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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right so I'm not a swinger but been on and off this site the last 6 years and let's be honest the majority of us are filth and have some weird and wonderful kinks. But is this a nice treat for guys that have had quite straight and conventional sex or is it scary to them or off putting or what?

The last guy I met in the real world was quite reserved and he said in the beginning (before he went off me totally) that he was worried he wouldn't be enough for me because of the things I said I was into and tried to get him involved with.

I dunno what even asking, just have ramblings in my head!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I meet guys on my wavelength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are never totally comfortable revealing their deepest darkest inner most to others....even when temptation lures them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean. Excitement is a big part of sex and once you've raised the bar a bit, you just won't get excited by things under it.

I would have thought that most men should appreciate having a lady in the street and a freak in the bed, but some men seem have other ideas. Some want a motherhood and apple pie wife while they go have an affair with a freaky mistress, but I think those a guys you're best off without. I know a lot of guys who work in IT and they are grateful for any sex at all, they'd probably be in heaven with a nasty chick!

Personally I admire women who embrace their sexual desires rather than caring about what others have described as the behaviour of a lady...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget the guys off the site, I think some things on here scare off the guys who are on the site!

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

To be honest, potential girlfriends tend to vanish pretty damn quick when I mention swinging....

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"To be honest, potential girlfriends tend to vanish pretty damn quick when I mention swinging...."

Haha every time I mention it I'm a slag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean OP. It's depressing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told a guy who isn't on here that I was and he was like WTF?! & he's a kinky fucker...

curiosity has got the better of him though & now he thinks differently.

Generally though I would expect people not to 'get it'.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"Right so I'm not a swinger but been on and off this site the last 6 years and let's be honest the majority of us are filth and have some weird and wonderful kinks. But is this a nice treat for guys that have had quite straight and conventional sex or is it scary to them or off putting or what?

The last guy I met in the real world was quite reserved and he said in the beginning (before he went off me totally) that he was worried he wouldn't be enough for me because of the things I said I was into and tried to get him involved with.

I dunno what even asking, just have ramblings in my head!"

I have had this very same issue and he didn't know about the majority of my naughtiness. I don't know. I guess sexually liberated woman can be a bit overwhelming for some guys?

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't think being a lady and being a swinger are mutually exclusive

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I see a guy sometime I did not meet him on here, anyway we met the other night for naked cuddles as I call them and he was shocked saying I was such a sex pot...he didn't think I was that sexual he thought I would be plain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't mention that I was on fab, I would leave fab if I met someone who I knew I was going to have a relationship with and she was as sexually active as me, And maybe come back if she was on the same wave length

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Since i met my ex husband at 24 never had a problem ever in fact he loved it. Guess i just have the knack of sussing men out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think being a lady and being a swinger are mutually exclusive "

You don't but lots of them out there do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think being a lady and being a swinger are mutually exclusive

You don't but lots of them out there do"

So do lots of them on here...

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I don't think being a lady and being a swinger are mutually exclusive

You don't but lots of them out there do"

True. They just need education lol.

Anyway they don't affect me as my man knows I'm a lady. ..until he tells me not to be

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

I find it amusing that people on fab think they are really up at the front edge of sex and sexuality; and think that the rest of the so called " vanilla world" have limited sex lives; I actually find that a vast amount of people on here are very " conservative" in their sexual outlook; but the people I interact with, and meet with in the "vanilla" world are just as sexually interesting and experimental ( or more so) than people here .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it up the ass.

#Just sayin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest, potential girlfriends tend to vanish pretty damn quick when I mention swinging....

Haha every time I mention it I'm a slag "
a hot one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think being a lady and being a swinger are mutually exclusive

You don't but lots of them out there do

So do lots of them on here..."

Ironic isn't it!

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

It's weird how like attracts like actually.

My last few girlfriends, or nice people i've met in the 'vanilla' world have all, unprompted by me, said that they wanted to experience swinging/clubs, etc. Unfunnily enough the physical side of things with all of them was fantastic too.

It's like a sixth sense some of us may have?

I'm just glad that people on here are up front and glory to some extent in the wonders of sex.

It's NOT a dirty word. Or to be shied away from.

Agree with the comment about the passive aggressive(or just aggressive)misogynists scattered among some of the darker corners of the site though.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I find it amusing that people on fab think they are really up at the front edge of sex and sexuality; and think that the rest of the so called " vanilla world" have limited sex lives; I actually find that a vast amount of people on here are very " conservative" in their sexual outlook; but the people I interact with, and meet with in the "vanilla" world are just as sexually interesting and experimental ( or more so) than people here ....."

I'd agree with that. The amount that look down on kink or alternative sexual play is amazing. I'm sure there are plenty who don't. .. but they don't make themselves heard a clubs where we're playing. .. and we always play light so as not to upset anyone. Doesn't work

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I didn't tell the last guy I met in the real world that I was on here, he still thought I was ruder than your average bear. Are things like rimming and milking prostates that rude though? I think on here we're sort of in a bubble and the stuff that some of us consider mild other people think is complete filth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people or a lot of people have very active wild sexual relationships but most don't want to share their partner with other people like most people on here

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I find it amusing that people on fab think they are really up at the front edge of sex and sexuality; and think that the rest of the so called " vanilla world" have limited sex lives; I actually find that a vast amount of people on here are very " conservative" in their sexual outlook; but the people I interact with, and meet with in the "vanilla" world are just as sexually interesting and experimental ( or more so) than people here ....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't tell the last guy I met in the real world that I was on here, he still thought I was ruder than your average bear. Are things like rimming and milking prostates that rude though? I think on here we're sort of in a bubble and the stuff that some of us consider mild other people think is complete filth. "

The guy I told is way 'filthier' than me, he was just a little surprised at the diversity of the site.

