FabSwingers.com forum: Excuses , excuses.....

By *ablovers OP Couple
over a year ago

London

We organised a meet today... spoke on here.. then on phone.. etc... told him what we like and what he would like ... then booked a nice hotel..

And guess what. .. He had to cancel because his "son hurt his ankle at school".... what's the best excuse you have been given for a late cancellation?

(Before the drama queens get involved we are aware of the possibility the excuse may be genuine but this is just a bit of fun)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said I was too ugly for them

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You told him what you like and what he likes? Huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Schools are closed for Easter aren't they? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry you'll be inundated with men in white armour proclaiming that they would never let you down!

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By *ack with a bangCouple
over a year ago

Hastings

"Schools are closed for Easter aren't they? Lol "

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

Not all areas of country on school holidays

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My favourite* was the guy who was still in bed with the woman he'd picked up when out the night before our meet.

* most infuriating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was closer I'd not let u down no matter what

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"My favourite* was the guy who was still in bed with the woman he'd picked up when out the night before our meet.

* most infuriating!"

At least it sounds honest. Annoying, but honest.

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By *ellowbabesCouple
over a year ago

newport/cwmbran

At least you got an excuse!! In our single profile days we would often arrange a meet with us both, exchange messages on here, texts etc...then no show, phones switched off!! Not even a feeble attempt at an excuse

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Sorry, the dog ate my sex drive

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

I can get to St Albans this evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry car won't start

Forgot car was in for MOT

Family members been taken ill

Got back with my ex 20 minutes ago

Periods arrived early

I'm really a Guy

All true of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry car won't start

Forgot car was in for MOT

Family members been taken ill

Got back with my ex 20 minutes ago

Periods arrived early

I'm really a Guy

All true of course

Was this all from the same person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry car won't start

Forgot car was in for MOT

Family members been taken ill

Got back with my ex 20 minutes ago

Periods arrived early

I'm really a Guy

All true of course

Was this all from the same person?

Lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"My favourite* was the guy who was still in bed with the woman he'd picked up when out the night before our meet.

* most infuriating!

At least it sounds honest. Annoying, but honest."

True!

I usually get the sick kid/last minute working/flat tyre excuses. Nothing original.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry thought you were someone else"

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"Schools are closed for Easter aren't they? Lol "

It's weird up here.

Some of Hemel area are off school now but some of Watford area aren't off until next week, I think?

It's been confusing the Hell out of us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on my way to meet a guy, spoke on phone, he had his cock already in someone else's mouth ! He even put her on the phone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my best one was his mother had died, which was fine untill he mailed me about 3 month later asking if i still wanted to meet as he was passing through visiting his mum for her birthday

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"my best one was his mother had died, which was fine untill he mailed me about 3 month later asking if i still wanted to meet as he was passing through visiting his mum for her birthday

Spooooookyyy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actually my very fave one was the guy who pulled up in his car, looked at me and just drove off

not sure that counts as an excuse but its still my fave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely get an excuse..

Usually just no shows.....11 since November....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a kind of reverse of the thread, two reasons I've had to cancel or delay a meet seem like wild excuses but are true.

First was my sister blended her finger in a food processor and I needed to take her to A&E

Second was that my car was broken into and the battery was nicked from it ! Seriously, didn't take anything else, didn't steal the car (probably only because how I park my works van blocked my car in), but stole the sodding battery !!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I rarely get an excuse..

Usually just no shows.....11 since November....

I usually get something between the two.

They're enthusiastic, keen and in regular contact until the day before the meet. Then they vanish. They stop logging in to whichever site we arranged the meet on, (usually, though occasionally they carry on logging on but ignore messages), and don't reply to any messages/texts.

I take this as the meet won't be happening, so don't get ready and go.

A day or two after the day of the meet, they reappear. Sometimes they'll come up with a dreadful excuse and ask to reschedule. Sometimes they try to pretend nothing happened. Once one tried to convince me I had the date wrong, (I didn't).

I'm getting reasonably good at working out which guys will do this so I agree to meet, refuse to discuss any gory details and wait and see if I can guess when they'll vanish.

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By *ablovers OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"my best one was his mother had died, which was fine untill he mailed me about 3 month later asking if i still wanted to meet as he was passing through visiting his mum for her birthday

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I've had to cancel meets with reasons that probably sounded bogus before though. I wouldn't have believed them if I hadn't been involved in them.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Would anyone believe "I'm on day 19 of my period"???

