FabSwingers.com forum: Do you take a mates wife out?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

have a good friend who works offshore;

I was visiting he, and his wife just over a week back before he went away, we talked about the new "Eddie the Eagle" film, I thought it would be a laugh as did his wife but he didn't fancy it

I bumped into her yesterday and she asked if I fancied accompanying her to the movie as her husband is offshore

We are supposed to be going today, do I phone up and cancel or go along

this is strictly a "friends only" with no further intentions but I still worry people will talk 2+2 =5

is it okay to accompany in this situation?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes.

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

If you're mates with her why not?

If you have other intentions, best not.

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By *BKBCouple
over a year ago

Long Sutton

Noooooooo

Never going to look goo without specific permission from him!

I would say think about how you would feel but being on this site, I would imagine you would be cool with it. The average guys is gonna flip.

Would probably be best if you got her to ask even.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues.

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By *BKBCouple
over a year ago

Long Sutton

"Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues. "

I think on this site you're going to have a great portion of people that agree with you. However, in the general vanilla population it all a bit cromagnon.

She woman.... Mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your only worry is that people might talk, let them talk.

But if you're worried she may have other ideas, or you might have other ideas, or you're worried how your friend would feel about it, then I'd cancel. Sounds like the potential for a whole deal of trouble over what could be a rubbish movie anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Warm your hands by the fire mate but don't poke it because your bound to get burned!

Just a little advice there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues. "

There is no intentions; he is away for 3 weeks at a time - 3 on / 3 off

She speaks to him every night on phone, she has said to him she fancies going, he said why not ask me,

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as much as I fancy seeing the film (feel good factor) I do have reservations as people do talk, rumours start and friendships are lost

My intentions would be no different from someone taking their daughter or niece, or simply joining my friends wife as she has no one else to go with

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues.

I think on this site you're going to have a great portion of people that agree with you. However, in the general vanilla population it all a bit cromagnon.

She woman.... Mine!

If his wife knows he's that kind of bloke then she should make the choice to say no. In my world if there isn't trust there isn't a relationship worth having.

I really do think that some women think that 'daddy types' laying down the law and displaying tempers to get their way is love. It accounts for why they find themselves in abusive relationships and don't leave.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"If your only worry is that people might talk, let them talk.

Yup, I would not risk it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues.

There is no intentions; he is away for 3 weeks at a time - 3 on / 3 off

She speaks to him every night on phone, she has said to him she fancies going, he said why not ask me,

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as much as I fancy seeing the film (feel good factor) I do have reservations as people do talk, rumours start and friendships are lost

My intentions would be no different from someone taking their daughter or niece, or simply joining my friends wife as she has no one else to go with "

Jesus Christ,

If he has suggested she ask you then there isn't an issue.

It doesn't take an Einstein to keep out of eyeshot of trouble makers.

Are all her neighbours and family going to the same showing as you or are you worrying unnecessarily ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

My final thought on this.

You have the jitters.

It doesn't feel right to you.

Don't go.

End of.

THREAD CLOSED.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd go, it's 2016 married women are allowed friends of the opposite sex. Her husband knows so you really have nothing to worry about, stop worrying about what others may or may not think - chances are they won't give you a second thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues.

There is no intentions; he is away for 3 weeks at a time - 3 on / 3 off

She speaks to him every night on phone, she has said to him she fancies going, he said why not ask me,

and

as much as I fancy seeing the film (feel good factor) I do have reservations as people do talk, rumours start and friendships are lost

My intentions would be no different from someone taking their daughter or niece, or simply joining my friends wife as she has no one else to go with "

If he said to her 'why not ask you' then as far as I can see it's all good. 2 friends on a night out.

Just make sure you're not the instigator of anything 'more' than friendship and it should be fine.

If she tries anything on then that's when you have decide your next move and how you react. But it sounds to me like it's a vanilla friends night out to relieve her boredom and it's good that they feel that you're right and trustworthy enough to fulfil that role!

Go enjoy the film

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues.

There is no intentions; he is away for 3 weeks at a time - 3 on / 3 off

She speaks to him every night on phone, she has said to him she fancies going, he said why not ask me,

and

as much as I fancy seeing the film (feel good factor) I do have reservations as people do talk, rumours start and friendships are lost

My intentions would be no different from someone taking their daughter or niece, or simply joining my friends wife as she has no one else to go with "

Take her - he suggested it. I go out for drinks and curry with one of my male friends. He's in a relationship, obviously so am I. We chat, have a laugh and go home without bonking. We've been friends for years , no one bats an eyelid. Men and women can just be friends.

