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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I saw a thread on this the other day and am currently watching the 2nd episode. And to be honest I find it really patronising and not very true to life i am a mother of 2 children with autism my youngest is 7 and has asd and my eldest is 19 with aspergers. my youngest attends a specialist provision within a mainstream school and the way they just potrayed the school on the program was just awful! I'm aware that that no 2 autistic children are the same as the spectrum is so wide! but I just get really angry and upset when I see how ppl with autism and aspergers are portrayed on t.v!

The undateables is another show they never seem to show the positive sides of autism! And there are many positives my children are a joy and I wouldn't change them for the world! Just wondered how other parents or anyone who lives with someone who has autism feels about this?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I didn't find it very realistic. Only watched the birthday party scene in epi 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I saw a thread on this the other day and am currently watching the 2nd episode. And to be honest I find it really patronising and not very true to life i am a mother of 2 children with autism my youngest is 7 and has asd and my eldest is 19 with aspergers. my youngest attends a specialist provision within a mainstream school and the way they just potrayed the school on the program was just awful! I'm aware that that no 2 autistic children are the same as the spectrum is so wide! but I just get really angry and upset when I see how ppl with autism and aspergers are portrayed on t.v!

The undateables is another show they never seem to show the positive sides of autism! And there are many positives my children are a joy and I wouldn't change them for the world! Just wondered how other parents or anyone who lives with someone who has autism feels about this? "

I agree with you about some of the behaviours displayed by the little boy in this (who isn't autistic btw, he's an actor) such as in the birthday party scene where he throws himself on the floor! My son has ASD (predominantly Aspergers) and ADHD (he is 11 and was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 8 and ASD when he was 9) and he has never displayed behaviour like that...the ADHD makes him impulsive so he is more likely to run out into the road, rather than be excessively naughty...

I do think that some of it is spot on such as the diagnosis and how the family react as some of my family and friends still have no clue what it means to be the parent of someone with ASD, but that's down to ignorance .. my son is very bright, super intelligent, and very loving in an odd sort of way, he cant read social cues and always says what he thinks (which can often get me into trouble) but I wouldn't change him for anything

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think giving a general awareness to those who have no idea (like me) how it is to be around kids with autism even if they don't get it 100% correct is good though.

Maybe people will just stop and think 'oh maybe there's some other issue' rather than automatically assume it's a naughty child or poor parenting when faced with such a situation.

That has to be a good thing right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think giving a general awareness to those who have no idea (like me) how it is to be around kids with autism even if they don't get it 100% correct is good though.

Maybe people will just stop and think 'oh maybe there's some other issue' rather than automatically assume it's a naughty child or poor parenting when faced with such a situation.

That has to be a good thing right?

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yes I think so as that's sort of what led to my sons diagnosis...

someone had come to our house to fix something and my son was all over him like a rash, asking questions about how things worked etc but also bouncing around with limitless energy! the man said he had a nephew with similar traits who had ADHD....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X "

but as you say, everyone's road to diagnosis is different...it also helped for me that my son went to an inclusive school so his teachers were aware that he was displaying certain behaviours that are linked with ADHD...in total his diagnosis took about 8 months but then he was reassessed for ASD which took another year..

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

What is realistic in the programme is that many children/people with ASD don't get invited to social gatherings, like birthday parties - may be due to ignorance. At least it's not like 'Rainman', portrayed as a comedy where people were laughing in the cinema at Dustin Hoffman's portrayal of the behaviours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought although unrealistic getting diagnosed so quick. It would have dragged out too long showing how long that stage is in a show like this. The autistic spectrum is so big so they can't show everything. I think it's good to make people aware of autism and how it can affect family's. Would be good to see at aged teenager then as a adult too. If more people learn from the programme it can only be a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did anybody listen to 5live today its was very good.i admire parents with children who suffer from aspergers or autism it was an eye opener...big kiss from rossi46

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did anybody listen to 5live today its was very good.i admire parents with children who suffer from aspergers or autism it was an eye opener...big kiss from rossi46"

Thankyou

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X "

What are the positives of a person with these conditions?

