FabSwingers.com forum: ALCOHOL PROBLEM

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many Fabbers think they have a drink problem ?

And I don't mean when your pints empty or the off licence is closed etc

If you do think you do have a problem with alcohol what made you come to this conclusion? And how is alcohol affecting your life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can stop anytime I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many Fabbers think they have a drink problem ?

And I don't mean when your pints empty or the off licence is closed etc

If you do think you do have a problem with alcohol what made you come to this conclusion? And how is alcohol affecting your life?"

what a thing to ask....are you drumming up trade for the AA or something?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Do you actually expect many people to post here to say yes, they have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's interesting, when people talk about having to have a drink, dutch courage, prior to a meet, or at a club.

Because I'm often driving to or from a club or merry then I don't drink.

But I do enjoy a couple of pints when I'm out in town

My brother in law was an alcoholic and died aged 55, through problems following his addiction

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I was a heavy drinker but now cutting down, I'm not getting any younger and alcohol has such a negative impact on your body...

Guys...give him a break he only asked a question maybe he is just wanting a helping hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what a thing to ask....are you drumming up trade for the AA or something?

He's a very nice man.. no he's a very, very nice man...

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Are you an off licence looking to drum up trade?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to drink to much but sought help and haven't d*unk since 1997

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I was a heavy drinker but now cutting down, I'm not getting any younger and alcohol has such a negative impact on your body...

Guys...give him a break he only asked a question maybe he is just wanting a helping hand. "

Nobody has given him a hard time. I think it's unlikely many would want to admit having a problem with alcohol on here, that's all. Many can't even admit it to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you actually expect many people to post here to say yes, they have?

Why not - people have posted in other threads about everything from bipolar to depression to having / had an STD.

Why should this be the 'step too far'? If you knew anything about alcoholism you'd know the first step is in admitting you have a problem.

If just one person realizes they may have a problem and goes and gets help then its quite simply one of the singularly few genuinely useful threads - because it might just save a life. Ive seen a lot of positivity come out of other threads on other conditions - this one has the potential to be no different.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

There have been a lot of very personal questions posted in threads in the past few days. Some of these questions I wouldn't answer to my doctor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely drink. I dont need it but do socially occassionally. Three of my immeadiate family were/are alchoholics though.

Always best to ask for help xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drink

I get d*unk

I fall over

No problem at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe have a drink once a year or so but only a pint of two, think that's because a member of my family had a drink problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have a problem and I'm getting help from my gp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both my ex husband and my brother have a problem with alcohol...although my brother has been dry for 9 months his alcoholism is already slowly killing him but he took the initiative to stop because he wanted his family to have good memories of him....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have but then they done away with the no alcohol on a Sunday law and hey presto, problem solved

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Is it worth considering a new room for alcoholics ? It helps to talk about things. I wonder if there are more alcoholics than BDSM lovers, bisexuals or other groups on here. I know someone will say you can be a bisexual and an alcoholic but they could cruise both rooms.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Yes I have a problem and I'm getting help from my gp."

Far play to you for putting your hands up and admitting you have a problem...

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By *icksfocusMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

"There have been a lot of very personal questions posted in threads in the past few days. Some of these questions I wouldn't answer to my doctor "

If you wouldn't answer your doctor if he asked you this question then it looks like you have a problem

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"How many Fabbers think they have a drink problem ?

And I don't mean when your pints empty or the off licence is closed etc

If you do think you do have a problem with alcohol what made you come to this conclusion? And how is alcohol affecting your life?

what a thing to ask....are you drumming up trade for the AA or something?

Do the rac offer the same service, rushing out to you when you break down

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"How many Fabbers think they have a drink problem ?

And I don't mean when your pints empty or the off licence is closed etc

If you do think you do have a problem with alcohol what made you come to this conclusion? And how is alcohol affecting your life?"

