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"its not just women who refuse to have sex with their hubby. i've got a mate whose hubby hasn't gone near her in 5 years." Yes i suspect there is but it is a male friend i have hence my change of heart | |||
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"Kitten i had a male pal in a similar marriage. She made him feel like all he was good for was a baby making machine. He told me he looked for mostly being loved and wanted outside the marriage rather than just the sex. Who knows the real reason why people cheat. I guess there are too many reasons for us to generalise." That is my point, generalising, what i was doing and shouldnt have done, is to say/think that all cheaters are just doing it for fun whereas in reality that isnt the case, some want as has been said, the closeness, holding hands, the tenderness, the knowing and wanting someone to love them, only to find that actually they just wanted a baby making machine what an incredibly sad life, but more what nasty women there are that do this to a man, no wonder there is no trust in a marriage | |||
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"My husband hasn't touched me for 17 years" you let him out of the cupboard yet ? | |||
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"My husband hasn't touched me for 17 years" I am sorry to hear that hugs to you | |||
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"My husband hasn't touched me for 17 years you let him out of the cupboard yet ?" Granny I love you, can't bloody get him in one | |||
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"I don't think no sex or no affection is a good enough reason to be unfaithful. It's a good enough reason to get out of the marriage. It's a good enough reason to be open and say you are going to look for sex elsewhere. It isn't a good enough reason to lie to keep the peace. Keeping the peace means things stay as they are. I couldn't ever trust a liar. No matter what my involvement with them. If they will lie to a spouse they will lie to you too. " Quite right too but i just wanted to say that i had been generalising and shouldnt have done, guess it takes chatting to someone thats real ie not an online friend, to open up my mind | |||
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"I don't think no sex or no affection is a good enough reason to be unfaithful. It's a good enough reason to get out of the marriage. It's a good enough reason to be open and say you are going to look for sex elsewhere. It isn't a good enough reason to lie to keep the peace. Keeping the peace means things stay as they are. I couldn't ever trust a liar. No matter what my involvement with them. If they will lie to a spouse they will lie to you too. Quite right too but i just wanted to say that i had been generalising and shouldnt have done, guess it takes chatting to someone thats real ie not an online friend, to open up my mind " I am real. | |||
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"I don't think no sex or no affection is a good enough reason to be unfaithful. It's a good enough reason to get out of the marriage. It's a good enough reason to be open and say you are going to look for sex elsewhere. It isn't a good enough reason to lie to keep the peace. Keeping the peace means things stay as they are. I couldn't ever trust a liar. No matter what my involvement with them. If they will lie to a spouse they will lie to you too. Quite right too but i just wanted to say that i had been generalising and shouldnt have done, guess it takes chatting to someone thats real ie not an online friend, to open up my mind I am real." yes i know but i meant online as in not met as opposed to someone ive known for over 15 yrs | |||
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"Okay now i get the message from both you and Polo too, a good point and guess perhaps i should take what my friend is telling me with a huge pinch of salt " Nooooooooo not at all. If someone is telling you to accept they are a liar and a cheat and a weak character that's good .... just don't expect anything else of them x | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 20/02/11 16:31:07]" Does that whim include deceit ? | |||
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"It saddens me to this day that I lied to and cheated on my ex-hubby when we were married, for no other reason except he did not light my fire or provided the fireworks that I sought. I shall carry that guilt to my coffin! " To err is human ....forgive yourself ..we all make mistakes ..me included..I`ve been both sides of the fence.. | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ..." That applies to men also .. to children ...to the elderly ..... to a hell of a lot of people. Their choice. They would rather have that than affection. | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ... That applies to men also .. to children ...to the elderly ..... to a hell of a lot of people. Their choice. They would rather have that than affection. " Couldn`t agree more ....its wasn`t mean`t to be gender specific .... Its complex...but nothing beats honesty ....and courage... | |||
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"At the end of the day no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. Yes there's cheaters on here but why they cheat we will never know being on here could be a stress relief. Alot of married men I've met have been honest they still love their wives but not had sex in years but they don't want an affair so they come on here. " Im fine with that J.. as long as the parter knows. That's my only beef..... the deceit | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ..." . My mum was one such person, and I swore I would never be like her, and be dependent on a man for anything! It made me the way I am today, and I thank her for it. | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ... . My mum was one such person, and I swore I would never be like her, and be dependent on a man for anything! It made me the way I am today, and I thank her for it. " Its so so sad to see...fear makes so many of our choices at times ... | |||