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By *ustanhonestblokeMan
over a year ago

northampton


"Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X "

They always show the negative side to get people's attention. If they show the good points people would think that it's not a problem. You know better than anyone the problems that come with this illness. Take care x

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

id give anything for my 29 year old daughter NOT to have Aspergers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There were parts of it that I could relate to, like the not being invited to parties, that is my two so much and it does break my heart that parents feel the need to exclude them, still my boys never seem at all bothered by it, only me!!

The diagnosis scenes were not really realistic in terms of 'time' they seemed to get it within a week, they didn't touch on why he was already 'in the system' or very briefly or if they did mention it, why were the parents so unbelieving of the diagnosis if they were already known to the doctors? The time frame was all wrong, it would have been nice to see a realistic time frame (3 years for us)

Still it does bring awareness to autism, however small, people that doing not have contact with children with asd, some may be more inclined to thing 'maybe they aren't just naughty and are refusing to walk on the shiny floor for a reason'

G x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X

What are the positives of a person with these conditions?"

My daughter is extremely bright she is currently at university although she still lives with me as her anxieties prevented her moving away! She is loving and although she may be blunt or straight to the point she never lies and she is very much aware of her aspergers and has tries her best to understand social cues and everyone who meets her says how funny she is! she has a unique sense of style and looks amazing always..My son who is 7 is one of the most loving children ever! He is polite and caring and yes he goes on about subjects to death and there's a lot of repition in our house! Neither of them have a wide range of friends and most of the friends they do have tend to be on the spectrum as they have lots in common! But they are both happy and that makes me happy so that alone is a massive positive! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"id give anything for my 29 year old daughter NOT to have Aspergers"

I feel like that at times but my daughter is who she is and a lot of that is down to the aspergers. Like I said every child is different and above I posted some positives because the person asked but there is still the anxiety literal thinking the lack of confidence etc..she is not like most 19 yr olds as in friends etc but she has a couple of really close friends and I just try my best to help her as much as possible! it's very hard we have been through a lot and continue too but it's all I can do but I understand how you feel x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did anybody listen to 5live today its was very good.i admire parents with children who suffer from aspergers or autism it was an eye opener...big kiss from rossi46"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son is 4 and hasn't been diagnosed with anything, but I've known since he was little that he's different. But as always you are told to wait for them to start school before anything can happen.

He started in Sept and by Jan they realised too, so the ball has started rolling. I have to wait until July to see a pediatrician and then go from there.

So while yes the time frame is a little exaggerated, I don't think the shows aim is about the time frame, more about making awareness. My son will throw himself on the floor over certain situations and I have to go and get him. He's viewed as the naughty child so doesn't get invited to parties. The only thing I don't think he does is isolate himself in school, he will play with others (as far as I'm aware) but struggles with the social side of understanding the other children's feelings. But like stated, not all are the same.

So yes many things are portrayed differently in the show, but it's about making awareness, they never get everything spot on and I'm pretty sure they've received complaints too. A shame when it could be something positive for a change, rather than rubbish like towie, Geordie shore etc

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We related to quite a lot of the programme, yes the diagnosis was quick and unrealistic but it's a drama. Our son was diagnosed through the American system and upon returning to the UK had to start all over again with a British system who just didn't want to accept it for some reason.

He is 19 now and yes there has been laughter and tears along the way but we wouldn't change him. He has learnt to manage his Autism as I suspect most young adult with ASD.

The best advice we ever got was from another couple who said every child is different there is no such this as Asperger etc only Thomas disorder or Jack disorder, insert the name of your child. The treatment/management will be different for all, what worked for us might not work for others.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X

What are the positives of a person with these conditions?

