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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sign of the times mate, people want something for nothing/minimal effort...

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

The couples aren't the problem. It's the sheer disproportionality of men to women and couples on here, and the attitude of some single guys that spoil the bunch, so to speak.

A male/female site would be just as bad, if not worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what that would achieve.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

This site gives men a chance to have one to one meets though. If they make an effort and exercise some common sense.

There's usually a blatantly obvious reason why the whiners aren't getting what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would getting rid of couples fix this? I would think that would make things harder since lots of the available women will be gone...no?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

new this convo would pick up quick and they are some pushy single mens out there who don't know how to talk to women so I hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just give them a free dummy when they join

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By *nddyoneMan
over a year ago

bicester

have meet a few

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"new this convo would pick up quick and they are some pushy single mens out there who don't know how to talk to women so I hear"

Some seem to misunderstand what the site is about and have expectations which are never going to be met.

They adapt and become more successful, they leave or they hang around getting more and more bitter and twisted.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah"

This is a new twist on the 'look at me' genre of thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How would getting rid of couples fix this? I would think that would make things harder since lots of the available women will be gone...no?"

Theres certain couples us single guys would love to get our filthy hands on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought there was one for singles only as well. Can't remember it's name though

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"No just give them a free dummy when they join "

And are you going to be responsible for picking up all the spat ones and thrown toys?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I thought there was one for singles only as well. Can't remember it's name though"

Flirts I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh? Sorry op but removing couples doesnt make any sense to me. What have couples to do with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you just have to engage with people , not be a pest and just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio isn't the problem, the single men with a decent verified profile that isn't littered with cock shots who send a informative and polite message will always get meets

The problem is the vast majority of single males on here think everyone on here wants to shag everyone so send stupid ridiculous messages. Whilst we aren't against meeting single males we have blocked them purely for the reason for every decent message we get there is 50 complete garbage so would rather find them on our own terms

Just like in the normal world put the effort in and you will get results, simple logic really

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

This looks like a pretty nasty look at me thread to me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Interesting concept

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The ratio isn't the problem, the single men with a decent verified profile that isn't littered with cock shots who send a informative and polite message will always get meets

The problem is the vast majority of single males on here think everyone on here wants to shag everyone so send stupid ridiculous messages. Whilst we aren't against meeting single males we have blocked them purely for the reason for every decent message we get there is 50 complete garbage so would rather find them on our own terms

Just like in the normal world put the effort in and you will get results, simple logic really "

I think that's spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a guy on here who messages us at least twice weekly with a "Morning, how r u x" - that's his entire repertoire. We'd block but it's become a fun bet we have on when he messages next.

He's been on here over a year, has one bad pic and no verifications. Every week we just delete the message.

Not sure how getting rid of couples will help the likes of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah"

We've had multiple messages from the same guys,who have been politely declined because of their approach and they learn nothing by it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah"

I think you should set up your own 'how I made a success of FAB' website and charge people to tell them the secret of your success' .... you would make a fortune

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah"

forum is just fine as it is

you make friends you chat with, some you meet and others just keep in daily contact with chat messaging

remember there is a chat forum too, seems some who use chat don't chat in the forum and some who use the forum don't use chat,

best use both and enjoy the best of both worlds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ratio isn't the problem, the single men with a decent verified profile that isn't littered with cock shots who send a informative and polite message will always get meets

The problem is the vast majority of single males on here think everyone on here wants to shag everyone so send stupid ridiculous messages. Whilst we aren't against meeting single males we have blocked them purely for the reason for every decent message we get there is 50 complete garbage so would rather find them on our own terms

Just like in the normal world put the effort in and you will get results, simple logic really "

It not that easy in my area lol most of my messages are deleted unread and with out having read my profile but I accept and move on which is what more should do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah

I think you should set up your own 'how I made a success of FAB' website and charge people to tell them the secret of your success' .... you would make a fortune

"

good idea but am happy the way fab is now maybe some other guy will try that hahahahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ratio isn't the problem, the single men with a decent verified profile that isn't littered with cock shots who send a informative and polite message will always get meets

The problem is the vast majority of single males on here think everyone on here wants to shag everyone so send stupid ridiculous messages. Whilst we aren't against meeting single males we have blocked them purely for the reason for every decent message we get there is 50 complete garbage so would rather find them on our own terms

Just like in the normal world put the effort in and you will get results, simple logic really

It not that easy in my area lol most of my messages are deleted unread and with out having read my profile but I accept and move on which is what more should do "

How do you know that they didn't read your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody ever reads my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yea you can check to see who looked at your profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nobody ever reads my profile "

bet ppl will read it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ratio isn't the problem, the single men with a decent verified profile that isn't littered with cock shots who send a informative and polite message will always get meets

The problem is the vast majority of single males on here think everyone on here wants to shag everyone so send stupid ridiculous messages. Whilst we aren't against meeting single males we have blocked them purely for the reason for every decent message we get there is 50 complete garbage so would rather find them on our own terms

Just like in the normal world put the effort in and you will get results, simple logic really

It not that easy in my area lol most of my messages are deleted unread and with out having read my profile but I accept and move on which is what more should do

How do you know that they didn't read your profile?"
well unless the looked at me is wrong I go by that and the fact that the mess if read changes from yellow to white

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody ever reads my profile

bet ppl will read it now"
a bet they don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yea you can check to see who looked at your profile"

You can also stealth browse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yea you can check to see who looked at your profile"

Lots of people look at profiles in stealth mode.