Sarah

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I have gone out with by best friend's wife to films and restaurants. Usually when it is a film/restaurant my wife or her hubby is not into.

Nothing wrong with it at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As there's now more info, sure go! He's suggested it. Sounds like the only thing you're worried about is indeed people talking.

Enjoy the film

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As there's now more info, sure go! He's suggested it. Sounds like the only thing you're worried about is indeed people talking.

Enjoy the film

Exactly; local village pub talk always grows arms and legs

I am going to phone at 9am and suggest we go mid day or afternoon rather than night

thanks for advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have a good friend who works offshore;

I was visiting he, and his wife just over a week back before he went away, we talked about the new "Eddie the Eagle" film, I thought it would be a laugh as did his wife but he didn't fancy it

I bumped into her yesterday and she asked if I fancied accompanying her to the movie as her husband is offshore

We are supposed to be going today, do I phone up and cancel or go along

this is strictly a "friends only" with no further intentions but I still worry people will talk 2+2 =5

is it okay to accompany in this situation?"

Well, if you feel that guilty, are your emotions clear?

Any how, you should go, but no back row tickets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't do the "put your hand in my pocket" gag!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have a good friend who works offshore;

I was visiting he, and his wife just over a week back before he went away, we talked about the new "Eddie the Eagle" film, I thought it would be a laugh as did his wife but he didn't fancy it

I bumped into her yesterday and she asked if I fancied accompanying her to the movie as her husband is offshore

We are supposed to be going today, do I phone up and cancel or go along

this is strictly a "friends only" with no further intentions but I still worry people will talk 2+2 =5

is it okay to accompany in this situation?"
you posted this question because you're a sex addict cmon admit it that's why you're on fab ok that being a given you also fancy your mates wife ,ok take her to pics but if you cross that line and kiss ,fondle,caress ,fuck your mates girlfriend then to refer to your friend as a 'mate' anymore would be wholly inaccurate ,so if sitting next to your 'mates' girlfriend in a cinema is easy do it

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As there's now more info, sure go! He's suggested it. Sounds like the only thing you're worried about is indeed people talking.

Enjoy the film

Exactly; local village pub talk always grows arms and legs

I am going to phone at 9am and suggest we go mid day or afternoon rather than night

thanks for advice

People love to gossip, but today's gossip is tomorrow's fish & chip papers. If you know its innocent - it really doesn't matter. We worry too much about what others think sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you are mates then why get concerned just because she is female? very small minded if people think that.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Do people really talk about people of the opposite sex going to the cinema?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she's off to the cinema with a mate I don't see the problem. If you see a problem then don't go, simply don't go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

you posted this question because you're a sex addict cmon admit it that's why you're on fab ok that being a given you also fancy your mates wife ,ok take her to pics but if you cross that line and kiss ,fondle,caress ,fuck your mates girlfriend then to refer to your friend as a 'mate' anymore would be wholly inaccurate ,so if sitting next to your 'mates' girlfriend in a cinema is easy do it

I lost my wife 3 years ago, still consider myself married, I will not get involved in another long term relationship as I do believe we will meet again

Fab helps take care of my needs now and then

Both my mate and his wife helped me when I needed friendship most, I will never consider cheating on either

there are no bad intentions or thoughts of cheating involved here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have a good friend who works offshore;

I was visiting he, and his wife just over a week back before he went away, we talked about the new "Eddie the Eagle" film, I thought it would be a laugh as did his wife but he didn't fancy it

I bumped into her yesterday and she asked if I fancied accompanying her to the movie as her husband is offshore

We are supposed to be going today, do I phone up and cancel or go along

this is strictly a "friends only" with no further intentions but I still worry people will talk 2+2 =5

is it okay to accompany in this situation?"

If you are asking then you know it's not quite right

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Noooooooo

Never going to look goo without specific permission from him!

I would say think about how you would feel but being on this site, I would imagine you would be cool with it. The average guys is gonna flip.

Would probably be best if you got her to ask even."

Really? What rubbish. It's just going to see a film ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't get what the issue is here. Just go.