My daughter is extremely bright she is currently at university although she still lives with me as her anxieties prevented her moving away! She is loving and although she may be blunt or straight to the point she never lies and she is very much aware of her aspergers and has tries her best to understand social cues and everyone who meets her says how funny she is! she has a unique sense of style and looks amazing always..My son who is 7 is one of the most loving children ever! He is polite and caring and yes he goes on about subjects to death and there's a lot of repition in our house! Neither of them have a wide range of friends and most of the friends they do have tend to be on the spectrum as they have lots in common! But they are both happy and that makes me happy so that alone is a massive positive! X "

I am happy for you and your children

What I meant was, is their a positive element to Aspergers? E.g. scientifically proven higher IQ, better at mathematics, etc

Most of what you have described is what most parents say about their children who do not have Aspergers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My stepson will be 28 in a few days and I think they based the book on aspergers on him.

He was 13 when I met him and undiagnosed. It's a long story, as I figure many are, but he was finally diagnosed at 19 and that was it.

Knowing why he behaves the way he does. The ticks. Tantrums. The way he looks at someone new as if he wants to kill them. Hating change. Etc....... It has helped me and my wife to understand him and how to deal with him in a way that Has helped him grow.

As a light at the end of the tunnel folks; he completed on his first home a week ago. He's working with me replacing ceilings and taking down walls at the mo.

Under his breath he keeps saying "I love my house. I love my house".

I've never seen him so engaged and happy.

I've just welled up typing those last two sentences

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To answer the op; I hate programs like that. They just seem to be 'look at the freak' shows. They do nothing to increase awareness in a positive light in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X

What are the positives of a person with these conditions?

My daughter is extremely bright she is currently at university although she still lives with me as her anxieties prevented her moving away! She is loving and although she may be blunt or straight to the point she never lies and she is very much aware of her aspergers and has tries her best to understand social cues and everyone who meets her says how funny she is! she has a unique sense of style and looks amazing always..My son who is 7 is one of the most loving children ever! He is polite and caring and yes he goes on about subjects to death and there's a lot of repition in our house! Neither of them have a wide range of friends and most of the friends they do have tend to be on the spectrum as they have lots in common! But they are both happy and that makes me happy so that alone is a massive positive! X

I am happy for you and your children

What I meant was, is their a positive element to Aspergers? E.g. scientifically proven higher IQ, better at mathematics, etc

Most of what you have described is what most parents say about their children who do not have Aspergers"

There is currently a programme on called employable me about adults with disabilities such as aspergers and Tourette's who have never worked and they have had IQ tests which shows them to be in the top 1% of people with high IQs...my son, who is 11 already has a reading age of 15, he is the go to boy at school for teachers with IT problems, he has been described as a maths whizz and his grammar far exceeds that of most adults I know!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"What I meant was, is their a positive element to Aspergers? E.g. scientifically proven higher IQ, better at mathematics, etc

Most of what you have described is what most parents say about their children who do not have Aspergers"

Rainman has a lot to answer for, children with ASD are more often than not no different intelligence wise to those without a diagnoses, some are brighter than other. In our experience once our son became interested in something he became fixated on it therefore becoming an expert, do I really need to know the inside leg measurement for a WWE wrestler or the stats for Steven Curry debut in the NBA!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X

What are the positives of a person with these conditions?

My daughter is extremely bright she is currently at university although she still lives with me as her anxieties prevented her moving away! She is loving and although she may be blunt or straight to the point she never lies and she is very much aware of her aspergers and has tries her best to understand social cues and everyone who meets her says how funny she is! she has a unique sense of style and looks amazing always..My son who is 7 is one of the most loving children ever! He is polite and caring and yes he goes on about subjects to death and there's a lot of repition in our house! Neither of them have a wide range of friends and most of the friends they do have tend to be on the spectrum as they have lots in common! But they are both happy and that makes me happy so that alone is a massive positive! X

I am happy for you and your children

What I meant was, is their a positive element to Aspergers? E.g. scientifically proven higher IQ, better at mathematics, etc

Most of what you have described is what most parents say about their children who do not have Aspergers