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Would anyone believe "I'm on day 19 of my period"??? "

Actually, in some circumstances yes. I'm not going to elaborate though because some of the men have sensitive dispositions when it comes to "women's matters"

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"Would anyone believe "I'm on day 19 of my period"???

Actually, in some circumstances yes. I'm not going to elaborate though because some of the men have sensitive dispositions when it comes to "women's matters"

Funny creatures aren't they? It's doing my head in!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone believe "I'm on day 19 of my period"??? "

Yes. I went through a period of bleeding 21 days of the month.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

so many vehicles have either broken down,been involved in an accident or long traffic queues.....I don't mind excuses as long as I get notice to arrange something else..

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I had arranged a meet (already had a social) and then had to cancel as I genuinely had to go to a+e.

Infuriating and one of those situations where you realise you may not get another chance because it sounds so far-fetched!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only had one cancel got called into wprk. Bit it was just coffee across the road so no biggie

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Would anyone believe "I'm on day 19 of my period"???

Actually, in some circumstances yes. I'm not going to elaborate though because some of the men have sensitive dispositions when it comes to "women's matters"

Funny creatures aren't they? It's doing my head in!!!"

Mini-pill? If so, persevere. Took me a couple of months to even out and it's been brilliant ever since I did.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"At least you got an excuse..I've had an exchange of messages on here, texts etc...then no show, phones switched off. Not even a feeble attempt at an excuse

This

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By *anatee175Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I had arranged a social and I really did get an emergency admission into hosp so asked if I could make it another day.

Wanted to know which hosp,which ward I was in. I was in 3 days and had 7 litres of fluids pushed in.

Sometimes you just can't win. Lol.

Claire

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By *corpio67Man
over a year ago

hillingdon

I have so far never bottled

out of a meet even if its just a coffee ?? and chat

But had my fair share of no shows

But perseverance does pay off in the end and I now have a number of good friends!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Back when I was in a couple we had another "couple" (I didn't speak to either of them and he didn't speak to the female) keep us waiting all evening.

First they were running late. Then they had a car accident. Then the car broke down. Then they had got lost.

On my own I had a friend I saw on a regular(ish) basis who just didn't show up. He fell asleep. A few weeks later he started a thread about no-shows claiming he'd never let anyone down.

[If you're back on the site or just reading the forum from afar you know you were forgiven.]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was closer I'd not let u down no matter what "

what colour is your steed?

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

Never had one, if they don't turn up they get blocked. Easy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We organised a meet today... spoke on here.. then on phone.. etc... told him what we like and what he would like ... then booked a nice hotel..

And guess what. .. He had to cancel because his "son hurt his ankle at school".... what's the best excuse you have been given for a late cancellation?

(Before the drama queens get involved we are aware of the possibility the excuse may be genuine but this is just a bit of fun)

I couldn't get to work once as my street was evacuated at 5.30am due to a van on fire, full of gas bottles. No one at work believed me when I phoned in.

Then they saw the news report on the telly and my interview with a news reporter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a car accident on the way to the hotel .... couldn't contact me but managed to log onto fab and block me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely get an excuse..

Usually just no shows.....11 since November....

I usually get something between the two.

I take this as the meet won't be happening, so don't get ready and go.

I'm getting reasonably good at working out which guys will do this so I agree to meet, refuse to discuss any gory details and wait and see if I can guess when they'll vanish."

Very well worded. I've given up getting ready now.

You are quite right, they seem to dissapear, yet manage to get online, yet not bother to make contact.

I dont give my number out anymore, so that i have the mails of when they or i agree to a meet.

Yet, even when reported,thier profiles still remain.

Its these creatures that make fun sites like this a misery, and give the good guys a poor name x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Schools are closed for Easter aren't they? Lol

Not all of them. Hols all different this year.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I rarely get an excuse..

Usually just no shows.....11 since November....

I usually get something between the two.

I take this as the meet won't be happening, so don't get ready and go.

I'm getting reasonably good at working out which guys will do this so I agree to meet, refuse to discuss any gory details and wait and see if I can guess when they'll vanish.

Very well worded. I've given up getting ready now.

You are quite right, they seem to dissapear, yet manage to get online, yet not bother to make contact.

I dont give my number out anymore, so that i have the mails of when they or i agree to a meet.

Yet, even when reported,thier profiles still remain.

Its these creatures that make fun sites like this a misery, and give the good guys a poor name x"

It doesn't make me miserable. I don't count on anything until it happens.

I usually know which will vanish after a few messages and I'm rarely wrong. I give them the benefit of the doubt, in case I'm wrong but I don't invest anything in it so I'm not disappointed if it doesn't happen.

