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So I'm sure I will be doing this again when I next get a free day. | |||
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"So as some will know, I put up a thread on here offering anyone who wanted to to come and meet me for a coffee and chat, and I would happily verify them. Well it was a success and I met 2 lovely gentlemen today who responded to my post
So I'm sure I will be doing this again when I next get a free day." | |||
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"Awesome! I hope you all had some good conversation out of it, too. Well done." I did yes | |||
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"So as some will know, I put up a thread on here offering anyone who wanted to to come and meet me for a coffee and chat, and I would happily verify them. Well it was a success and I met 2 lovely gentlemen today who responded to my post
So I'm sure I will be doing this again when I next get a free day." | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!  "It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today | |||
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"Could of at least give them a blowie   "Hahaha, id be banned from every coffee shop in Cambridge then  | |||
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"If anyone wants a shitty forced conversation while I sleaze over you, hit me up. "Maybe next time Lib | |||
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"If anyone wants a shitty forced conversation while I sleaze over you, hit me up. "Hm  Lies. | |||
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"If anyone wants a shitty forced conversation while I sleaze over you, hit me up. "Thought you'd never offer!  | |||
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"If anyone wants a shitty forced conversation while I sleaze over you, hit me up. "Are you stealing my moves? | |||
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Hope you had a good time x | |||
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"Good work OP! Mind you two rounds of sickly double shot hazelnut lattes would be just far too sickly for my palate
Hope you had a good time x"Haha, you love them and you know it  x | |||
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"Did they buy the coffee? I might offer my verification services if there's anyone along the M4 corridor that wants a social veri. I will say that the verification will simply state, guy is the person in his pictures and we met for a coffee only, no further action required." does it matter who buys the coffee? | |||
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"Ok my tally is 5 men and 1 woman. One lad really boosted his confidence about meeting. The lady, brand new to the site and wanted a "girlie" chat" That's brilliant Diamond | |||
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"If anyone wants a shitty forced conversation while I sleaze over you, hit me up. "Never again  | |||
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"Awesome! I hope you all had some good conversation out of it, too. Well done. I did yes "And did you also get two more verifications? | |||
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"Did they buy the coffee? I might offer my verification services if there's anyone along the M4 corridor that wants a social veri. I will say that the verification will simply state, guy is the person in his pictures and we met for a coffee only, no further action required.does it matter who buys the coffee?" Maybe only if you can't afford a coffee yourself? | |||
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"Did they buy the coffee? I might offer my verification services if there's anyone along the M4 corridor that wants a social veri. I will say that the verification will simply state, guy is the person in his pictures and we met for a coffee only, no further action required.does it matter who buys the coffee?" Yeah, I want a free coffee. | |||
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"I know I'm in the minority & I've said before I'm in two minds about this way of obtaining veri's as a few on previous threads there were no shows. But if you have had a good time & met some nice guys that you may meet again then all is good." I did, and yes I would genuinely meet both again. I think some people are nervous of meeting so this can be a way to break the ice so to speak. Plus the veris say I met them, they are who they say, they are nice chatty people so others can make up their minds on the back of it. | |||
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"Did they buy the coffee? I might offer my verification services if there's anyone along the M4 corridor that wants a social veri. I will say that the verification will simply state, guy is the person in his pictures and we met for a coffee only, no further action required.does it matter who buys the coffee? Yeah, I want a free coffee." thats not why i did it im quite capable of buying my own cup of coffee | |||
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"Well to the people that knocked the idea at the beginning, there are some goos reasons why people have taken this offer up and not because they are sone desperados with no self respect as has been suggested at times" Swinging is social too so it's a great thing | |||
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"Awesome! I hope you all had some good conversation out of it, too. Well done. I did yes
And did you also get two more verifications?"Yes, not that I required or asked for them | |||
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"Well to the people that knocked the idea at the beginning, there are some goos reasons why people have taken this offer up and not because they are sone desperados with no self respect as has been suggested at times Swinging is social too so it's a great thing "Definitely a great thing | |||
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"I tend to find, though it's nota hard and fast rule, if they like you they buy. If they're not that fussed they let you get your own "what if you get there first are you supposed to sit and wait for them and it has nothing to do whether your physically attracted to each other | |||