I've looked at yours twice already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ratio isn't the problem, the single men with a decent verified profile that isn't littered with cock shots who send a informative and polite message will always get meets"

The ratio is the problem - there are less women to choose from.

There aren't really any women locally who I'd like to meet. If there were as many women as there were men I wager that there probably would be someone.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"The ratio isn't the problem, the single men with a decent verified profile that isn't littered with cock shots who send a informative and polite message will always get meets

The problem is the vast majority of single males on here think everyone on here wants to shag everyone so send stupid ridiculous messages. Whilst we aren't against meeting single males we have blocked them purely for the reason for every decent message we get there is 50 complete garbage so would rather find them on our own terms

Just like in the normal world put the effort in and you will get results, simple logic really

It not that easy in my area lol most of my messages are deleted unread and with out having read my profile but I accept and move on which is what more should do

How do you know that they didn't read your profile?"

^this. There's no way to know if they looked at the profile or not.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"yea you can check to see who looked at your profile"

Only if they opt to be visible. You can set your profile not to show up on "who has _iewed" pages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol whats stealth mode

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ratio isn't the problem, the single men with a decent verified profile that isn't littered with cock shots who send a informative and polite message will always get meets

The ratio is the problem - there are less women to choose from.

There aren't really any women locally who I'd like to meet. If there were as many women as there were men I wager that there probably would be someone."

Stop being so damn picky then

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"The ratio isn't the problem, the single men with a decent verified profile that isn't littered with cock shots who send a informative and polite message will always get meets

The ratio is the problem - there are less women to choose from.

There aren't really any women locally who I'd like to meet. If there were as many women as there were men I wager that there probably would be someone.

Stop being so damn picky then "

Yeah, you tell him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yea you can check to see who looked at your profile

Only if they opt to be visible. You can set your profile not to show up on "who has _iewed" pages."

In that case that about 98% of who I messaged lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boo hoo,sob,sob I can't get a meet,sob,sob.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"yea you can check to see who looked at your profile

Only if they opt to be visible. You can set your profile not to show up on "who has _iewed" pages.

In that case that about 98% of who I messaged lol "

Most women I know on here browse in stealth mode. It saves getting a heap of messages saying, "Hi, I noticed you looked at my profile. When can we meet?".

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Nobody ever reads my profile

bet ppl will read it nowa bet they don't "

I just look at the pictures

Guys getting meets is not an easy fix unfortunately as others have said they sort of out number the rest of us, plus most have dire profiles and terrible pics, please guys try a read through once you set up a profile and see if you would meet yourself before approaching anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah"

in all seriousness most men on here cannot find anyone to chat to them because they do not know how to start a conversation.. and for the very few who stumble into one, oftentimes by sheer fluke, they get so flustered that someone has actually replied they go and blow it by asking for a face pic or a meet, or by telling us what a great rack we have..so it dies a death and we block them...

they have no one to blame but themselves... IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yea you can check to see who looked at your profile

Only if they opt to be visible. You can set your profile not to show up on "who has _iewed" pages.

In that case that about 98% of who I messaged lol

Most women I know on here browse in stealth mode. It saves getting a heap of messages saying, "Hi, I noticed you looked at my profile. When can we meet?"."
that one thing I never do lol even double check that my age is ok as a few forget to change that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of sites like that already

Some people seem to forget this is about swinging

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By *ortland51Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah"

There is one already, it's called POF.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can't get a meet its something they are doing wrong

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"yea you can check to see who looked at your profile"
did I look at your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know what that would achieve."

Might get rid of all the whiners lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody ever reads my profile

bet ppl will read it nowa bet they don't

I just look at the pictures

Guys getting meets is not an easy fix unfortunately as others have said they sort of out number the rest of us, plus most have dire profiles and terrible pics, please guys try a read through once you set up a profile and see if you would meet yourself before approaching anyone else "

LOL we all perv the pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah

There is one already, it's called POF.

"
I'm banned for life there. Lol

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I don't know what that would achieve.

