get bigger, and have enormous pecs.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Average for me ripped wouldnt put me off a guy but its not a look i seek out. My favourite is little baby budha bellies i find them so cute

But im not a body fascists in the least

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies

We equally live in a time where some fems and males consider looking after their bodies a non starter. Based on the above logic that must be because they're secure about their bodies ??

I suppose the OP reality is the difference between those who's focus is image, how they look in the eyes of others in contrast someone with a natural focus to keep fit, trim for something within themselves and no one else.

Ok maybe I'm not making myself clear. I'm not attacking anyone who looks after themselves, good for then, groovy. Same for anyone who likes a cake, its all good.

Just questioning the recent increase of ripped culture, especially with men. Most lads played a bit of sport and kept fit when I were a lass. Now so many are obsessed with muscle definition and selfies. It's no bad thing, people can do whatever they want with their bodys, merely an observation and a straw poll

(quickly regrets thread)"

I think it's the generation we are now in. When I was a kid many cartoons like He-man and Thundercats had characters full of bulging muscles, WWF wrestling was popular and all the kids wanted to look like/be like the wrestlers (Hulk Hogan and Ultimate Warrior). Maybe that had an effect on kids growing up in the 80s and 90s? Film stars like Arnold Swarzenegger and Jean Claude Van Damme were ripped and big. Now it's in mens advertising for aftershave and mens underwear. There seems to be media pressure saying this is how men should look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about how the person holds themselves that is attractive.

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm "average" bodied and I do worry that maybe I should get fit. I won't take my shirt off even on a hot day. I don't like to feel uncomfortable.

Don't you feel more uncomfortable keeping the shirt on, though? Heat-wise, I mean. Or if every other guy has his shirt off and you're the only one still covered?

I do but I'd rather keep it on.

Plus, I burn really easily in the sun so I just use that excuse with my mates "

You sound like I used to be - I really hate the size & shape of my upper arms and always have, even back in the day many moons ago when I was a size 10/12... with loads of swimming, exercise & weights targeting that specific area, they were still awful. I wouldn't wear sleeveless tops, and always felt conspicuous.

Now I don't give two hoots, and I feel so much better. Try it - what's the worst that could happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm "average" bodied and I do worry that maybe I should get fit. I won't take my shirt off even on a hot day. I don't like to feel uncomfortable.

Don't you feel more uncomfortable keeping the shirt on, though? Heat-wise, I mean. Or if every other guy has his shirt off and you're the only one still covered?

I do but I'd rather keep it on.

Plus, I burn really easily in the sun so I just use that excuse with my mates

You sound like I used to be - I really hate the size & shape of my upper arms and always have, even back in the day many moons ago when I was a size 10/12... with loads of swimming, exercise & weights targeting that specific area, they were still awful. I wouldn't wear sleeveless tops, and always felt conspicuous.

Now I don't give two hoots, and I feel so much better. Try it - what's the worst that could happen? "

Thank you. Maybe I will...after a beer or three

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like training

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure

I am

Come, let me reassure you.....

Could take quite a few sessions me thinks"

I'll go for the season ticket then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the world we live in today, there is so much instant visibility at a swipe of a phone. From the quick fix workout App to achieve every look conceivable to social media trending how people should look / what's attractive.

It's no wonder this generation is caught up in it, it's virtually rammed down their throats.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I just like training"

We can see that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just like training

We can see that "

Great legs frisky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just the media though so many people on here go crazy for a six pack and pecs. It sends the message to guys that to get noticed you need the body. I'm still yet to see a thread started in honour of the nice guy with the average body where all the ladies line up and declare "but look at how kind he is..."

Personally I find guys who look like that to be selfish and self obsessed in my limited experience of meeting them. Not the kind of person I want to hang around with

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"I just like training

We can see that

Great legs frisky "

All the better for wrapping round those trim waists hehehe

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm "average" bodied and I do worry that maybe I should get fit. I won't take my shirt off even on a hot day. I don't like to feel uncomfortable.

Don't you feel more uncomfortable keeping the shirt on, though? Heat-wise, I mean. Or if every other guy has his shirt off and you're the only one still covered?

I do but I'd rather keep it on.

Plus, I burn really easily in the sun so I just use that excuse with my mates

You sound like I used to be - I really hate the size & shape of my upper arms and always have, even back in the day many moons ago when I was a size 10/12... with loads of swimming, exercise & weights targeting that specific area, they were still awful. I wouldn't wear sleeveless tops, and always felt conspicuous.

Now I don't give two hoots, and I feel so much better. Try it - what's the worst that could happen?

Thank you. Maybe I will...after a beer or three "

I wouldn't if I were you...

alcohol + Sun = baaaad idea

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I love a dad bod.

Saw a post about Wentworth miller from prison break on Facebook the other day. The post had 2 pics of him, one from prison break where he was ripped and another where he had put on a bit of weight and was walking about town doing his own thing. The post was a response from him explaining how his depression led him to abuse himself via food rather than drugs etc but I actually thought he looked much better post prison break.

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm "average" bodied and I do worry that maybe I should get fit. I won't take my shirt off even on a hot day. I don't like to feel uncomfortable.

Don't you feel more uncomfortable keeping the shirt on, though? Heat-wise, I mean. Or if every other guy has his shirt off and you're the only one still covered?