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"I know I'm in the minority & I've said before I'm in two minds about this way of obtaining veri's as a few on previous threads there were no shows. But if you have had a good time & met some nice guys that you may meet again then all is good. I did, and yes I would genuinely meet both again. I think some people are nervous of meeting so this can be a way to break the ice so to speak. Plus the veris say I met them, they are who they say, they are nice chatty people so others can make up their minds on the back of it." I appreciate it's difficult to get that 1st initial veri which is held in such high esteem ( depending on which forum thread you read!) on Fabs. I just know I'd only veri people I would be prepared to meet again or 'recommend'. Which is why I said I'm in the minority. x I guess I just view | |||
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"Did they buy the coffee? I might offer my verification services if there's anyone along the M4 corridor that wants a social veri. I will say that the verification will simply state, guy is the person in his pictures and we met for a coffee only, no further action required.does it matter who buys the coffee? Yeah, I want a free coffee. thats not why i did it im quite capable of buying my own cup of coffee" That's nice. I'd do it for a coffee and a ham and cheese toasty. | |||
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"Did they buy the coffee? I might offer my verification services if there's anyone along the M4 corridor that wants a social veri. I will say that the verification will simply state, guy is the person in his pictures and we met for a coffee only, no further action required.does it matter who buys the coffee? Yeah, I want a free coffee. thats not why i did it im quite capable of buying my own cup of coffee That's nice. I'd do it for a coffee and a ham and cheese toasty." ok but for me it wasnt about what i could gain from it and id be upset if people thought that | |||
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"I know I'm in the minority & I've said before I'm in two minds about this way of obtaining veri's as a few on previous threads there were no shows. But if you have had a good time & met some nice guys that you may meet again then all is good. I did, and yes I would genuinely meet both again. I think some people are nervous of meeting so this can be a way to break the ice so to speak. Plus the veris say I met them, they are who they say, they are nice chatty people so others can make up their minds on the back of it. I appreciate it's difficult to get that 1st initial veri which is held in such high esteem ( depending on which forum thread you read!) on Fabs. I just know I'd only veri people I would be prepared to meet again or 'recommend'. Which is why I said I'm in the minority. x I guess I just view " Over 90% of the people I have verified I have only met socially or in clubs with no play. I don't play at lot, but I look for the traits of who is friendly, who is who they say they are etc. I couldn't recommend to others as I don't know what others want, there are people I have refused to verify as well at the same time | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today "I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol   | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
"I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere | |||
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"It was cool, I like meeting new people and I like coffee, win win. "It was very cool, and thanks for the coffee | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere "Fair enough. Fortunately my plans changed and so I didn't end up twiddling my thumbs and talking to the wall. Have also put a message up saying that I'll be free for coffee. | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
"Nah....that's me. That's why i don't do these things. That and i don't care about those with no verifications | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere
Fair enough. Fortunately my plans changed and so I didn't end up twiddling my thumbs and talking to the wall. Have also put a message up saying that I'll be free for coffee. "Well that's good, and good luck for Monday | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
Nah....that's me. That's why i don't do these things. That and i don't care about those with no verifications "It was an offer with ulterior motives. Didn't want to have coffee alone. | |||
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"I tend to find, though it's nota hard and fast rule, if they like you they buy. If they're not that fussed they let you get your own what if you get there first are you supposed to sit and wait for them and it has nothing to do whether your physically attracted to each other"I know, I'm just saying what I've observed on my coffee meets. And yes I wait in case they don't show | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere "Yep, it's pretty dead here. | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
Nah....that's me. That's why i don't do these things. That and i don't care about those with no verifications
It was an offer with ulterior motives. Didn't want to have coffee alone. "Yeah....and i much prefer coffee alone | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere
Yep, it's pretty dead here."It wasn't when I was a student at the good old UEA | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
Nah....that's me. That's why i don't do these things. That and i don't care about those with no verifications
It was an offer with ulterior motives. Didn't want to have coffee alone. "I'd have offered to meet you if I could have. It's just as well I didn't though because I've been in a dreadful frame of mind today. | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
Nah....that's me. That's why i don't do these things. That and i don't care about those with no verifications
It was an offer with ulterior motives. Didn't want to have coffee alone.
