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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Arrogance is a trait I dislike. I think it's ugly. And when it comes out in someone it just leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.

However, Confidence is a wonderful thing. Being on the scene has given me confidence and I make no apologies for that.

But sometimes confidence can turn into arrogance.

What are your thoughts on this. Just interested that's all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrogance is in fact rooted in low self-esteem.

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

Very fine line between confidence and arrogance.

I find confidence very attractive in a guy. Arrogance, not so much

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

It is a fine line, one mans confidence is another mans arrogance. One mans assertiveness is anothers aggression.

Confidence can breed confidence

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting comments!!! I do think sometimes there's a fine line.

Confidence is a great quality I think. Especially if someone has had none in the past.

But arrogance eew (shudders)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder when I was 15, so apparently it's an illness. I definitely don't "suffer" from it any more though. Life has beaten and ground me down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life I'm very confident but find it an easy balance and as such never fall on the side of arrogance as I'm reminded often of how fortune I am.

Fab confidence I'm still waiting for

Oh by the way Chilli I adore you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love myself? I barely like myself most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence comes from within and is born of self love, arrogance is a mask worn to cover low self-esteem. Arrogance comes from feeling the need to feel one-up on another to make oneself feel better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arrogance is a trait I dislike. I think it's ugly. And when it comes out in someone it just leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.

However, Confidence is a wonderful thing. Being on the scene has given me confidence and I make no apologies for that.

But sometimes confidence can turn into arrogance.

What are your thoughts on this. Just interested that's all xx"
too true and arrogant people are not attractive I'm very confidant and am good company but you can't tell anything from a text message its all in the meet or several

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Confidence comes from within and is born of self love, arrogance is a mask worn to cover low self-esteem. Arrogance comes from feeling the need to feel one-up on another to make oneself feel better "

Though it has to be said the arrogant may not be aware of the mask - most narcissists are not self-aware, and may only feel they are superior......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confidence comes from within and is born of self love, arrogance is a mask worn to cover low self-esteem. Arrogance comes from feeling the need to feel one-up on another to make oneself feel better

Though it has to be said the arrogant may not be aware of the mask - most narcissists are not self-aware, and may only feel they are superior......"

Most psychological masks are probably worn without awareness creating a false persona. Some may wear it with awareness but not realising what lies beneath. (I'm arrogant but so what....) and therefore not necessarily realise it's a mask.

I can borrow a positive characteristic and practise it until it becomes a skill or an attribute but that isn't wearing a mask (fake it until I make it)

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Confidence comes from within and is born of self love, arrogance is a mask worn to cover low self-esteem. Arrogance comes from feeling the need to feel one-up on another to make oneself feel better

Though it has to be said the arrogant may not be aware of the mask - most narcissists are not self-aware, and may only feel they are superior......

Most psychological masks are probably worn without awareness creating a false persona. Some may wear it with awareness but not realising what lies beneath. (I'm arrogant but so what....) and therefore not necessarily realise it's a mask.

I can borrow a positive characteristic and practise it until it becomes a skill or an attribute but that isn't wearing a mask (fake it until I make it)"

I don't follow your last point - are you saying it's not a mask if you are aware?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many intelligent people mask their arrogance with humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many intelligent people mask their arrogance with humour "

I hide my insecurities behind humour.

If I have any acheivements in life, I let them speak for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Confidence comes from within and is born of self love, arrogance is a mask worn to cover low self-esteem. Arrogance comes from feeling the need to feel one-up on another to make oneself feel better

Though it has to be said the arrogant may not be aware of the mask - most narcissists are not self-aware, and may only feel they are superior......

Most psychological masks are probably worn without awareness creating a false persona. Some may wear it with awareness but not realising what lies beneath. (I'm arrogant but so what....) and therefore not necessarily realise it's a mask.

I can borrow a positive characteristic and practise it until it becomes a skill or an attribute but that isn't wearing a mask (fake it until I make it)

I don't follow your last point - are you saying it's not a mask if you are aware?

No it's not a mask if it is skill you are trying to learn. For instance I'll fake feeling confident until I feel confident."

Ah, I see what you are saying. Thin line at times.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many intelligent people mask their arrogance with humour

I hide my insecurities behind humour.

If I have any acheivements in life, I let them speak for themselves. "

I would agree with you I use humour as a way of hiding insecurities and I have lots of them to hide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confidence comes from within and is born of self love, arrogance is a mask worn to cover low self-esteem. Arrogance comes from feeling the need to feel one-up on another to make oneself feel better

Though it has to be said the arrogant may not be aware of the mask - most narcissists are not self-aware, and may only feel they are superior......