I do but I'd rather keep it on.

Plus, I burn really easily in the sun so I just use that excuse with my mates

You sound like I used to be - I really hate the size & shape of my upper arms and always have, even back in the day many moons ago when I was a size 10/12... with loads of swimming, exercise & weights targeting that specific area, they were still awful. I wouldn't wear sleeveless tops, and always felt conspicuous.

Now I don't give two hoots, and I feel so much better. Try it - what's the worst that could happen?

Thank you. Maybe I will...after a beer or three "

Always remember - Factor 50 and Aloe Vera creams are your friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am doing bodybuilding as hobby and its got nothing to do with insecurities. I started to lift weights when I was 18, my inspiration of it started as I was reading muscle mags and watching wrestling, ever since then its become my lifestyle and I enjoy every moment from first meal to last and all the meal prepping, my favourite quote is from jay cutler, to be a living legend you need to train like one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm "average" bodied and I do worry that maybe I should get fit. I won't take my shirt off even on a hot day. I don't like to feel uncomfortable.

Don't you feel more uncomfortable keeping the shirt on, though? Heat-wise, I mean. Or if every other guy has his shirt off and you're the only one still covered?

I do but I'd rather keep it on.

Plus, I burn really easily in the sun so I just use that excuse with my mates

You sound like I used to be - I really hate the size & shape of my upper arms and always have, even back in the day many moons ago when I was a size 10/12... with loads of swimming, exercise & weights targeting that specific area, they were still awful. I wouldn't wear sleeveless tops, and always felt conspicuous.

Now I don't give two hoots, and I feel so much better. Try it - what's the worst that could happen?

Thank you. Maybe I will...after a beer or three

I wouldn't if I were you...

alcohol + Sun = baaaad idea

"

Ah I'm fine.

Plus I like the shade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm "average" bodied and I do worry that maybe I should get fit. I won't take my shirt off even on a hot day. I don't like to feel uncomfortable.

Don't you feel more uncomfortable keeping the shirt on, though? Heat-wise, I mean. Or if every other guy has his shirt off and you're the only one still covered?

I do but I'd rather keep it on.

Plus, I burn really easily in the sun so I just use that excuse with my mates

You sound like I used to be - I really hate the size & shape of my upper arms and always have, even back in the day many moons ago when I was a size 10/12... with loads of swimming, exercise & weights targeting that specific area, they were still awful. I wouldn't wear sleeveless tops, and always felt conspicuous.

Now I don't give two hoots, and I feel so much better. Try it - what's the worst that could happen?

Thank you. Maybe I will...after a beer or three

Always remember - Factor 50 and Aloe Vera creams are your friends "

Oh I know this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe that your body is a temple and you should look after it the best you can.

Everyone has their own thoughts and some people don't enjoy the gym.

Each to their own

Personality is what pulls me in the most when getting to know someone.

An athletic body is just a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a fascinating documentary about this trend on BBC3 a while back presented by Tiger Drew-Honey.

I think it has elements in the erosion of traditional male domains and the shifting balance of economic power in society increasing womens independance from male support or approval. Men feel that their bodies are their only uniquely masculine attributes.

Some women seem to be enjoying their ability to treat men as sex objects and the swing scene is a perfect environment for that. the societal effects of this loss of of place for men is already showing in rising male suicide and violence against the person rates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fwiw if a guys 'ripped' or better lean,through doing some physical activity that's enjoyable n gets you out n about,climbing,run,cycle,not to the extremes some people like to portray themselves doing,that's great,its a by product of doing 'stuff',if its just to look good in a t shirt,two sizes too small,after repetitive lifting through same small range of movements,bit sad,but then the so called 'fitness' industry,gyms,shakes,other 'stuff'does have a big appeal,just look at number of u tube channels offering to show you quick fixes for pecs,abs,six packs......oh yeah n selling stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty lazy but not at work and definitely not in the bedroom!

My job keeps me pretty trimmed n toned as it's very physical.....just like me!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

This is a complicated one for me although as a fat woman I'm often told I shouldn't be allowed preferences and should meet anyone. Fuck that, I say.

I love the look of a buff, ripped body and the sensation of tracing the ridges with tongue and finger tips. I'm very tactile, sexually. I also respect the effort they put in.

However, sexual attraction for me is about the person and whether we can 'connect' with me and they can engage my mind. If they can't, (or can't be bothered to try because they think their looks trump everything else), even if they look like a chiselled Adonis, I won't be interested.

I get (when my filters are open) a lot of messages from men with really awesome bodies but they're often unappealing, (crass, monosyllabic, text speak, full of cock pics etc), and the body, for me, doesn't make up for that.

Now, obviously, I also get a lot of unappealing messages from average men too. I'm not saying crap messages are limited to buff men!

Ultimately, if someone clicks with me on a mental level then it doesn't matter whether they are ripped, average or slim. The attraction is the mental aspect and a scorching body is just a nice to have.

I'm turned off by fat men though. I'm told that makes me a hypocrite but I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to. I don't like my fat, (and yes, I am doing something about it but it's going to be a long journey), so why would I like anyone else's fat?

On the subject of "looking after oneself", I know often it's a euphemism for not being fat. People feel more comfortable saying they want someone who looks after themselves than saying they don't want to meet overweight people.