Yeah....and i much prefer coffee alone "Hahaha there's always one whose talking to the wall in Costa | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
Nah....that's me. That's why i don't do these things. That and i don't care about those with no verifications
It was an offer with ulterior motives. Didn't want to have coffee alone.
I'd have offered to meet you if I could have. It's just as well I didn't though because I've been in a dreadful frame of mind today."That's kind of you. Hope things pick up soon xx | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere
Yep, it's pretty dead here.
It wasn't when I was a student at the good old UEA "I remember student nights at uea when some friends were there, it was great | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
Nah....that's me. That's why i don't do these things. That and i don't care about those with no verifications
It was an offer with ulterior motives. Didn't want to have coffee alone.
I'd have offered to meet you if I could have. It's just as well I didn't though because I've been in a dreadful frame of mind today.
That's kind of you. Hope things pick up soon xx"Hopefully it's a blip and I'll feel better tomorrow. I'm right out of sorts today. | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere
Yep, it's pretty dead here.
It wasn't when I was a student at the good old UEA
I remember student nights at uea when some friends were there, it was great "I remember them fondly  | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere
Yep, it's pretty dead here.
It wasn't when I was a student at the good old UEA
I remember student nights at uea when some friends were there, it was great
I remember them fondly "I bet, Newcastle where I was was brilliant | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere
Yep, it's pretty dead here.
It wasn't when I was a student at the good old UEA
I remember student nights at uea when some friends were there, it was great
I remember them fondly
I bet, Newcastle where I was was brilliant "I've heard they're pretty wild nights in Newcastle | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
Nah....that's me. That's why i don't do these things. That and i don't care about those with no verifications
It was an offer with ulterior motives. Didn't want to have coffee alone.
I'd have offered to meet you if I could have. It's just as well I didn't though because I've been in a dreadful frame of mind today.
That's kind of you. Hope things pick up soon xx
Hopefully it's a blip and I'll feel better tomorrow. I'm right out of sorts today."Big hugs lovely | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
Nah....that's me. That's why i don't do these things. That and i don't care about those with no verifications
It was an offer with ulterior motives. Didn't want to have coffee alone.
I'd have offered to meet you if I could have. It's just as well I didn't though because I've been in a dreadful frame of mind today.
That's kind of you. Hope things pick up soon xx
Hopefully it's a blip and I'll feel better tomorrow. I'm right out of sorts today.
Big hugs lovely "Thanks. It'll pass. It always does. | |||
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"I think it's a great idea. Well done!
It was Diamondsmiles who was the inspiration as she, and a couple of other people, have done it previously. And I know another lady was doing the same today
I had no takers. Guess I'm just a bitch no one wants to talk to lol
I very much doubt that! Norfolk is a bit devoid of swingers at the best of times which is why i and up elsewhere
Yep, it's pretty dead here.
It wasn't when I was a student at the good old UEA
I remember student nights at uea when some friends were there, it was great
I remember them fondly
I bet, Newcastle where I was was brilliant
I've heard they're pretty wild nights in Newcastle "Oh they most definitely can be | |||
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"I know I'm in the minority & I've said before I'm in two minds about this way of obtaining veri's as a few on previous threads there were no shows. But if you have had a good time & met some nice guys that you may meet again then all is good. I did, and yes I would genuinely meet both again. I think some people are nervous of meeting so this can be a way to break the ice so to speak. Plus the veris say I met them, they are who they say, they are nice chatty people so others can make up their minds on the back of it. I appreciate it's difficult to get that 1st initial veri which is held in such high esteem ( depending on which forum thread you read!) on Fabs. I just know I'd only veri people I would be prepared to meet again or 'recommend'. Which is why I said I'm in the minority. x I guess I just view " See I can absolutely see both points of view here (and I know it's very unlike me to sit firmly on the fence hey!? )
On one hand as a 'lone' male I know that I've had to work hard and invest a lot of energy into every verification that I've received - some have taken well over of a year of engagement before I've actually met them and so none have been "gimme's" and I know that's true of a lot of people on here - all the veris have had to be 'earned' if that makes sense.