There is currently a programme on called employable me about adults with disabilities such as aspergers and Tourette's who have never worked and they have had IQ tests which shows them to be in the top 1% of people with high IQs...my son, who is 11 already has a reading age of 15, he is the go to boy at school for teachers with IT problems, he has been described as a maths whizz and his grammar far exceeds that of most adults I know! "

Now that would be the positives of Aspergers which the programme makers could have showcased. Not that anyone would wish for their child to have Aspergers but where they do, these other qualities can be promoted

Well done to you for raising children in conditions which may at times must have been very difficult for you; xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I meant was, is their a positive element to Aspergers? E.g. scientifically proven higher IQ, better at mathematics, etc

Most of what you have described is what most parents say about their children who do not have Aspergers

Rainman has a lot to answer for, children with ASD are more often than not no different intelligence wise to those without a diagnoses, some are brighter than other. In our experience once our son became interested in something he became fixated on it therefore becoming an expert, do I really need to know the inside leg measurement for a WWE wrestler or the stats for Steven Curry debut in the NBA!"

I inadvertently know about the names and stats of every Pokemon out there... And there are a lot of them!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X

What are the positives of a person with these conditions?

My daughter is extremely bright she is currently at university although she still lives with me as her anxieties prevented her moving away! She is loving and although she may be blunt or straight to the point she never lies and she is very much aware of her aspergers and has tries her best to understand social cues and everyone who meets her says how funny she is! she has a unique sense of style and looks amazing always..My son who is 7 is one of the most loving children ever! He is polite and caring and yes he goes on about subjects to death and there's a lot of repition in our house! Neither of them have a wide range of friends and most of the friends they do have tend to be on the spectrum as they have lots in common! But they are both happy and that makes me happy so that alone is a massive positive! X

I am happy for you and your children

What I meant was, is their a positive element to Aspergers? E.g. scientifically proven higher IQ, better at mathematics, etc

Most of what you have described is what most parents say about their children who do not have Aspergers"

Exactly so to have a child with autism and still be able to say them things is a very strong positive! And if you have never lived with a child with autism it's not something I can explain. Mr daughter left school with all As and A* but again not every autistic child will! I wasn't here to prove that anything that was scientifically proven I posted about a topic that it close to my heart and how autism affects me and my children. And that I didn't like the t.v program but agree any awareness about anything people don't know much about is a good thing! I'm aware everyone has there opinions and when posting on a forum you wil get different ones but like I said this is my view and my children and as my youngest attends a school with other children with autism this is also the opinion of a lot of the other parents as well. Maybe I should have don't a snog kiss or Fuck thread?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I meant was, is their a positive element to Aspergers? E.g. scientifically proven higher IQ, better at mathematics, etc

Most of what you have described is what most parents say about their children who do not have Aspergers

Rainman has a lot to answer for, children with ASD are more often than not no different intelligence wise to those without a diagnoses, some are brighter than other. In our experience once our son became interested in something he became fixated on it therefore becoming an expert, do I really need to know the inside leg measurement for a WWE wrestler or the stats for Steven Curry debut in the NBA!

I inadvertently know about the names and stats of every Pokemon out there... And there are a lot of them!! "

Omg my daughter used to be mad on them but we are currently on dinosaurs with my son and his favourite period is the cretacious period! Haha considering he didn't say a word till he was 3 he is making up for it now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Plus most People with aspergers biggest struggle is with the social sides of things and this can cause them to be very isolated! So having a child with it that is loving and copes well with social interaction I'd going to benefit here more than having a high IQ!

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By *ustanhonestblokeMan
over a year ago

northampton


"Plus most People with aspergers biggest struggle is with the social sides of things and this can cause them to be very isolated! So having a child with it that is loving and copes well with social interaction I'd going to benefit here more than having a high IQ!"