I have this problem with alcohol but only if I drink too much; then I get d*unk. Is there any cure for this strange phenomenon?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I used to have but then they done away with the no alcohol on a Sunday law and hey presto, problem solved

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"There have been a lot of very personal questions posted in threads in the past few days. Some of these questions I wouldn't answer to my doctor

If you wouldn't answer your doctor if he asked you this question then it looks like you have a problem "

The problem I have is answering private and personal questions to complete strangers on a public forum. If you don't understand that the problem is yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 hands - one mouth.

It's a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I decided to reduce to my alcoholic intake after a stressfull & traumatic year. I felt if I didn't take it in hand it would take over me,drinking would have been the 'easy' option to numb the pain.

I'm so glad I did because I feel a lot better / stronger as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A big drinker can drink far more than an alcoholic,the difference is the big drinker wants a drink and the alcoholic needs a drink

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How many Fabbers think they have a drink problem ?

And I don't mean when your pints empty or the off licence is closed etc

If you do think you do have a problem with alcohol what made you come to this conclusion? And how is alcohol affecting your life?"

We don't but have family members who do.

There are many things that have led us to draw this conclusion and it affects their daily life to the extent that their child refuses to live with them and is receiving counselling.

There are loads of places that can help whether you're the one with the problem or are a family member trying to support or live with someone with a problem.

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By *icksfocusMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

"There have been a lot of very personal questions posted in threads in the past few days. Some of these questions I wouldn't answer to my doctor

If you wouldn't answer your doctor if he asked you this question then it looks like you have a problem

The problem I have is answering private and personal questions to complete strangers on a public forum. If you don't understand that the problem is yours"

You said that you wouldn't answer these kind of questions to your doctor not the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have a problem and I'm getting help from my gp.

Far play to you for putting your hands up and admitting you have a problem... "
thank you xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"There have been a lot of very personal questions posted in threads in the past few days. Some of these questions I wouldn't answer to my doctor

If you wouldn't answer your doctor if he asked you this question then it looks like you have a problem

The problem I have is answering private and personal questions to complete strangers on a public forum. If you don't understand that the problem is yours"
dont think anyone asked you personally. You dont have to answer others chose to and if you wouldnt answer a doctor then maybe it hit a nerve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know when to stop. I wld only hve a drink at wkend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many Fabbers think they have a drink problem ?

And I don't mean when your pints empty or the off licence is closed etc

If you do think you do have a problem with alcohol what made you come to this conclusion? And how is alcohol affecting your life?"

I used to have a problem with alcohol.

I don't any more, I chose to stop hurting myself and the ones that loved me.

I haven't had a drink for 20 years. And I mean A drink, not even half of shandy.

Bad times in my life. Booze wasn't a crutch it was an escape.

Life is good now.

If anyone begins to think they have a problem, they'll need some support. I was lucky.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

In answer to your question op i dont but considering the amount some say they drink if its to be believed then they do have a problem

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Not a big drinker. Hangovers and children *really* don't mix.

But then I smoke.

I think the rates of death from alcohol-related diseases are 1 in 6. But smoking is 1 in 2, so.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

For me I got stuck in a rut I have a stressful job so would go out at weekends and get pissed...I still like a drink but I need to put my body first.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I would not answer personal questions about politics or religion to my doctor I would not answer medical questions to my spiritual adviser

I will not answer any of these in a. Public forum to over inquisitive idiots who failed to understand my last answer

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By *icksfocusMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

"I would not answer personal questions about politics or religion to my doctor I would not answer medical questions to my spiritual adviser

I will not answer any of these in a. Public forum to over inquisitive idiots who failed to understand my last answer "

Your last answer was pretty easy to understand you said you wouldn't answer these questions to your doctor. Nobody asked you personally to answer the question

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I would not answer personal questions about politics or religion to my doctor I would not answer medical questions to my spiritual adviser

I will not answer any of these in a. Public forum to over inquisitive idiots who failed to understand my last answer "

Calm down no need to call people idiots either...people can answer what they want..you chose not to..