Even so, as an overweight person, I do still look after myself. I'm healthy, I'm well groomed, I'm clean and I make an effort for meets. I'm just fat. That doesn't mean I am happy being fat, lazy, slovenly or can't be bothered how I look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fwiw if a guys 'ripped' or better lean,through doing some physical activity that's enjoyable n gets you out n about,climbing,run,cycle,not to the extremes some people like to portray themselves doing,that's great,its a by product of doing 'stuff',if its just to look good in a t shirt,two sizes too small,after repetitive lifting through same small range of movements,bit sad,but then the so called 'fitness' industry,gyms,shakes,other 'stuff'does have a big appeal,just look at number of u tube channels offering to show you quick fixes for pecs,abs,six packs......oh yeah n selling stuff "

Why is it sad for someone to want to look good?

Whatever its for it takes hard work and dedication. Not sure how you can say fit is only ok if its by accident?

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By *amrod400Man
over a year ago

belfast

Just enjoy any activity I do.. Like the gym great way to spend an hour if u put a bit into it and the horn u have after it and shower makes me cum on here too often lol

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Im a dad bod but seeing ripped blokes does give me the jitters some times

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I don't like muscle bound men with shiny waxed chests. A man should look like a man and not a plastic action man lol...that's just my opinion."

Totally agree with you, and a nice hairy chest to run your fingers through helps too, and a sexy arse x

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By *ods_Perfect_IdiotMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I prefer somewhere between ripped and average. And most of the guys we've met have been awesome.

I don't see how this is different from the slim vs. curvy threads. Surely it's the person and not their body that makes the sex good?"

I agree, it is the person in side the body that makes it good, you can have a hot bod but if you don't know how to use it what's the point !!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Its not just the media though so many people on here go crazy for a six pack and pecs. It sends the message to guys that to get noticed you need the body. I'm still yet to see a thread started in honour of the nice guy with the average body where all the ladies line up and declare "but look at how kind he is..."

Personally I find guys who look like that to be selfish and self obsessed in my limited experience of meeting them. Not the kind of person I want to hang around with"

It's often difficult to get to know anyone's personality via a site like this though, which leaves us relying on looks to a great extent.

There are some people on the fora that I find attractive for their personalities though, regardless of their body.

I'm probably going to embarrass him now, (sorry), but as an example, Howard is a genuinely lovely bloke and I would meet him because of that, without his build coming into the decision. He's a really nice guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm neither and not really hung up about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind admitting that I don't have a great body at all. Given that more guys generally tend to look after themselves these days I do get a little paranoid about it.

I'm far too lazy too do anything about though and and it doesn't bother me enough to make me do it just to look better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I'm a shit shag, so ner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger I always wanted a nice toned body but was never bothered with putting the work in. I'm kind of skinny to average, there's defiantly something going on across the middle.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies

We equally live in a time where some fems and males consider looking after their bodies a non starter. Based on the above logic that must be because they're secure about their bodies ??

I suppose the OP reality is the difference between those who's focus is image, how they look in the eyes of others in contrast someone with a natural focus to keep fit, trim for something within themselves and no one else.

Ok maybe I'm not making myself clear. I'm not attacking anyone who looks after themselves, good for then, groovy. Same for anyone who likes a cake, its all good.

Just questioning the recent increase of ripped culture, especially with men. Most lads played a bit of sport and kept fit when I were a lass. Now so many are obsessed with muscle definition and selfies. It's no bad thing, people can do whatever they want with their bodys, merely an observation and a straw poll

(quickly regrets thread)

I do get what you mean - and I think it's a source of new competitiveness between men, which is sad. There was a thread a while back where a lad was asking opinions on his abs and a load of other guys (and a few women) jumped in telling him he was too skinny, should eat a burger, that abs on a thin guy "don't count" - and it was all about appearance rather than fitness. It's no wonder that more and more young men when subjected to that kind of chat feel like they have to get bigger, and have enormous pecs. "

I remember that thread. It made me feel really sad.

It used to be boobs on a fat woman don't count but now there's a body shaming equivalent for men too

In this aspect, we are moving towards equality but we're doing it in absolutely the wrong way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a skinny guy and I'm constantly told that I need to eat more (although I probably eat more than the people saying this) or need to go to the gym when in reality I'm happy the way I am. Society seems to have a problem with the way I look yet I personally love the fact that I can eat whatever I like and not put weight on. I'm sure one day it will catch up to me and then maybe I will go to a gym but right now I feel fine! I don't feel the need or want to look like every other guy however it can be a littl discouraging reading profiles on here or wherever of women looking for the "muscley guy with tattoos" You never seem to find a profile with women looking for men of my body type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a complicated one for me although as a fat woman I'm often told I shouldn't be allowed preferences and should meet anyone. Fuck that, I say.

I love the look of a buff, ripped body and the sensation of tracing the ridges with tongue and finger tips. I'm very tactile, sexually. I also respect the effort they put in.

However, sexual attraction for me is about the person and whether we can 'connect' with me and they can engage my mind. If they can't, (or can't be bothered to try because they think their looks trump everything else), even if they look like a chiselled Adonis, I won't be interested.

I get (when my filters are open) a lot of messages from men with really awesome bodies but they're often unappealing, (crass, monosyllabic, text speak, full of cock pics etc), and the body, for me, doesn't make up for that.