Most psychological masks are probably worn without awareness creating a false persona. Some may wear it with awareness but not realising what lies beneath. (I'm arrogant but so what....) and therefore not necessarily realise it's a mask.

I can borrow a positive characteristic and practise it until it becomes a skill or an attribute but that isn't wearing a mask (fake it until I make it)

I don't follow your last point - are you saying it's not a mask if you are aware?"

What I meant is that if I am developing a skill like behaving confidently by faking confidence until I feel confident is not the negative mask that I had been referring to, it's more like borrowing a positive behaviour until it becomes a personal characteristic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many intelligent people mask their arrogance with humour

I hide my insecurities behind humour.

If I have any acheivements in life, I let them speak for themselves.

I would agree with you I use humour as a way of hiding insecurities and I have lots of them to hide "

The tears of the clown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arrogance is in fact rooted in low self-esteem."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some very interesting comments here. All of which are extremely poignant and meaningful.

My reason for asking this as in my life I have come across some arrogant people. And some confident people.

Not going into detail I was married to an extremely arrogant man. Who was a control freak and very narcissistic. So the whole hiding behind a mask and having deeper issues etc is quite familiar to me

I have also hidden behind humour. Perhaps it was because of low self esteem and no confidence. But it all makes sense.

humour is a wonderful thing and put with confidence can be very positive!!!!

I met arrogance recently so just wondered about people's thoughts on the topic. Yes I joke and banter on the forum daily. Makes the site interesting. People are interesting. I love to find out about people. Not in an MI6 way but just curiosity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confident enough to be comfortable in my own skin...but not arrogant enough to think every one wants to see it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In real life I'm very confident but find it an easy balance and as such never fall on the side of arrogance as I'm reminded often of how fortune I am.

Fab confidence I'm still waiting for

Oh by the way Chilli I adore you"

To be reminded how fortunate we are is powerful.

Oh and knitter the feeling is reciprocated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting comments here. All of which are extremely poignant and meaningful.

My reason for asking this as in my life I have come across some arrogant people. And some confident people.

Not going into detail I was married to an extremely arrogant man. Who was a control freak and very narcissistic. So the whole hiding behind a mask and having deeper issues etc is quite familiar to me

I have also hidden behind humour. Perhaps it was because of low self esteem and no confidence. But it all makes sense.

humour is a wonderful thing and put with confidence can be very positive!!!!

I met arrogance recently so just wondered about people's thoughts on the topic. Yes I joke and banter on the forum daily. Makes the site interesting. People are interesting. I love to find out about people. Not in an MI6 way but just curiosity "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting comments here. All of which are extremely poignant and meaningful.

My reason for asking this as in my life I have come across some arrogant people. And some confident people.

Not going into detail I was married to an extremely arrogant man. Who was a control freak and very narcissistic. So the whole hiding behind a mask and having deeper issues etc is quite familiar to me

I have also hidden behind humour. Perhaps it was because of low self esteem and no confidence. But it all makes sense.

humour is a wonderful thing and put with confidence can be very positive!!!!

I met arrogance recently so just wondered about people's thoughts on the topic. Yes I joke and banter on the forum daily. Makes the site interesting. People are interesting. I love to find out about people. Not in an MI6 way but just curiosity "
not a Gemini by any chance ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confidence comes from within and is born of self love, arrogance is a mask worn to cover low self-esteem. Arrogance comes from feeling the need to feel one-up on another to make oneself feel better

Though it has to be said the arrogant may not be aware of the mask - most narcissists are not self-aware, and may only feel they are superior......

Most psychological masks are probably worn without awareness creating a false persona. Some may wear it with awareness but not realising what lies beneath. (I'm arrogant but so what....) and therefore not necessarily realise it's a mask.

I can borrow a positive characteristic and practise it until it becomes a skill or an attribute but that isn't wearing a mask (fake it until I make it)

I don't follow your last point - are you saying it's not a mask if you are aware?

What I meant is that if I am developing a skill like behaving confidently by faking confidence until I feel confident is not the negative mask that I had been referring to, it's more like borrowing a positive behaviour until it becomes a personal characteristic."

I totally agree with the above as its something I've done for years....

'Fake it till you make it'

Has served me well. As I'm now relatively confident, though most definitely not overly so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting comments here. All of which are extremely poignant and meaningful.

My reason for asking this as in my life I have come across some arrogant people. And some confident people.