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"It saddens me to this day that I lied to and cheated on my ex-hubby when we were married, for no other reason except he did not light my fire or provided the fireworks that I sought. I shall carry that guilt to my coffin! To err is human ....forgive yourself ..we all make mistakes ..me included..I`ve been both sides of the fence.." . I have not been able to forgive myself for hurting a great man, perhaps one day I can. | |||
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"It saddens me to this day that I lied to and cheated on my ex-hubby when we were married, for no other reason except he did not light my fire or provided the fireworks that I sought. I shall carry that guilt to my coffin! To err is human ....forgive yourself ..we all make mistakes ..me included..I`ve been both sides of the fence.. . I have not been able to forgive myself for hurting a great man, perhaps one day I can. " Thanks for being honest....I`ve an enormous regard for someone sharing their mistakes .... | |||
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"To err is human ....forgive yourself ..we all make mistakes ..me included..I`ve been both sides of the fence.. . I have not been able to forgive myself for hurting a great man, perhaps one day I can. Thanks for being honest....I`ve an enormous regard for someone sharing their mistakes ...." . Awwww, thanks! I am crap at lying, that's why I am honest! | |||
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"If someone will lie to the person they say they love... what on earth makes anyone else believe they are being totally honest about why they are doing it? In my time I have known guys who have cheated on partners and they had a new born baby in the house or their wives were pregnant... better still it's not their wife as it's their girlfriend they are cheating on and the wedding isn't for another 6 months! Many have used the lines about the relationship being sexless and not being shown any affection. " I honestly belief you have but I also honestly believe there are a lot of people who have unknowingly had sex with attached people too. You have the choice to say no when someone tells you the existance of a partner who doesnt know theyre dallying an it is a step too far for you. Some people can also tell you there partner is aware and this is perfectly true as well. Not every married person gets caught out for the knowledge to get back to you. I just find it a bit odd that some people can be sceptical over everything they are told when it is just NSA anyway. I can imagine being named in a divorce petition or receivign irate phone calls from an unknowing spouse is pretty offputting but its no different to the risk of catching an sti or suffering a physical attack from a violent stranger you meet who looks great on paper. They're not gonna tell you they kicked seven bells out of the last woman they met are they? If you choose to have sex with strangers you meet online, you can never be sure who you are sleeping with. If anyone needs complete assurances then they are being niave. Nobody knows why anyone tells lies but lying is not exclusive to the dallying attached. Singles can tell some pretty spectacular porkies that go against your boundaries too. | |||
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"To err is human ....forgive yourself ..we all make mistakes ..me included..I`ve been both sides of the fence.. . I have not been able to forgive myself for hurting a great man, perhaps one day I can. Thanks for being honest....I`ve an enormous regard for someone sharing their mistakes .... . Awwww, thanks! I am crap at lying, that's why I am honest! " haha the pleasures mostly mine ... From experience I came to realise lying becomes a prison .....walls do not make one .... I try my best to be honest ....I`m a human being made of flaws...stitched together with good intentions .... Yer so right ...honesty is far simpler.. | |||
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"I have no doubt I have fucked plenty of married guys who are playing away. When playing at clubs I don’t even bother asking people’s names let alone their current status and the details of their relationship. I clear that with my own conscience by knowing I didn’t knowingly encourage them to deceive anyone. Whether that is seen as ignorance being bliss or not I really don’t care. For me it about being true to my values and for me to achieve that I will not knowingly ‘arrange’ to help someone cheat on another person… no matter how heart tugging their story is. For me there is no difference between a guy saying “I cheat because I can” and “blar blar sob story, blar blar loveless, blar blar”… it’s about my role in the end result and that would be the same whatever their story was." and thats where the common sense must lie... in your words 'never knowingly' thats all anyone can do in any aspect of life. Never knowingly encourage behaviour that is outside of your personal boundaries. | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ... . My mum was one such person, and I swore I would never be like her, and be dependent on a man for anything! It made me the way I am today, and I thank her for it. Its so so sad to see...fear makes so many of our choices at times ..." Doesnt it just as i have never married, never met someone i would like to spend the rest of my life with, lost trust hugely because of the behaviour of men (mostly though you can add my cheater of a mother who even flaunted her lover in front of my dad) and the fact that i am so used to being alone, im scared to let someone in, ive no desire to be hurt, been there done that, dont want it again | |||