Now, obviously, I also get a lot of unappealing messages from average men too. I'm not saying crap messages are limited to buff men!

Ultimately, if someone clicks with me on a mental level then it doesn't matter whether they are ripped, average or slim. The attraction is the mental aspect and a scorching body is just a nice to have.

I'm turned off by fat men though. I'm told that makes me a hypocrite but I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to. I don't like my fat, (and yes, I am doing something about it but it's going to be a long journey), so why would I like anyone else's fat?

On the subject of "looking after oneself", I know often it's a euphemism for not being fat. People feel more comfortable saying they want someone who looks after themselves than saying they don't want to meet overweight people.

Even so, as an overweight person, I do still look after myself. I'm healthy, I'm well groomed, I'm clean and I make an effort for meets. I'm just fat. That doesn't mean I am happy being fat, lazy, slovenly or can't be bothered how I look."

100% with you on this.

Just because I'm a big girl doesn't automatically mean I'm attracted to big men!

I like who I like and it the face that's the main attraction for me..Although I prefer guys not to be too skinny as that just makes me feel bigger! I like a beefy man to make me feel petite ( ).

Liam92 has the perfect body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a skinny guy and I'm constantly told that I need to eat more (although I probably eat more than the people saying this) or need to go to the gym when in reality I'm happy the way I am. Society seems to have a problem with the way I look yet I personally love the fact that I can eat whatever I like and not put weight on. I'm sure one day it will catch up to me and then maybe I will go to a gym but right now I feel fine! I don't feel the need or want to look like every other guy however it can be a littl discouraging reading profiles on here or wherever of women looking for the "muscley guy with tattoos" You never seem to find a profile with women looking for men of my body type."

You look good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So much negative vibes about guys who train and ripped bodies i think i'll sop training

On no wait a minute i dont give a fuck i'll just carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much negative vibes about guys who train and ripped bodies i think i'll sop training

On no wait a minute i dont give a fuck i'll just carry on "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much negative vibes about guys who train and ripped bodies i think i'll sop training

On no wait a minute i dont give a fuck i'll just carry on "

Mwah!!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We are forecast to be the most obese nation in Europe in a few years. Although I sense that fairly overweight is already our average body type here.

Maybe our body descriptions should be recast, such as

Thin defined, slim defined, height weight proportional, some padding, curvy, very muscular/ripped, fabulous or something that describes more than relates to some mean average etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much negative vibes about guys who train and ripped bodies i think i'll sop training

On no wait a minute i dont give a fuck i'll just carry on

Mwah!!"

You can always come be my PT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much negative vibes about guys who train and ripped bodies i think i'll sop training

On no wait a minute i dont give a fuck i'll just carry on "

same here..but like I say, no real interest in becoming physically appealing, or getting fitter..I do perfectly well without it.

I take the notion on occasions, but it soon fades.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"
Being a fatty, I tend to work hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much negative vibes about guys who train and ripped bodies i think i'll sop training

On no wait a minute i dont give a fuck i'll just carry on

same here..but like I say, no real interest in becoming physically appealing, or getting fitter..I do perfectly well without it.

I take the notion on occasions, but it soon fades."

Its not the shape of my body im interested in,i just love the rush of training if it made me fat id still do it

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I like a well built guy rather than ripped, I like to cuddle up to a cuddly bod and ripped guys don't look that cuddly to me

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"

I think people who generalise like the op are generally the worst lovers

Next it will be suggested , blonds are dumb, pretty girls are dumb and lazy fucks , and fat girls are an easy lay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a well built guy rather than ripped, I like to cuddle up to a cuddly bod and ripped guys don't look that cuddly to me "

I happen to be the cuddle master

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?

I think people who generalise like the op are generally the worst lovers

Next it will be suggested , blonds are dumb, pretty girls are dumb and lazy fucks , and fat girls are an easy lay

"

There was a thread on one of the other fora not so long ago saying hot women are not so good in bed as average women, so it's already been done.

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over a year ago

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I like a well built guy rather than ripped, I like to cuddle up to a cuddly bod and ripped guys don't look that cuddly to me

I happen to be the cuddle master "

You are nicely built, I would cuddle you for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have the "average" figure

however I have no heart disease / diabetes etc and

I lift serious weights for fun...

So people can look after their body shape and health no matter what they look like.

It does not mean they "love themselves" they just might like being strong, lean, healthy or yes look and feel in peak condition.....they are to be encouraged ...

AND those that don't workout are just as valid as they are chunky and delicious - solid and I adore feeling their cuddly fur and soft bits ...

Some men - both types - can be adorable

Mwah

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I go for all sorts of blokes (and girls). Only one of them is especially into going to the gym and is what I would call ripped. Average, podgy, skinny, ripped etc. has never made any difference to me in terms of attraction; I liked them all as people and therefore found them all attractive. It sounds like the world's biggest fence sitting answer but it happens to be true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a well built guy rather than ripped, I like to cuddle up to a cuddly bod and ripped guys don't look that cuddly to me

I happen to be the cuddle master

You are nicely built, I would cuddle you for sure "

Be there in 10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is body size indicative of whether you will have good sex? If it is then it probably means that your psychology is designed that way.

For others it's the mental connection that improves the intensity of a meeting.

