FabSwingers.com forum: Fat and body confidence

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

That is until I posted full body naked pics on here. Even though I feel unsexy it appears others don't. And although u should never base ur confidence on others, what it has done is allowed me to look at myself and find positives even though I am a fatty.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I'm not enamoured with my size and shape and I'm working on it but I get mostly positive reactions on here.

And whenever someone is rude about how I look, it merely makes me delighted that merely by existing I can annoy an arsehole

They aim to make me ashamed and hide away but actually I want to flaunt myself more and see if I can't upset a few more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite I big bloke for my height 5'7" and 13 stone. I use to be 10 stone in my twenties. I'm happy enough. I haven't got a huge belly. Over the years I just got bigger all over....well apart from my cock. That stayed the same size !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who says fat is not sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy isn't any set criteria. Sexy is very much in the mind and how you act and behave. Confidently attempting to seduce another or make it known that you want them,is sexy;not looking a particular way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im 5.8 and 14 stone. Doctor said im obese

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ur not big... ur just bigger than u were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a few stone over weight yes I don't like my size but I've never liked what size I've been.....I was slimmer years ago . I know men like me as I am so try to be positive I do say in profile I'm a fatty but I do however try to hide my big gut in pics....although again I'm honest and say in profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never been insulted on here for my size. But yes i felt fat and ugly when i joined for reasons that were actually nothing to do with my size. Fab reminds me i may not be conventionally sexy but i have my own special brand and thats fine by me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a few stone over weight yes I don't like my size but I've never liked what size I've been.....I was slimmer years ago . I know men like me as I am so try to be positive I do say in profile I'm a fatty but I do however try to hide my big gut in pics....although again I'm honest and say in profile"

I hate my belly but have found it quite liberating to post it in pics. Funnily I have two similar pics one with me trying to disguise the belly with my arm and one without. The one without has more fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy isn't simply a mindset, but it's important to recognise that you will always attract some, and not others and stay positive.

For every skinny type or overweight type etc, there will be people who appreciate it more. I'd only ever ignore what people said if I didn't feel comfortable or happy within myself, or if I knew I was particularly unhealthy and I needed to put on or lose weight.

Have confidence, curves can look great

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You can never know what people are thinking so always imagine what they're thinking is 'phwoooaaar! Sexy!' It's what I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it. "

I've just looked at your pictures and you are a very curvaceous, sexy looking lady, definitely more attractive to me than stick thin. X

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl

I'm 5ft 10 don't know how I managed to stay in shape all these years my ex wife was s16 and she looked great plus beauty is on the inside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny enough for me (m) I used to have plenty of action at clubs. When I started on here it became evident pretty quickly that my body type isn't quite what others look for and became even more depressing when you see the well chiselled 6 packs on some of the guys here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it.

I've just looked at your pictures and you are a very curvaceous, sexy looking lady, definitely more attractive to me than stick thin. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny enough for me (m) I used to have plenty of action at clubs. When I started on here it became evident pretty quickly that my body type isn't quite what others look for and became even more depressing when you see the well chiselled 6 packs on some of the guys here. "

I'm not into 6 packs, I prefer flat stomach at most or a little to cuddle is preferable, I like guys who are big up top though. Nice strong arms and chest with a little stock on them. But that is my fantasy. I'm not gonna turn down a perfectly nice and attractive guy just because he has a little more belly or a little less belly than I ideally like, for us it's alot about personality!

So don't fret, there are people out there for everyone

I know we are not everyone's type, I am plus size and Mark is a bit of a Bear but we love each other, even though we both think we could do with losing a bit of weight ( or alot in my case) we still have fun and enjoy ourselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a Weeble but I'm trying to embrace it although at times it gets to me a little

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Can we be positive about larger people without being judgemental or nasty about slimmer people, please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up to last Feb I was 17-18 stone due to being fed up with body I am now 12 stone. Feel good but I don't mind or care about ladies sizes long as they happy an enjoy themselves

So I understand about body issues and image

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we be positive about larger people without being judgemental or nasty about slimmer people, please?"

