FabSwingers.com forum: verification question?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so ive not rushed into meeting anyone on the site and ive been on here for 7 months - I had my first meet on Thursday, we met for drinks in London. Was a few hours of chatting and getting to know eachother.

When saying goodbye she kind of demanded a kiss off me so I politely give her a quick kiss - to which she replied "is that it"

So I give her a slightly longer kiss and she got off the train at her stop.

So I went away from the meet to think about if I would like to see her again. I assumed she would verify that I was on time, polite, friendly ect.

But no verification, so anyway I thought I would verify her but apparently you can't verify someone if your not verified??

Next time we spoke I mentioned I was going to verify her but couldn't and she said she wasn't bothered about verifications but she would verify me once the job is done!

So basically she's saying she will only verify me if I meet her again and fuck her - is that normal???? Is that how most verifications work?

I mean the fact I can hold a conversation and we had a nice time over a couple of drinks doesn't come into it ??? - That not worth a verification no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We verify for social meets or play meets.

Some people only verify for play meets.

She clearly is of the latter group.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Annoying but that's life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so ive not rushed into meeting anyone on the site and ive been on here for 7 months - I had my first meet on Thursday, we met for drinks in London. Was a few hours of chatting and getting to know eachother.

When saying goodbye she kind of demanded a kiss off me so I politely give her a quick kiss - to which she replied "is that it"

So I give her a slightly longer kiss and she got off the train at her stop.

So I went away from the meet to think about if I would like to see her again. I assumed she would verify that I was on time, polite, friendly ect.

But no verification, so anyway I thought I would verify her but apparently you can't verify someone if your not verified??

Next time we spoke I mentioned I was going to verify her but couldn't and she said she wasn't bothered about verifications but she would verify me once the job is done!

So basically she's saying she will only verify me if I meet her again and fuck her - is that normal???? Is that how most verifications work?

I mean the fact I can hold a conversation and we had a nice time over a couple of drinks doesn't come into it ??? - That not worth a verification no?

All our verifications are from social interactions in clubs. So if it had been us we would have verified you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not normal no, I'm not bothered much with veris now but well over half of mine are from social meets. If you've discussed it before and she's not given you one id look elsewhere, sounds a little like she's trying to manipulate you into bed.

Get yourself to a social and youll be verified by the end of the evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh 3 meets in my first week back on the site. No verification.... it's either a) because I am crap or b) I didn't ask for a verification.

I am going with a)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing says you have to verify at all.

Like Courtney, I verify both social and play meets but others only play meets. That's their preference and how they want to do it

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

OP, try to get to a social, there's a few in London coming up ... then you wouldn't have to worry about emotional blackmail.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"That's not normal no, I'm not bothered much with veris now but well over half of mine are from social meets. If you've discussed it before and she's not given you one id look elsewhere, sounds a little like she's trying to manipulate you into bed.

Get yourself to a social and youll be verified by the end of the evening"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get verified by someone else via a meet or cam then, and cut your losses. It really doesn't mean anything at all, having a verification or not.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I have had a few meets, sadly never been verified. It doesn't bother me, just others seem the have an issue with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not overly bothered about verifications I just thought a verification saying I'm reliable would be good for my profile.

What I thought was odd was the part when she basically said she will only verify me if I fuck her!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Man up .. Give her a good fucking .. Get the veri .. Then veri her back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think that's a bit off she seems rather pushy and manipulative. Get chatting with other women n if you get it on with her cool but I would chase her for a hero for tbh I don't think you will get one outta her. X

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Man up .. Give her a good fucking .. Get the veri .. Then veri her back

Agree with that, but just don't verify her back .... see how she likes it.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

bless her.

look elsewhere.......

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I can't be arsed with verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not overly bothered about verifications I just thought a verification saying I'm reliable would be good for my profile.

What I thought was odd was the part when she basically said she will only verify me if I fuck her!

Fuck her

Get veri

When she asks for veri

Tell.her she can have one if she fucks you

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

She reads this she isn't gonna fuck you!!!!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"I can't be arsed with verifications

"
ooooo.. So it was you then!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Approach the subject of veri's when you're chatting and then you both know where you stand.

TBH you have a choice, either comply with the way she veri's & fuck her or go & meet others who will veri socially.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She did come accross quite demanding but I told her that. She seemed pleasant enough I just wasn't sure if we had a connection - still undecided.

I'm not desperate I don't feel I need to fuck her just because I can.

Great body though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont worry - we have people we have met a few times and they ve not verified us - i guess its more of an issue if youre wanting the first veri etc but then you dont seem in any rush for that -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 6 months ago we got a veri from someone we had not met ( to our knowledge )

So I messaged him and asked about it .

He said he had watched us play at our local dogging spot , and spoken to him for a bit .

I asked if we played , he said no as he was too nervous .

Well that veri never got displayed as we only veri and display play veris , because that's how we roll . A couple of weeks later he messaged , we met and played , and we verified him .

So it's different strokes for different folks .