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By *arksMan
over a year ago

in the centre

Could have quite easily gone down the route of a drink problem a few years ago when getting divorced , its easy to hide behind problems at the bottom of a bottle , it stops you thinking too much , now i only go out occasionally as the hangovers at my age are a bastard to get over

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By *ayd2pinkTV/TS
over a year ago

TENTERDEN

"A big drinker can drink far more than an alcoholic,the difference is the big drinker wants a drink and the alcoholic needs a drink"

Thanks I can now stop describing myself as a practicing alcoholic. yes I drink too much but don't need any at the start of the day. once all the chores are done that occupy the mind it's time to hide and that means a drink (even a bit of wacky baccy makes me chuck). And depite what many will say it does help me sleep.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I would not answer personal questions about politics or religion to my doctor I would not answer medical questions to my spiritual adviser

I will not answer any of these in a. Public forum to over inquisitive idiots who failed to understand my last answer "
lol talk about ocer reacting. You dont have to answer the bloody question, as far as im aware its not in forum rules to answer all threads and questions posed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

During 12 years in the Army I d*unk a lot. I use to drink in order to get as d*unk as possible. Nowadays I still like a drink or two but that's it.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

My best friend is an alcoholic. In the 12 months we lived together I ended up with a stomach ulcer.

Love him to bits but it took me 20 years to work out that I don;t have to and really shouldn't attempt to keep up with him whilst drinking.

The last two times I've been pissed in the last 8 months have been with him although I can kinda just about keep a lid on it.

Last half dozen times we've gone out, I've finished the evening with a cup of tea or two, rather than at 3am drinking masala wine or cooking sherry.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I made a general comment about not answering personal questions in the forums and got accused of having an alcohol problem. I hadn't even mentioned alcohol.

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Not had any for 11 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have alcohol addiction in my family so much so my mother died from it . My brother and I are very aware and know the risks . I love a good drink now and then it's the bloody hangovers that do me in .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I made a general comment about not answering personal questions in the forums and got accused of having an alcohol problem. I hadn't even mentioned alcohol. "
who accused you of having an alcohol problem. However in my experience people do generally over react to something and get abusive for a reason

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By *icksfocusMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

"I made a general comment about not answering personal questions in the forums and got accused of having an alcohol problem. I hadn't even mentioned alcohol. who accused you of having an alcohol problem. However in my experience people do generally over react to something and get abusive for a reason"

Mmmm think you may hit a nerve there

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I made a general comment about not answering personal questions in the forums and got accused of having an alcohol problem. I hadn't even mentioned alcohol. "

You are an alcoholic??? I never knew that

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Are you speaking from your own experience? Are you better now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get savage hangovers if I drink anywhere near to excess. So I simply don't do it anymore other than a rare tipple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I made a general comment about not answering personal questions in the forums and got accused of having an alcohol problem. I hadn't even mentioned alcohol. "

Help is available.

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By *verready32Man
over a year ago

omagh

I spend a good few years in the army, and I got to say we knew how to party, but I was younger then and not much sence, and I guess the drink eased the pain of some things. But now im happy to have a small whiskey, or even better a cup of tea. But to answer the question 10 years ago I would have said yes

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By *assie48Woman
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

I don't have a problem personally but I was married to someone who was on this site and he still is but part of another couple now in fact alcohol was one of the things that split us up he drank excessively but wouldn't accept that he did I've known him do 20 cans a day it was always embarrassing to go anywhere with him parties clubs etc cos I never knew how he would react

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a dangerous thing to imply that people have problems just because...

it's also nobody else's business anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can take it or leave it. My dad is old school his life revolves around work, pub, family that is how its been all my life plus he is a heavy smoker and the last few years his health has deteriorated with him having a kidney removed and stents put in. Doctors have given him five years before he has a major heart attack will he change his life style will he heck x

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"I would not answer personal questions about politics or religion to my doctor I would not answer medical questions to my spiritual adviser

I will not answer any of these in a. Public forum to over inquisitive idiots who failed to understand my last answer

Your arrogance is sickening and ugly

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bovvered?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Are you speaking from your own experience? Are you better now?"
not my personal experience on alcohol but i know i and others generally overreact to something for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck off!......love youss hic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet on my old profile with a guy who clearly had a drink issue. By the end of the meet he had tanked a bottle of vodka and was still standing but only just. After that meet we chatted a little and he did confess that he had little control when it came to booze and that he had seen other addictions come into play too including sex and cocaine.