If that ever happens on a size thread i will put up a picture of my foof!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I like toned, muscular guys, admittedly, as long as I like the man as a person. However, there's a lot more to a good meet than that.

I delete messages from quite a few guys with 6 packs for various reasons though.

I'd rather meet a guy I find interesting, even if he's of an average build than someone chiselled but not on my wavelength.

Some men expect because they have a good body I will, for example, invite them over to mine immediately. That my profile says I don't do short notice meets, don't accommodate for strangers, insist on a meet in public first and such doesn't apply to them, they think.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Can we be positive about larger people without being judgemental or nasty about slimmer people, please?

If that ever happens on a size thread i will put up a picture of my foof!

Depressingly, I don't think it's likely either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we be positive about larger people without being judgemental or nasty about slimmer people, please?

If that ever happens on a size thread i will put up a picture of my foof!

Depressingly, I don't think it's likely either."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we be positive about larger people without being judgemental or nasty about slimmer people, please?

If that ever happens on a size thread i will put up a picture of my foof!

Depressingly, I don't think it's likely either."

Agreed!!

Op - yes i'd agree you're a larger lady but you definitely don't look 7 or 8 stone overweight!

Sexiness really IS as much about the mind as it is about the body!

For instance - at the moment I'm a stone over my ideal weight - and until I get it back off again (which means losing what little boobage I have - bye bye boobies!) no man or woman alive will convince me I'm anything other than flabby right now!

Everyone who isn't happy with their body has two choices - to do something about it through diet/exercise (or surgery if you can afford it!) - or to try to learn to love themselves as they are!

Both in conjunction is probably the ideal!

Those who don't/can't do either are simply setting themselves up for a lifetime of self loathing, which is terribly sad! Xxx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm quite happy with who I am, I think the older I've got the less I've given a shit...I've lost 2 dress sizes recently for some reason I have to lose little weight to drop a size...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite happy with who I am, I think the older I've got the less I've given a shit...I've lost 2 dress sizes recently for some reason I have to lose little weight to drop a size...

From what I've seen of your posts recently Hun you've been hitting the gym and doing really well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite happy with who I am, I think the older I've got the less I've given a shit...I've lost 2 dress sizes recently for some reason I have to lose little weight to drop a size...

You look fab ... right im off to Ikea !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a Weeble but I'm trying to embrace it although at times it gets to me a little

Hey hun. Remember Weebles wobble but they don't fall down!!!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I could do with putting some weight on tbh.

I don't sit down for long enough...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to be a real gym nut. Now casue of work and stress and general life tje gym went out of tje window. Now im 22 stone. Feel like a real fatty everytime i look at myself.

Probably will never witj any chicks on here as there is far too much competion. Bit have finally got my act together and have started exceesing again. Hoppfully soon tje chicks will be all otjer me again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could do with putting some weight on tbh.

I don't sit down for long enough..."

Can't remember who said it in grease. "don't sweat it honey, have some of mine!"

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I'm quite happy with who I am, I think the older I've got the less I've given a shit...I've lost 2 dress sizes recently for some reason I have to lose little weight to drop a size...

I've lost well over a stone and haven't lost even one size.

It's a conspiracy!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think it starts with liking yourself, be confident in your size and sex appeal will come from that.

If you don't, do something about it.

Sometimes the people who don't like their size snipe at people who are a different size or their preference is a different size in others.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'm quite happy with who I am, I think the older I've got the less I've given a shit...I've lost 2 dress sizes recently for some reason I have to lose little weight to drop a size...

From what I've seen of your posts recently Hun you've been hitting the gym and doing really well!

I have I need to get back to doing it more but work is busy...I love it!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'm quite happy with who I am, I think the older I've got the less I've given a shit...I've lost 2 dress sizes recently for some reason I have to lose little weight to drop a size...