They seem to think my granddaughter may have aspergers. She was born at 26 weeks and only weighed .520 kilos. She is 22 months now . Would love to talk to you over a coffee sometime. This isn't a chat up line. You know me better. I have pics to back this up. Just nice to talk to someone not so connected to her but more with aspergers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plus most People with aspergers biggest struggle is with the social sides of things and this can cause them to be very isolated! So having a child with it that is loving and copes well with social interaction I'd going to benefit here more than having a high IQ!"

exactly so....although everyone knows my son is a maths whizz..he himself does not see it that way. In fact he calls himself a dunce and is full of self doubt and no amount of praising from me will ever make him think any differently about himself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Plus most People with aspergers biggest struggle is with the social sides of things and this can cause them to be very isolated! So having a child with it that is loving and copes well with social interaction I'd going to benefit here more than having a high IQ!

exactly so....although everyone knows my son is a maths whizz..he himself does not see it that way. In fact he calls himself a dunce and is full of self doubt and no amount of praising from me will ever make him think any differently about himself. "

My daughter is the same her artwork is amazing but she won't see it and it breaks my heart but like I said I just try my best and do what I can! She sees a therapist to help with her lack of self esteem so there are downsides but I'm not out to prove the positives to people!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't think I like the Mum very much.

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

There a guy who's currently in Holby who plays the nephew of one of the consultants. He is a legitimate actor and also has aspergers and I think ADHD...as does the character he's playing.

I occasionally meet with a guy who has the same mix of aspergers and ADHD. His talents are numbers and patterns, he struggles with the social side and wasn't diagnosed until he was an adult which made things especially difficult for him. He works as a self-employed builder and can give the quickest quote ever, doing all the maths in his head in an instant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I like the Mum very much. "

I had a very strong urge to give her a slap!

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I've just finished watching the latest episode and I have to say that I want to rip her head off and shove it right up her arse!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just finished watching the latest episode and I have to say that I want to rip her head off and shove it right up her arse!!!"

you and me both! I was shouting 'you insensitive bitch!' at the telly at one point!!

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I've just finished watching the latest episode and I have to say that I want to rip her head off and shove it right up her arse!!!

you and me both! I was shouting 'you insensitive bitch!' at the telly at one point!! "

It's not often that a character makes me feel so angry but she just pushes my buttons!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just finished watching the latest episode and I have to say that I want to rip her head off and shove it right up her arse!!!

you and me both! I was shouting 'you insensitive bitch!' at the telly at one point!!

It's not often that a character makes me feel so angry but she just pushes my buttons! "

I just have no empathy with her, as my route to my sons ASD was a totally different one...

whereas she obviously has no clue it was actually me who persuaded my sons consultant (he had already been diagnosed with ADHD and was on medication for that) to have him reassessed...

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I've just finished watching the latest episode and I have to say that I want to rip her head off and shove it right up her arse!!!

you and me both! I was shouting 'you insensitive bitch!' at the telly at one point!!

It's not often that a character makes me feel so angry but she just pushes my buttons!

I just have no empathy with her, as my route to my sons ASD was a totally different one...

whereas she obviously has no clue it was actually me who persuaded my sons consultant (he had already been diagnosed with ADHD and was on medication for that) to have him reassessed..."

I just find her to be totally selfish and wrapped up in what she wants as opposed to what her son needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite enjoying it, I think its more about the relationships between the other family members rather than the fact that Joe has autism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just finished watching the latest episode and I have to say that I want to rip her head off and shove it right up her arse!!!

you and me both! I was shouting 'you insensitive bitch!' at the telly at one point!!

It's not often that a character makes me feel so angry but she just pushes my buttons!

I just have no empathy with her, as my route to my sons ASD was a totally different one...

whereas she obviously has no clue it was actually me who persuaded my sons consultant (he had already been diagnosed with ADHD and was on medication for that) to have him reassessed...

I just find her to be totally selfish and wrapped up in what she wants as opposed to what her son needs."

I just read it that she doesn't understand her sons needs as yet, there is a lot to learn and it does make a change seeing a programme where the older sibling and the dad seem to get it more than the mum. Not every parent is perfect or gets it right straight off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well I don't know why but its just been announced that a new series of this has been commissioned!

it was on my NAS feed on FB this morning and the reaction was pretty much what has been seen on here...

hopefully in the next series they will take into account some of the gripes about the totally unempathetic mother!