Other people I know would be totally freaked out!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I didn't tell the last guy I met in the real world that I was on here, he still thought I was ruder than your average bear. Are things like rimming and milking prostates that rude though? I think on here we're sort of in a bubble and the stuff that some of us consider mild other people think is complete filth. "
i dont think its rude, rimming is down a preference on here ive been rimmed and into rimming since a young age although its not something you spoke about same as arse fucking my ex husband wasnt talked about just sites like this make it easier to talk about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't tell the last guy I met in the real world that I was on here, he still thought I was ruder than your average bear. Are things like rimming and milking prostates that rude though? I think on here we're sort of in a bubble and the stuff that some of us consider mild other people think is complete filth.

The guy I told is way 'filthier' than me, he was just a little surprised at the diversity of the site.

Other people I know would be totally freaked out! "

Saying that, some of what I see on this site leaves me speechless. Doesn't bother or offend me so maybe a differential lies along those lines.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Everyone has different tastes and limits.

I don't think there is a kinky scale as such. What's taboo to some may not be to others.

I don't class myself as a swinger and in general if I met someone I thought might become a relationship I would be off here pretty quick. I would however hope he had a similar outlook on sex

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Just because people dont use swinging sites doesnt mean they are all boring and i think its funny people do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't think ive found any real difference on here or off...i think like sometimes attracts like, and also on here ive been very suprised by how conservative a lot of men are,if not downright misogynistic sometimes...i think ,like any of these sites, its just a microcosm of whats already out there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"let's be honest the majority of us are filth and have some weird and wonderful kinks."

Okay, so I see what I like as being perfectly normal.

Dirty fucking with rope, toys and tongues, and a little bit of head-back, eyes-closed, back arched, shouting, swearing orgsam, fighting against the restraints as you finally cum... That's normal.

I've not got into filth and kinks yet ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest, potential girlfriends tend to vanish pretty damn quick when I mention swinging...."

Best not to mention it on the first date

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We're more in the know, with people outside either misinformed or ignorant of our somewhat more relaxed approach to sex. We may be much more eager to find someone who has more relaxed sexual boundaries than we would have been off-site, as well as being very open and honest.

I think the average person out there is perhaps a little less self-aware and less willing to be open

There's also the straight-jacket in society that views sex as bad and improper - many minds are locked. Some don't approve of us females making our own sexual moves and rules. And a lot of guys don't have tons of confidence, if meeting an equal or someone they may perceive as stronger than they are.

Exploration for some of us is a double edged sword.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I don't have to be filthy and kinky with everyone.

Since I expect never to be in a monogamous relationship again, if I want to shag someone not into the filth, I will, as long as I enjoy it. I'll see other people for the kinky stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had a date in the real world for over 14 years so I wouldn't know what supposedly normal men were into or was outside their comfort zone!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I haven't had a date in the real world for over 14 years so I wouldn't know what supposedly normal men were into or was outside their comfort zone!

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I think my last date was 2005. I scared him half to death, I think.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I find it amusing that people on fab think they are really up at the front edge of sex and sexuality; and think that the rest of the so called " vanilla world" have limited sex lives; I actually find that a vast amount of people on here are very " conservative" in their sexual outlook; but the people I interact with, and meet with in the "vanilla" world are just as sexually interesting and experimental ( or more so) than people here ....."

It takes all sorts too - I may not be kinky, but aside from that I have found most people here pretty conservative in their sexuality compared to those I knew before.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I scared a rather cute girl on my course after letting slip about my current lifestyle choice.

I think she liked me, but one night (after a few drinks) she stated that she would never sleep with me, because it would be "terrifying" XD

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I scared a rather cute girl on my course after letting slip about my current lifestyle choice.

I think she liked me, but one night (after a few drinks) she stated that she would never sleep with me, because it would be "terrifying" XD"

Oh dear heck, what on Earth does she think you'd do?

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"I find it amusing that people on fab think they are really up at the front edge of sex and sexuality; and think that the rest of the so called " vanilla world" have limited sex lives; I actually find that a vast amount of people on here are very " conservative" in their sexual outlook; but the people I interact with, and meet with in the "vanilla" world are just as sexually interesting and experimental ( or more so) than people here .....

It takes all sorts too - I may not be kinky, but aside from that I have found most people here pretty conservative in their sexuality compared to those I knew before."

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts


" Oh dear heck, what on Earth does she think you'd do? "

She doesn't seem to have very much self-confidence, so what I think she was getting as was that she'd be too nervous being with someone with a "swing" level of sexual experience

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


" Oh dear heck, what on Earth does she think you'd do?

She doesn't seem to have very much self-confidence, so what I think she was getting as was that she'd be too nervous being with someone with a "swing" level of sexual experience "

Oh dear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it up the ass.

#Just sayin "

Makin' more notes...

Building a psychological model of you. Might have a wank over it when I've done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah come on anyone single over the age of about 30 is damaged goods? It's just one of those facts like the Sun coming up. Or taxes.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Damaged goods need sex too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that at first they are okay with it but when it comes down to it they get freaked out and worried that they will never be good anoint and able to give you want you want ... So they take their leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found that at first they are okay with it but when it comes down to it they get freaked out and worried that they will never be good anoint and able to give you want you want ... So they take their leave "

Good enough*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it up the ass.

#Just sayin

Makin' more notes...

Building a psychological model of you. Might have a wank over it when I've done "

I'd prefer you to gather together some friends and take it in turns to fuck my ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it up the ass.

#Just sayin

Makin' more notes...

Building a psychological model of you. Might have a wank over it when I've done

I'd prefer you to gather together some friends and take it in turns to fuck my ass "

Can't you take two at a time then?

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