I've lost well over a stone and haven't lost even one size.

It's a conspiracy!"

Haha I'm not sure my top half is still the same but my boobs are the last to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite happy with who I am, I think the older I've got the less I've given a shit...I've lost 2 dress sizes recently for some reason I have to lose little weight to drop a size...

I've lost well over a stone and haven't lost even one size.

It's a conspiracy!"

You will lovely! It took me nearly two stones to go down a dress size when I first lost weight!

Just keep doing what you're doing as it's obviously working! If it stops working and you're not satisfied with the results there are loads of peeps on fab with loads of diet/exercise knowledge who I'm sure will be happy to help! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I like myself ...sometimes I look and think how the hell do I get meets...

Good weeks and bad ones... Op you look much smaller than me x and I am a similar amount over weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im too fat now (25st)

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I need to shift another 2.5stone to get back to where I was happy but I have health issues that need sorting 1st - the medication is hindering any weight loss.

I've cancelled my gym membership as I'm unable to make the most of it due to above & they moved all the classes I can physically do to times I was unable to make.

I have no body confidence & hate the way I look. My pics have been taken from clever angles.

I find heels, good underwear under a decent dress & breathing in help a lot at clubs!! Oh & a very lovely FB

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I'm quite happy with who I am, I think the older I've got the less I've given a shit...I've lost 2 dress sizes recently for some reason I have to lose little weight to drop a size...

I've lost well over a stone and haven't lost even one size.

It's a conspiracy!

You will lovely! It took me nearly two stones to go down a dress size when I first lost weight!

Thanks.

Yeah, it's working. I took a break for the Sheffield social and only just managed to start again. That didn't help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm huge and have the belly of buddah. Which makes me really self-concious (mainly because i can't hide it behind my personality since that's shit as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one of the best selling self help books is a book about body image written by a plastic surgeon. It's called psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz.

Some of the women on here might want to give it a read if you want to improve your self image.

From what I can see the ladies above all have nice curves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence

One body

One life

Could be dead tomorrow

Sex is fun

Play is fun

Have fun

I have a shot on of my boobs at my waist and huge tummy... Tastefully done all the same

You are fuckibg brilliant ....

Mwah x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

If we value or worth on waiting to find out if other people think we are sexy/beautiful/kind/whatever then we all fail.

It's fantastic to be appreciated for our traits and appearance but relying on others to validate it wont make us any of those things.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I need to shift another 2.5stone to get back to where I was happy but I have health issues that need sorting 1st - the medication is hindering any weight loss.

I've cancelled my gym membership as I'm unable to make the most of it due to above & they moved all the classes I can physically do to times I was unable to make.

I have no body confidence & hate the way I look. My pics have been taken from clever angles.

I find heels, good underwear under a decent dress & breathing in help a lot at clubs!! Oh & a very lovely FB

Just breath out woman

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I need to take new pics but my belly is a problem.

Do I tuck it into my knickers, tuck my knickers under it or hold in front of me in a wheelbarrow?

I can't decide which would look least worst.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Sometimes I feel great and very sexy, other times I hate the way I look but then I think I look like this because I had 2 large babies that stretched my skin and it never went back, I love my boys and they love me so praise and approval from other people isn't something I really need. I have a lovely friend who doesn't seem to mind too much about how bashed up my body is, and of course great undies help to disguise a few bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have days where I feel yuk and days where I feel sexy.

I think I have been lucky to have found a couple of meets where they make me feel even sexier which is always nice. One of them said something so nice that I actually copied the comment into my own private note on my profile and when I am feeling a bit bleurgh it brightens up my day

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"I need to take new pics but my belly is a problem.

Do I tuck it into my knickers, tuck my knickers under it or hold in front of me in a wheelbarrow?

I can't decide which would look least worst."

I tuck mine into my knickers!!!

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By *pa and dCouple
over a year ago

Barnet

For me, confidence is sexy, so sexy. Body size is entirely immaterial.