Gave him an ear and some support (ex addictions counsellor here) and pointed him in the right direction. Still friends to this day.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Are you speaking from your own experience? Are you better now?not my personal experience on alcohol but i know i and others generally overreact to something for a reason."

My apologies. I thought you were the recovering alcoholic and were speaking from your own experience. So, are you sure you don't have a problematic relationship with alcohol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a meet on my old profile with a guy who clearly had a drink issue. By the end of the meet he had tanked a bottle of vodka and was still standing but only just. After that meet we chatted a little and he did confess that he had little control when it came to booze and that he had seen other addictions come into play too including sex and cocaine.

Gave him an ear and some support (ex addictions counsellor here) and pointed him in the right direction. Still friends to this day."
That's a good story, I imagine a lot of people would have just ditched him for drinking so much. Then who knows where he'd be

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

its a dangerous thing to imply that people have problems just because...

it's also nobody else's business anyway"
off cause its noone elses business but we all make assumptions based on our experiences and if someone is posting in a forum thread their going to get noticed especially when they start calling people idiots

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I would suggest that after my general comment about intrusive questions,anyone thinking that I have a drink problem may be projection their own issues onto me. If it affects you so strongly in that way. Perhaps professional help would be more in order than ranting at me on this thread. Act soon before it's too late.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Oh lawd....the forums are turning me to drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would suggest that after my general comment about intrusive questions,anyone thinking that I have a drink problem may be projection their own issues onto me. If it affects you so strongly in that way. Perhaps professional help would be more in order than ranting at me on this thread. Act soon before it's too late. "

You're me besh mate..

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Yes, I 'studied' that in psychiatry 101

Actually, I didn't study it; I have no degree in it nor a licence to practice; I saw it on television

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Are you speaking from your own experience? Are you better now?not my personal experience on alcohol but i know i and others generally overreact to something for a reason.

My apologies. I thought you were the recovering alcoholic and were speaking from your own experience. So, are you sure you don't have a problematic relationship with alcohol?"
quite sure unfortunatly the alcoholic i lived with didnt recover but was dead at 50

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

You're me besh mate..

prost

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *elle2016Woman
over a year ago

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oh my god...sensitivity!???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would not answer personal questions about politics or religion to my doctor I would not answer medical questions to my spiritual adviser

I will not answer any of these in a. Public forum to over inquisitive idiots who failed to understand my last answer

Your arrogance is sickening and ugly

bovvered?"

Not in the slightest. You?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Is it safe to enter....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it safe to enter....

Said the vicar to the nun.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Is it safe to enter....

BYOB

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Is it safe to enter....

BYOB"

Do you want a glass?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drink....I'm happy

I drink more....I fall asleep!

No problem!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Is it safe to enter....

BYOB

Do you want a glass?

What does one do with a glass???

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I drink....I'm happy

I drink more....I fall asleep!

No problem!"

And another bottle induces a coma

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Is it safe to enter....

BYOB

Do you want a glass?

What does one do with a glass???

What would one like to do with the glass?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Is it safe to enter....

BYOB

Do you want a glass?

What does one do with a glass???

What would one like to do with the glass? "

No, no, that is not what I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up drinking really easily when I thought I had a problem. I didn't want to burden anyone with it. The problem has been staying away from booze. I realise how much I relied on it with things like self confidence. D*unk me is everyone's best mate or an asshole. When I go out now I feel lost and very insociable. If do drink now it's likely going to kill me but I keep a bottle of whiskey on shelf where it's been for almost 2 years untouched. Even in times like now where I'm dealing with crippling loneliness and depression, no matter how much I want it, I just don't. I remind myself of the problems it will cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answers to life's problems are not at the bottom of a bottle- But when you get there, what problem. ? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't touched a single drop for about 18 years , and Sabrina rarely touches it .