If the two don't meet correctly; sex may well be meh. One partner feels physically inferior, the other mentally inferior, so saying someone is lazy because of x-type, is also the same as, I felt inferior or I just didn't do it for them/they disn't do it for me. We didn't connect. When both sides are in tune seldom is one side lazy....(please note that size is not indicative of intelligence, but it is indicative of lifestyle, interests and psychology).

Skinny dude has spoken.

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By *uncan LynnCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Average every time. Trim not overweight but not gym fit

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?

I think people who generalise like the op are generally the worst lovers

Next it will be suggested , blonds are dumb, pretty girls are dumb and lazy fucks , and fat girls are an easy lay

There was a thread on one of the other fora not so long ago saying hot women are not so good in bed as average women, so it's already been done."

Erm ? They have all been done that was my point and all rightly treated with disdain and contempt just as the premise behind this or should be and is be

And the

Well I fucked a ripped guy and he was shit so the op is right argument is rather foolish

If a person looks at a man's physique and profess to be able judge his personality and sexual prowess , I'd suggest they are simplistic in reasoning and have a mind set comparable to any race or sexist

That said of course all girls who wear short skirts and loads of make up , must be gagging for sex with anyone

Stereotypes even if based upon a grain of truth should not be perpetuated xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I love a guy with a ripped body my own is way too out of shape to embarrass myself.. I'll stick to window shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm far from ripped but love going gym also love beer and junk food

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I typically go for guys who are quite stocky but I like someone who looks after themselves but not too ripped. Muscle men don't do it for me

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham


"i'm far from ripped but love going gym also love beer and junk food "

You have a great body, looked after but not ripped. Exactly how I like it

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By *iSTARess OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"There was a fascinating documentary about this trend on BBC3 a while back presented by Tiger Drew-Honey.

I think it has elements in the erosion of traditional male domains and the shifting balance of economic power in society increasing womens independance from male support or approval. Men feel that their bodies are their only uniquely masculine attributes.

Some women seem to be enjoying their ability to treat men as sex objects and the swing scene is a perfect environment for that. the societal effects of this loss of of place for men is already showing in rising male suicide and violence against the person rates.

"

Yep, insightful documentary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like an average guy that enjoy sports and takes care of himself but without that whole thing of protein shakes, only eating chicken, bulking, shredding, ripped thing. Rugby build is a good build!

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham


"I like an average guy that enjoy sports and takes care of himself but without that whole thing of protein shakes, only eating chicken, bulking, shredding, ripped thing. Rugby build is a good build! "

Completely agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'm far from ripped but love going gym also love beer and junk food

You have a great body, looked after but not ripped. Exactly how I like it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On that note im gong drinking some real ale

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By *iSTARess OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?

I think people who generalise like the op are generally the worst lovers

Next it will be suggested , blonds are dumb, pretty girls are dumb and lazy fucks , and fat girls are an easy lay

"

And if you'd read my subsequent posts, you'd have seen I'm not having a go at any body or type, was merely asking a question.

Everyone, fat, thin, average, chubby, wobbly, rake, obese, ripped, taut, apple, pear, biscuit whatever are all good, sexy and wonderful. Just be comfortable in the skin you're in

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I like a well built guy rather than ripped, I like to cuddle up to a cuddly bod and ripped guys don't look that cuddly to me

I happen to be the cuddle master

You are nicely built, I would cuddle you for sure

Be there in 10

"

You either have a fast car or a helicopter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to be a natural body builder- after 2 years of non training (believe me that's a story in itself) I'm now back at it, I do need to lose a bit of weight, well shift some fat.

My ideal shape that I'm after is stocky, relatively lean but not ripped.

I think somebody mentioned it above where I want to be the person that can share a pizza, burger or have a take away and not moan about calories or shit like that lol.

But still be cuddly n warm in bed. Whilst still being able to draw a woman's eye and be her eye candy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a well built guy rather than ripped, I like to cuddle up to a cuddly bod and ripped guys don't look that cuddly to me

I happen to be the cuddle master

You are nicely built, I would cuddle you for sure

Be there in 10

You either have a fast car or a helicopter "

Turn round

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I like a well built guy rather than ripped, I like to cuddle up to a cuddly bod and ripped guys don't look that cuddly to me

I happen to be the cuddle master

You are nicely built, I would cuddle you for sure

Be there in 10

You either have a fast car or a helicopter

Turn round"

Ahhh coming at me from behind eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I am a skinny fella, and for a long time, I would never post pics of my body, just my wang.

But then I got to thinking, that I was setting myself up for a fall, in that by not showing a body pic straight off, the people that maybe wanted to meet me, weren't getting the full picture.

So now its face/body/wang in my photos and if someone messages me, I know that they might like what they see, nothing hidden. It made me more body confident and i get to meet people whose preferences I fit.

So regardless of size, I think its a confidence thing (with all things actually)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?

I think people who generalise like the op are generally the worst lovers

Next it will be suggested , blonds are dumb, pretty girls are dumb and lazy fucks , and fat girls are an easy lay

And if you'd read my subsequent posts, you'd have seen I'm not having a go at any body or type, was merely asking a question.