You can have (cliched) "model looks" and no confidence and I'm unlikely to see you're sexy or feel sexy around you, or you could have a generally imperfect lumpy bumpy body and bags of confidence and I'm likely to find you really sexy and likely to want to jump your bones.

Whats in the mind is reflected onto whats shown in your body.

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By *ngdaveMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I am over wieght at just under 20 stone and fed up will people looking for Fit guys!

I know how to please my partner and friends in bed, starting with her mind then her body.

So size does not matter, its more about having fun. I have been with size 8 to 20, and the fun for both is the main point.

But i do find it is always best with a lady on the bigger size

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Firstly, as others have said, sexiness is not down to size.

However, I really do not buy the idea that if you are not happy with things about your body that it is possible to change, then you should "learn to love" them.

If you feel that you are overweight - change it. Unless you have an underlying medical condition that makes weightloss hard (PCOS is one), then it isn't actually that hard. The problem is, that often the diet and fitness industry like to make it seem difficult in order to sell a particular diet/fitness regime.

I once weighed 18st - I never even questioned if I was overweight until I was due in for surgery, when the surgeon made some comment about operating being more difficult on people with higher bodyfat. I could have got all morally outraged at that, but I didn't, I had an objective look at myself and decided he was right.

Since I ate basically the same thing for breakfast/lunch every day, all I did to start was stop eating a packet of crisps and a chocolate bar with my lunch. That's over 300cal/day cut... I started losing weight, then I rekindled my love of excercise (disclaimer: exercise is not necessary for weight loss). Once I started, it felt good, so I carried on. At some point I discovered myfitnesspal and started logging, which enabled me to control my energy intake even more effectively. I think at my ligtest, I was 160lbs - since then I've bulked and cut a few times to add muscle.

Point is, at no stage was it particularly hard, at no stage did I have to go on some crazy diet. All I had to do was realise that it isn't that difficult and make small, sustainable changes, one after the other.

You only live once. If you want to change something about yourself, do it.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I need to take new pics but my belly is a problem.

Do I tuck it into my knickers, tuck my knickers under it or hold in front of me in a wheelbarrow?

I can't decide which would look least worst.

I tuck mine into my knickers!!! "

I worry I'm being dishonest if I do that.

On one hand I want to take and use flattering photos but on the other hand, I think perhaps I should use the least flattering ones so nobody can say I'm being dishonest, and so they're less likely to be disappointed by the reality.

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By *iss AdventureWoman
over a year ago

Wonderland

I hated being skin and bone and looking like something off Pet Rescue. I love the curves I've got now, even if it is a result of having a couple of extra stone. My weight and size aren't an issue for me, it's about how I feel when I wear my clothes (or don't wear my clothes

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I've yet to meet anyone who isn't self conscious about some aspect of themselves but in every day life I find I'm drawn to confident people, regardless of their appearance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it. "

Well op I've just looked at your pics and to be honest I'd do you !!!!!!

You have a gorgeous body. Awesome lips (face you dirty things) and your boobs. Well hominah hominah !!!

You'll be surprised how many men appreciate curves!!!

To have no curves is like a broken pencil. ......... pointless!!!

Embrace your body. Enjoy it. And enjoy the adventure.

I know this wasn't a look at me thread but I couldn't help but look.

Chilli xx

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By *iss ACWoman
over a year ago

london

I don't care how much you are supposedly overweight..... you are goddamn gorgeous young lady!!!

Please feel free to post full body pics anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to take new pics but my belly is a problem.

Do I tuck it into my knickers, tuck my knickers under it or hold in front of me in a wheelbarrow?

I can't decide which would look least worst.

I tuck mine into my knickers!!!

I worry I'm being dishonest if I do that.