Not going into detail I was married to an extremely arrogant man. Who was a control freak and very narcissistic. So the whole hiding behind a mask and having deeper issues etc is quite familiar to me

I have also hidden behind humour. Perhaps it was because of low self esteem and no confidence. But it all makes sense.

humour is a wonderful thing and put with confidence can be very positive!!!!

I met arrogance recently so just wondered about people's thoughts on the topic. Yes I joke and banter on the forum daily. Makes the site interesting. People are interesting. I love to find out about people. Not in an MI6 way but just curiosity not a Gemini by any chance ? "

Rather oddly, I am a Gemini

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester


"Some very interesting comments here. All of which are extremely poignant and meaningful.

My reason for asking this as in my life I have come across some arrogant people. And some confident people.

Not going into detail I was married to an extremely arrogant man. Who was a control freak and very narcissistic. So the whole hiding behind a mask and having deeper issues etc is quite familiar to me

I have also hidden behind humour. Perhaps it was because of low self esteem and no confidence. But it all makes sense.

humour is a wonderful thing and put with confidence can be very positive!!!!

I met arrogance recently so just wondered about people's thoughts on the topic. Yes I joke and banter on the forum daily. Makes the site interesting. People are interesting. I love to find out about people. Not in an MI6 way but just curiosity not a Gemini by any chance ?

Rather oddly, I am a Gemini"
. Me too, Mrs cmy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting comments here. All of which are extremely poignant and meaningful.

My reason for asking this as in my life I have come across some arrogant people. And some confident people.

Not going into detail I was married to an extremely arrogant man. Who was a control freak and very narcissistic. So the whole hiding behind a mask and having deeper issues etc is quite familiar to me

I have also hidden behind humour. Perhaps it was because of low self esteem and no confidence. But it all makes sense.

humour is a wonderful thing and put with confidence can be very positive!!!!

I met arrogance recently so just wondered about people's thoughts on the topic. Yes I joke and banter on the forum daily. Makes the site interesting. People are interesting. I love to find out about people. Not in an MI6 way but just curiosity not a Gemini by any chance ?

Rather oddly, I am a Gemini. Me too, Mrs cmy "
and me

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Some very interesting comments here. All of which are extremely poignant and meaningful.

My reason for asking this as in my life I have come across some arrogant people. And some confident people.

Not going into detail I was married to an extremely arrogant man. Who was a control freak and very narcissistic. So the whole hiding behind a mask and having deeper issues etc is quite familiar to me

I have also hidden behind humour. Perhaps it was because of low self esteem and no confidence. But it all makes sense.

humour is a wonderful thing and put with confidence can be very positive!!!!

I met arrogance recently so just wondered about people's thoughts on the topic. Yes I joke and banter on the forum daily. Makes the site interesting. People are interesting. I love to find out about people. Not in an MI6 way but just curiosity not a Gemini by any chance ?

Rather oddly, I am a Gemini. Me too, Mrs cmy and me "

And me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some very interesting comments here. All of which are extremely poignant and meaningful.

My reason for asking this as in my life I have come across some arrogant people. And some confident people.

Not going into detail I was married to an extremely arrogant man. Who was a control freak and very narcissistic. So the whole hiding behind a mask and having deeper issues etc is quite familiar to me

I have also hidden behind humour. Perhaps it was because of low self esteem and no confidence. But it all makes sense.

humour is a wonderful thing and put with confidence can be very positive!!!!

I met arrogance recently so just wondered about people's thoughts on the topic. Yes I joke and banter on the forum daily. Makes the site interesting. People are interesting. I love to find out about people. Not in an MI6 way but just curiosity not a Gemini by any chance ? "

I'm a libra trademark x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting comments here. All of which are extremely poignant and meaningful.

My reason for asking this as in my life I have come across some arrogant people. And some confident people.

Not going into detail I was married to an extremely arrogant man. Who was a control freak and very narcissistic. So the whole hiding behind a mask and having deeper issues etc is quite familiar to me

I have also hidden behind humour. Perhaps it was because of low self esteem and no confidence. But it all makes sense.

humour is a wonderful thing and put with confidence can be very positive!!!!

I met arrogance recently so just wondered about people's thoughts on the topic. Yes I joke and banter on the forum daily. Makes the site interesting. People are interesting. I love to find out about people. Not in an MI6 way but just curiosity not a Gemini by any chance ?

I'm a libra trademark x"
phew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The old confidence / arrogance debate I find this gas abating as some people class me as confident however I have also been called arrogant which does annoy me as I am far from arrogant...... I prefer people that are confident and find arrogance a turn off however what I see as confidence others will say arrogance

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