Everyone, fat, thin, average, chubby, wobbly, rake, obese, ripped, taut, apple, pear, biscuit whatever are all good, sexy and wonderful. Just be comfortable in the skin you're in

"

We are all different and we all like different things and people, isn't that all part of life, think it would be pretty crap if we all think the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like an average guy that enjoy sports and takes care of himself but without that whole thing of protein shakes, only eating chicken, bulking, shredding, ripped thing. Rugby build is a good build! "

Yeah eating all that protein makes their farts smell even worse then normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one of those bellies that is still dancing after I, and the music, has stopped :D

I used to gym for cardio benefit, but have never sculpted, and never felt the need to.

I appreciate channing tatum and the likes are usually going to be the head turners, but I prefer the supporting actor role - in the background!

Just like the gym goers have spent time and money getting their bodies and so would like to maintain it, I too have spent time and money on mine... just in a more abusive manner!

Or to answer more succinctly, I have never felt pressure to be ripped!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no real preference and have had past partners with bodies which appear to be sculpted by the gods, and also partners on the very large side. Each one I've been attracted to, but then it's usually a wicked smile and confidence that does it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer somewhere between ripped and average. And most of the guys we've met have been awesome.

I don't see how this is different from the slim vs. curvy threads. Surely it's the person and not their body that makes the sex good?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like muscle bound men with shiny waxed chests. A man should look like a man and not a plastic action man lol...that's just my opinion.

Totally agree with you, and a nice hairy chest to run your fingers through helps too, and a sexy arse x"
definitely. I love hairy bum cheeks too lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is body size indicative of whether you will have good sex? If it is then it probably means that your psychology is designed that way.

For others it's the mental connection that improves the intensity of a meeting.

If the two don't meet correctly; sex may well be meh. One partner feels physically inferior, the other mentally inferior, so saying someone is lazy because of x-type, is also the same as, I felt inferior or I just didn't do it for them/they disn't do it for me. We didn't connect. When both sides are in tune seldom is one side lazy....(please note that size is not indicative of intelligence, but it is indicative of lifestyle, interests and psychology).

Skinny dude has spoken. "

lol at "skinny dude has spoken" !! ;p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a well built guy rather than ripped, I like to cuddle up to a cuddly bod and ripped guys don't look that cuddly to me

I happen to be the cuddle master

You are nicely built, I would cuddle you for sure

Be there in 10

You either have a fast car or a helicopter

Turn round

Ahhh coming at me from behind eh "

I sounded like friggin stalker there....

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin


"Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure

I am

Come, let me reassure you.....

Could take quite a few sessions me thinks

I'll go for the season ticket then.... "

You can pepper my salt anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body type makes no difference to me . I'm attracted to different people for different reasons!

Connection,chemistry, character is a biggy for me. Somebody who is beautiful on the outside can fast become unattractive if not beautiful on the inside!

Admittedly I'm a sucker for a cheeky chappy with mischievous eyes ,a big smile & a black/caustic sense of humour !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Body type makes no difference to me . I'm attracted to different people for different reasons!

Connection,chemistry, character is a biggy for me. Somebody who is beautiful on the outside can fast become unattractive if not beautiful on the inside!

Admittedly I'm a sucker for a cheeky chappy with mischievous eyes ,a big smile & a black/caustic sense of humour ! "

Have to remember that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meat heads = roid rage. Good luck ladies. By the way, im average

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Body type makes no difference to me . I'm attracted to different people for different reasons!

Connection,chemistry, character is a biggy for me. Somebody who is beautiful on the outside can fast become unattractive if not beautiful on the inside!

Admittedly I'm a sucker for a cheeky chappy with mischievous eyes ,a big smile & a black/caustic sense of humour ! "

*Waves*

Hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My other weakness is an Irish accent over body type !

An Irish man would pretty much have me at "Hello" !

God knows why,it's just the way it is!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Not everyone who looks after themselves is insecure

I am

Come, let me reassure you.....

Could take quite a few sessions me thinks

I'll go for the season ticket then....

You can pepper my salt anytime"

Wowee!!! That's Southern Ireland on my new weekend getaway list as well as Northern

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My other weakness is an Irish accent over body type !

An Irish man would pretty much have me at "Hello" !

God knows why,it's just the way it is! "

Oh well.... happy swinging x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently met a FB who is 6'5" and chunky, but chunky in the right places so he can throw me about a bit.

I like the look of ripped guys but in bed they're not for me so far!

It's all about intellectual stimulation for me, then physical x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"Its not just the media though so many people on here go crazy for a six pack and pecs. It sends the message to guys that to get noticed you need the body. I'm still yet to see a thread started in honour of the nice guy with the average body where all the ladies line up and declare "but look at how kind he is..."

Personally I find guys who look like that to be selfish and self obsessed in my limited experience of meeting them. Not the kind of person I want to hang around with

It's often difficult to get to know anyone's personality via a site like this though, which leaves us relying on looks to a great extent.

There are some people on the fora that I find attractive for their personalities though, regardless of their body.

I'm probably going to embarrass him now, (sorry), but as an example, Howard is a genuinely lovely bloke and I would meet him because of that, without his build coming into the decision. He's a really nice guy."