Im a tucker! I remind them rhe pics are well taken and if it looks like its heding for a meet i send them a 'brutal truth' no nice angles pic before we have coffee xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not as big as you OP but have a baggy stomach, combo of losing excess weight and having kids i think, and one of my most popular pics was that one (my fanny always gets the most). I did mainly post it so that people could see what i looked like naked coz i like being naked coz i already knew most guys don't see your body as that bad.

Don't know why i haven't had body issues really, but i do know i only had them when i was at the correct weight and people would call me fat (at school), since i left school and joined the adult world i've never had issues. Plus my best mate was lovely and used to call me pretty, aw, and used to dress me up in her clothes and that. I'm gonna go look for her on fb actually, no idea where she went when she had kids and i left my home town.

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By *arksMan
over a year ago

in the centre

It's not just a woman thing , I had a few health issues about 3 years ago and gained at least 3 stone , not being the tallest of people i think it shows a hell of a lot on me and as i get older the harder it is to loose , one day i will fit in them 501's hanging in the wardrobe again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about confidence in yourself .

Being comfortable , and your size not being the main part of who and what you are .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im 5.8 and 14 stone. Doctor said im obese

You've clearly not seen me completely naked.

It ain't pretty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it. "
no way are you 8st overweight, if you lost that much you would be underweight.And your pics are fab. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, confidence is sexy, so sexy. Body size is entirely immaterial.

Whats in the mind is reflected onto whats shown in your body."

Mrs here, this is me entirely.

Before the amputation I put in loads and it's just about shifting now but tbh weight has become less of an issue than staying on the peg leg haha.

I don't care, just love life as its a fragile thing that we take for granted xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body size and shape doesn't get me down. The pain from the weight my muscles and skeleton shouldn't be carrying around does. I'm losing weight for my benefit,not for a man's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until I joined here I never ever thought myself as sexy at all but once I started dressing and taking risky photos and men appeared to enjoy me (going out in town, you just got the men that were into the skinnys and what you expect them to like) I started thinking 'actually I'm not that bad'

Obviously being thinner would mean I'm healthier etc but for once I actually feel ok in my body and I am fitter than ever due to my job (waitress in a busy cafe, we have stairs) so I get more excercise than I ever did and with no chance to eat I think I've lost some weight too!!

G x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"It's not just a woman thing , I had a few health issues about 3 years ago and gained at least 3 stone , not being the tallest of people i think it shows a hell of a lot on me and as i get older the harder it is to loose , one day i will fit in them 501's hanging in the wardrobe again

Your bum does look good in them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've known some very sexy larger ladies and not all of them felt happy with how they've looked.

I also know of some larger women who are comfortable with their looks yet are as sexy as a colonic irrigation.

So whilst I agree sexy is a state of mind, it's not necessarily about your state of mind over your looks - eg a large woman who's OK with her looks but is a downright miserable mood hoovering self inflated, self righteous keyboard warrior would give a vibrator impotence yet a larger woman who doesn't like her body image yet is bubbly, has a sense of humour and doesnt feel the need to inflate her ego by pulling others down I'd meet regularly for sexy fun...

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I've known some very sexy larger ladies and not all of them felt happy with how they've looked.

I also know of some larger women who are comfortable with their looks yet are as sexy as a colonic irrigation.

Is it me

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over a year ago

"I've known some very sexy larger ladies and not all of them felt happy with how they've looked.

I also know of some larger women who are comfortable with their looks yet are as sexy as a colonic irrigation.

Is it me

I'd meet you Sandy

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By *orkshire biMan
over a year ago

elland

I'm a large bloke not all through food I have an under active thyroid. A lot of people just pass me by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never felt sexy when I was thin

Don't feel sexy now I'm fat

Sexy ain't a size, it's a mental state

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Goodness, some people don't find people they don't like sexy. What an extraordinary concept. It must have come up with some incredible mental acumen to come up with that.

As obvious as it is, however, it is totally true. Dickheads are not sexy, regardless of what they look like, or clever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a couple of stone overweight and I'm doing my best to Be fat and fabulous - but it's hard!