When we went to clubs , it was very obvious there were quite a few that did have a problem with it though .

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I have worked with addicts of all shades and varieties.

By far and away the most difficult, surly and aggressive are alcoholics.

As a drug, its social impact is massive and it is ubiquitous in our society.

But, as I say, I smoke. So I'll shut up now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave up drinking really easily when I thought I had a problem. I didn't want to burden anyone with it. The problem has been staying away from booze. I realise how much I relied on it with things like self confidence. D*unk me is everyone's best mate or an asshole. When I go out now I feel lost and very insociable. If do drink now it's likely going to kill me but I keep a bottle of whiskey on shelf where it's been for almost 2 years untouched. Even in times like now where I'm dealing with crippling loneliness and depression, no matter how much I want it, I just don't. I remind myself of the problems it will cause. "
good luck I hope happiness finds u very soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have worked with addicts of all shades and varieties.

By far and away the most difficult, surly and aggressive are alcoholics.

As a drug, its social impact is massive and it is ubiquitous in our society.

But, as I say, I smoke. So I'll shut up now.

I vape now,nearly a year and iv found vaping far more addictive than smoking

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I have worked with addicts of all shades and varieties.

By far and away the most difficult, surly and aggressive are alcoholics.

As a drug, its social impact is massive and it is ubiquitous in our society.

But, as I say, I smoke. So I'll shut up now.

I vape now,nearly a year and iv found vaping far more addictive than smoking"

Interesting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have worked with addicts of all shades and varieties.

By far and away the most difficult, surly and aggressive are alcoholics.

As a drug, its social impact is massive and it is ubiquitous in our society.

But, as I say, I smoke. So I'll shut up now.

I vape now,nearly a year and iv found vaping far more addictive than smoking

Interesting..."
i have met people who have never smoked using vapes ! I am a social smoker I love a cig when having a drink X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have worked with addicts of all shades and varieties.

By far and away the most difficult, surly and aggressive are alcoholics.

As a drug, its social impact is massive and it is ubiquitous in our society.

But, as I say, I smoke. So I'll shut up now.

I vape now,nearly a year and iv found vaping far more addictive than smoking

Interesting...i have met people who have never smoked using vapes ! I am a social smoker I love a cig when having a drink X

Yeah kids are on vapes young teens who have never smoked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

GET OUT OF MY BAR! GO ON! GET OUT!

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby

"A big drinker can drink far more than an alcoholic,the difference is the big drinker wants a drink and the alcoholic needs a drink"

It was only recently I saw on the Internet that there is a condition/name which is used for (when some one cannot stand seeing a empty pint ) in front of them they have just finished I can,t remember the name now but there is one, my friend can booze and he often Irritates when he says drink up I,ll get another because he,s finished his, I drink mine more sparingly but thou he likes a drink he,s not a big drinker but likes to gulp his down quicker he seems to get his pleasure that way it sometimes feels to me he,s after his alcohol fix quicker than I want mine and his metabolism is good and never gets a beer belly he would have had one now otherwise, I,m drinking diet enjoying the change presently, but will still enjoy haveing a pint or two when out, thou I know my friend depends more on booze than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drive for a living so drinking is one thing I can't really afford to do. My license means more to me than any drink.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"GET OUT OF MY BAR! GO ON! GET OUT!

You lookin' at my pint or my bird?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True definition of an alcoholic is someone who cannot go all day without a drink. Surprisingly it's not the amount or how much but the fact of having a drink every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I drive for a living so drinking is one thing I can't really afford to do. My license means more to me than any drink.

Could you find a better paid driving job?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"GET OUT OF MY BAR! GO ON! GET OUT!

You lookin' at my pint or my bird?!!"
i would be starring at both of u

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I dont drink alcohol at all, so it doesn't affect me in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whisky or whiskey?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"GET OUT OF MY BAR! GO ON! GET OUT!