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"A lot of very successful marriages have very little to do with fidelity. The only two people fit to comment on the state of their marriage are those inside of it. Trying to explain how its successful to any third party is futile and a waste of everyones time if they are bogged down with what are considered 'traditional values' and don't realise the modern marriage commitments now come in all shapes and sizes. Marriage is meant to be worked out for the benefit of those it concerns. How they come to what works for them is nobodies business and no outside opinion affects it whatsoever. Or it shouldn't. I have heard a lot of unmarried people quoting marriage vows in such a cliched fashion to support their disdain... such as 'till death us do part' or 'foresaking all others' yet a lot of these people have children outside of marriage and the bible says children should be born within wedlock. If I was to start quoting the institution of marriage regarding the circumstances of how their children are born, then I would be shot down in flames and quite rightly so. They choose not to marry so why have opinions about those who do? If you're not married or have had an unsuccessful marriage you are in no position to criticise those who have a good one perhaps? This is just an example of double standards. Divorce is a last option where no violence or cruelty or danger is involved. I believe when couples get along apart from the odd difference of value or opinions that they could just talk openly about how they are going to get this compromise. If it fails so be it. Nobpdy should live in misery. Divorce from what I can see could be a lot more damaging, judging by the examples of fall out regards child custody, splitting of assets etc etc. in my very humble opinion. There are an awful lot of people who divorce and still refer to their ex on a regular basis when giving opinions - never their own opinion. As in 'oh my ex says this, that and the other'. If divorce is final why do divorced people keep referring to their ex as if they are still in that relationship? If they think like this then to me their opinion of marriage is merely coloured by their own experience and they could be having a closed mind towards other marriage situations. Most married people who have retained their individuality, while still enjoying a successful union are far more liberated and a lot less condescending of others choices in my experience. I couldn't care less what anybody does to find personal happiness - including a good sex life inside or outside of a relationship. Or why do we swing? My parents divorced for no good reason other than refusal to compromise. They are both remarried but still fight with each other forty years on its absolutely ridiculous, as they are both obviously still in love and interested in what the other does. I do not understand how anyone can be so controlling that they decide another persons sex life for them, by withdrawing their body on a whim within any realtionship. If I want sex I will go and get it from whatever source is available to me at the time. Frustration can make people do funny things when there is no need to rock the boat. I do not think anyone refusing to play with a married person has any influence on that persons dallying but that does not mean to say you should disregard the marriage/relationship if it makes you uncomfortable. You are not saving the 'innocent partner' from grief by shagging their spouse, unless you are a bunny boiler and the person you choose is an idiot who flaunts it or this dallying is detrimental to day to day function of the relationship. You just have to decide if the person you want to meet is an idiot or not. NSA sex ceases to exist the second you go your separate ways. Unless you wear it like a banner. Then that makes you stupid. The thing I fear from this type of liaison is when the other person gets too attached. So I try to avoid those who are hooked on wanting to muddle sex with love on sites like this. Love can happen but if you accept that can you also accept that infidelity doesn't have to mean a marriage is lousy. My parents divorced their offspring are still stuck inside their union and that colours my opinion greatly." And as ive said my mother flaunted her lover in front of my father even though they were still living together. She then took me and my brother to live with them and my "step father" wasnt the nicest of people either, and whilst they lived together and still do, she would ring my father at work and moan about the man she was living with, as if she had done nothing wrong? So yes a very distorted opinion for me of relationships and i struggle with the word love | |||
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"both my parents have in the past had affairs.its no big secret.they're still together after 50 years of marraige and still in love. that's them if someone did it to me the deceit would kill it the deceit would just fester away at me" You'd have to find out first .... | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ... . My mum was one such person, and I swore I would never be like her, and be dependent on a man for anything! It made me the way I am today, and I thank her for it. Its so so sad to see...fear makes so many of our choices at times ... Doesnt it just as i have never married, never met someone i would like to spend the rest of my life with, lost trust hugely because of the behaviour of men (mostly though you can add my cheater of a mother who even flaunted her lover in front of my dad) and the fact that i am so used