The above posts are right sexy is a mind set - some days I feel sexy and others I don't!

But then I used to feel like that when I was a size 12!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I'm a couple of stone overweight and I'm doing my best to Be fat and fabulous - but it's hard!

The above posts are right sexy is a mind set - some days I feel sexy and others I don't!

But then I used to feel like that when I was a size 12!

When I was a size 12 I thought I was fat and shaped freakishly. I never felt sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm over weight and men love my curves ,mem like meat on there women not a bag of bones lol be proud of your body and show it off xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to my BMI because of my height my ideal weight should be 7 stone, putting me at a little under 4 and a half stone overweight. Maybe I should lose a few pounds but as long as I'm happy with myself I'm not going to hide away!

Love yourself and what you've got, because it makes you feel more alive

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"According to my BMI because of my height my ideal weight should be 7 stone, putting me at a little under 4 and a half stone overweight. Maybe I should lose a few pounds but as long as I'm happy with myself I'm not going to hide away!

Love yourself and what you've got, because it makes you feel more alive

BMI is flawed though. I've been the weight my BMI says I should be. I looked ill. I felt ill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love yourself and what you've got, because it makes you feel more alive

BMI is flawed though. I've been the weight my BMI says I should be. I looked ill. I felt ill."

True, I wouldn't be happy at 7 stone.

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over a year ago

"I'm a couple of stone overweight and I'm doing my best to Be fat and fabulous - but it's hard!

The above posts are right sexy is a mind set - some days I feel sexy and others I don't!

But then I used to feel like that when I was a size 12!

When I was a size 12 I thought I was fat and shaped freakishly. I never felt sexy."

I really don't think feeling sexy has anything to do with body shape / size!

We all need to find ways to boost our self confidence!

I wish I knew how to do that!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I'm a couple of stone overweight and I'm doing my best to Be fat and fabulous - but it's hard!

The above posts are right sexy is a mind set - some days I feel sexy and others I don't!

But then I used to feel like that when I was a size 12!

When I was a size 12 I thought I was fat and shaped freakishly. I never felt sexy.

I really don't think feeling sexy has anything to do with body shape / size!

We all need to find ways to boost our self confidence!

I wish I knew how to do that!

I find annoying people who find me objectionable, be it for my size, shape, because I'm confident and opinionated or whatever, helps immeasurably

If by existing I irritate people I don't like, I must be doing something right.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive always been confident even at 22 and 1/2stone. However since im now roughly 9 and 1/2 stone i dont feel sexy as such i will never be a stereotypical sexy woman. But i fucking love clothes now and i know i give of an air of something not sure what though. Plus im never going to have a perfect body as long as ive got a hole in my arse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it.

I've just looked at your pictures and you are a very curvaceous, sexy looking lady, definitely more attractive to me than stick thin. X

Thank you xxxx

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I could do with putting some weight on tbh.

I don't sit down for long enough..."

I'll give you some of my excess weight

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

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over a year ago

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it. "

I would never post a naked pic..I don't think my phone would allow the actual pic to be taken lol it'd probably explode or something!

Good for you for having the guts though xxx

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over a year ago

"I need to take new pics but my belly is a problem.

Do I tuck it into my knickers, tuck my knickers under it or hold in front of me in a wheelbarrow?

I can't decide which would look least worst.

I tuck mine into my knickers!!!

I worry I'm being dishonest if I do that.

Im a tucker! I remind them rhe pics are well taken and if it looks like its heding for a meet i send them a 'brutal truth' no nice angles pic before we have coffee xx"

I have loose baby skin on my tummy. Perversely, the slimmer I am, the worse it can look (life's a bitch at times!)

I've found that if I breathe in really hard and lean back slightly (and take the picture quickly before I die of oxygen deprivation) then it isn't as obvious!

If anyone reads my profile then 'big Phil' (my baby tum) has his own paragraph along with all my other numerous imperfections!

As long as you're honest about your body, no one sane would expect you to show hugely unflattering photographs!