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over a year ago


"well I don't know why but its just been announced that a new series of this has been commissioned!

it was on my NAS feed on FB this morning and the reaction was pretty much what has been seen on here...

hopefully in the next series they will take into account some of the gripes about the totally unempathetic mother!"

Brilliant news!! It was a great series.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Did anyone watch the programme about job seekers. Over two of the weeks it included a couple of men with aspergers .... and it showed their very positive traits. One of the men landed a brilliant job in the city. It also showed discrimination and how they needed to sell their good qualities (in terms of employability on job applications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well I don't know why but its just been announced that a new series of this has been commissioned!

it was on my NAS feed on FB this morning and the reaction was pretty much what has been seen on here...

hopefully in the next series they will take into account some of the gripes about the totally unempathetic mother!"

Yay! And doesn't anyone else think the mum has aspie traits and maybe that's why she is struggling to handle it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually quite enjoyed the A word ...and just noticed someone mention another series coming out .... look forward to watching it

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"Anything that makes people aware of autism is a good thing I just wish there were more positive things! I definitely think the way they portrayed the family's reaction was spot on its hard for everyone involved. But the way he got his diagnosis is very unrealistic especially for a child so young! It took months and months of seeing a variety of different people from speech therapist OTs before we was finally sent for a two day assessment and then the ball ache of applying for DLA and tryin to get a statement which was 2 years it's a hard battle! Especially for single parents or parents on a low income or with a big family! It's not an easy ride! But again anything to do with autism and aspergers is a good thing but personally I'd like to see some more positive things on tv about it! X

What are the positives of a person with these conditions?"

My eldest son is 15 and has Aspergers. He's extremely focused and motivated now he's found his passion. And it's serving him well. He is inspiring many people with his work now and I've no doubt destined for big things. He's got an unconditional for college and has thankfully now left school. Sadly school wasn't a good experience for him given his difficulties reading social cues and managing and navigating friendships and even the boundaries with teachers. Some of whom still very ignorant about how he sees the world

There are many positives for him. Although we can relate to some of the things others have mentioned.

There have been some very difficult times and many challenges. The diagnosis took 4 years. There will be more challenges to come no doubt. I wouldn't change him for the world and I wouldn't say he 'suffers' I think in some ways it's actually helped him.

However everyone on the spectrum is so different. ASD is so broad. My son has his version. Others have theirs and all unique

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


" my children are a joy and I wouldn't change them for the world!"

I'm sorry but knowing the limitations that even the mildest Autism can place on a person's life, I don't believe anyone truly believe this.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's such a weird question - asking what the positives of autism are. It's like asking what the positives of being neurotypical (not autistic) are!

Everyone is different. No two people are the same, we all have different personalities and characteristics.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If there was an option to "Cure their child's Autism", I can't believe that any parent wouldn't take it.

Cal

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


" my children are a joy and I wouldn't change them for the world!

I'm sorry but knowing the limitations that even the mildest Autism can place on a person's life, I don't believe anyone truly believe this.

Cal "

My friends son is non verbal and can't go to a mainstream school. He's 11 and one of the most amazing people I've ever known. Yes his life is difficult for them but he is truly special and I know for sure she wouldn't ever change him.

We would all far rather change the ignorance of the world for them. Our boys are different but in no way less than anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If there was an option to "Cure their child's Autism", I can't believe that any parent wouldn't take it.

Cal"

No I wouldn't. And a lot of autistic people find this view incredibly offensive! I find it very offensive. Autism isn't a mental illness. It's a different processing system in the brain. It's not bad, just different.

What I, and a lot of autistic people and families would change is "other people's attitudes".

I don't want any child with autism growing up thinking there's something "wrong" with them.

People with autism are generally very content with themselves (as content as any neurotypical person is) until neurotypical people come along and point out their differences all the time.

The only problem about autism is "other people".

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