to being alone, im scared to let someone in, ive no desire to be hurt, been there done that, dont want it again " Bless you fer being vunerable ... Deciet can cut some of us so deeply ...I`m a very sensitive kinda soul..but full of contradictions ...some things that others struggle with I shake of in the blink of an eye ...the thing thats hurt me most in my life ..has always been betrayal....get to my core.. I don`t suffer from abandonement..but betrayal is a biggy ...I built those walls we all talk about...protective .. I`m fortunate in that I have a way to heal ...doesn`t make me better..just fortunate ...it took ages tho..I still got barriers that people have got to climb over before I`ll trust someone with my vunerabilities ...Sharon gives me space which is wise ... I dunno if you happy being single ...or wish to meet someone compatible ....if its the latter ..I hope it works out fer you ..x | |||
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"Okay now i get the message from both you and Polo too, a good point and guess perhaps i should take what my friend is telling me with a huge pinch of salt Nooooooooo not at all. If someone is telling you to accept they are a liar and a cheat and a weak character that's good .... just don't expect anything else of them x " Ah yes and makes sense as he has tried to come to mine for coffee and who knows what would have happened, so im glad i ignored it, in my heart as much as ive always liked him, he is now married, simple as that | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ... . My mum was one such person, and I swore I would never be like her, and be dependent on a man for anything! It made me the way I am today, and I thank her for it. Its so so sad to see...fear makes so many of our choices at times ... Doesnt it just as i have never married, never met someone i would like to spend the rest of my life with, lost trust hugely because of the behaviour of men (mostly though you can add my cheater of a mother who even flaunted her lover in front of my dad) and the fact that i am so used to being alone, im scared to let someone in, ive no desire to be hurt, been there done that, dont want it again Bless you fer being vunerable ... Deciet can cut some of us so deeply ...I`m a very sensitive kinda soul..but full of contradictions ...some things that others struggle with I shake of in the blink of an eye ...the thing thats hurt me most in my life ..has always been betrayal....get to my core.. I don`t suffer from abandonement..but betrayal is a biggy ...I built those walls we all talk about...protective .. I`m fortunate in that I have a way to heal ...doesn`t make me better..just fortunate ...it took ages tho..I still got barriers that people have got to climb over before I`ll trust someone with my vunerabilities ...Sharon gives me space which is wise ... I dunno if you happy being single ...or wish to meet someone compatible ....if its the latter ..I hope it works out fer you ..x" I still have a barrier up but i am letting it down a little at a time, coming on here and meeting guys was a big step, the even bigger one was going to Chameleons And yes its nice to be single but would be nice to meet someone, they would have to be incredibly strong and still give me space | |||
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" I still have a barrier up but i am letting it down a little at a time, coming on here and meeting guys was a big step, the even bigger one was going to Chameleons And yes its nice to be single but would be nice to meet someone, they would have to be incredibly strong and still give me space " Hey ...thats wonderful ...sounds like living in the solution to me ... Some wise bugger once said ...alot of people build walls instead of bridges ....always liked that!! | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ..." ...and men too, sometimes because of an utter fear of never seeing their kids again. | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ... ...and men too, sometimes because of an utter fear of never seeing their kids again. " You`re right of course...sadly thats a reality.. | |||
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" I still have a barrier up but i am letting it down a little at a time, coming on here and meeting guys was a big step, the even bigger one was going to Chameleons And yes its nice to be single but would be nice to meet someone, they would have to be incredibly strong and still give me space Hey ...thats wonderful ...sounds like living in the solution to me ... Some wise bugger once said ...alot of people build walls instead of bridges ....always liked that!! " In that case ive crossed 2 bridges in a year | |||
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"I have always said.. 'if attached, say it on your profile then people can make an informed choice to meet or not.' nowt more can be done really." I think that sums it up then you can choose to avoid from the start. It isn't strictly being honest if his/her partner doesn't know though but cheating isn't an honest activity however you dress it up. | |||