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm 5ft 10 don't know how I managed to stay in shape all these years my ex wife was s16 and she looked great plus beauty is on the inside.

Size 16 isn't big lol

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over a year ago

"I'm 5ft 10 don't know how I managed to stay in shape all these years my ex wife was s16 and she looked great plus beauty is on the inside.

Size 16 isn't big lol

Depends how you carry weight lovely!

For me - at the turn of the millennium - it was because the fat deposited itself in some very bizarre places! I had a fat back and fat knees, for god's sake! How the hell do you get fat knees??

I didn't look like a busty Amazon - I looked like a lumpy cushion!

For me - size 16 was far too big - even at my height - and more to the point it was life threatening because I have a weak heart and very poor circulation!

It's not really about clothes size, I think, but about where you carry the weight! XX

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

God all this breathing in malarkey...if a bloke wants to meet you at some point you are going to breath out...I would rather someone see all my flaws first hand than being misguided that I am slimmer than I am...I have a belly not because I have had children but because I simply have a belly...not ashamed of it and happily walk around naked.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to take new pics but my belly is a problem.

Do I tuck it into my knickers, tuck my knickers under it or hold in front of me in a wheelbarrow?

I can't decide which would look least worst.

I tuck mine into my knickers!!!

I worry I'm being dishonest if I do that.

Im a tucker! I remind them rhe pics are well taken and if it looks like its heding for a meet i send them a 'brutal truth' no nice angles pic before we have coffee xx

I have loose baby skin on my tummy. Perversely, the slimmer I am, the worse it can look (life's a bitch at times!)

I've found that if I breathe in really hard and lean back slightly (and take the picture quickly before I die of oxygen deprivation) then it isn't as obvious!

If anyone reads my profile then 'big Phil' (my baby tum) has his own paragraph along with all my other numerous imperfections!

As long as you're honest about your body, no one sane would expect you to show hugely unflattering photographs!

Xxx"

Haha yeah it does look worse when i loose it just hangs lower. But by this time next year i will have had it all cut off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to see you as you are 7or8 stone over weight as I really love large ladies x

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its pretty normal to have hang ups about your body whatever your weight is

i know i have mines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be encouraging the OP to post more pics as there is nothing wrong with her size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe one of the keys to being sexy is the ability to see what is sexy in others and appreciate it.

If you look for sexiness in others it is easier to see the sexiness in yourself and more people will find you sexy. Genuine confidence builds over time not a one nighter.

Dawn French in her pomp, Jennifer Aniston....both very sexy women. Size wasn't the factor, it's something else.

But if you decide your size is the main factor, i'm not going to convince you otherwise.

I applaud what the Op is doing, she's taking steps to change her own perception. Won't work for everyone but everyone has to find their own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it. "

Wow I've come to right place. Big is very sexy as far as I'm concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look georgous

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Wow I've come to right place. Big is very sexy as far as I'm concerned "

Oh, come on now. There's enough fat love threads without having to resurrect one that is over half a year old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try take confidence from the fact that there will be people who love the way you look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confidence

One body

One life

Could be dead tomorrow

Sex is fun

Play is fun

Have fun

I have a shot on of my boobs at my waist and huge tummy... Tastefully done all the same

Love you xx

You are fuckibg brilliant ....

Mwah x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel to saggy to be sexy

I've recently lost quite a lot of weight (ive gone down 5 dress sizes) and I've had three c sections so i just feel saggy all over

I sometimes wonder if loosing the weight was a good idea, at least my skin fit me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel rubbish fat, do something about it if you are able to.

Validation from guys who want to stick their cock in you can be fake.

And the other side of that is if the chemistry is right, people don't even mention size....

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

" So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it. "

It's not very easy when a man at a club tells you 'you're so fat you shouldn't be coming here' and majority of guys avoid you

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over a year ago

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it. "

Lovely to hear that your confidence has lifted OP. Good on you lady

Kinky

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over a year ago

" So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it.

