FabSwingers.com forum: A little bit scared to sleep

By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I haven't slept well recently as I'm a little bit scared I will have my nightmare again.

Any suggestions to banish the nightmare?

I squirt lavender to help me get off to sleep.

Do you have a recurrent nightmare?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about reading something happy before you go to bed?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I haven't slept well recently as I'm a little bit scared I will have my nightmare again.

Any suggestions to banish the nightmare?

I squirt lavender to help me get off to sleep.

Do you have a recurrent nightmare?

Is it Ace Winger?

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

Does lavender mind being squirted on ????

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yes. I started having phases of recurrent nightmares and night sweats around last April and they're still happening.

I haven't found a way to deal with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found lavender made my night terrors worse far more vivid for some reason X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a reason behind your nightmare?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yes but I've not had it for a long time.

Weirdly I had a conversation with my Dad about it and when I described it, he told me that his recurrent nightmare was stupidly similar.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I kept on having a dream that I was shot in the head by the mafia...seriously what the fuck is that all about

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

I leave the light all night and wear headphones plugged into my battery radio which I leave on softly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe have a nice long soak, listen to some calming music or an audio book, a tip I see a while ago was to write your worries away. Make notes of what's going around in your head which in turn may release them from your thoughts and if your still worrying about things don't just lie there, get up for a little and try again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't slept well recently as I'm a little bit scared I will have my nightmare again.

Any suggestions to banish the nightmare?

I squirt lavender to help me get off to sleep.

Do you have a recurrent nightmare?

Have you tried a nice relaxing hot soak in the tub, then climbing into a freshly made bed with fresh linen. Try and kill the amount of electronic devices you use about an hour before you go to bed, and well, I light a candle (bit daft, but I am a bit daft).

Give you mind a chance to rest before you try and put it into sleep mode, avoid alcohol (I know, thats a bitch) and perhaps listen to some music?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

soft meditation type music on in the background - helps stop you going to sleep with the nightmare thoughts in your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe have a nice long soak, listen to some calming music or an audio book, a tip I see a while ago was to write your worries away. Make notes of what's going around in your head which in turn may release them from your thoughts and if your still worrying about things don't just lie there, get up for a little and try again."

Sorry chap, yours appeared as I was typing

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I leave the light all night and wear headphones plugged into my battery radio which I leave on softly. "

I sleep with the light on, the dark freaks me out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always told to write your worries and fears down on some paper and place the paper outside the bedroom door

Never did it so not sure if it works or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry chap, yours appeared as I was typing

Don't be daft, hopefully everyone's input will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On youtube look up delta wave relaxation music helps the brain chill out before sleep

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By *arksMan
over a year ago

in the centre

"I kept on having a dream that I was shot in the head by the mafia...seriously what the fuck is that all about

Did you rat on Big Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can fall back into the same vivid dream and continue where i left off just like an add break

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

sounds daft but are you drinking enough? my mum was getting bad dreams and turned out she was taking duiretics which made her dehydrated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have bad dreams after taking co-codemol fuckin freaky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have night terrors but I do have very poor sleep patterns...

if it gets too bad I take 1 sleeping tablet (from boots, over the counter) as 1 good nights sleep in about 8 is par for the course for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One dream I did have in my younger years was Amanda's Holden sucking my cock on a train. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any of you sufferers looked at dream interpretation?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Maybe consider trying hypnotherapy? A CD might help with relaxation (as in aidio, not the person!).

Warm milk can help. Do try to avoid tea & coffee for at least a couple of hours before bed.

If this is a recurring nightmare, I wonder if you have a worry or problem that is thus far unresolved? Dreams are your brain filing away bits of information it has encountered recently. Maybe your nightmare is your brain trying unsucessfuly file something. Take care, Lisa xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently bad dreams is the sub conscious trying to reconcile something while the conscious is offline

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I have bad dreams after taking co-codemol fuckin freaky"

Tramadol is a step up believe you me my friend. I'm on a different planet sometimes

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

If you're on any medication, find out if nightmares/vivid dreams are one of the side effects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having trouble to but wedding plans just go round and round in my head instead of nightmares.. but it's starting to feel like one big nightmare

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By *iss AdventureWoman
over a year ago

Wonderland

Years ago I used to have regular violent nightmares and at the time it was compulsory for us to see the work shrink every three months and I spoke to her about it. She advised I needed to exercise a different part of my brain before sleeping and suggested a simple game so I played Tetris and other similar games (I would usually fall asleep with my phone in my hand) and it worked from the first night I tried it.