On the other hand - I'm exactly the same person as I was when unverified - I knew I was genuine but was overlooked for meets by many as I didn't have that critical first verification. Many people genuinely won't people unless they're verified - and they can't get verified unless they meet people! A vicious cycle!
The standard solution is 'go to a club or a social' .. Well that's exactly what this is - a social but rather than a group social it's a face to face to face social. And sometimes it's that 'helping hand' that is needed to kickstart someone on here with that critical first veri.
So on one hand I can see that it might be deemed to be an 'easy' verification but on the other it's a generous gesture to offer a helping hand to get some guys 'off the mark' and up and running on the site
And with that : I've had brill socials with you both and keen for a repeat so hopefully pragmatic enough an answer ha x
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"If anyone wants a shitty forced conversation while I sleaze over you, hit me up.
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"I know I'm in the minority & I've said before I'm in two minds about this way of obtaining veri's as a few on previous threads there were no shows. But if you have had a good time & met some nice guys that you may meet again then all is good. I did, and yes I would genuinely meet both again. I think some people are nervous of meeting so this can be a way to break the ice so to speak. Plus the veris say I met them, they are who they say, they are nice chatty people so others can make up their minds on the back of it. I appreciate it's difficult to get that 1st initial veri which is held in such high esteem ( depending on which forum thread you read!) on Fabs. I just know I'd only veri people I would be prepared to meet again or 'recommend'. Which is why I said I'm in the minority. x I guess I just view See I can absolutely see both points of view here (and I know it's very unlike me to sit firmly on the fence hey!? )
On one hand as a 'lone' male I know that I've had to work hard and invest a lot of energy into every verification that I've received - some have taken well over of a year of engagement before I've actually met them and so none have been "gimme's" and I know that's true of a lot of people on here - all the veris have had to be 'earned' if that makes sense.
On the other hand - I'm exactly the same person as I was when unverified - I knew I was genuine but was overlooked for meets by many as I didn't have that critical first verification. Many people genuinely won't people unless they're verified - and they can't get verified unless they meet people! A vicious cycle!
The standard solution is 'go to a club or a social' .. Well that's exactly what this is - a social but rather than a group social it's a face to face to face social. And sometimes it's that 'helping hand' that is needed to kickstart someone on here with that critical first veri.
So on one hand I can see that it might be deemed to be an 'easy' verification but on the other it's a generous gesture to offer a helping hand to get some guys 'off the mark' and up and running on the site
And with that : I've had brill socials with you both and keen for a repeat so hopefully pragmatic enough an answer ha x
"Haha pragmatic to the last Dan
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"I know I'm in the minority & I've said before I'm in two minds about this way of obtaining veri's as a few on previous threads there were no shows. But if you have had a good time & met some nice guys that you may meet again then all is good. I did, and yes I would genuinely meet both again. I think some people are nervous of meeting so this can be a way to break the ice so to speak. Plus the veris say I met them, they are who they say, they are nice chatty people so others can make up their minds on the back of it. I appreciate it's difficult to get that 1st initial veri which is held in such high esteem ( depending on which forum thread you read!) on Fabs. I just know I'd only veri people I would be prepared to meet again or 'recommend'. Which is why I said I'm in the minority. x I guess I just view See I can absolutely see both points of view here (and I know it's very unlike me to sit firmly on the fence hey!? )
On one hand as a 'lone' male I know that I've had to work hard and invest a lot of energy into every verification that I've received - some have taken well over of a year of engagement before I've actually met them and so none have been "gimme's" and I know that's true of a lot of people on here - all the veris have had to be 'earned' if that makes sense.