Exactly this!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've described myself as average. I wish I had more muscle definition. I have a disgusting stomach.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Avatar as requested

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

We live in an age of InstaBook and FaceGram where everybody is constantly visible and on display. It's Inevitable that both sexes are put under pressure to look good and "keep up with the Jones's" lifestyle wise. It's this constant broadcasting which emphasise looking like one is having a good/successful time fuelling a materialistic and body image culture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very interesting topic but I think a little narcissistic albeit unintentionally from the op.

Most peoples insecurities start from the minute they roll out of bed and places like fab put us under a super charged microscope. If another person was never to see me naked it wouldn't bother me in the slightest because I am happy in myself and that does not depend on my body shape.

My reason for staying fit are to stave off the dark clouds "depression". Works for me .

Its human nature to be attracted to the stronger fitter member of the opposite sex...or same sex. Me personally as a preference I just want them to be healthy and healthy isn't carrying an extra 15kg but drinking diet . To keep it on topic if I had to chose I prefer fit but not ripped and apologies to the OP for my opening line. It wasn't meant quiet how it sounds

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Ha. Someone who lives on protein shakes and chicken would be ideal for me. It's virtually what I live on at the moment!

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've described myself as average. I wish I had more muscle definition. I have a disgusting stomach. "

I find that very hard to believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the "V" on a defined body

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"A very interesting topic but I think a little narcissistic albeit unintentionally from the op.

Most peoples insecurities start from the minute they roll out of bed and places like fab put us under a super charged microscope. If another person was never to see me naked it wouldn't bother me in the slightest because I am happy in myself and that does not depend on my body shape.

My reason for staying fit are to stave off the dark clouds "depression". Works for me .

Its human nature to be attracted to the stronger fitter member of the opposite sex...or same sex. Me personally as a preference I just want them to be healthy and healthy isn't carrying an extra 15kg but drinking diet . To keep it on topic if I had to chose I prefer fit but not ripped and apologies to the OP for my opening line. It wasn't meant quiet how it sounds"

Slim does not necessarily equate to healthy and overweight does not necessarily mean unhealthy.

I'm 5st overweight and physically very healthy.

Oh and I drink Pepsi Max. The cherry flavoured one if I can get it.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

All this "I prefer someone healthy" when really they mean "I don't want someone fat" is bullshit.

Practicing doctor Mark Hyman wrote this in an article back in 2012:

"The common wisdom is that if you are overweight you are unhealthy, and if you are thin, you are healthy. But new research points to just how dangerous being skinny can be — if you are a “skinny fat” person, that is.

The medical term for this is “MONW,” or metabolically obese normal weight, which I prefer to refer to as being a skinny fat person. It means you are under lean but over fat — not enough muscle and too much fat (especially belly fat). It seems it is better to be fat and fit than thin and out of shape."

And yet still we hear, "I want someone healthy and healthy means not carrying excess weight", which is not necessarily true.

If you prefer slim, at least be honest about it. Don't hide behind nonsense about health.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I love a naturally fit looking body. Not keen on an overdone muscled one.

I also like average and slim. It's about personality and then the body for me.

If a fantastic guy has a hot body then that's a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gorgeous (so me nan says) and that ladies and gentlemen is all that counts xx enjoy your buff/average dudes thread.

Skinny dude has left the building

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty comes from within...some of the most ugliest people are the best looking ones

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I love a flat stomuch and a slim man. I don't dislike fat men I just don't want to fuck one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"

Not everyone with a "ripped" physique is a narcissist. I've trained all my life and love the healthy lifestyle. Living this way has helped me attain a decent physique, but hopefully my modesty and mind are as much a turn on as my body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love a flat stomuch and a slim man. I don't dislike fat men I just don't want to fuck one."

This I like

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I love the "V" on a defined body "

It's called 'the belt of Apollo' and points the way to a guys cock. I have an 'O' and it's called 'the belt of Buddha'

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Beauty comes from within...some of the most ugliest people are the best looking ones "

Yup, I don't look for eye candy, but soul food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Beauty comes from within...some of the most ugliest people are the best looking ones

Yup, I don't look for eye candy, but soul food. "

Soul food ... Care to tap-dance the night away

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin


"I love a flat stomuch and a slim man. I don't dislike fat men I just don't want to fuck one."

How many do you want to fuck then ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a man with plenty of meat on the bones.... But then I also like others

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I like clever, funny and twinkly eyed people... their outer shell is just that. There has to be an attraction but it comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes. We, as a society, appear to be obsessed with too thin/too fat/too tall/too small and quite frankly I'm more obsessed with people who are decent and kind, have a brain and a sense of humour.

I'd never look for average just as I'd never describe myself as average. There's not a 'one size fits all' there's just a spark and I know it when I see it. I can list my preferences but there is no type, there are just people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't particularly have a preference, beggars can't be choosers lol

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin


"I like clever, funny and twinkly eyed people... their outer shell is just that. There has to be an attraction but it comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes. We, as a society, appear to be obsessed with too thin/too fat/too tall/too small and quite frankly I'm more obsessed with people who are decent and kind, have a brain and a sense of humour.

I'd never look for average just as I'd never describe myself as average. There's not a 'one size fits all' there's just a spark and I know it when I see it. I can list my preferences but there is no type, there are just people.

"

I go for concise women myself.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about a guy who is a little cubby but gyms 4 times a week, plays squash twice a week and doesn't eat carbs. No because I am insecure but because modern life is very bad for our Health and I don't want to die of a wasting condition before I'm 50. Also training for tough mudder this year too.