Over the years I've used other techniques, including some wonderful relaxation and mindfulness meditations (I was the kind of person to dismiss them before I tried them, but now I use them just cause it's relaxing) and now I listen to something from the dramas selection on iPlayer radio whilst im going to sleep, I never get very far into anything though, I always fall asleep to fast.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"How about reading something happy before you go to bed?"

That's where I've been going wrong. I've been reading the forum the last few nights.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I found lavender made my night terrors worse far more vivid for some reason X

That's interesting. Lavender has always taken me to a calm space but perhaps it is heightening the terror.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

" Is there a reason behind your nightmare?"

Probably. As a bonkers person there may be many.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I can fall back into the same vivid dream and continue where i left off just like an add break"

That happens too.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"sounds daft but are you drinking enough? my mum was getting bad dreams and turned out she was taking duiretics which made her dehydrated"

I will be increasing my water intake over the next 3 days anyway so I'll see if that helps.

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By *iss AdventureWoman
over a year ago

Wonderland

"I found lavender made my night terrors worse far more vivid for some reason X

That's interesting. Lavender has always taken me to a calm space but perhaps it is heightening the terror.

Have you tried Bachs Rescue Remedy? You can mix a few drops in water or just squirt a drop under your tongue and it actually tastes really nice but I've found it works when I've needed it.

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

"I have bad dreams after taking co-codemol fuckin freaky

Tramadol is a step up believe you me my friend. I'm on a different planet sometimes

I can't take Tramadol - I feel like I've levitated above the bed with my nose touching the ceiling & slept with my eyes open!!! Nasty stuff!!

I find Kalms night can help or an anti-histamine (my GP prescribed sleeping pills but they are really an a-h!) If really bad I use the hypnotherapy cd from when I was pregnant - never have heard it all

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I found lavender made my night terrors worse far more vivid for some reason X

That's interesting. Lavender has always taken me to a calm space but perhaps it is heightening the terror.

Is "Terror" just a reccuring dream that makes you wake up in a cold sweat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about reading something happy before you go to bed?

That's where I've been going wrong. I've been reading the forum the last few nights.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes, and its terrifying but i did some phsycology on myself found out its route cause and dried to address it. Still get it sonetimes but im more in control of how i let it affect me. Chlorpromazine has to be the worst thing to give you nightmares

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

Are you having nightmares or night terrors?

I had a stressful period at work a few years ago and experienced night terrors for a few weeks. They were extremely frightening. I had to learn to properly relax and let go of the stress for them to go away.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I found lavender made my night terrors worse far more vivid for some reason X

That's interesting. Lavender has always taken me to a calm space but perhaps it is heightening the terror.

Is "Terror" just a reccuring dream that makes you wake up in a cold sweat?"

I can't see what the terror is. I just know I feel that I am in danger or about to be attacked. I try to scream and find that no sound comes out and I can't let anyone know I am in danger (it's such a cliche I'm a little embarrassed about it). Anyhoo, then the silent scream is stealing my breath and I feel like I am asphyxiating. That's usually when I wake up, although sometimes it has been waking up in the dream and I'm still asleep and dreaming.

All very obvious but nothing has been working so far.

I've got a few days off so I'm going to take a sleeping tablet tonight and see if that helps to re-set my head.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Are you having nightmares or night terrors?

Work has been stressful but nothing I can't deal with, and nothing compared to some of the work stress I have had in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Havent had any in a long time.i used to have quite lucid ones but just got up for a bit after xx

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

"I found lavender made my night terrors worse far more vivid for some reason X

That's interesting. Lavender has always taken me to a calm space but perhaps it is heightening the terror.

Is "Terror" just a reccuring dream that makes you wake up in a cold sweat?

All very obvious but nothing has been working so far.

I've got a few days off so I'm going to take a sleeping tablet tonight and see if that helps to re-set my head.

For me I felt like I was being suffocated, it felt real, I would suddenly 'wakeup' and jump upright in bed from fright and I still couldn't breathe, only after 10 or 20 seconds I could gasp for breath - I thought I was dying.

It was exceptionally frightening.

When I went to the doctor he put it to me that I wasn't actually waking up, instead having night terrors, that what I was experiencing wasn't actually real, and I was still asleep. I'd never heard of night terrors before.