Imagine if you got a veri that said , met this guy , spent three hours with him , but didn't fancy him so wasted an evening with him when I could have been shagging !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not overly bothered about verifications

To be honest your opening post suggests that you very much are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not overly bothered about verifications

To be honest your opening post suggests that you very much are "

He meant on the whole. This one verification is his Moby Dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you do fuck her, when she finishes riding you, say "is that it?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not overly bothered about verifications

To be honest your opening post suggests that you very much are "

youre reading too much into this - i dont get the impression hes overly bothered

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hindsight is a great thing.

Next meet ask them if they will verify you to say that you are real.

Please....what ever you do do NOT fuck her.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

It's probably just her way of trying to see you again. It's seems like you just want a verification from her even though you may not want to see her again,which makes all this verification stuff just plain old daft at the end of the day. The verification system should be scrapped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not overly bothered about verifications

To be honest your opening post suggests that you very much are

youre reading too much into this - i dont get the impression hes overly bothered "

I didn't either, I think he was just asking in general.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Scenario .......

Bloke meets Girl. They have coffee. They laugh. They part.

She says Will you veri m e........

He says ... When you fuck me.

We'd all be vomiting at how creepy he is.

I feel sorry for the O.P. He must feel so abused......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not overly bothered about verifications

To be honest your opening post suggests that you very much are "

No it doesn't, I was more curious if this was the norm or not. And wanted to hear others _iews on verifications.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You don't have to show the veri either .....

So you could meet an 'undesirable' and still get a shameless veri ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Scenario .......

Bloke meets Girl. They have coffee. They laugh. They part.

She says Will you veri m e........

He says ... When you fuck me.

We'd all be vomiting at how creepy he is.

I feel sorry for the O.P. He must feel so abused...... "

Hahaha!

No need to feel sorry for me crumpet I do alright

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I should think you do very well. You have such nice.uhmmmm keyboard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You don't have to show the veri either .....

So you could meet an 'undesirable' and still get a shameless veri ...."

No thanks, I could of got a verification 7 months ago if I was that bothered. I only met this girl cause she's HOT

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By *appyguy17Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

Verifications mean nothing......

If you like here and she likes you...that's all that matters !!

If all she wants is a shag and you would rather get to know someone nd have a connection.......move on !!

I always get to know someone first....if they just want to shag.....then they're not for me......x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scenario .......

Bloke meets Girl. They have coffee. They laugh. They part.

She says Will you veri m e........

He says ... When you fuck me.

We'd all be vomiting at how creepy he is.

I feel sorry for the O.P. He must feel so abused...... "

Very true.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Some never verify

Some verify social meets

Some verify play meets

Some verify every single meet

There is no right or wrong ,just what each individual is comfortable with .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Verifications mean nothing......

If you like here and she likes you...that's all that matters !!

If all she wants is a shag and you would rather get to know someone nd have a connection.......move on !!

I always get to know someone first....if they just want to shag.....then they're not for me......x"

I actually think she wants more than just a shag - she's looking for something regular. And I get the feeling it makes no sense to her verifying a guy and potentially helping him meet someone else. I'm only guessing - going by our conversation and the vibe I got from her.... I could be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah bless you to.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verifications mean nothing......

If you like here and she likes you...that's all that matters !!

If all she wants is a shag and you would rather get to know someone nd have a connection.......move on !!

I always get to know someone first....if they just want to shag.....then they're not for me......x

That's a weird sentiment for someone to have on a swingers site though.

Alarms bells would be going off in my head, think with your brain & not yer balls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha pure black mail !!!! I love it :p

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Verifications mean nothing......

If you like here and she likes you...that's all that matters !!

If all she wants is a shag and you would rather get to know someone nd have a connection.......move on !!

I always get to know someone first....if they just want to shag.....then they're not for me......x

That's a weird sentiment for someone to have on a swingers site though.

Alarms bells would be going off in my head, think with your brain & not yer balls

I will try and keep that in mind Rox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meh 3 meets in my first week back on the site. No verification.... it's either a) because I am crap or b) I didn't ask for a verification.

I am going with a) "
Thats why all us verifieds are getting no meets...all the unverifieds are getting them by the shitload

....ohhhhh might start again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meh 3 meets in my first week back on the site. No verification.... it's either a) because I am crap or b) I didn't ask for a verification.

I am going with a) Thats why all us verifieds are getting no meets...all the unverifieds are getting them by the shitload

....ohhhhh might start again"

Non verified is the new black

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We verify and display our verifications from social and play meets but only to show people we are genuine. We don't always verify or receive verifications but that is down to the individual meet and we always ask if they would like to receive a verification as some people do not bother with them. I agree with the op a simple veri stating that he was who he says he is and that he turned up on time shouldn't have been too much to ask. You said she was hot so I presume you will be meeting her again and then you'll get your veri but as for your original question I don't think it's the norm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Non verified is the new black

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there is any "normal" when it comes to verifications. They really bring out the worst in some people on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think there is any "normal" when it comes to verifications. They really bring out the worst in some people on occasion. "

Yes they do. I like discrete. I like many words beginning with D, delicious, delightful, delicate, devious....

Decadent, dangerous.... erm no idea where I am going with this

So yeah verifications. Don't sweat it OP

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