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By *retty womanWoman
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth


"I like all different types its the face nd personality that attract me.

Body wise i wouldnt say it didnt matter but i have no requirments i dont value muscles over normal or anything.

Just be yourself and smile guys! I love a nice smile "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies

We equally live in a time where some fems and males consider looking after their bodies a non starter. Based on the above logic that must be because they're secure about their bodies ??

I suppose the OP reality is the difference between those who's focus is image, how they look in the eyes of others in contrast someone with a natural focus to keep fit, trim for something within themselves and no one else.

Ok maybe I'm not making myself clear. I'm not attacking anyone who looks after themselves, good for then, groovy. Same for anyone who likes a cake, its all good.

Just questioning the recent increase of ripped culture, especially with men. Most lads played a bit of sport and kept fit when I were a lass. Now so many are obsessed with muscle definition and selfies. It's no bad thing, people can do whatever they want with their bodys, merely an observation and a straw poll

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Don't regret it , it's a valid question and you shouldn't be made to feel bad about your curiosity , it might have come across as a slight generalisation , but this is a place we can all grow and learn about each other and what better way then putting questions out there .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"

I'm a narcissist and I'm not a lazy lay. I like guys to not wank for at least 3 days before a meet because I like him to blow his beans really quickly. I like guys to cum and cum and then cum again from their reserve tank after some prostate massage.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I like clever, funny and twinkly eyed people... their outer shell is just that. There has to be an attraction but it comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes. We, as a society, appear to be obsessed with too thin/too fat/too tall/too small and quite frankly I'm more obsessed with people who are decent and kind, have a brain and a sense of humour.

I'd never look for average just as I'd never describe myself as average. There's not a 'one size fits all' there's just a spark and I know it when I see it. I can list my preferences but there is no type, there are just people.

I go for concise women myself....."

We all have our own way.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"

Shockingly, not every guy who works out is a narcissist. Jeez.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always always been into fitness and looked after myself. I go to the gym ALOT and whilst I'm not overly strict with my diet, I do eat a very healthy diet, including supplements etc.

I'm naturally drawn and attracted to others who are similar to me in relation to fitness, keeping fit, healthy lifestyle, non smokers etc and every single "ripped" person I've slept with has been far from lazy or not good.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I'll often admire a ripped & defined body from afar and think pwoar!

But in general, I prefer the average but in shape male body to get jiggy with.

Ive met a couple of really gym fit guys and they were lovely and the sex was great. However I just felt a bit too aware of my wobbly bits next to their solid ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I'll often admire a ripped & defined body from afar and think pwoar!

But in general, I prefer the average but in shape male body to get jiggy with.

Ive met a couple of really gym fit guys and they were lovely and the sex was great. However I just felt a bit too aware of my wobbly bits next to their solid ones."

solid hardons lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


" I'll often admire a ripped & defined body from afar and think pwoar!

But in general, I prefer the average but in shape male body to get jiggy with.

Ive met a couple of really gym fit guys and they were lovely and the sex was great. However I just felt a bit too aware of my wobbly bits next to their solid ones.

solid hardons lol"

trust you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Average for me

they dont keep looking in the mirror all the time

been that with the ripped muscular guys

never again

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over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?

Not everyone with a "ripped" physique is a narcissist. I've trained all my life and love the healthy lifestyle. Living this way has helped me attain a decent physique, but hopefully my modesty and mind are as much a turn on as my body."

This....I live in the gym and eat what I eat because I love the lifestyle, not because I have to or not because I'm unhappy with my body.

I've never been big by any stretch of the imagination....why I'm so into the healthy lifestyle is difficult to explain, I can't describe the buzz I get from the gym, I love seeing my body change and surely the best investment you can make is in yourself.

If this means some people won't be attracted to me because I'm too "gym fit" then fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like men !

Sarah

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Beauty comes from within...some of the most ugliest people are the best looking ones

Yup, I don't look for eye candy, but soul food.

Soul food ... Care to tap-dance the night away "

Hey sweetie how are you! I was thinking more lovers rock and blues??

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Average for me

they dont keep looking in the mirror all the time

been that with the ripped muscular guys

never again"

I take great offence to your specific accusations regarding my personality

Your rash statement is no different than me saying I will never meet another red haired woman , not because I have no preference for the hair colour but because I have experienced a red head being vindictive , angry and nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I'll often admire a ripped & defined body from afar and think pwoar!

But in general, I prefer the average but in shape male body to get jiggy with.

Ive met a couple of really gym fit guys and they were lovely and the sex was great. However I just felt a bit too aware of my wobbly bits next to their solid ones.

solid hardons lol

trust you! "

hehehhehehhehehehe (laughs with big bulging muscle)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yayyyy I'm average!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha used to be better than average... Now haha don't ask lol its bigger than a keg...a barrel indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in an interesting time where men are increasingly obsessed and insecure about their bodies (increase in advertising directed at them?). Pecs and protein shakes everywhere.

I like a hot body to perv at but narcissists tend to be lazy lays (only from my experience and watching in clubs). Give me an average chap anyway.

Who gets your vote?"

I like to think I'm a little better than average but I'm defo not ripped! I do have buns of steel though! You could crack an egg on my arse!

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