So I just tried being mindful that stress was causing the terrors, that's when I took up pilates and started to let go of any stress that was beyond my control.

I know that's not specific about doing such and such, but going to bed more relaxed than I had been was key. I've not had night terrors since.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I found lavender made my night terrors worse far more vivid for some reason X

That's interesting. Lavender has always taken me to a calm space but perhaps it is heightening the terror.

Is "Terror" just a reccuring dream that makes you wake up in a cold sweat?

All very obvious but nothing has been working so far.

I've got a few days off so I'm going to take a sleeping tablet tonight and see if that helps to re-set my head.

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the one i have is a dream inside another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Millions of people suffer from a terrifying sleep disorder called sleep paralysis, which causes you to partially wake up during a dream, while your body is still ‘asleep’.

It’s also dubbed Old Hag syndrome — because, according to folklore, an old hag would sit on a sleeper’s chest, causing shortness of breath and an inability to move, sending nightmares to him or her.

It is estimated up to 60?per cent of us will experience sleep paralysis at least once, with 5?per cent suffering from repeated episodes, often nightly, for six months or even longer.

Not only is the condition extremely disturbing, it can rob people of their sleep, causing exhaustion and concentration problems.

‘Sleep paralysis occurs during rapid eye movement (REM) sleep or dream sleep,’ says sleep expert Dr Neil Stanley.

During a period of REM sleep, which lasts for around five to 15 minutes and is repeated roughly every 90 minutes throughout the night, the brain turns off most of the body’s muscle function, temporarily paralysing you so you cannot act out a dream, he explains.

‘In sleep paralysis, the person wakes up but the transition between sleep and waking up fully isn’t as smooth as it should be.

'They begin to wake up and may sometimes even be able to partially open their eyes, but find themselves unable to move.

'At the same time they are still dreaming.

‘The paralysis only lasts for a few seconds or minutes but can be terrifying because the victim may experience vivid hallucinations.’

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2181274/Waking-nightmares-Heart-pounding-Frozen-fear-Unable-scream-The-little-known-condition-millions-suffering-from.html#ixzz44W2SXp8x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd switch your lavender scent to vanilla. It helps the mind relax and isn't always as harsh as lavender can be.

We found it works for J when he goes through bad spells of not sleeping. Night lights are always good too.

Hope you manage to get some proper sleep soon chick. Xx

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Millions of people suffer from a terrifying sleep disorder called sleep paralysis, which causes you to partially wake up during a dream, while your body is still ‘asleep’.

It is estimated up to 60?per cent of us will experience sleep paralysis at least once, with 5?per cent suffering from repeated episodes, often nightly, for six months or even longer.

Not only is the condition extremely disturbing, it can rob people of their sleep, causing exhaustion and concentration problems.

‘Sleep paralysis occurs during rapid eye movement (REM) sleep or dream sleep,’ says sleep expert Dr Neil Stanley.

‘In sleep paralysis, the person wakes up but the transition between sleep and waking up fully isn’t as smooth as it should be.

'They begin to wake up and may sometimes even be able to partially open their eyes, but find themselves unable to move.

'At the same time they are still dreaming.

‘The paralysis only lasts for a few seconds or minutes but can be terrifying because the victim may experience vivid hallucinations.’

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2181274/Waking-nightmares-Heart-pounding-Frozen-fear-Unable-scream-The-little-known-condition-millions-suffering-from.html#ixzz44W2SXp8x

Thank you.

I'm an old hag with an old hag syndrome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Millions of people suffer from a terrifying sleep disorder called sleep paralysis, which causes you to partially wake up during a dream, while your body is still ‘asleep’.

It is estimated up to 60?per cent of us will experience sleep paralysis at least once, with 5?per cent suffering from repeated episodes, often nightly, for six months or even longer.

Not only is the condition extremely disturbing, it can rob people of their sleep, causing exhaustion and concentration problems.

‘Sleep paralysis occurs during rapid eye movement (REM) sleep or dream sleep,’ says sleep expert Dr Neil Stanley.

‘In sleep paralysis, the person wakes up but the transition between sleep and waking up fully isn’t as smooth as it should be.

'They begin to wake up and may sometimes even be able to partially open their eyes, but find themselves unable to move.

'At the same time they are still dreaming.

‘The paralysis only lasts for a few seconds or minutes but can be terrifying because the victim may experience vivid hallucinations.’