A lot are just after a fantasy meet - dirty chat describing what I'd wear and what I'd do - so they can wank over it. I don't chat specifics about meets beforehand though. If they want to know what I'll wear and what will happen, they need to meet me.

Interestingly, I've not found verifications make any difference in this. Both verified and unverified men do it, including men who clearly do meet and have done recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had a guy turn up 5 hrs late for a meet at mnews which I was furious about. Turned out he had had a better offer on his way to mine. I threw him out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I just remembered iv got the dentist 3 this afternoon but we ment to be meeting at 9 A.M yes but I need time to wash and iron clothes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trains have been cancelled after he said he was driving here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trains have been cancelled after he said he was driving here

Well that was his loss

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

The only one that annoyed me was the guy who said he'd decided to go Xmas shopping first and now couldn't be arsed...yes, those are his exact words. He then couldn't understand why I didn't want to reschedule!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Schools are closed for Easter aren't they? Lol "

closed for the bank holidays - back this week then off for 2 - weird this year

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Cracking up.

So many timewasters.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Not a meet but I had a "friend" bale on a day out at the last minute because she "had to stay in to have a cat flap fitted"!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Tbh all the reasons I have had which hasn't been many have been genuine (floods, and work issues)

Tbh I have only missed one meet which was due to being told to stay late at work and it was to late to get over to hers

I must say I have even written my car off and still got to a meet

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

"my best one was his mother had died, which was fine untill he mailed me about 3 month later asking if i still wanted to meet as he was passing through visiting his mum for her birthday

Could visiting her grave on her birthday people do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We organised a meet today... spoke on here.. then on phone.. etc... told him what we like and what he would like ... then booked a nice hotel..

And guess what. .. He had to cancel because his "son hurt his ankle at school".... what's the best excuse you have been given for a late cancellation?

(Before the drama queens get involved we are aware of the possibility the excuse may be genuine but this is just a bit of fun)

Why is his son at school? It's half term...

Sounds like a poor excuse to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We organised a meet today... spoke on here.. then on phone.. etc... told him what we like and what he would like ... then booked a nice hotel..

And guess what. .. He had to cancel because his "son hurt his ankle at school".... what's the best excuse you have been given for a late cancellation?

(Before the drama queens get involved we are aware of the possibility the excuse may be genuine but this is just a bit of fun)

Aint it easter holidays?

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Not a meet but I had a "friend" bale on a day out at the last minute because she "had to stay in to have a cat flap fitted"!"

Is that like a coil ?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Not a meet but I had a "friend" bale on a day out at the last minute because she "had to stay in to have a cat flap fitted"!

Is that like a coil ?"

I have no idea! The mind boggles

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Messaged us the night before saying his mum had died on a flight back from south Africa. One said his daughter broke her arm as he was on the way to meet us. Really want to give people the benefit of the doubt but ffs I struggle to believe people sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Messaged us the night before saying his mum had died on a flight back from south Africa. One said his daughter broke her arm as he was on the way to meet us. Really want to give people the benefit of the doubt but ffs I struggle to believe people sometimes. "

Some people use a family member tragedy or accident as an excuse as they know you can't really say anything to them apart from .... Oh dear that's awful and I'm so sorry etc message me another time them.

Say anything else on the lines of....You lying bastard you really expect me to believe your bullshit excuse ??

You then run the risk of being classed as a psycho without any compassion? ?

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

That is exactly what I want to say but then I become the heartless one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in both camps this year, both canceller and cancellee, I'm running at 8 and 3 so far this year in favour of cancelled meets. Starting to think I'm jinxed

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"That is exactly what I want to say but then I become the heartless one lol "

You've no obligation to reschedule.

Offer your condolences but decline to reschedule. You don't owe them anything. If you doubt their honesty, trust your gut.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

At least you got a excuse. I've chatted talked and when it comes down to the day cancelled

but mind you there excuses finally when I did get them were totally made up I've even had it with a lady I've meet many times. Honesty is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is exactly what I want to say but then I become the heartless one lol "

Competent liars fakes and fantasists are extremely good at knowing the right things to say to avoid confrontation and their lies being exposed.

You just have to be one step ahead and competent at spotting those types of people.

Not always easy though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had 'it's too cold' and it wasn't an outdoor meet lol

I know it gets cold in Scotland but really??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many times for a dogging meet we have had guys say they turned up , but it looked too busy so they left again !

Sometimes they have supposedly travelled quite some distance too .

The majority of the time we know it's a feeble excuse as the spot we use has been virtually empty all evening ....

Oh and there is this clever little thing which shows the distance someone is from you on here ....

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