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"In my (our) opinion, there is no excuse for cheating on a partner! Lies and deceit are not the kind of moral standards we live by or would condone! If there is a problem with the relationship, get it sorted or get out! My dear old Mum had 2 affairs that we know of and she seemed to get away with the first one until we all grew up! My sister is the result of that union! The second one exploded the family to the point that I was traumatised for years and I suppose even now, by it! My parents had an argument and Dad asked who was going with him. My brother did and we didn't see him for ten years. I was too young to "Know" what was going on but I realised it was serious and I missed Dad a lot. We were whisked away to a new town and had to give up our lovely dog and lost all our friends. It was a terrible time and we still feel the repercussions today! Mum had Dementia and keeps bringing up stuff from that period. My Dad who came back to us after 20 years because he still loved Mum, has to put up with rehashes of the time and even the insults that he endured before. No, there is NO excuse to put people you profess to love through that, just because you want to get a shag! " My mother said that my dad had an affair with her best friend, i never had the nerve to ask him and he passed away nearly 4 yrs ago. That didnt give or doesnt give an excuse for a tit for tat affair, nor the "well your dad had one" kind of attitude that i had from her. Even today, she behaves as if she did nothing wrong but she is paying the price as he has never been the nicest man to her or me and my brother. Following her taking me and my brother away from my dad, we suffered all kinds of abuse, but still she stayed with him. When i asked her why didnt she leave him, she said that she couldnt stand the embarrassment and humiliation of telling her family that yet another of her marriages had failed! Yet she has chosen to do those things to her kids, perhaps she blames us? Or perhaps she likes to do those things to others but doesnt like it done to her? To me a relationship/marriage is totally distorted on what it should and shouldnt be, a total waste of time. Even my own relationship wasnt all that but then i searched for what i thought was the norm and i didnt have a good base to go on thanks to my parents. | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ... ...and men too, sometimes because of an utter fear of never seeing their kids again. " Even though my kids father was an abusive father, it never crossed my mind not to allow them to see him, and i never believed that it was right not to stop them or use them as some nasty women do | |||
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" Some women I know stay in loveless mariages..starved of affection because of their needs for security and status ... ...and men too, sometimes because of an utter fear of never seeing their kids again. Even though my kids father was an abusive father, it never crossed my mind not to allow them to see him, and i never believed that it was right not to stop them or use them as some nasty women do" That is great, that you can put your kids first. I'm lucky that me and my ex have been able to do this together. Sometimes though, the fear can be based on other things, the wife relocating or taking a new partner for example. I thought about leaving my wife a few times but this fear kept me from confronting our problems, and I also still loved her. We all judge people on this front, but it is a messy and complex thing just like everything in life, and I completely respect those who say playing with married men or women is not for them. I never played whilst I was married, nor even when I was still living with her for several months but we had agreed to separate. | |||
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"I don't judge others, but personally I wouldn't cheat on someone who I was with. If I'm in what's supposed to be a monogamous relationship, then I'm in one. If I want to sleep around, then I can just be single and sleep around with whoever I want. So if it was a sexless relationship and one person isn't getting what they want out of the relationship then it's a relationship that isn't working, so they should man up or woman up and end it. " Those in well rounded successful but sexless marriages that suit them, might feel a bit piqued at the suggestion they should end their marriage due to infidelity, though. I think the only people who can judge how their spouse will react is the person married to them so they choose the level of protection if its needed. Spouses not putting out can subconsciously be relieved a partner seeks sex elsewhere but doesn't want it rubbed in their faces, so appreciate the discretion. It's not always as clear cut as 'mess round and Im leaving'. Some marriages thrive on the drama of infidelity. Bizarre? No more different to marriages that thrive with open swinging - each to their own. Only those inside of a marriage know what makes it tick. I find it a little arrogant of those who say they don't dally with married people because in doing so they would be part of the deception and therefore seem to be elevating their own importance in that marriage, where none exists. In most cases if the dallier gets caught out and has to explain themselves, just remember that you will only be referred to as the person that 'meant nothing to me' and thats exactly what all of you are to the married seeking NSA - meaningless sex. | |||
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"I have never had a problem with this because i know everything ain't cut and dried and i haven't lived that persons life What i do have a problem with is guys saying in open forum that they are cheating on their wives etc and wondering why folk have a go I especially like the how do i get my wife into this? And then find his verifications say hes started without her The thing that really pisses me off though is the "single" males in clubs a few of which have openly stated ta me and my ex the fact that "i wouldn't bring my wife to a place like this" and then proceed ta wonder why we walked away in disgust xx " Well again profiles, then email exchange can speak a million words unintentionally - so essential in the choosing process! But insensitive people will still get laid by someone. So the walk on by method works for me if something doesnt seem to be quite right to make them an attractive enough proposition to arrange a meet with. | |||
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