FabSwingers.com forum: Fakes ruin fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on Fab a while and had some great meets, but finding more and more that single guys are instantly tarnished with the same brush as being fake, none committed, pic collectors.

I can imagine just how many messages single women and couples get, in comparison to single men.

Want everyone's opinion on singles, what do we need to do to prove we are genuine? And not freaks?

If you want tell me what is wrong with my profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's also lots of couples who aren't genuine, in my experience. Just gotta learn to spot them early on

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By *icksfocusMan
over a year ago

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There are thousands of single men's profiles on here

Ps I don't think that if you put I am genuine will work

They all say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are thousands of single men's profiles on here

Ps I don't think that if you put I am genuine will work

They all say that "

yes,maybe avoid even using the word,its pretty meaningless...look at a bunch of other profiles maybe, get some ideas...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy. Go in the chat, on cam. Talk nice and get to know people and then the chat's meets and veri's will come. Once people know you are ok they will include you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask your meets to verify you, that will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive even cross across a guy with 4 different profiles all with different pics of him ! ive challenged him on this however he just says its not true but far too many coincidences and hes even sent me a message from one of these guys in his usual wordings so he slipped up big time ! yes ive reported it to admin but there all still active profiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's easy. Go in the chat, on cam. Talk nice and get to know people and then the chat's meets and veri's will come. Once people know you are ok they will include you."

I am not a fan of the chat rooms on fab, I find them hard work.

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By *icksfocusMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

Go to a club or if that's too daunting go to a social. Treat it as a night out with like minded people. If anything happens then it's a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on Fab a while and had some great meets, but finding more and more that single guys are instantly tarnished with the same brush as being fake, none committed, pic collectors.

I can imagine just how many messages single women and couples get, in comparison to single men.

Want everyone's opinion on singles, what do we need to do to prove we are genuine? And not freaks?

If you want tell me what is wrong with my profile?

Your profile seems fine to me but I do find it strange that you say you've had some great meets yet nobody has verified you.

I'm not fussed about veris personally but as you've started this thread about proving you're genuine, I would have thought having a veri would be one way of showing you are who you say you are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go to a club or if that's too daunting go to a social. Treat it as a night out with like minded people. If anything happens then it's a bonus "

I am not necessarily talking about how do I get meets, but wanted to know everyone opinion about fakes, and how can we as singles ensure that when trying to chat with someone new that they can tell we ate genuine.

For example even verifications, looked at a couple of new profiles and with the first day they are showing verifications for meets they have had. So are all verifications real? I think not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go to a club or if that's too daunting go to a social. Treat it as a night out with like minded people. If anything happens then it's a bonus

For example even verifications, looked at a couple of new profiles and with the first day they are showing verifications for meets they have had. So are all verifications real? I think not."

People leave and come back and ask previous meets to verify them again.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Stop bombing Syria for starters

I'm sorry - being serious, try thinking of it another way. You're right - women and couples get masses of terrible messages, but it means they really appreciate the good ones. I know for a fact they do.

Your profile doesn't really convey much other than you like sport. Maybe make it more rounded.

Personally, I suspect women see the mobile number and kik and think the person is a bit desperate, not careful with privacy and maybe had unrealistic expectations.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally, I suspect women see the mobile number and kik and think the person is a bit desperate, not careful with privacy and maybe had unrealistic expectations."

Interesting take on it. Could it not mean that they have nothing to hide and so opening up lines of communication?

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By *icksfocusMan
over a year ago

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Some people leave fab then rejoin later. So verifications could be because they know them. All I'm saying is that verifications give a good indication whether a profile is genuine or not. That's why I suggested a club or a social so you could get a verification to go some way to proving you are real

HTH

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I use my common sense, never had a no show or bad meet in nine years. I don't judge all men the same I judge individually

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I use my common sense, never had a no show or bad meet in nine years. I don't judge all men the same I judge individually

Shame not everyone does

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By *icksfocusMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

Maybe you aren't getting it

You as a single man have to prove that your not a fake

But if you don't want advice then carry on as you are

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Personally, I suspect women see the mobile number and kik and think the person is a bit desperate, not careful with privacy and maybe had unrealistic expectations.

Interesting take on it. Could it not mean that they have nothing to hide and so opening up lines of communication?"

Just a thought really. I said in wondering if a woman would chip in.

I honestly think the "idiot blokes spoiling it for the nice guys" mantra is overplayed. There are guys doing fine on here - they're patient and eventually stand out from the crowd.

Unless the woman replies and says "you're a timewaster" there's no way of knowing and there could very well be other reasons, including the fact there's masses of blokes to choose from. It's often said by blokes who have absolutely nothing in their profiles - their problem lies elsewhere.

It's just like the real world really - ratio of women are interested in any bloke 1 in 200, 1 in 30, 1 in 500?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are thousands of single men's profiles on here

Ps I don't think that if you put I am genuine will work

They all say that "

We genuinely do.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh and what's wrong with your profile?

Well it wouldn't flag up as fake it wouldn't flag up as anything its just dull.

Say what you can offer, what your looking for,likes, dislikes give some information.

If I saw your pictures and liked them I wouldn't message you as I'd have nothing to work with based on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think verifications mean something. But you need to do a bit of a "paper trail". By that I mean..verifications from a number of people...these people also multiple verified!

Rather like you know a crossword clue is right because it ties in with a few other words, that are themselves tied in with other words.

This explains why so many will not meet people who have been on over an amount of time, yet still not verified!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Personally, I suspect women see the mobile number and kik and think the person is a bit desperate, not careful with privacy and maybe had unrealistic expectations.

Interesting take on it. Could it not mean that they have nothing to hide and so opening up lines of communication?

Just a thought really. I said in wondering if a woman would chip in."

I agree with you. Phone numbers on profiles, and kik names put me off.

It doesn't make me think the person is any more reliable and it does look a bit desperate.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If women and couples post on here how we decide people are real and reliable, it's a checklist for fakes to make themselves look "genuine".

Would fab be better for timewasters having a list of ways to make people think they are reliable and honest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me phone numbers n kik on profiles signal men who may just be pic hunters n want wank fodder. X

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op you say youve had some great meets from here but there is no evidence on your profile to back that up why wouldnt you use the verification system as a tool if you wanted to show you where genuine

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