You lookin' at my pint or my bird?!!i would be starring at both of u

I've d*unk sooo much I'm cross-eyed, see?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't drink much. I used to drink a lot more. Had kids and virtually stopped. A bottle of ale a week or a bottle of wine on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had a count up, I've got 14 bottles of single malt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"GET OUT OF MY BAR! GO ON! GET OUT!

You lookin' at my pint or my bird?!!i would be starring at both of u

I've d*unk sooo much I'm cross-eyed, see?"
still starring lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't drink much. I used to drink a lot more. Had kids and virtually stopped. A bottle of ale a week or a bottle of wine on occasion. "

As long as the occasion isn't "breakfast" you'll be fine....

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"GET OUT OF MY BAR! GO ON! GET OUT!

You lookin' at my pint or my bird?!!i would be starring at both of u

I've d*unk sooo much I'm cross-eyed, see?still starring lol

*sobers up*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"GET OUT OF MY BAR! GO ON! GET OUT!

You lookin' at my pint or my bird?!!i would be starring at both of u

I've d*unk sooo much I'm cross-eyed, see?still starring lol

*sobers up*

"
still starring while having a pint while smoking a cig

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I don't drink much. I used to drink a lot more. Had kids and virtually stopped. A bottle of ale a week or a bottle of wine on occasion.

As long as the occasion isn't "breakfast" you'll be fine....

No!

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By *b586Couple
over a year ago

pemberton twp

I am in recovery in another fellowship.

There is an information pamphlet that says "Nonaddicted people don’t spend their time wondering if they’re addicts. They don’t even think about it."

Also a friend of mine always says " every time I drank I didn't get in trouble. But every time I gotten trouble I had been drinking."

Unfortunately , the help only happens when the person with the problem can admit it and help themselves.

We can't beg em, set conditions , make agreements, follow them around, bargain with em or beat it into them. ( or anything else you can come up with to try and make em stop)

When the pain becomes great enough they may seek help. Many go on to the bitter ends jails institutions and death.

But addiction will be satisfied with misery, sickness, degradation, and destruction of anything and anyone that gets in the way of using.

If you think you may have a problem seek help. 12 step recovery programs are free.

If I sound passionate, I surely am, as recovery saved my life 18 years ago. If anyone wants to p.m. me to chat feel free.

Kim

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"Whisky or whiskey?"

Scotch or Irish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whisky or whiskey?

Scotch or Irish?

Scotch.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"True definition of an alcoholic is someone who cannot go all day without a drink. Surprisingly it's not the amount or how much but the fact of having a drink every day "

Alcoholics don't always drink every day. They can go days, weeks or sometimes longer but are still addicted, some alcoholics only drink at weekends and tell themselves that they can't be alcoholics because they go all week without.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"True definition of an alcoholic is someone who cannot go all day without a drink. Surprisingly it's not the amount or how much but the fact of having a drink every day

They are called functioning alcoholics...still alcoholics all the same

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"True definition of an alcoholic is someone who cannot go all day without a drink. Surprisingly it's not the amount or how much but the fact of having a drink every day

They are called functioning alcoholics...still alcoholics all the same

I guess the question on the tip of everyone's tongue is, are there any overweight bi married men here who are alcoholics and are cheating on their wives whilst dressed in women's clothes?

[ I think I'll start a thread on that ]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not an alcoholic, I'm a d*unk.

Alcoholics go to meetings- I go to partys.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I'm not an alcoholic, I'm a d*unk.

Alcoholics go to meetings- I go to partys."

Ah, but are you then a functioning d*unk or do you get the Brewer's droop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not an alcoholic, I'm a d*unk.

Alcoholics go to meetings- I go to partys.

Ah, but are you then a functioning d*unk or do you get the Brewer's droop?

Mrs frill here. nothing droops for me or hubby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the interesting replies along with the usual paranoid posts and finger pointing.