It's not very easy when a man at a club tells you 'you're so fat you shouldn't be coming here' and majority of guys avoid you "

I hope you reported him to someone who works at the club

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'm over weight and men love my curves ,mem like meat on there women not a bag of bones lol be proud of your body and show it off xx"

Oooo, look, some casual body-shaming. Wondered how long that would take....

It all depends what you want out of life OP. If you want attention and sycophancy, that's fine, but none of that helps if you are genuinely unhappy about being overweight.

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By *enny69Man
over a year ago

walsall

Fats really sexy more fun to be had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You all look amazing. End of!

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By *urvygirl75Woman
over a year ago

chester

" Sexy isn't any set criteria. Sexy is very much in the mind and how you act and behave. Confidently attempting to seduce another or make it known that you want them,is sexy;not looking a particular way."

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Fats really sexy more fun to be had"

How is this a true statement?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Fats really sexy more fun to be had"

Why...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just recently lost 2 stone but am still overweight. I used to hate my body but have met a lot of men who like it. Now I don't bother telling everyone I'm big, they can see it in my pics so they can either like it or not.

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

" So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it.

It's not very easy when a man at a club tells you 'you're so fat you shouldn't be coming here' and majority of guys avoid you

I hope you reported him to someone who works at the club

Absolutely no point, they're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should have told him to fuck off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What i don't get is that we encourage 'ugly' people to love them selves, yet hate it when pretty people do ?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just adore big ladies full stop.

"I am a good 7 or 8 stone overweight and I really struggle with being and feeling sexy. Most of my pictures on here are from 3 stone ago.

So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it. "

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over a year ago

" So people who feel they are too fat to be sexy please try it.

It's not very easy when a man at a club tells you 'you're so fat you shouldn't be coming here' and majority of guys avoid you

I hope you reported him to someone who works at the club

Absolutely no point, they're not interested. "
I dont know what clubs your going to but the ones We go to would definitely deal with that.

Also ive found less interest from gents since losing 7 stone and even got turned down for being to slim at a bbw event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel no matter what size u are there will always be something about u that makes u feel ..... I draw confidence from the way a man looks at me when I'm naked. They do see wobbly bits all they see is a fantastic naked lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel as naughty and sexy as when I was a size 12 as i do at an 18/20 its all about how you feel in yourself, if a guy is turned on and getting hard around me then god dammit it gets me horny and boosts my confidence no end!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like sex. I like the feeling of sex. When it's "on" I'm not bothered what I look like, I'm all about the feel good for me and my partner/s.

Me having fun and turned on is a good look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more about feeling comfortable with the person you are with, sexiness is more mental than visual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a side note, people seem to think it's ok to comment on height (I'm short) but not weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a side note, people seem to think it's ok to comment on height (I'm short) but not weight"

I think there's definitely bodyshaming on both fronts.

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over a year ago

Sexiness has absolutely nothing to do with body shape. It's in the way you carry yourself and the confidence you project. I am however a sucker for a pretty face. Be happy with how you are if not then change it. A size 6 can still be a whiny bitch who has no idea how to turn a guy on, in the same way a buff guy can be a tool with the oral skills of a boxer dog eating a tin of chump. In my opinion

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

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"Sexiness has absolutely nothing to do with body shape. It's in the way you carry yourself and the confidence you project. I am however a sucker for a pretty face. Be happy with how you are if not then change it. A size 6 can still be a whiny bitch who has no idea how to turn a guy on, in the same way a buff guy can be a tool with the oral skills of a boxer dog eating a tin of chump. In my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you private me please. Serious question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you private me please. Serious question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexiest when you are comfortable in your own skin no matter what size you are - personally I adore a larger lady though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your biggest critic is always oneself. Give yourself a break!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regardless of how you look and certainly how you think you look, it's guaranteed that someone out there will find you irresistible.

It's always good to see yourself through the eyes of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm all about the base

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