On the other hand - I'm exactly the same person as I was when unverified - I knew I was genuine but was overlooked for meets by many as I didn't have that critical first verification. Many people genuinely won't people unless they're verified - and they can't get verified unless they meet people! A vicious cycle!
The standard solution is 'go to a club or a social' .. Well that's exactly what this is - a social but rather than a group social it's a face to face to face social. And sometimes it's that 'helping hand' that is needed to kickstart someone on here with that critical first veri.
So on one hand I can see that it might be deemed to be an 'easy' verification but on the other it's a generous gesture to offer a helping hand to get some guys 'off the mark' and up and running on the site
And with that : I've had brill socials with you both and keen for a repeat so hopefully pragmatic enough an answer ha x
Haha pragmatic to the last Dan
And all of what you said is entirely correct "And if you meet someone in a club and you verify them there, you might never see them there again. Also, when it's suggested that people go to clubs to get veris it doesn't take into consideration whether people are shy or not. A one to one offer like this allows those who are shy to get started. | |||
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"I know I'm in the minority & I've said before I'm in two minds about this way of obtaining veri's as a few on previous threads there were no shows. But if you have had a good time & met some nice guys that you may meet again then all is good. I did, and yes I would genuinely meet both again. I think some people are nervous of meeting so this can be a way to break the ice so to speak. Plus the veris say I met them, they are who they say, they are nice chatty people so others can make up their minds on the back of it. I appreciate it's difficult to get that 1st initial veri which is held in such high esteem ( depending on which forum thread you read!) on Fabs. I just know I'd only veri people I would be prepared to meet again or 'recommend'. Which is why I said I'm in the minority. x I guess I just view See I can absolutely see both points of view here (and I know it's very unlike me to sit firmly on the fence hey!? )
On one hand as a 'lone' male I know that I've had to work hard and invest a lot of energy into every verification that I've received - some have taken well over of a year of engagement before I've actually met them and so none have been "gimme's" and I know that's true of a lot of people on here - all the veris have had to be 'earned' if that makes sense.
On the other hand - I'm exactly the same person as I was when unverified - I knew I was genuine but was overlooked for meets by many as I didn't have that critical first verification. Many people genuinely won't people unless they're verified - and they can't get verified unless they meet people! A vicious cycle!
The standard solution is 'go to a club or a social' .. Well that's exactly what this is - a social but rather than a group social it's a face to face to face social. And sometimes it's that 'helping hand' that is needed to kickstart someone on here with that critical first veri.
So on one hand I can see that it might be deemed to be an 'easy' verification but on the other it's a generous gesture to offer a helping hand to get some guys 'off the mark' and up and running on the site
And with that : I've had brill socials with you both and keen for a repeat so hopefully pragmatic enough an answer ha x
Haha pragmatic to the last Dan
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"So as some will know, I put up a thread on here offering anyone who wanted to to come and meet me for a coffee and chat, and I would happily verify them. Well it was a success and I met 2 lovely gentlemen today who responded to my post
So I'm sure I will be doing this again when I next get a free day."Even if you only got a coffee out of it, still nice to meet someone new. | |||
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"So as some will know, I put up a thread on here offering anyone who wanted to to come and meet me for a coffee and chat, and I would happily verify them. Well it was a success and I met 2 lovely gentlemen today who responded to my post
So I'm sure I will be doing this again when I next get a free day.
Even if you only got a coffee out of it, still nice to meet someone new."It certainly is, all I offer on fab at the moment is coffee and friendly chat. I find it great and a fab way to meet people with similar interests | |||
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"Did they buy the coffee? I might offer my verification services if there's anyone along the M4 corridor that wants a social veri. I will say that the verification will simply state, guy is the person in his pictures and we met for a coffee only, no further action required." Hey teabags/seawitch I would love to meet you for a coffee some time. Let me know if your near Junctions 15-17 any time soon. | |||
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