Been a good read and I hope you all have enjoyed it as much as I have

And if the thread struck a chord with anyone along the way and been a help at all then that's a bonus.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"For me I got stuck in a rut I have a stressful job so would go out at weekends and get pissed...I still like a drink but I need to put my body first. "

Great attitude Miss CC. My problem is I'm allergic to it. I like a little drink but it doesn't like me and the sneezing, rashes and serious hangovers even from one drink was the message I needed to put my body first. I miss it sometimes and I'm always Desi but I've saved a fortune!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the interesting replies along with the usual paranoid posts and finger pointing.

Been a good read and I hope you all have enjoyed it as much as I have

And if the thread struck a chord with anyone along the way and been a help at all then that's a bonus.

I would be interested to know why you asked OP?

A general interest or something more?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"Whisky or whiskey?

Scotch or Irish?

Scotch.

Scotch is whisky

Irish is Whiskey

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over a year ago

"True definition of an alcoholic is someone who cannot go all day without a drink. Surprisingly it's not the amount or how much but the fact of having a drink every day

They are called functioning alcoholics...still alcoholics all the same

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I'm not an alcoholic, I'm a d*unk.

Alcoholics go to meetings- I go to partys.

Ah, but are you then a functioning d*unk or do you get the Brewer's droop?

Mrs frill here. nothing droops for me or hubby

My apologies; I assumed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not an alcoholic, I'm a d*unk.

Alcoholics go to meetings- I go to partys.

Ah, but are you then a functioning d*unk or do you get the Brewer's droop?

Mrs frill here. nothing droops for me or hubby

My apologies; I assumed

None needed xx

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over a year ago

"True definition of an alcoholic is someone who cannot go all day without a drink. Surprisingly it's not the amount or how much but the fact of having a drink every day

They are called functioning alcoholics...still alcoholics all the same

Yes many people assume that because they aren't drinking when they wake up or destitute on a park bench they can;t possibly be an alcoholic. But they are wrong, I certainly never realised that I was a functioning alcoholic until long after I had broken that cycle."
yep it's people's way of thinking my mum was a fully functioning member of society but a fully fletched alcoholic .the biggest mistake was a doctor telling her that your liver is self recovering !!!! It's bloody not

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"True definition of an alcoholic is someone who cannot go all day without a drink. Surprisingly it's not the amount or how much but the fact of having a drink every day

They are called functioning alcoholics...still alcoholics all the same

Yes many people assume that because they aren't drinking when they wake up or destitute on a park bench they can;t possibly be an alcoholic. But they are wrong, I certainly never realised that I was a functioning alcoholic until long after I had broken that cycle.yep it's people's way of thinking my mum was a fully functioning member of society but a fully fletched alcoholic .the biggest mistake was a doctor telling her that your liver is self recovering !!!! It's bloody not

It can regenerate itself once but once liver damage is there it's pretty impossible to treat unless you get a new liver

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I like the odd glass of wine or two but I can take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner (soon to be ex) is a functioning alcoholic, and won't admit he has a problem. I've tried to help him many times, but I just can't do it any longer. I am hoping that me ending things will give him the kick up the arse he needs, but unfortunately I think it will go the other way

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

this is a swingers site,so don't expect the truth!!

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thank god I'm not an alcoholic. .

I couldn't stand not being able to drink..

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I think I used to be a functional alcoholic when with my ex. Bottle of wine a night, every night, but I was never off work or late for work because of it. I now drink rarely (only when I am out) but think I can still drink the same amount. I cannot!

What gets me is how the hell I managed to afford it back then. I don't drink anywhere near the same amount now yet am still skint.

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By *ierced 2Couple
over a year ago

Village near Great Yarmouth

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

I have a friend whose partner has hit the bottle big time ,,,, he has asked me to try and talk to her and although I can sort off get through the haze that her mind is in I / we dont know what to do next ,,,, he has been in touch with his GP who has basically said we have tried once before and failed . Last time she was taken into hospital and shouted the place down and was abusive whilst doing cold turkey ,,,,,, took her a good week to get over the crap but she was a decent human being afterwards ,,,,, and my friend wants that woman back .