Might get rid of all the whiners lol"

It'd just give them 2 sites to whine on/about.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Nobody ever reads my profile

bet ppl will read it nowa bet they don't

I just look at the pictures

Guys getting meets is not an easy fix unfortunately as others have said they sort of out number the rest of us, plus most have dire profiles and terrible pics, please guys try a read through once you set up a profile and see if you would meet yourself before approaching anyone else

LOL we all perv the pictures

"

I perv yours sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sign of the times mate, people want something for nothing/minimal effort..."

Couldn't agree more.....get some really crude opening messages from single guys and really puts you off. Shame cos it does spoil it for the nice genuine ones x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

interesting thread, I read some posts and one song springs into mind

Your so vain

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I thought there was one for singles only as well. Can't remember it's name though"

Fabswinger ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is one, its called fabflirts or something. Think it has about 4 members.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is one, its called fabflirts or something. Think it has about 4 members."

And 3 of them are me,

I still don't get any messages

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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester


"Sign of the times mate, people want something for nothing/minimal effort...

Couldn't agree more.....get some really crude opening messages from single guys and really puts you off. Shame cos it does spoil it for the nice genuine ones x"

It's not just the guys that are guilty of that.

I get quite a few crude/crap one-line openers from couples and have had a few from women; "how many inches are you", "u free 2nite" etc.

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe


"This looks like a pretty nasty look at me thread to me"

Just what I was thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm older , look like Phil Mitchell's stunt double and seem to work all hours , but I'm also polite , patient and honest in what I'm looking for. I do OK..it just takes a bit of effort .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i see a lot of men crying saying the cant get a meet that their new and no one will chat to them. That no couple want to meet single guys. Do you think fab should make a site just for males and females . so gives people a chance to have one on one meets. Just want people ideas. I get my own meets just see a lot of criers on here hahahah

There is one already, it's called POF.

I'm banned for life there. Lol "

Interesting may I ask why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is one, its called fabflirts or something. Think it has about 4 members.

And 3 of them are me,

I still don't get any messages

"

Have you tryed messaging yourself

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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester


"This looks like a pretty nasty look at me thread to me

Just what I was thinking."

This has the look of people queuing up to label this a 'look at me thread' to get people to look at them.

How postmodern!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This looks like a pretty nasty look at me thread to me

Just what I was thinking.

This has the look of people queuing up to label this a 'look at me thread' to get people to look at them.

How postmodern!"

Omg, I've been calling the forums postmodern for ages. Finally, someone who sees it the way I do

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"This looks like a pretty nasty look at me thread to me

Just what I was thinking.

This has the look of people queuing up to label this a 'look at me thread' to get people to look at them.

How postmodern!

Omg, I've been calling the forums postmodern for ages. Finally, someone who sees it the way I do "

Courtney, you're so meta! I you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is one, its called fabflirts or something. Think it has about 4 members.

And 3 of them are me,

I still don't get any messages

"

that's coz i'm the other person and i don't use the site.

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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester


"This looks like a pretty nasty look at me thread to me

Just what I was thinking.

This has the look of people queuing up to label this a 'look at me thread' to get people to look at them.

How postmodern!

Omg, I've been calling the forums postmodern for ages. Finally, someone who sees it the way I do "

I only said it to get people to look at my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody ever reads my profile

bet ppl will read it nowa bet they don't

I just look at the pictures

Guys getting meets is not an easy fix unfortunately as others have said they sort of out number the rest of us, plus most have dire profiles and terrible pics, please guys try a read through once you set up a profile and see if you would meet yourself before approaching anyone else

LOL we all perv the pictures

I perv yours sometimes "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This looks like a pretty nasty look at me thread to me

Just what I was thinking.

This has the look of people queuing up to label this a 'look at me thread' to get people to look at them.

How postmodern!

Omg, I've been calling the forums postmodern for ages. Finally, someone who sees it the way I do

I only said it to get people to look at my profile. "

I like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single males who want quick meets should just try tinder where their is lots of available women

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Keep it as it is. Higher volumes of users provides more choice. And couples and singles shag well together.

There will always be people with unrealistic expectations or others who are unwilling to make much effort - these will come and go as well as be filtered out by others.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

The numbers do make it difficult for some guys (ie average guys like me) but not impossible. You just have to be realistic about things. So as much as I'd like to have a meet every week, in reality I'll be lucky to find a couple a year.

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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester


"This looks like a pretty nasty look at me thread to me

Just what I was thinking.

This has the look of people queuing up to label this a 'look at me thread' to get people to look at them.

How postmodern!

Omg, I've been calling the forums postmodern for ages. Finally, someone who sees it the way I do

I only said it to get people to look at my profile.

I like you "

And it worked Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone out there for everyone. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no one near me on here that I'd meet. Plenty of men pretending to be women though lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If you can't get a shag on here you really need to ask yourself, why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tip: Don't lay all the eggs in one basket so to speak lol.

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