FabSwingers.com forum: Why are some men selfish wankers

By *ral addict 13 OP Man
over a year ago

lincolnshire

I have shagged a few men in saunas, they approached me we had a bit fun, however once they had cum they where gone leaving me with a big hard erection.

No wonder women have issues with men, sex is mutual, not I'm done I'm off or rolling over, I always like to finish what I started and if that's eat pussy or suck cock til you cum then that's fine by me

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Well that's a different whinge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get um told... Selfish gits!!

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

"Well that's a different whinge

But a very valid one...good for you, OP, for highlighting the fuck 'n' go syndrome from a male perspective.

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By *iverscuMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

Lol! Wasnt expecting that.

Bloody good point tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have shagged a few men in saunas, they approached me we had a bit fun, however once they had cum they where gone leaving me with a big hard erection.

Fuck 'em.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Get them to suck you off first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sound like a woman grow some balls...oooops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have shagged a few men in saunas, they approached me we had a bit fun, however once they had cum they where gone leaving me with a big hard erection.

Fuck 'em."

Think he did ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol that's why you should always get yours 1st !!! At least that way you no your both leaving happy if you no your not selfish !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You sound like a woman grow some balls...oooops"

He has balls, he just needs to empty them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been but I've always asumed gay sauna's would be about getting satisfaction rather than quality sex. If my assumption is right maybe it's where you are meeting men thst is the issue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never been but I've always asumed gay sauna's would be about getting satisfaction rather than quality sex. If my assumption is right maybe it's where you are meeting men thst is the issue?"

Very good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"[Removed by poster at 01/04/16 15:23:40]"

Filthy beast!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant compare us all as they weren't straight tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 01/04/16 15:23:40]

Filthy beast!

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lol nothing filthy there

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"[Removed by poster at 01/04/16 15:23:40]

Filthy beast!

lol nothing filthy there

That's the point.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Filthy beast!

lol nothing filthy there

That's the point.....

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lol good one

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"I've never been but I've always asumed gay sauna's would be about getting satisfaction rather than quality sex. If my assumption is right maybe it's where you are meeting men thst is the issue?"

Saunas and the smaller number of gay sex venues are the equivalent of swingers clubs. One could chat, share a drink and shag, filtering your partners to those who best match up. Or get stuck in and see how it ends up. The seeming gentlemen may be worse than eager hot rod guys who could be ideal unselfish partners.

Are the guys online, like fabguys any better?

Meet at home, lock the door and use handcuffs may work for some as an approach.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I've never been but I've always asumed gay sauna's would be about getting satisfaction rather than quality sex. If my assumption is right maybe it's where you are meeting men thst is the issue?"
i was going to say that meeting guys in a gay sauna is hardly the place if your looking for mutual gratification get yourself on a one meet op

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Well that's a different whinge

But a very valid one...good for you, OP, for highlighting the fuck 'n' go syndrome from a male perspective"

But not a massive problem - go find another one

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Make sure you cum first.. job done

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By *ral addict 13 OP Man
over a year ago

lincolnshire

All you men that are slating me, are you selfish shaggers?

You read the profiles of single women where men have stalked them and hounded them because they have been told no. Just move on.

Makes all us singles guys sound like weirdos.

I'm here to give and receive sexual pleasure.

Maybe I'm supporting the women and seeing it from their prospective.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

All men are bastards

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

cum quicker

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By *ral addict 13 OP Man
over a year ago

lincolnshire

All I can say is this whinge has got my a very nice meet with an absolutely stunning lady. Looking forward to enjoying some time with her in May

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"All I can say is this whinge has got my a very nice meet with an absolutely stunning lady. Looking forward to enjoying some time with her in May

Hope she cums first

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Love how dismissive some of you are being. No honestly

When I started to play with blokes again after a 12 year hiatus, I'd forgot how selfish many can be.

Now, my house rule is I come first. I'm far more accommodating once my first one is out the way and care less if it's the only one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All men are bastards

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"All you men that are slating me, are you selfish shaggers?

You read the profiles of single women where men have stalked them and hounded them because they have been told no. Just move on.

Makes all us singles guys sound like weirdos.

I'm here to give and receive sexual pleasure.

Maybe I'm supporting the women and seeing it from their prospective."
the way i answered your post was because of your scenario. If you had posted "every time i have a private one to one meet with a guy" my answer would have been completly different. Ive never been to a gay sauna i dont have to ive spent my life hearing about what goes of there, there nototious for "straight" guys to just go wanting just their cocks sucked and to spunk, bit like going to an adult cinema and expecting guys to be there for more than there own sexual gratification

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

I struggle to understand yr expectations from a gay/bi sauna...guys cum, guys go ,guys hang around.Without any negotiations taking place,surely it is the norm to cum yr cocoa and bugger off...

Why not move on to the next guy and cum yrself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't wanking selfish by default?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if I am horny, I go to a sauna. I have little interest in ensuring we both have fun, I play in a group and I do my thing and then I leave.

I pay my entry, I bang out my frustrations and I go home happy

and I couldn't care less if I ever see them again or if they cum

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and very happy if he thinks I am a selfish wanker......

I've shot my load

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Get them to suck you off first.

Or give you a foot job

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By *winny445Man
over a year ago

battersea

lol not gay, but ive seen this at saunas, i notice there have been guys getting a woman and randomly, asking can another guy or guys come in(less pressure),

the unspoken rule is generally if 1-1 let her come 1st, if in a group setting get yours and let another guy do his thing,

the funniest thing ive seen was me n 2 guys and a sexy girl at rios, the asian giving a lady a good seeing too,she tells him shes gonna cum, he proceeds to slow down and kisses her for honestly about 10 minutes, at one point she opens her eyes and is looking at me and the other guy like

(mid kiss)

but most go to saunas to cum and be pleasured, ive even been told to eat a lady, she came over my face a few times and sent me out with a boner, i felt violated lol but it was sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and very happy if he thinks I am a selfish wanker......

I've shot my load

Exactly this .

It's common sense , and the op should simply see it for what it is .

There are plenty of scenarios like gangbangs , bukkake , greedy girl nights where it's all about the cum , and reciprocation isn't necessary .

Gay saunas come into this category too . A place where there is no judgement , no expectation and an opportunity to cum and go .

If you want to cum , then cum !

There are plenty of guys who love to please and those who love to be pleasured . Perhaps you are unsure where you sit , and your expectations are too high ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All you men that are slating me, are you selfish shaggers?

You read the profiles of single women where men have stalked them and hounded them because they have been told no. Just move on.

Makes all us singles guys sound like weirdos.

I'm here to give and receive sexual pleasure.

Maybe I'm supporting the women and seeing it from their prospective."

I didn't slate you (I can't see any slating you). I offered a theory, which others seem to agree with why this might be happening.

I fail to see how that makes me a selfish shagger. Or comparable to stalkers and weirdoes. Or incapable of showing empathy to women in a different scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find men are often selfish but I'm not orgasm driven so my cumming isn't that important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh come on now, behave. Get away with yourself lol!

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