His life is bell at the moment and I feel so very sorry for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only problem with alcohol is the amount I can consume - but I rarely drink these days

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I rarely drink so there's no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to binge drink three nights a week in my late teens and twenties.

It's extremely rare i drink at all any more. Too rough a drug for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had alcohol problems twice - in the form of my husband and my father. I divorced one and the other eventually drank himself into care.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I don't drink a great deal, and sometimes not for weeks at a time, but I do enjoy a drink.

Now and then I might have a bottle of beer or two every night for two or three days, or share a bottle of wine with Jayne.

I do drink at the socials sometimes, if we end up sat around with a group of friends, and I really enjoy that.

I'm one of those lucky, annoying people who doesn't get hangovers, so every now and then I can have a real session and not feel the effects lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv got the hangover from hell....just thought id say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many Fabbers think they have a drink problem ?

And I don't mean when your pints empty or the off licence is closed etc

If you do think you do have a problem with alcohol what made you come to this conclusion? And how is alcohol affecting your life?"

I'm 19 yrs sober

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love having beers with mates down the pub a few nights a week.Never seen the point of drinking at home alone, its a social thing for me although I would be definitely classed as a binge drinker

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By *rightonfranceMan
over a year ago

brighton - chalais france

I drink.

I get d*unk

I fall over

NO PROBLEM!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drink far too much too often and often for the wrong reasons

I have cut back a bit recently though and have started going to the gym again

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By *assie48Woman
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

my ex was the same and since we split i have realised how bad things were i used to have to keep booze under lock and key if i bought stuff for christmas etc think he stopped drinking in the week but he is still a functioning alcoholic he has lost two of his kids through it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a drink problem OP...I was one of them people who had the bottles of vodka in the bedside cabinets.I used to go out on a Friday night,then end up back home on a Sunday night.People say they live in the fast lane,well I was way beyond that.Apart from the vodka,pills and merry down snake bites was my drink of choice.It's funny,but I never missed a days work through it though.It ended up a rock n roll life style,I was in a band,so at the weekends I could be anywhere in the UK doing gigs and partying big style.

The change came when one of my friends died,well he took his own life.This made me sit down and think long and hard about what I was doing with my life.So at the age of 25 it all stopped,the drinking,I jacked the band in and totally turned my life around.

Today,I can go out and enjoy myself without getting pissed.The other night I was out and I had two pints,that was enough for me.I much prefer the social side of going out and having a bit of a crack and a laugh.The only thing from my past I've still carried on with is swinging.

So there you go OP,that's my life in a bottle,if I had carried on as I was...in my mind I wouldn't be here today.I would of been 6ft under. I never have any alcohol in the house at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex is an alcoholic it's the reason why she's my ex, the alcohol ultimately destroyed our relationship.

I was actually the one in denial and would make excuses for her heavy drinking, in reality I was so embarrassed I would cover for her.

I've always been a binge drinker can take it or leave it, I value my good health and clear mind above anything in life.

People like my ex are not so lucky and if you don't drink just for pleasure, it's a slippery slope that many never recover from.

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over a year ago

"True definition of an alcoholic is someone who cannot go all day without a drink. Surprisingly it's not the amount or how much but the fact of having a drink every day

They are called functioning alcoholics...still alcoholics all the same

Yes many people assume that because they aren't drinking when they wake up or destitute on a park bench they can;t possibly be an alcoholic. But they are wrong, I certainly never realised that I was a functioning alcoholic until long after I had broken that cycle.yep it's people's way of thinking my mum was a fully functioning member of society but a fully fletched alcoholic .the biggest mistake was a doctor telling her that your liver is self recovering !!!! It's bloody not

It can regenerate itself once but once liver damage is there it's pretty impossible to treat unless you get a new liver "

The liver is an amazing organ, it can take a hell of a lot of abuse and still recover, but it can't keep doing it. And there is a line that once crossed it will not recover from.

The myth that the Liver is indestructable is no doubt why deaths due to liver cirrhosis are increasingly common in people in their 30s and even younger

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