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2181274/Waking-nightmares-Heart-pounding-Frozen-fear-Unable-scream-The-little-known-condition-millions-suffering-from.html#ixzz44W2SXp8x

Thank you.

I'm an old hag with an old hag syndrome.

The old crone is a symbol of sagacity so not all bad

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'm an old hag with an old hag syndrome.

The old crone is a symbol of sagacity so not all bad

Now you're calling me saggy.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Look into crystals. There are stones for all kinds of problems.

It seems a bit hippy-trippy but I've found that they work.

My niece was plagued by nightmares and I got her to choose a crystal, purify it and put it in her pillow case. The nightmares left

You have to choose your own crystal though.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Look into crystals. There are stones for all kinds of problems.

It seems a bit hippy-trippy but I've found that they work.

My niece was plagued by nightmares and I got her to choose a crystal, purify it and put it in her pillow case. The nightmares left

You have to choose your own crystal though."

I have crystals - just to look pretty in a bowl. I'll see if one calls to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from night terrors, which aren't so bad now I've moved out of my old house but I still wake up on my own sometimes screaming, funnily enough I've never done with with ads, I obviously feel safe with him.

Normally happens about two hours in, I can't recall them and sometimes it got so bad I actually get out of bed, sometimes I was just obnoxious to my ex, other times loving and one time I honestly thought he was trying to kill me and I fell down the stair and now I have a lovely scar for my troubles.

Horrible!!

G x

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Try listening to some classical music with your eyes closed before bed,and no computers or phones for one hour before sleep

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have been waking up recently crying as I dreamt my parents have died...weird but I think it's more to do with my current situation with my job being so up in the air...not nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went through this in my early twenties, disrupted my sleeping pattern for months, to the point where I couldn't function while I was awake. With help from my better half, I found the energy to exercise myself to the point of exhaustion for a few days straight. Cured my night terrors and reset my biological clock.

Couldn't have found the energy or motivation to have done it without help and encouragement though.

Hope my experience helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this for months mine is down to stress or if I'm worried.

I saw my GP last year as was only managing to get a couple of hours most nights and would have the same dream over and over in the same night.

I got some strong sleeping tablets for two weeks which knocked me out then a lower dose for when I felt I couldn't nod off. They worked a treat and still do I take one every couple of weeks now.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've had some on and off but my recurrent dreams of late are all vivid and positive.

I do lots of yoga and it's now easy from the habituation to slip quickly into a relaxed state of mind when I need to. Practice relaxation before sleep and also imagine yourself relaxing, should you have woken up from your nightmare.

And get off the tech late at night as the lightwsves are not conducive to restful sleep maintenance.

Hope you have a good refreshing sleep. Night xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Look into crystals. There are stones for all kinds of problems.

It seems a bit hippy-trippy but I've found that they work.

My niece was plagued by nightmares and I got her to choose a crystal, purify it and put it in her pillow case. The nightmares left

You have to choose your own crystal though.

I have crystals - just to look pretty in a bowl. I'll see if one calls to me.

Or Google which are the best ones for nightmares and choose one of them. But cleanse it properly with seawater or salt water and moonlight

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"And get off the tech late at night as the lightwsves are not conducive to restful sleep maintenance."

Very true

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"the one i have is a dream inside another."

Typical woman, multitasking as usual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had sleep paralysis quite a lot of times, not had it in years thank god! nothing scarier than waking up not being able to move or scream

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I didn't sleep through but I didn't have the dream so that's progress.

I hope the rest of you slept well.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Glad you had some rest and didn't get the dream

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Glad you had some rest and didn't get the dream

Thank you.

And thanks to you all for your messages here and through PM.

One has led me to consider whether it is coming back here and getting back out there and onto the swings that is causing it. I'll test that to the max this weekend.

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

I blame the drugs ,,,, I was on quite a cocktail of drugs a couple of months ago after a hip replacement ,,,,,, messed around with my bladder as well , one night I woke up and thought bugger I need the loo which is downstairs in our cottage ,so shuffled across the bedroom , it was a moonlit night so didn't put the lights on , opened bedroom door and started one step at a time walking down the stairs , always looking downwards making sure I don't slip , then half way down the stairs I have a corner to turn and there is a big shadow in front of me and as he lifts his head he smiles and the moonlight shone of his teeth

At that I sat bolt upright in my bed and hurt my operated hip joint ,,,, fuck did it scare the crap out of me ,,,, I turn the light on now. Lol

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