Mrs

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By *omersetfun15Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

Of course its ok .we both have mates of the opposite sex .Why not go and enjoy yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorted; Eddie the Eagle @ 13:15

that's my mind made up

can close this or continue to discus other situations.

enjoy a good Saturday everyone

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if she slowly moves her lips along her hotdog whilst staring you in the eyes, stare at the screen and not flinch..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not its just a film as friends. Dont let her go alone if you want to watch it too.

Ive had plenty of male friends in my time and only once has his gf got jealous xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if she accidentally snorts your heroin confusing it for cocaine as your dealer ran out of balloons?

Only bad can come of it.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues. "

I didn't realise married people weren't allowed to have friends of the opposite sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away from the back seat and you're golden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP are you both really that desperate to see a film ? The very fact that you're asking complete strangers on a public forum suggests that you have something in the back of your mind.

First it's going to the cinema then a drink or a different social occasion. I would politely decline it's a train wreck waiting to happen, imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have no issue at all with my husband going to the cinema with one of my friends if I couldn't go or didn't want to.

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over a year ago

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I would have no problem with my husband going to see a film with a female friend.

If people wanna talk, let them, I trust him.

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By *ustanhonestblokeMan
over a year ago

northampton

"I would have no problem with my husband going to see a film with a female friend.

If people wanna talk, let them, I trust him."

What film do you want to see hun x

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"have a good friend who works offshore;

I was visiting he, and his wife just over a week back before he went away, we talked about the new "Eddie the Eagle" film, I thought it would be a laugh as did his wife but he didn't fancy it

I bumped into her yesterday and she asked if I fancied accompanying her to the movie as her husband is offshore

We are supposed to be going today, do I phone up and cancel or go along

this is strictly a "friends only" with no further intentions but I still worry people will talk 2+2 =5

is it okay to accompany in this situation?"

Of course it is why not?

You are adults not juveniles who cannot control themselves.

In fact we would say you are doing your mate a favour by making sure his wife is safe and happy whilst he is away.

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

its a great film i really enjoyed it

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Yes why not I'd do any thing for a mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay; went to see the movie and what a bloody good film it was; well worth seeing and good _iewing from start to finish.

Only one wee problem was she was crying at the end, must admit I had glassy eyes too but she had tears rolling down

stopped in at a small pub for a meal & beer on way home then I dropped her off on way back

no hassle, no complication's, just 2 friends watching Eddie the Eagle movie, guess my mind wanders at times and I think too deep into things

Thanks for advice and private messages all appreciated.

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

Pleased you both had a good time next time will be easier

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"Replies like this should surprise me but Im fairly resigned to it ( on here )

1. A woman does NOT need permission to go out.

2. If her husband thinks she will shag his best mate while he's away, he has serious relationship issues. "

Exactly;

But I do find that " swingers" have more of an issue with this than the so called " vanilla world "

Anyway my " best mate" is a woman ( actually most of my freinds are women,) so I socialise with them a lot, whether their husbands/ partners are around or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have a good friend who works offshore;

I was visiting he, and his wife just over a week back before he went away, we talked about the new "Eddie the Eagle" film, I thought it would be a laugh as did his wife but he didn't fancy it

I bumped into her yesterday and she asked if I fancied accompanying her to the movie as her husband is offshore

We are supposed to be going today, do I phone up and cancel or go along

this is strictly a "friends only" with no further intentions but I still worry people will talk 2+2 =5

is it okay to accompany in this situation?"

I wouldn't care a damn what people thought. It's your life buddy. Live it how ever you see fit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you had a great time and I agree it's a really good film.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Glad you had a great time and I agree it's a really good film.

Sarah "

Thanks Sarah

did you shed a tear at the end too??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you had a great time and I agree it's a really good film.

Sarah

Thanks Sarah

did you shed a tear at the end too??

Hmm maybe .....

I cry at anything !

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"What if she accidentally snorts your heroin confusing it for cocaine as your dealer ran out of balloons?

Only bad can come of it. "

From first post I could think of nothing else... Just checking OP, she was never in a pilot? Damn those baggies and twist sticks

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

There are people who seem to think that a married person should not have friends of the opposite sex....usually their husband! But I have come across people who are surprised that my best friend is a woman.

And yes, on occasion I have gone to dinner and the cinema with her. Nothing wrong with it at all, and nothing happens between us. I don't know if it helps or not that she and her hubby are swingers also, but then I've been out to dinner with female friends who do not swing...and yet do know about our lifestyle.

I don't fuck some of my friends. I know that comes as a shock.

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